Completely random and kind of a confessional. So my work gives out pedometers to encourage employees to stay active and be well. We have an app that has rankings of all the employees, with who has the highest steps per day average at the top and those with the lowest at the bottom. I don't average a ton of steps a day since I'm usually at a desk for the majority of my day while, so my ranking has been on the lower side. Plus I forget to wear it some days.
Well, I'm a bit competitive. I (inadvertently) figured out that if you shake the pedometer a certain way for awhile, it thinks you're working out and adds a lot steps. I'm now ranked in the top 5 and I'm a dirty, dirty cheater.
I know I'm cheating myself by not actually using the pedometer correctly, but my competitive side keeps telling me this is a genius idea because, ranks, y'all.
@vflux33 that is absolutely disgusting and not acceptable in a virtual world or otherwise. I hope your H is able to find someone who will listen.
*TW* Side note: both of my DH's bosses are Jewish. One boss's mom passed away over the weekend and they had a memorial at their house last night. This was our first Jewish memorial (sorry if there's another name that I don't know). We didn't have a clue as to what was happening, although some of the service was in English. Anyway, I guess my point is that while it was a sad occasion, I was so thankful that they let us take part in it. It was a BEAUTIFUL service. Seriously, the parts that were in English were so beautifully written and much more about the person's journey than about God. *end TW* I'm grateful that we now live in an area that is incredibly diverse and we get to experience so many different cultures. Where we grew up, there was zero diversity and I hated it. Point summed up by Ellen:
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
Good morning everyone! Happy Thursday. Today is my birthday and tomorrow is DH's! We're not doing anything today probably but will be having a nice dinner for the both of us tomorrow or Saturday. I did take off work so I could relax for today, though.
@vflux33 - That is 100% unacceptable. I wonder if he could make some phone calls. I feel like it's harder to ignore someone's complaint on the phone versus over email. I also wonder if he knows of any gamer blogs or organizations that could report on this sort of story. People shouldn't be afraid of leaving their homes. I'm angry for you and I hope YH can figure out a way to escalate this issue.
ETA typo
The phone vs email thing isn't always true. I worked in the PR dept of a major company that also had a huge video game dept, and we filtered all fan mail and complaints. There was nothing I could personally do about a complaint - I could only take notes and pass it along. If someone wrote a somewhat coherent email I could just keep reforwarding it to the right people, and they'd always take care of it. If someone called I could keep forwarding my notes but no one cared because they were just notes. Obv every company is different but don't knock email.
Side story: this bat shit crazy woman used to write these VERY elaborate snail mail letters to the owner, written as if he'd responded to previous (like answering questions and thanking him for thinking of her), but then she'd call the PR line 20x a day to yell at me and ask why I was keeping him from her. 'Twas such a joy.
@doxiemoxie212 - I wasn't knocking email. I was suggesting something that maybe vflux33's husband hadn't tried. I just hope he finds a way to escalate the issue.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@pebbledam I know, I was just trying to provide some perspective on who is actually routing complaints sometimes. Before I had that job in house I had no idea it'd be PR, I thought it'd be a subsection of legal. If it's the PR/comms team you're usually sorta screwed.
BUT complaining on twitter almost ALWAYS works. Companies hate being called supportive of antisemitic things on social media (uh, unless they see it as a feature not a bug? Which is a bigger issue).
@doxiemoxie212 I agree with you on the social media thing. That usually gets their attention pretty quickly, and I'd imagine they'd want to keep being anything anti-semeitic far away from their image. A couple of years ago a USPS worker was caught on film throwing a package at someone's door, and the thing went viral. There was a hashtag and everything for it. USPS responded pretty quickly and terminated that employee. There's still a 'Don't Throw My Package' website up from it all, though.
Thanks for being enraged with me, guys. It helps for some reason.
@antoto I love Anita Sarkeesian! I'm not really a gamer and haven't seen all her videos, but loved the ones I did.
@pebbledam@doxiemoxie212 As for the email vs. call thing, if we can find the right number to call and he isn't slammed at work he said he'd do it (just because it would be something different). I don't really know how the in game reporting works so I can't do it for him. I think the debate about which is more effective is interesting--for me the point is they obviously aren't going to do shit at this point unless they are inundated with complaints by a ton of different people. When he has emailed they just pointed him back to the in game reporting system, so if there is even a number to call to make such a complaint, they may just do that.
Twitter would be interesting. Neither of us are on Twitter, but if there is someone here on Twitter with a bunch of followers or someone who is, like, Twitter famous who'd be willing to do it, we would def reach out by PM or something. Anyone have ideas on that?
@vflux33 My H doesn't play that particular game, but he's run into similar things on other games. It's really disheartening that so many people (gamers, not people here) seem to think it's funny.
Update @pebbledam@doxiemoxie212: I messed around on EA's (game maker) website a bit and they won't give you a phone number. You click, complaints, then harassment, etc. and it leads you to an email form with no phone option.
@vflux33 I just can't believe that people behave that way. MH doesn't play video games, but I'm totally with you on the outrage and fear. It just boggles my mind that people act/think this way and actually put it out into the world. I don't understand how people can have so much hate for their fellow human. I'm just appalled that there are so many uneducated, hateful people in the world. I hope you find a way to get this reported and the game makers actually do something about it. Like @BertieMeetsGertie reminded us via Ellen we need to just be kind to one another.
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
Y'all seriously this is how 4chan and all this goes. It's terrible but not surprising. White dudes getting radicalized online is real, and it's frustrating it isn't talked about more.
As for twitter, I have like 10 followers, but I've had v good success lodging complaints if I @ the company enough times. Like, delta, virgin America, Comcast, hotels.com, sephora, etc etc have all finally fixed a huge f up because I tweeted them (after hours of no success on the phone or via email). I basically only use twitter for complaints. @vflux33
the reason twitter works for complaints is because social media community managers are given a certain amount of power to reduce the possibility of something going viral, etc. they're also chained to their phones/computers and want the buzzing to stop.
@vflux33 they'll ask me for my username and for screen shots most likely, which I don't have... I could lie and pretend to be your H? But I think it would just be easier for him to make a Twitter specifically for this. lol
@doxiemoxie212 I don't think he took screenshots--he reported through the console and no screenshots were required. I guess he could take pics with his phone--I'll ask him to next time. I think he'd want to block out his name and avatar though so he wouldn't get in game death threats or whatever.
I've been going on walks with MH and there is an area we've been avoiding because it's weirdly muddy even though it has been dry here. Today I said "I can't believe it's still wet there," and as we walked around the muddy part, MH goes "it must not have started Clomid yet".
Guys. This has no segue whatsoever, but I felt like I had to let everyone know. It's national doughnut day. At DD if ypu buy anything you get a free classic doughnut.
Me: 32, DH: 31 Together: 11/2008, married: 3/2014 DH: Type 1 Diabetes, (dx 4/15) Celiac Disease (dx 11/14), Treatment induced Neuropathy of Diabetes (dx 7/15) DH SA: 11/16: low count and low motility DH SA: 12/16: borderline low, count and motility 1/20/17: BFP, 1/24/17: CP 5/17:low AMH (0.89) 6/17: first IUI cycle, 50 mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI: 2 follies, BFN (count 58 million, 97% motility) 7/17: second IUI, 2.5 letrozole, OPK, IUI: 1 follie, BFN (count 9.5 million swimming- dont know percentage) 8/17: third IUI, 5.0 letrozole,
@WillRunForWine21 my running group met at Dunkin this morning. So I ran 3. And then got the Peanut Butter Delight Croissant Donut. Just finished my classroom so treated myself to that. Yum! (And I got H a Boston Cream for free!)
Is the bump giving anyone else THE WORST audible ads today? Usually it's bad if I accidentally hover over something, but today - ON EVERY SINGLE PAGE - it's like 3 ads all playing at once.
@purplg8r Oh my, a peanut butter croissant donut sounds AMAZING. And the calories don't count on National Donut Day. There's totally science behind that lol.
Me: 31 | DH: 34 Together: September 29, 2009 DS: January 15, 2013 TFAS June 2017
TGIF!!! Someone changed my position on the schedule today which is a huge pet peeve of mine. I never ask for the schedule to be changed. Yes, some days I don't feel like working in certain parts of the clinic but it is OUR JOB and clearly stated in the job description!
Me: 31 | DH: 34 Together: September 29, 2009 DS: January 15, 2013 TFAS June 2017
Would it be a huge b*tch move if I were to respond to 3OPKs again and let her know that since we're not Google (and everyone was nice!), it's customary to say respond & at least say thank you.
@vflux33 What is the specific game you're having problems with?
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Oh man. My mom is visiting and she made really good and strong margaritas with fresh lime juice. I am definitely drunk after one lol. I have no tolerance!!!
Me: 31 | DH: 34 Together: September 29, 2009 DS: January 15, 2013 TFAS June 2017
I'm rewatching early seasons of 'The Walking Dead.' I'm remembering what I liked it to begin with, but (potential TW/spoilers)
Lori is the worst frigging mother on Earth- how the hell does she never know where Carl is?!?! And it took her like no time to get pregnant. Not that I'd want to be pregnant in a zombie apocalypse, but ugh. Cannot stand Lori.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Nothing like getting off a 12 hour overnight shift and wanting nothing but to crawl into bed only to walk out to the parking lot and discover your car has a flat tire
TTC History
Me: 35 DH: 34 Married 07/2012 DD born 07/2014 DD2 born 10/2018 DS born 10/2022
IF history: TTC #2 since January 2016 June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018 FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
@pebbledam yup I have to be back at 6:30 thank goodness my dad is awake so he's going to bring his compressor and see if he can just add enough air to get me home. If it's truly broken he'll change it but since it's an SUV there's no way I could do it on my own.
TTC History
Me: 35 DH: 34 Married 07/2012 DD born 07/2014 DD2 born 10/2018 DS born 10/2022
IF history: TTC #2 since January 2016 June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018 FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
@pebbledam right??? Like doesn't the universe know that working night shift is its own special torture and shit like this should not happen to us after work?? Ughhh.
TTC History
Me: 35 DH: 34 Married 07/2012 DD born 07/2014 DD2 born 10/2018 DS born 10/2022
IF history: TTC #2 since January 2016 June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018 FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
Re: Weekday Randoms 5/29
Anita Sarkeesian foreverrrrrr
So my work gives out pedometers to encourage employees to stay active and be well.
We have an app that has rankings of all the employees, with who has the highest steps per day average at the top and those with the lowest at the bottom. I don't average a ton of steps a day since I'm usually at a desk for the majority of my day while, so my ranking has been on the lower side. Plus I forget to wear it some days.
Well, I'm a bit competitive.
I (inadvertently) figured out that if you shake the pedometer a certain way for awhile, it thinks you're working out and adds a lot steps. I'm now ranked in the top 5 and I'm a dirty, dirty cheater.
I know I'm cheating myself by not actually using the pedometer correctly, but my competitive side keeps telling me this is a genius idea because, ranks, y'all.
I need to get my butt to the gym.
*TW* Side note: both of my DH's bosses are Jewish. One boss's mom passed away over the weekend and they had a memorial at their house last night. This was our first Jewish memorial (sorry if there's another name that I don't know). We didn't have a clue as to what was happening, although some of the service was in English. Anyway, I guess my point is that while it was a sad occasion, I was so thankful that they let us take part in it. It was a BEAUTIFUL service. Seriously, the parts that were in English were so beautifully written and much more about the person's journey than about God. *end TW* I'm grateful that we now live in an area that is incredibly diverse and we get to experience so many different cultures. Where we grew up, there was zero diversity and I hated it. Point summed up by Ellen:
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@charlestonchew - Happy birthday to you both!
ETA typo
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Side story: this bat shit crazy woman used to write these VERY elaborate snail mail letters to the owner, written as if he'd responded to previous (like answering questions and thanking him for thinking of her), but then she'd call the PR line 20x a day to yell at me and ask why I was keeping him from her. 'Twas such a joy.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
BUT complaining on twitter almost ALWAYS works. Companies hate being called supportive of antisemitic things on social media (uh, unless they see it as a feature not a bug? Which is a bigger issue).
Happy birthday!
@doxiemoxie212
I agree with you on the social media thing. That usually gets their attention pretty quickly, and I'd imagine they'd want to keep being anything anti-semeitic far away from their image.
A couple of years ago a USPS worker was caught on film throwing a package at someone's door, and the thing went viral. There was a hashtag and everything for it. USPS responded pretty quickly and terminated that employee. There's still a 'Don't Throw My Package' website up from it all, though.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@antoto I love Anita Sarkeesian! I'm not really a gamer and haven't seen all her videos, but loved the ones I did.
@pebbledam @doxiemoxie212 As for the email vs. call thing, if we can find the right number to call and he isn't slammed at work he said he'd do it (just because it would be something different). I don't really know how the in game reporting works so I can't do it for him. I think the debate about which is more effective is interesting--for me the point is they obviously aren't going to do shit at this point unless they are inundated with complaints by a ton of different people. When he has emailed they just pointed him back to the in game reporting system, so if there is even a number to call to make such a complaint, they may just do that.
Twitter would be interesting. Neither of us are on Twitter, but if there is someone here on Twitter with a bunch of followers or someone who is, like, Twitter famous who'd be willing to do it, we would def reach out by PM or something. Anyone have ideas on that?
@vflux33 My H doesn't play that particular game, but he's run into similar things on other games. It's really disheartening that so many people (gamers, not people here) seem to think it's funny.
Married: 10/2013
TTC #1 Since: 02/2017
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
As for twitter, I have like 10 followers, but I've had v good success lodging complaints if I @ the company enough times. Like, delta, virgin America, Comcast, hotels.com, sephora, etc etc have all finally fixed a huge f up because I tweeted them (after hours of no success on the phone or via email). I basically only use twitter for complaints. @vflux33
the reason twitter works for complaints is because social media community managers are given a certain amount of power to reduce the possibility of something going viral, etc. they're also chained to their phones/computers and want the buzzing to stop.
Together: September 29, 2009
DS: January 15, 2013
TFAS June 2017
It's happened. MH is now making EWCM jokes.
@Cricket648 kids last day was yesterday
Together: 11/2008, married: 3/2014
DH: Type 1 Diabetes, (dx 4/15) Celiac Disease (dx 11/14), Treatment induced Neuropathy of Diabetes (dx 7/15)
DH SA: 11/16: low count and low motility
DH SA: 12/16: borderline low, count and motility
1/20/17: BFP, 1/24/17: CP
5/17:low AMH (0.89)
6/17: first IUI cycle, 50 mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI: 2 follies, BFN (count 58 million, 97% motility)
7/17: second IUI, 2.5 letrozole, OPK, IUI: 1 follie, BFN (count 9.5 million swimming- dont know percentage)
8/17: third IUI, 5.0 letrozole,
Well good luck to them. Not my problem.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Together: September 29, 2009
DS: January 15, 2013
TFAS June 2017
Together: September 29, 2009
DS: January 15, 2013
TFAS June 2017
Me: 28 | H: 29
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 March 2017
Dx: PCOS - March 2018
IUI #1: April 2018 BFN
IUI #2: May 2018
@vflux33 What is the specific game you're having problems with?
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Together: September 29, 2009
DS: January 15, 2013
TFAS June 2017
Together: September 29, 2009
DS: January 15, 2013
TFAS June 2017
Lori is the worst frigging mother on Earth- how the hell does she never know where Carl is?!?! And it took her like no time to get pregnant. Not that I'd want to be pregnant in a zombie apocalypse, but ugh. Cannot stand Lori.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22