@adirat Ah. I'm so glad this conversation came up because I totally always wanted to know before!
@pebbledam Yeah, I didn't think of that at the time I put it up here (I got rid of the stupid baby bump default avatar months before posting b/c I hated looking at it). Yeah, it's pretty crunchy. It was taken in, like, the crunchiest part of NorCal, which is basically all one giant pot farm.
I always think that @adirat's dog is saying something like, "Now let me tell you..."
@vflux33 I'm with you on the hair. Usually if I'm getting a second day out of a wash, it's only in a ponytail.
I feel like you guys must think that I'm a monster with a bad marriage now. I just like doing my own thing without anyone else's input. I think I'm a people pleaser at heart (plus I'm just more flexible) so when H is home, we tend to do more of what he wants to do as long as I don't have a specific objection. When I'm home alone, I can watch my crap TV he would bitch about, eat the things he's not into, and I get sooooo much more done when he's not around and I don't just want to hang out and do fun things with him. I'm sure it would be different if he weren't gone half the time but since his job is what it is, I may as well make the best of it (there have been some times when having him gone was pretty crappy).
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@becausescience@doxiemoxie212 Huh? I never thought of that! Weird! Can't see it. Also I had to look up "Katniss" because I've never seen/read Hunger Games (a related FFFC?).
@kiki75 No I didn't think that about you or your marriage at all! I think, if anything, me and @doxiemoxie212 are the abnormal ones. Most people need more alone time.
@kiki75 - I totally understand what you meant! And everyone has different levels of alone time they need. And I'm WAAAYYY more productive when he's not home because, like you, I'd rather do fun things with him over paying bills or changing the litter box!
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@vflux33 - What sort of crunchy rock are you living under that you haven't read/seen The Hunger Games!? I think they're pretty good, but they've got nothing on HP.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@kiki75 def think you're normal and not in a bad relationship lol. I often worry that DH and I are codependent.
@vflux33 have you read Joan Didion's A Year of Magical Thinking? There's a section in it where she writes something to the effect of, "were we unusually dependent on one another or were we unusually lucky?" And I always think of that now with DH. It's a fine line lol.
@pebbledam@vflux33 I think the hunger games books are v good. I didn't love the movies. The first movie, though, is one of the best movies to fall asleep to. The music at first is pretty soothing and it's not lit brightly. It's great.
@doxiemoxie212 Someone once called us codependent as an insult (her own personal life is a mess so whatever). I don't think MH and I are "enabling" any negative qualities so unless you are doing that I don't think you're codependent either. I have read like 50% of Joan Didion, but not that one. I might actually have it somewhere. Nice quote!
@vflux33 I mean, we enable each other to be hermits. And like, not change out of pajamas lol. Yea, we're definitely not clinically codependent, and I can't imagine being in any other type of relationship, but lawd help whichever one of us kicks the bucket first.
That book by JD is worth the hype! But probably not something you should read if you're actively mourning a death.
While we're on the subject of avatars, can I confess that until today I had never clicked on @kbamomma33's to see it bigger....and I do not know why, I cannot explain it, but I really, truly, genuinely thought her avatar was a still image from Frozen before I saw it enlarged. I don't know why! It's so weird I thought that!
FYI, @kbamomma33 I picture you as Elsa. I don't think it's something I can stop doing! Do you look like Elsa?
Ha! This is funny to me! Sorry to say, I do not look like Elsa. I have shoulder length brown hair, a far cry from a gorgeous, blonde princess braid.
@doxiemoxie212 Yeah I love Didion, but purposely avoided that one because I know what it's about. Things are going pretty well for me now, but not enough to tempt fate by reading something that depressing.
I'm a little late to the game today. It took me a few weeks to change my avatar cause I was being lazy and quite honestly it took me way longer to figure out how to do it than I'd like to admit. Which I guess is my FFFC.
Also, I'm pro hairwashing 2-3 times a week and I don't use dry shampoo. I wash the smelly bits, but the hair takes so much work. It depends on the weather/what's going on.
And I'm with @doxiemoxie212 & @vflux33 that I actually like spending a lot of time with DH. I feel a little lost when he's not around. I'm definitely more productive when he's gone, but I enjoy doing the stupid day to day things with him. I like a little free time once in a while to just read a book (without interruption) or watch a movie he'd laugh at me for from time to time. For a while he was working 3rd and I work 1st so we were forced to not see each other. He was suppose to switch to 2nd which didn't last long. He's back job searching again so we'll see what shift he ends up on.
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@doxiemoxie212@vflux33@SkilledSailor@hedgepig@lurvleybunchococonuts I'm with you guys. I'd rather spend time with my DH than anyone else. At the end of the day he has been away so much for work that the past couple of years have been amazing with him being home more. We are super sappy about being apart too. Ha. We talk everyday.
FFFC. Sometimes posting is these threads make me super intimidated because you guys all seem to have such a good rapport. We are on 16/16 (month/cycle), 1/1 AL and I've been lurking on here on and off since last summer. And then I'm too afraid to post. I'm trying to post more though.
@50Wife I'd look at your black square over the fake cartoon pregnant bump default ladies annnnnny day.
@mdfarmchick I think we all felt that way at first. It's one of those things where the only way to not feel that way is to bite the bullet and jump in.
I'm terribly disappointed that I missed out on a huge fight the neighbors across the street had last night. H went up to bed while I was still down drinking my pom juice and herbal tea and taking my vitamins. He got upstairs in our bedroom where the window was open and he could hear them yelling at each other in their garage. F words this and that and then he looks out the window to see a riderless bicycle cruising out their garage door and halfway down their driveway before crashing. I'm so nosy I'm really bummed out that I missed it.
Speaking of I'm so nosy, I love looking up people I know on state judiciary websites. I find some juicy stuff there. For example, someone I went to high school with recently got arrested and charged with two counts of theft in varying degrees and one count of possession of marijuana...in a state where it's legal. You've gotta go some to accomplish that.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@mdfarmchick girl, jump in! Everyone on this board has always been super friendly and helpful! There are definitely some members who are more friendly with others because they've been through highs and lows together but no one will ignore you or treat you like you don't belong as long as you're friendly and supportive back!
I've seen advice that ranges from OPKs to anal sex. It's fantastic
Speaking of I'm so nosy, I love looking up people I know on state judiciary websites. I find some juicy stuff there. For example, someone I went to high school with recently got arrested and charged with two counts of theft in varying degrees and one count of possession of marijuana...in a state where it's legal. You've gotta go some to accomplish that.
YAS!! This is my favorite pastime. Speaking of which, I haven't done this for a while! Ohhh, I also like looking up how much people paid for their homes.
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
@kiki75 and @BertieMeetsGertie, you guys are like my spirit animals!!! I love to do that kind of stuff! I was sort of freaking H out by how quickly I was able to find ownership info online when we were house hunting.
I'm one of those that had the generic avatar for a year. A year! I am so bad with technology/computers/etc. Not like I don't understand, I just don't care. I like paperback books, I write notes on a sticky and stick it to the back of my phone rather than use the note app, I have a paper planner and a desk calendar. I finally changed my avatar last week- I took a photo of the peppers I made for dinner. Super boring.
and @kiki75 I'm with you on the alone time. My husband is leaving town for a conference and i can't wait. I love him and I'll definitely miss him. But a hike, gardening, girls dinner and drinks, baths, the bed to myself.. it's a dream.
@50Wife - I actually like your black square because I automatically associate it with you! I was just hating on the default avatars! @redpuma119 - You were an anomaly to me because I would see you posting and could tell you were a regularly contributing memeber! I'm glad you changed it, though and those peppers look delish!
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@pebbledam Haha that's a big reason I don't smoke now. I did a lot in college but my roommate had a family member that grew it so it was easy access. Now that I'm in the real world, I don't have the faintest idea of where to get it. Colorado?
@SkilledSailor - I've never smoked a lot, but I feel like I could rely less on my anxiety meds if I had access! I went to Colorado in December, but I was so sick that I never went to a dispensary.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@pebbledam It totally helps with anxiety. That's actually a big reason I smoked. Self-medicating my sleep issues. I bet Colorado was amazing (minus the being sick part)!
@pebbledam@SkilledSailor Cannabis is awesome and if I weren't TTGP I'd be alllllll over it here in CA. It's great for anxiety, especially CBD dominant strains. Maybe a FFFC but I think it's better than alcohol and if it didn't stay in your system as long (and there was better research on using it when TTC) I'd treat it like alcohol now.
@pebbledam Yeah you're probably right about that! I doubt weed is that big of a deal TTC -- I was just being paranoid and wanted to play it safe for myself in a large part because I like it a lot and I don't trust myself to partake in moderation. BUT I definitely plan to pick it back up once baby stuff ends and replace my glass of wine with it.
Re: FFFC - 6/23
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@pebbledam Yeah, I didn't think of that at the time I put it up here (I got rid of the stupid baby bump default avatar months before posting b/c I hated looking at it). Yeah, it's pretty crunchy. It was taken in, like, the crunchiest part of NorCal, which is basically all one giant pot farm.
@vflux33 I'm with you on the hair. Usually if I'm getting a second day out of a wash, it's only in a ponytail.
I feel like you guys must think that I'm a monster with a bad marriage now. I just like doing my own thing without anyone else's input. I think I'm a people pleaser at heart (plus I'm just more flexible) so when H is home, we tend to do more of what he wants to do as long as I don't have a specific objection. When I'm home alone, I can watch my crap TV he would bitch about, eat the things he's not into, and I get sooooo much more done when he's not around and I don't just want to hang out and do fun things with him. I'm sure it would be different if he weren't gone half the time but since his job is what it is, I may as well make the best of it (there have been some times when having him gone was pretty crappy).
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@kiki75 No I didn't think that about you or your marriage at all! I think, if anything, me and @doxiemoxie212 are the abnormal ones. Most people need more alone time.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@vflux33 have you read Joan Didion's A Year of Magical Thinking? There's a section in it where she writes something to the effect of, "were we unusually dependent on one another or were we unusually lucky?" And I always think of that now with DH. It's a fine line lol.
That book by JD is worth the hype! But probably not something you should read if you're actively mourning a death.
Sorry to say, I do not look like Elsa. I have shoulder length brown hair, a far cry from a gorgeous, blonde princess braid.
I'm a little late to the game today. It took me a few weeks to change my avatar cause I was being lazy and quite honestly it took me way longer to figure out how to do it than I'd like to admit. Which I guess is my FFFC.
Also, I'm pro hairwashing 2-3 times a week and I don't use dry shampoo. I wash the smelly bits, but the hair takes so much work. It depends on the weather/what's going on.
And I'm with @doxiemoxie212 & @vflux33 that I actually like spending a lot of time with DH. I feel a little lost when he's not around. I'm definitely more productive when he's gone, but I enjoy doing the stupid day to day things with him. I like a little free time once in a while to just read a book (without interruption) or watch a movie he'd laugh at me for from time to time. For a while he was working 3rd and I work 1st so we were forced to not see each other. He was suppose to switch to 2nd which didn't last long. He's back job searching again so we'll see what shift he ends up on.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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Have christened every car I've ever owned with sex.
This isn't the big, giant after dark confession I've been hiding yet. I'm waiting til I'm less new in the community to cause so much horror lol.
FFFC. Sometimes posting is these threads make me super intimidated because you guys all seem to have such a good rapport. We are on 16/16 (month/cycle), 1/1 AL and I've been lurking on here on and off since last summer. And then I'm too afraid to post. I'm trying to post more though.
@mdfarmchick I think we all felt that way at first. It's one of those things where the only way to not feel that way is to bite the bullet and jump in.
I'm terribly disappointed that I missed out on a huge fight the neighbors across the street had last night. H went up to bed while I was still down drinking my pom juice and herbal tea and taking my vitamins. He got upstairs in our bedroom where the window was open and he could hear them yelling at each other in their garage. F words this and that and then he looks out the window to see a riderless bicycle cruising out their garage door and halfway down their driveway before crashing. I'm so nosy I'm really bummed out that I missed it.
Speaking of I'm so nosy, I love looking up people I know on state judiciary websites. I find some juicy stuff there. For example, someone I went to high school with recently got arrested and charged with two counts of theft in varying degrees and one count of possession of marijuana...in a state where it's legal. You've gotta go some to accomplish that.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
There are definitely some members who are more friendly with others because they've been through highs and lows together but no one will ignore you or treat you like you don't belong as long as you're friendly and supportive back!
I've seen advice that ranges from OPKs to anal sex. It's fantastic
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
and @kiki75 I'm with you on the alone time. My husband is leaving town for a conference and i can't wait. I love him and I'll definitely miss him. But a hike, gardening, girls dinner and drinks, baths, the bed to myself.. it's a dream.
@redpuma119 - You were an anomaly to me because I would see you posting and could tell you were a regularly contributing memeber! I'm glad you changed it, though and those peppers look delish!
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@pebbledam it was for sure time to change it
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018