MC #2

deannaarp · June 2017

I had my 2nd miscarriage last night. My husband and I had been trying since we married in February, bfp in May. Names picked out. He bought me pregnancy books. We were only 7 weeks but we were nesting. The night before last I went in to the er (got to see our baby and hear his little heart beat, it was the most magical thing ) and they told me I had subchronic hemorrhaging, apparently this is normal?? About 27 hours later i started a miscarriage in my home and my husband drove me to the er. I'm still in mass amounts of physical pain and obviously emotional as well. Did anyone take time off work with an early miscarriage? I am taking today off but I don't know how far to go with it. Til the bleeding settles down? Til the pain stops? I am at a loss. My first MC was almost a missed one, I had irregular periods and I had at first thought it was just a late heavy period. And I wouldn't have been ready for a LO at that time in my life, so it really did not affect me at the time. Now with this one after trying, getting the bfp, telling our families, I'm just lost. Any advice would be much appreciated.

dpjennifer · June 2017

My first MC I had a D&E so I took off the Friday of the surgery and the next Monday. My second MC I got permission to telework for a few days while waiting to MC. I took a day off to MC (the heaviest flow day) and went back to work after that. The 3rd and 4th were both early CPs and I don't remember what I did. I think I took a few days off because I needed some emotional time off. Saving up my time to be able to have a baby and a year and a half later having my 4th loss was too much, so I just needed some mental health days.

At 7 weeks the MC shouldn't be too bad, more like a really bad period (I've read some terrifying things about MCs later in the first tri). But, it's really up to you how much time you have and how much time off you think you need. Be kind to yourself.

Mack2342 · June 2017

Sorry for your loss. I had a d & c with both of mine and I took a week off for both. I only needed a day or two physically but I needed more emotionally. After I returned to work I had several days where I would shut my office door and cry. It's really up to you how much time you need. Be kind to yourself and take as much time as you need to heal physically and emotionally

hdaley · June 2017

I took 2 weeks off. One week I already had planned as vacation due to holidays. I mentally couldn't do it. I had a job where one small mistake could get you fired

zamoraspin · June 2017

@deannaarp I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am going through the same thing, we learned last Thursday at our first appointment that our embryo was not growing as it should and miscarriage was likely. Saturday I started spotting and that has continued through today. The flow is starting to get a little heavier now. I just want it to be over and I've read such a range of experiences it's hard to know what to expect.

I have been out of work since Thursday. I have talked to my boss and he says just to take care of myself. I hate to be missing work and not knowing how much more I will miss but at the same time I am not much use.

rklinge0 · June 2017

Sorry for your loss. Mine happened right before thanksgiving so I took 4 days off but only one was a work day. I went back a week later because I needed to get back into routine. My miscarriage itself took 3 days until I finally passed the sac. And I was glad I had the time off to heal emotionally.

Chawk17 · June 2017

Sorry for your loss. My Mc was at 8 weeks. Natural.
It was during spring break so I didn't take one...but I don't think I would've.
The pain was immense the first day..and then after that normal cramps. BUT Dr did tell me I only had 10% chance of staying pregnant and that was a Monday and I Mc on a saturday...so I had time to prepare....I guess.

chaser61 · June 2017

Sorry for your loss. My first MC was a missed one at 11 weeks and I had a D&C. I took a whole week off. I was cleared to go back on a Wednesday by emotionally couldn't do it. My second MC happened at 8 weeks, and I didn't take any time off except for an appointment at the OB. I started bleeding on a Sunday and on Wednesday the OB said MC was imminent because the heartbeat was so low. Wednesday evening I went through three hours of painful cramping and passed the sac. I bled heavily the next couple of days but the cramping subsided, so I went to work. I guess I figured I would rather be miserable at work and get paid for it and that way I could save my vacay up for happier times. I say take off what you physically and emotionally need.

Editing to add that my third was at five weeks and I didn't take time off either. Just sat brooding at my desk.

bethe-2 · July 2017

I simply do not have words to convey the debth of my sympathy.
Take whatever time you need. My first mc was at 7w 3d, I happened to be off the day it started & went in to work the next day... had a meltdown & told a client that it wasn't worth my time being there & was sent home early by a Very loving boss who had suffered losses herself trying to build her family.
My second was at 5w & I was more mentally prepared to keep on my "game face" so I chose to go in to work, I fortunantly have an incredible bond with my boss of 18 years & her support was more helpful than sitting at home alone would have been.
Every woman is different, every loss is different & every recovery is unique. I wish you the very best.

Stac928 · July 2017

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I had a MMC at 12 weeks. Tried to use meds and do it at home. Ended up having a D&C.

I took a week off. Fortunately my job grants bereavement leave for pregnancy loss. I took all 5 days. Mostly for emotional reasons. Physically I was fine about a day after the D&C.

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