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TTA/Benched Check-In Week of 6/19

*please notice*

This thread is for those who have started TTC but are now TTA or Benched. (There is also a TTCAL thread.)

***General TW that this thread can and will mention MC and loss.***

This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have hit a roadblock and are delaying for whatever reason. You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation.

Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA = avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for non-health-related reasons __________________________________________________________________

Are you benched or TTA? 

What brings you here? 

How long do you think you'll be here? 

How have things been going?

Any R/R/CS/Q? 

GTKY: What's your favorite scent of candle/air freshener for your home or car?
Me: 35 DH: 28
TTC since June 2016

Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016

AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
~*~*~Nevertheless, she persisted~*~*~

Re: TTA/Benched Check-In Week of 6/19

  • Hi,
    This is my first time in the benched category!

    Are you benched or TTA? 
    I guess I'm both... I haven't had my doc say "don't try" but I'm def taking a cycle to let my body get its stuff together

    What brings you here? Oh, just two back to back (tw***) miscarriages

    How long do you think you'll be here? For sure I'm here until after my next menstrual period. I don't know when that will be as I am still currently (**tw**) miscarrying.

    How have things been going? Pretty sucky, actually. But I'm managing.

    Any R/R/CS/Q? Nope... though it feels bizarre to not be DOING something.

    GTKY: What's your favorite scent of candle/air freshener for your home or ca We hate scented candles and air fresheners 

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  • @chellisam  I've never heard of ECT, but hope its not going to delay you too much! The wait for moving forward is so stressful on its own! And YES... so hard during Mothers day and Fathers day holidays with all the baby pics and stuff... I see so so many baby bumps around me.
    Glad to have some company on the bench, but so sorry you are on the bench too!

  • @dragonette505 ECT is shock therapy, commonly used for severe mental illnesses when medication fails to control symptoms. An electric current is passed through the brain to induce a seizure. Nowadays t's all done under general anesthesia and with muscle relaxers, so the body isn't have a physical seizure. I've been going for 2 years, and it's been a godsend in keeping my bipolar stable. This past May was my first episode in 2 years, which has been a sigh of relief. But I'm prone to seasonal episodes -- I can easily become manic in Spring/Summer and depressed in Fall/Winter months, and stress at work played a huge factor this time.
    As eager and impatient as I am, I also want to do it as safely as possible and reduce the risk of relapse as much as possible.
  • @chellisam That IS amazing! So glad you are getting more time between episodes! TTC is so stressful not to mention your work stress. Sending hugs and hoping this time goes swiftly for us both. I am trying to think of being benched as time to use for myself... getting my body back to normal and dealing with the emotions from loss and fear and everything else we deal with.

  • First time posting in this thread too.
    @dragonette505 - I'm sorry for your losses. Hopefully AF shows up fairly quickly!
    @chellisam - It's a good sign that you are getting more time in between episodes!

    Are you benched or TTA? 
    Both? My GP said to wait three months but she wouldn't fault me from trying again immediately. So, I'm waiting one cycle just to make sure it's all good.

    What brings you here? TW * Miscarriage at 6w6d, it was a blighted ovum * End TW

    How long do you think you'll be here? Until AF shows up.

    How have things been going? Things have been going ok, some days are harder than others, but it's getting easier.

    Any R/R/CS/Q? I feel weirdly at ease now that I've decided to wait. Now I just have to find ways to keep myself busy for the next few weeks.

    GTKY: What's your favorite scent of candle/air freshener for your home or car? I've always like the pine tree scent that's available around Christmas time.
    DD - August 2015
    TTC #2 - April 2017
    BFP May 13, 2017 - NMC June 5, 2017 (dx blighted ovum)
    BFP August 6, 2017- CP August 17, 2017
    BFP October 14, 2017 - NMC November 5, 2017
    BFP February 1, 2018 - CP February 3, 2018
    BFP May 25, 2018 - Due February 5, 2019

  • @ChloandCoco so sorry for your loss! It sucks so bad. I know what you mean about once you decide to take the time. Hopefully the time flies. Sending hugs.

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