A lady at my office. She always seems to be in a grouchy mood, and takes every opportunity to pick on me for no reason. Just had another awkward and unnecessary run-in with her via email yesterday. I've been here for a year and it has never changed. I get along with everyone else in the office. Not sure what her deal is.
Guys, I feel like Im being the twat to DH. I can not figure out a way to sleep without snoring super loudly, and on top of that Im so hot at night, the AC makes it too cold for DH. Poor guy has to sleep elsewhere every night, and I feel terrible. Ive tried a lot to get myself to stop snoring, and nothing seems to be working.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
Guys, I feel like Im being the twat to DH. I can not figure out a way to sleep without snoring super loudly, and on top of that Im so hot at night, the AC makes it too cold for DH. Poor guy has to sleep elsewhere every night, and I feel terrible. Ive tried a lot to get myself to stop snoring, and nothing seems to be working.
At least you acknowledge it. I'm the one who has to go to another room because even when I kick him he keeps snoring . I wind up in DS's room since he doesn't sleep there. He woke up at 4:30 screaming for me so I go back in our room and DH is either still asleep or doing a great job of pretending he is. Then his alarms go off for 30 minutes and he makes a ton of noise getting ready. He always asks why I don't make him get up, dude, you sleep like a hibernating bear, I can't get you to wake up.
The owner of the company I work for! I was put on bedrest suddenly (no warning, blood pressure soared) and my boss sends a group text today telling me to outline how to do billing in our new software so that way anyone can do it. 1. I am still learning the system so billing doesn't run smoothly right now and I can't really outline it from my couch when I don't have access to the software to write the steps down. 2. The other girl in the office that was suppose to learn it when I did (his daughter) was to busy doing wedding stuff during work hours that she didn't want me to teach it to her until this month, low and behold I am not there for obvious reasons!! 3. I wrote a note on where paid client bills go and the girl got mad, gave it to daddy and he got on to me and saying it wasn't clearly marked so how were they to know? Umm...that's where it went before I started and she was the one who showed me that, so please tell me how the hell she didn't know! I think I am more stressed being home and feeling like I am incompetent at my job and feeling like I am getting pushed out of my position.
Me:
27 DH: 29
Diagnosed
with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
@SouthernMama15 I sound like your DH. Except that I will be getting up with our children. I sleep like a rock and even when DH would roll me over, I wouldn't really wake up. I might remember him doing it once in a night, and in reality, he does it like every hour. I feel really bad though, becuase I dont want to make him sleep on the couch. I wish I could figure out a way to make it stop. When Im not KU, I usually sleep on my stomach, and I dont really snore that way.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
He snores regardless of how he sleeps. It enrages me. Then he's all take a nap when DS does. I have other stuff to do and I find if I sleep during the day it makes it harder at night. He got up at night when DS was a newborn, I don't know what his deal is now. I think what sets me off is him asking what's wrong and it's like he's baffled why I'm so tired.
@littlebug2010 My husband has been sleeping on the couch for a while now because I'm snoring so loud. I think he actually likes being on the couch because he gets puppy snuggles in the morning if I get up earlier than him and let the dogs out. Our dogs usually aren't allowed on the bed, so he gets puppy love on the couch. Also, I'm pulling the pregnancy card--I need a comfortable spot to sleep or else my back and hips hurt.
My TW is the special ed teacher I work with. He's has been out most of the last few months, but the week he got back, he unilaterally decided that the kid we're recommending go to a special ed classroom stay in gen ed next year--nevermind that we already made the decision and this kid needs small group instruction for everything! Our meeting with parents next week should be really awkward since he's already spoken to them about it.
@SpotConlon I dont think I would feel so bad, if I knew he was comfortable, but I know he's not. I have offered to sleep down there, but he refuses to let me do it. I get that he doesnt want to make his pregnant wife sleep on the couch, but I offer anyway. Also WTH to your special ed teacher! FX your meeting with those parents goes okay next week.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
My TW is whoever told the boss that there's been gossip going around the office that the boss conveniently never visits. I'm pretty sure I know who it is and this girl, while she has been with the company longer than the rest of the team that works full time, she hasn't actually worked with the team for over a year. She started up full time for the summer and tried to take charge and no one listens to her since what she wants us to do is not what we do. It doesn't help I've known this girl since high school and know just what type of person she is.
The newbie I have been helping to train in over the last few weeks is the TW. First he hung up on a client while I was still talking and when I told him to never do that again he responded that I'm "touchy" because I'm pregnant. I told him that was inappropriate and plain wrong and he then said I'm a "snappy pregnant lady" and that he "was never told he couldn't hang up on a client". I advised him it was actually part of one of the training slides we went over last week, he responded with "you must be on crack, I've never been taught that".... hmmm he's not going to last long!
@kleigh30 In whatever job I've held, I've always ended up in a "trainer" type role eventually, where I orient new staff.
I can. not. stand. unteachable know-it-alls!
I always tell them, "I am going to teach you everything I know, and some of it may be stuff that you already know, but it's my job to mention EVERYTHING, even if it seems stupid, just so all the bases are covered and you are successful in your role."
I will never understand people who feel the need to argue, disagree, or say, "I know that already."
Just shut up and take instruction! Your ability to do that says WAY more to me about who you are!
My Twat Tuesday shoutout goes to the douche-canoe on Instagram who went through almost 3 years worth of my pictures and "liked" every picture I had of my daughter (who is now 5) wearing a swimsuit, or running around without a shirt on. Every single picture. They are pictures of a normal little girl doing normal little girl things...swimming, playing in mud, playing outside, baking...
This person's profile is private, says they have no posts and no followers. Made my stomach hurt. :-(
@AdvoCyndi30 Yes to what @lewliv said! There are too many weirdos and sickos out there to keep your profile public. If you are posting pics of your kid, it's definitely a good idea to keep your profile setting private so only your friends can see it.
@AdvoCyndi30 +1 to what everyone has said! REPORT! I would also make sure your profile is private. Keep an eye on the creepy profile, and just keep reporting every day until something happens! That is really scary!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
As someone who works in the social media space I agree- report them, lock your profile down, and good on you for paying attention to things like that. You would be amazed how many people don't realize the amount of strangers that follow them or what they like of theirs etc.
Edited for info: When you make your IG private, it will not kick out current followers, so go through them first-delete and then privatize.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@AdvoCyndi30 the guy didn't show up for work today, knew it wouldn't be long! He was definitely "untrainable".
also that is so gross that someone did that. Ugh gives me the heebie jeebies that people like that sicko exist. Hope you can get him blocked and reported!
Thanks for the advice, ladies! I went and set mine to private (don't know why it wasn't already, stupid of me) and blocked him...I'm wanting to see if there is another way to "report" other than the report button...because it doesn't give you the option to actually flag it and say, "I think this person is a pedophile". I'll be at work tomorrow and have access to a desktop, so I might search up a phone number to call.
It definitely freaked me out. My son heard me talking to my mom about it on the phone today (he is 9) and he was instantly SO protective. He was angry and said he wouldn't ever let anyone hurt his sister. We had to have a long talk about being cautious and taking certain safety steps to protect ourselves and people we love.
I have gone through my followers throughout the day and deleted those I don't know. I have a lot of followers due to posting about CrossFit stuff, but they all got the boot today, too!
I feel dumb, but I'm glad something like *this* drew my attention to the safety aspect of it rather than an actual event taking place.
@AdvoCyndi30 if posting crossfit/workout stuff is important to you, you can make a second account and link it to your personal account. I have two IGs and you can easily toggle between both without having to sign out. My second IG is public and is for workout and running related posts only.
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
DS2 8/2017
Re: Twat Tuesday 6/6
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I think I am more stressed being home and feeling like I am incompetent at my job and feeling like I am getting pushed out of my position.
Diagnosed with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I can. not. stand. unteachable know-it-alls!
I always tell them, "I am going to teach you everything I know, and some of it may be stuff that you already know, but it's my job to mention EVERYTHING, even if it seems stupid, just so all the bases are covered and you are successful in your role."
I will never understand people who feel the need to argue, disagree, or say, "I know that already."
Just shut up and take instruction! Your ability to do that says WAY more to me about who you are!
This person's profile is private, says they have no posts and no followers. Made my stomach hurt. :-(
Yes to what @lewliv said! There are too many weirdos and sickos out there to keep your profile public. If you are posting pics of your kid, it's definitely a good idea to keep your profile setting private so only your friends can see it.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Time to report and lock down the Instagram! Go through your follows and kick out people who you don't recognize.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
Edited for info: When you make your IG private, it will not kick out current followers, so go through them first-delete and then privatize.
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
My husband has a CPAP machine, and doesn't snore when he actually wears it to sleep. Unfortunately, he hasn't been wearing it recently...
also that is so gross that someone did that. Ugh gives me the heebie jeebies that people like that sicko exist. Hope you can get him blocked and reported!
It definitely freaked me out. My son heard me talking to my mom about it on the phone today (he is 9) and he was instantly SO protective. He was angry and said he wouldn't ever let anyone hurt his sister. We had to have a long talk about being cautious and taking certain safety steps to protect ourselves and people we love.
I have gone through my followers throughout the day and deleted those I don't know. I have a lot of followers due to posting about CrossFit stuff, but they all got the boot today, too!
I feel dumb, but I'm glad something like *this* drew my attention to the safety aspect of it rather than an actual event taking place.