GTKY: Planned Pregnancy?

GraceUponGrace09 · June 2017

It's GTKY Tuesday!

Was this pregnancy planned, or...not so much! I know we did something sorta similar with "your pregnancy in five words" but I'd love to hear a little more of your story and how you ended up here. The journey, the struggle, the victory, the surprise, you name it!

And because I adore polls. Was this pregnancy:

caseyw8784 · June 2017

Very much planned, and a bit later than what we had hoped for, but all that matters is that we are here! (TW) We had a couple very early MCs in 2015 (end TW) so we were referred to a fertility specialist, and her first order of business was doing a complete blood panel. We discovered that I am a carrier for a single gene disorder, and IVF with PGD testing was the only way to make sure that we did not pass on the disorder (would have been a 50% chance of passing it on if we conceived naturally). Took about a year to get all the blood samples and testing probe built, and after the IVF cycle and testing, we had 2 "good" embryos and transferred both back. We were hoping, but not expecting, for both to take, so it was still a shock to find out that we're having twins!

missblaze · June 2017

Planned. DD is almost 3 and I'm no spring chicken so I wanted to get started on #2. We started trying in January and got my BFP at end of April.

[Deleted User] · June 2017

Unplanned. We were going to start TTC this month or next, but in the heat of the moment DH didn't grab a condom and here we are!

Cricket99 · June 2017

@schaze that's pretty much exactly what happened to us. We were planning on starting trying in July. Apparently all we have to do is talk about trying for a baby and bam, pregnant. DH will be getting snipped after this one.

BelhurstBride · June 2017

Planned. After five months of waiting after losing DD3 in January.

I should have been giving birth this month. Not starting all over.

GraceUponGrace09 · June 2017

We were in the not trying, not preventing camp.

I feel like our story to parenthood is super strange, lol!
After DH and I had been TTC for over a year with no success, we decided to become foster parents. Our thinking was this: while we are waiting on God to give us a family of our own we can be a family for some kids who need it. We did respite for a while and then took a placement of a 2yr boy and 16mon girl, siblings 11 months apart. They were a *handful* but we loved it!
I got PG with DS a while later, 3 years after TTC. We had done a plethora of natural fertility things but had not used medical interventions yet.
We ended up being able adopted the sibling set a couple years later - YAY!
In March of '16 we had a MMC. Through that time we had been TTC. After a year, we started talking about adopting again and were actually just getting ready to start to process when I got my BFP. Looks like God had another idea for now. We love the idea of adopting again and maybe we will someday.

CANTW82BMOM · June 2017

@GraceUponGrace09 That's beautiful!

@schaze Pretty much the same thing for us.

A little more back story. Our DS is 22 months. We knew we wanted another and were so excited when I found out I was pregnant with #2 in September of 2016. Unfortunately, that was an ectopic pregnancy and I had emergency surgery at 9 weeks in October to remove my fallopean tube and ovary. It was traumatic. I had doubt and fear that I would ever conceive again.

We decided that we weren't even gonna try for a while as we dealt with the loss and didn't want to stress. In April, I started my dream sales job so we decided that we would definitely wait to TTC so that I could deliver the baby after I had been at the job for a year. I work in a very male dominated industry and job protection through FMLA is very important to me. We were even using condoms during my window of conception to make sure I didn't get pregnant.

Anyway, for Mother's Day weekend we were going away to Atlantic City, I was packing and realized I should probably pack some pads since my period was due to come. Then I realized it was due to come that day so I decided to just take a HPT. It was positive! I literally fell to my knees crying and thanking God. Best slip up ever. The best part is that I got my BFP one day before what would have been my due date with the baby I lost.

So, although our plans were to wait, I'm so glad that this LO is coming in January!

auntieraindrop · June 2017

We were trying... sort of.

We had been TTC for three full years, but had had no luck, mostly because I had recurring health issues that kept making us wait. But for the last year I've been all stable on my meds and my numbers have been looking good so we were full on trying. No luck. We got referred to a fertility specialist and had a bunch of diagnostic testing done in April, and were due to start Clomid treatment in May. We only DTD one time in the whole month because we were both so burned out from trying and basically in a holding pattern waiting for the treatment to start. ...And that one time was much later than my expected ovulation period too!

So we had NO IDEA we were pregnant. The first week of May, our dog got hit by a car and killed (/cry) and I assumed I was skipping my period due to stress and sadness, which I usually am late when I'm too stressed, so even my doctor thought nothing of it! I was already 6 days late when I took a test because the fertility doctor wanted to find out where we stood on the Clomid treatment. And it was SUPER positive.

I am now 8 weeks + 2 days.

gusgus14 · June 2017

Planned! I know the "rule" is if you're healthy and under 35 try for a year before seeking medical intervention but I was struggling a lot mentally with month after month of negative tests so when our 8th cycle was a dud, I decided to go ahead and reach out to my doctor. She was fine doing some non-invasive testing to begin with and when mine and DH's tests came back mostly normal (my ovulation was a little weak but she didn't seem concerned) she gave us the option of continuing until we reached a year or try clomid. I decided I wanted to go with the clomid so the deal was if I ovulated well on it for 3 months and still no baby we would be referred to an RE for more invasive testing and a new treatment plan. We got pregnant our 3rd cycle which was such a relief! Before we started TTC we had decided we didn't want to spend years and lots of money on the process so we had started talking about considering life without kids before I got a BFP.

ryannenikole · June 2017

Planned...I guess! We were TTC over 5 years with 2 MCs and weren't doing IUIs anymore. I switched to a functional/alternative medicine practitioner who cleaned up my diet, put me on supplements and all that. I worked with him for about 6 months or so before my BFP. I was sort of charting and I used the preseed + softcup trick and that was that! So weird that it happened so easily after everything we had been through.

ETA: we also sold our house and moved in with DH's grandma while we prepped our property to build and then into a camper on the property since DH is doing a lot of the work. So the timing is crazy!

tdevlindrye · June 2017

Planned! We tried...once. I feel a little bad talking about it because I know how lucky we were and how much some other couples struggle with TTC so don't like to rub it in anyone's faces. But yeah, that's our story. We planned to start trying in April, but DH was out of town during my fertile window so he flew in one night at midnight, we stayed in a hotel and he flew out the next day around lunchtime. And bam! That's all it took.

EmilyLove25 · June 2017

@missblaze OMG aside from the fact that DD is almost 2, my story for this LO is just like yours--not a spring chicken, started trying in January and got the BFP in April.

For any unplanned FTMs, that was me with DD... and it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me. She has made me an infinitely better person!

EmilyLove25 · June 2017

@BelhurstBride Hugs. I imagine it is both a blessing and very hard to be going through this at a time when you thought you would be on the other end of the journey. Lots and lots of hugs.

missblaze · June 2017

@EmilyLove25 Ironically, I was also an unplanned FTM with DD and I feel the exact same way!

[Deleted User] · June 2017

@BelhurstBride I can't imagine how hard this month must be for you. Hugs.

KatieEl · June 2017

@missblaze @emilylove25 we also started trying in January and got the BFP in April, just long enough to start making me antsy! (Especially since I was a first try-er with both DS1 and DS2.)

EmilyLove25 · June 2017

@KatieEl YES! I am thankful I got pregnant in April for many reasons but one of them is that I definitely was about to lost it and declare all of my eggs dead/gone etc or draw some irrationally extreme conclusion.

supercoolstephy · June 2017

This one was planned, the last one was not. I think I've been more stressed about this one because I was actually wanting it, that sounds bad but I just mean I was actively trying and not trying to avoid.

jakobaby · June 2017

Planned. We started trying in February. ***TW: February was successful but ended in CP. END TW***
We got lucky in April with doing the deed one time on a whim over Easter weekend.

JuliaGoolia719 · June 2017

We dealt with IF issues for the last almost 3 years (2.5 yrs of knowing we had some issues and about 6 mos of trying before that). I got diagnosed with PCOS about 7 yrs ago so we knew that there could be issues, but we didn't expect for my issues to collide with DH's issues and lead us down the IVF/FET path. So this kiddo was planned for sure, we've got his brother on ice for the next round lol.

Ready4theParty · June 2017

Definitely thought we were done. Not trying and were avoiding by using the mini pill, still breastfeeding DD2 but in the process of weaning. We had been talking about making this a permanent thing and who wanted to do it. We really enjoy our family of four. I keep joking that we were meant to have three and that this is an immaculate conception considering we were doing all things right.

darkrose88 · June 2017

Planned! We started trying in mid October and **TW** we were actually succesful end of Nov, but it ended in a MC early December. **End TW** We ended up taking a short break, and started trying again mid Feb. We got lucky after two months of trying.

GraceUponGrace09 · June 2017

@BelhurstBride I'm so so sorry for your loss! Hugs to you!!

Dani0329 · June 2017

Unplanned for us. We knew we wanted more children, but DH is using his GI bill to get his degree and it made the most sense to wait until he was done. A month before we conceived, he started talking about wanting to go back active because he missed it and didn't want to wait 2-3 more years to have baby number 2.

Anyway, he is in the reserves right now and had to leave for a school for several weeks and apparently we conceived the day he got back. My period was all sorts of messed up in April, so it threw off my pills.

We are excited now, just want to hear the heartbeat. For some reason I feel like there's a greater risk of this ending in a loss since we weren't trying.

Jmedeiros24 · June 2017

Very planned. The only way my hubs and I can conceive is through ivf although I wasn't expecting it to work the first round.

scatteringashes · June 2017

This one was planned, successful on our second month at it. My husband and I got talking about how much I wanted to have another, particularly with him, and how in terms of career plans, having a baby while I'm finishing school would allow me to go into the workforce after the baby is born, rather than starting my career and then losing time to a pregnancy and newborn. We're also both in our early 30's, and my son is 8 -- the age gap is already much bigger than I'd imagined would happen back when I was envisioning more children in my first marriage.

It's been weird, because my son was unplanned and got in there in one shot on an afternoon where we weren't being careful. I found trying and planning way more stressful than I'd have thought.

twentythree19 · June 2017

Planned! We've been married six years and now that people have quit hounding us about kids and we've accomplished a lot of the things we wanted to do before starting a family, we finally decided to go off the pill in January. The plan was to wait a couple months to figure out what length my cycle really is (going on the pill changed it and coming back off seems to have changed it) but we got antsy and conceived in April. Part of me wishes I was a little more patient and waited another month because it'll put LO's birthday in the midst of DH and I having to travel a lot for work, but I also was afraid if we waited, we'd be waiting even longer. But regardless, we are pretty pumped!

scatteringashes · June 2017

@supercoolstephy I 100% get you. I wanted to keep my son from the get-go (we weren't married and there was a very brief talk about giving him up for adoption), but it took me some time to warm up to what changes his birth would create and the reality of having a child. I felt more immediately connected to this one, sort of. It may because I'm already a parent, but I'm sure planning this one plays into that.

sbishop426 · June 2017

Planned. My son will be 1 in 2 days (eek!), and that's when we originally planned to start trying for #2. After talking with my husband about it we decided to start trying a few months prior thinking it would take awhile to get pregnant since it took almost a year to conceive our son. Well, it happened really quick this time around lol. I decided to take a test on the day of my missed period and I was super shocked to find out I was pregnant! We're excited though! Kinda nervous about having kids 18-19mos apart but I think they will be lifelong friends. My two youngest brothers are 18mos apart and have always had a really close relationship

cyanope · June 2017

TOTALLY unplanned. I told this story a while ago, but I've always kind of side-eyed married adults who get pregnant on accident. I mean, how hard is it to prevent a pregnancy? Yeah, I've definitely been humbled on that one, and take back everything I ever said.
We weren't planning on trying until next summer (DD IS 17 months, and I wanted a bigger gap). Well, we did the deed ONCE without a condom (on the last day of my period), and I ovulated a week early. Bad combo. So, here we are. The shock is now gone, and we're just totally excited.

WildMagelet · June 2017

Very much planned. We got married two years ago (two years today, actually) and have been TTC ever since. I've had more poking and prodding since last October than I can recall between my PCP's office, the Ob/Gyn I started seeing an hour away, my RE, and my new Ob/Gyn's office. I have a short luteal phase and started having irregular cycles about 8 months prior to starting our IF journey with our doctors (Clockwork 28.5 days the rest of my life). Other than a mild blood sugar issue all of my tests/exams came back normal. We were slated to start our first cycle of Clomid my next cycle, but ended up getting pregnant naturally instead. I honestly didn't think we were pregnant when I took the HPT because in my mind I had given up on the possibility of conceiving without fertility medication (or further medical intervention) after all that time. It was a happy surprise.

sjb2215 · June 2017

@BelhurstBride I'm sorry for your loss, but happy you are here with us!
@GraceUponGrace09 that is an amazing story, very happy for you!
@WildMagelet Happy anniversary

This pregnancy was very much planned and prayed for while we were TTC for 11 months. I had been tracking cycles using OPKs and BBT and after 6 solid cycles with good timing we started some testing. Found some issues on MHs side and he just started taking vitamins and made some lifestyle changes. The day I got my BFP was the day I was supposed to go in for my first appt with an RE. Also the day after mothers day and on the 1 year anniversary of my grandma's passing. Needless to say I feel like we had some angels help ❤

WildMagelet · June 2017

@ssjb22 Thanks!

bainidhedub · June 2017

NTNP. DS is 2.5yo and I felt ready to start TTC a younger sibling. DH in an uncharacteristic move was worried about finances and that was that for him. (Usually he is the one freaking me out by jumping on big purchases & I want to wait save research etc etc.) However it was clear that he wasn't doing any of the math, and thinking about Right Now not 9-15 months out. I was really hoping to catch it to be due in December for the insurance but missed it. I went off the pill in February I think, didn't do tracking except continuing in the Clue app, and got the BFP in May. And as I suspected, he said "how can we afford a baby right this minute?" and I said "it's not right this minute it'll be in January" and he went "oh right." I love him, but he sure has his moments...

madcouplewithabox · June 2017

@WildMagelet your story sounds a lot like mine. DH and I have been trying since our wedding two yeas ago (May). I had cycles anywhere from 28 days to 34 which made it extremely difficult to time things right. I did a round of Clomid to help time intercourse better.. which failed then a round of Clomid again with an IUI which failed. I HATED the medication and was a complete wreck on it. The thought of ramping it up with IVF had me in tears. Seriously, you ladies who have done that are so brave and incredible.
DH and I took a long break from trying with assistance. I still checked CM and timed BD accordingly though. We decided that after we were settled into the new house we would bypass more of the IUD cycles and go straight to IVF. (Our issue was MFI) May was our target Month to start the process. Shockingly... a BFP the last week in April. I was in complete disbelief... still am lol I feel so lucky.

WildMagelet · June 2017

@madcouplewithabox - so glad for you! IF sucks, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

clearlyclara · June 2017

Planned for us. Although, this cycle was so different! I usually have long cycles, like 35-37 days and ovulate cd24-27. I started using opk's day 22 but wasn't getting a positive... My body felt different so on cd 26 took a pregnancy test and got a vvvfl! And here I am

Cricket99 · June 2017

@cyanope Side eye away my friend! This is 2 unplanned (or maybe surprise earlier than planned) pregnancies for us. I thought the same thing about how can two married adults accidentally get pregnant. We have learned that all it takes is a little bit of bad math and a cycle being off a little

jesscmv · June 2017

I wanted to start TTC because I thought what if it takes longer this time. DH assures me it wouldn't but we stared anyways. I went off my pill in April and got my BFP May. Now I have to listen to DH say I told ya so

Now the thought of having at least 3 under 3 is a little nerve racking.

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