GTKY: My MIL is __________

moonlady-2 · June 2017

or your mom... or pick someone else to tell us all about!

moonlady-2 · June 2017

My MIL is a nice lady but has SO much anxiety. She told DH and I that we shouldn't go play pool because one of us could get "stabbed in the heart with a pool stick". Who even thinks of things like that?

Also, she gave my nephew his first haircut while babysitting. Without permission. And it was awful. Hopefully she won't do anything like that with my kid or I'd lose it.

edit: I want to add that she cut his hair herself! If it wasn't clear.

jackiesmom324 · June 2017

@moonlady-2 I also have the super anxious MIL, Mine also cries when she's even the tiniest bit upset which can be annoying. We have a reasonably warm relationship but I keep my distance as I've seen her talk really bad about almost everyone. On the good side she's obsessed with my husband her step son and is really obsessed with the grandkids which I find cute.. I also really respect her work ethic and catty subtle shard sometimes lol the shade makes me laugh... hard. I also think it's admirable that she is always there to bail my SIL out when she gets her house foreclosed on x3, loses custody of her children x2 and has descended into a really sad downward spiral with drugs.. I feel like it must be heartbreaking to have to watch that.. ..also she helped coparent SIL son when she got pregnant at 21.I also respect that she really seems to have invested alot of energy and time into her family.

angetralala · June 2017

Just going to leave this here:
My MIL changed into a white strapless dress at my wedding reception.

ilikestars089 · June 2017

Ohhhhh snap @angetralala I have no words... wow!

My MIL has great intentions but terrible execution. Almost always.

atack · June 2017

My MIL is so nice. Shs very religious and I am very fortunate for herZ. She buys my kids wardrobes each season as she loves to shop. I learned early on to just appreciate it and enjoy it. It's kohls or JC Penney or Carters because she's a sale shopper, but we are so lucky.

jlemons-2 · June 2017

My MIL is a very loving, accepting, hippy, artist woman who will probably be a pretty good role model to my children.

clovelyone · June 2017

My soon to be MIL is such a sweet and thoughtful person. I feel so lucky that I love the ILs.

cait5413 · June 2017

My MIL is pretty great. She's a former librarian and DH is her only child, so he was only surpassed as center of the universe when DD was born. My in laws are retired (my mom is not) so they can help us out a lot more with the babies bc their schedules are flexible. They also live pretty far away so w E only see them 3-4 times a year so we don't get sick of each other.

failuretofly · June 2017

My MIL is probably one of my favourite people on the planet. She is the most selfless, caring, thoughtful person I've ever met and her relationship with FIL is one I hope DH and I can emulate forever. They are just great

kyrwyn · June 2017

My MIL is generous, patient, compassionate, warm, willing to learn the rules/guidelines of our house and gentle without being a pushover. She's also very smart and has a background in childhood education, as well as lab management. AND she's crafty. My husband's parents are divorced and remarried so my second MIL is fiercely competitive, alarmingly intelligent, highly independent and a force of nature when it comes to protecting/promoting her family (which we are considered part of). Now that I know second MIL bettter and she is less intimidating, I feel like I won the MIL lottery, twice, in very very different ways.

rubyrose_0919 · June 2017

Sadly, my MIL passed away a few years before I met my DH. She has an amazing reputation in our city as an incredible mom, social worker, and all around kind and good-hearted person. She would have been an wonderful grandmother. Our girl name is in honour of her.

vvitchhazel · June 2017

Sigh. Where do I begin? My MIL means well, but she goes about everything she does in a very selfish way. She's very judgemental and her way is the right way, always. She's also very absent-minded and has put DD in dangerous situations more times than I can even count. We let her babysit twice... Once when DD was so little that she just slept the whole time. And the second time, she called us after a half hour because she couldn't get DD to stop screaming. We got back and fed her and she was fine. MIL didn't even try giving her a bottle. Last 4th of July, we were at this outdoor living museum experience and I'd been pushing the stroller the whole time, uphill for long distances and MIL offered to take a turn. Next thing I know, she's leaving the stroller in the middle of the road where trams speed by to go read a placard. She dropped DD on her head on her first birthday and blamed my husband for it. She let's DD get into things she shouldn't, saying she should be able to explore and experience everything. Um no. Not the cats water dish, not your bathroom trash can, and she DEFINITELY doesn't need our shoes in her mouth. She fought me on those plastic fridge letters with the glued on tiny magnets, saying they aren't a hazard if she's being watched. Next thing I know, MIL isn't paying attention and DD has one in her mouth. Really? And that's only the shit she's pulled with DD. Don't even get me started on what she's done or said to me and DH over the years.

MrsWifey89 · June 2017

@kyrwyn how lucky are you! That's amazing that you have 2 great MILs

@angetralala I think I would've "accidentally" spilt a glass of red wine on that dress

My MIL is .... extremely thoughtful and caring but sometimes a bit overbearing.

She has some seperation issues when it comes to hers kids (luckily she knows she has them) there were times that if we went to visit and left to go home (DH's parents live in a different province) she would fall into depression for a week afterwards.

SIL just had the first grand baby last July and there's rules in place that they need to FaceTime at least every other day.....and I don't know if it's unreasonable of me to already be thinking that I won't be doing that? lol

overall she really is wonderful and would do absolutely anything for us that we ever needed. We have a great relationship (luckily I'm fairly easy going, I don't think it'd work if I wasn't)

cait5413 · June 2017

@MrsWifey89 when DD was born, after her grandparents visited, thet wanted to skype her every day. Now we're down to once or twice a week

MrsWifey89 · June 2017

@cait5413 once or twice a week I can do! I'm sure once baby is here my opinion will change lol I just am not a fan of placing stipulations on how often I HAVE to FaceTime her. DH works away so every other week he is gone for a week at a time. I feel like the weeks that he is gone face timing will be a little less frequent to MIL.

acgonzalez22 · June 2017

My MIL is the sweetest woman. She suffered a massive aneurysm that left her in a coma for 31 days back in 2013. Watching her put her life back together without one complaint is beyond motivating. She is truly extraordinary and someone I admire.

MJDsquared · June 2017

My MIL is one of the strongest women I know. She works extremely hard for her family and even fighting breast cancer didn't slow her down (even with encouragement from family to take it easy).

sjis · June 2017

atack said:

My MIL is so nice. Shs very religious and I am very fortunate for herZ. She buys my kids wardrobes each season as she loves to shop. I learned early on to just appreciate it and enjoy it. It's kohls or JC Penney or Carters because she's a sale shopper, but we are so lucky.

This! I rarely buy my DD clothes anymore since MIL buys so much. I'm very lucky and grateful! I used to want to outfit my DD in more stylish clothes, but they grow out of things so fast! Bright colors, words on tees, character tees, bring it on!

vvitchhazel · June 2017

Jealous of all these great MILs

jackiesmom324 · June 2017

@vvitchhazel yea I'm jealous too lol.... Clearly your husband is tough stuff to survive that childhood

muskratbaby · June 2017

My MIL is great. Down to earth, loves travelling and gardening. She taught me how to cook/bake. She doesn't like taking care of babies, though, which is sort of funny. She had 4 kids in 3.5 years (twins in the middle), and I think it traumatized her. I'm excited to tell her and the rest of my husband's family about my pregnancy next weekend!

dkizz82 · June 2017

My MIL is a wonderful person. Everyone loves her. She loves me and I love her. Things get a little strenuous from time to time because she likes to tell her opinion of what we do with DD. She's learning I am mom and DH is dad and we don't need advice. But she really is a good person. Things could be a lot worse.

moonlady-2 · June 2017

@vvitchhazel ha ha me too. Sometimes I don't understand how my husband could have came from his mother.

eazybreezy225 · June 2017

My MIL is, passive-aggressive, opinionated, judgemental, a gossip, extremely religious, and a martyr. She is also very sweet and thoughtful, she has good intentions and isn't purposefully malicious.
As you can see, it's pretty complicated. We have a good relationship, but it's definitely not near as good as it should be.

NME44 · June 2017

Passionate about her family. Luckily for me I'm a part of it now. She has a very "family comes first" mentality that I'm not used to, but I feel accepted by her, so that's good.

she also has a tendency to talk about people who aren't there, so who knows what she says when I'm not around?

It's whatever, we get along well and we're lucky to have them.

Jellybelly119 · June 2017

My MIL is really sweet. She mostly keeps to herself, isn't overbearing, but will be there for us instantaneously if we need her. (Nice change from my mother who just HAS to see DS and me on a daily basis.) She's an incredibly hardworking person; she went back to school to be an APRN (she finished 5 years ago) after working as an L&D nurse for 25 years. She's kind of lax and scatter brained when she watches DS, so I roll my eyes a bit, but I'm super grateful to have her in my life!

mdcd44127 · June 2017

vvitchhazel said:

Jealous of all these great MILs

Same. I'm not even going to write anything specific about my MIL because she stalks us, online and off. Complete and utter nightmare. So happy for those of you with kind, caring MIL's, but deeply envious (and of course, my condolences to those also in bad situations).

Amber_Waves · June 2017

My MIL & I are very different people and her slowness to accept me as I am was a problem at first. DH had to sit her down and explain that not everyone is an extrovert, not everyone goes to 11 with their emotions all the time, and not everyone likes attention, AND THAT'S OKAY.

We've come a long way since then and have a pretty good relationship now, but there are definitely times where I am looking at her like, "you pushy, self-centered witch!" And she's looking at me like, "you uncaring, conceited harpy!"

failuretofly · June 2017

@vvitchhazel don't be too jealous. My mom is more like your MIL so I'm not really coming out ahead of the game

she is a living, breathing ball of perpetual anxiety and permeates the core of every being she encounters to the point where she just thinks it's normal to be freaking out about everything all of the time. She is also so selfish it's painful. I am very glad we live several provinces apart!

lijuan09 · June 2017

My MIL is tough as nails because she's had to be. We've had a bit of a rough relationship but I'm beginning to see that it just took her a while to make sure that I was going to treat her son right. She speaks her mind, and doesn't back down, which can lead to some hurtful situations. But overall, I respect her.

katiegeminimoon · June 2017

I have two MIL (MIL and her wife). They are both nice enough, but I know there is going to be a lot of tension when this baby comes. They have different parenting styles than I will have and it's going to cause problems, I already know it.

elcd458 · June 2017

My MIL is... busy. It's amazing. The woman never stops! Energizer Bunny levels of go-go-go. Her idea of relaxation includes things like baking 20 loaves of bread and/or painting the whole house. She's approaching the age where we are starting to worry about a bad fall or a broken hip from her many "activities" but I definitely think that part of her personality is why DH has such an amazing work ethic, so I try to keep my mouth shut and just pray that she doesn't think I'm a lazy slob in comparison!

On the other hand, she can really make us cringe when she gossips. We'll all go out to a restaurant and she'll start talking about someone, say that person's FULL NAME out loud (which is always irrelevant because we don't know anyone she's referring to), and tell a story complete with offensive vocal impressions. The irony is that she's unbelievably sensitive, so if we ever asked her to stop, we'd find out from FIL like 2 weeks later that she cried herself to sleep about it because she decided it meant we hated her and thought she was stupid or something.

Marley629 · June 2017

My MIL is amazing. Having lost my own mom in 2009, I honestly couldn't ask for anyone better and I believe my mom had some part in putting her in my life. I thank my lucky stars every day that she's in my life and a Nana to my kids. Of course I wish my mom was here with me, but I know she's watching over us and is so happy that I have a MIL who is kind, supportive and treats me like one of her own.

Jellybelly119 · June 2017

Awww @Marley629, that gave me all the feels. I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your mom, but so happy for you that you have such an awesome MIL to be there now.

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