@jess0211 how great for her that she used her pregnancy as an excuse to eat crap. You do you, girl. Sounds like someone is self conscious that you still look more amazing pregnant than she does not pregnant.
@jess0211 how great for her that she used her pregnancy as an excuse to eat crap. You do you, girl. Sounds like someone is self conscious that you still look more amazing pregnant than she does not pregnant.
Totally agreed. She's just pissed that she used the excuse and gained the weight and wants you to do the same thing.
@jess0211 I wouldn't pay any attention to her! Eating junk food is only going to help you put on unhealthy weight and that won't help you or your baby and it could just make the extra weight harder to lose. I knew someone who took full advantage of being pregnant and ate crap and gained 75lbs while pregnant..... never lost a pound of it afterwards. I eat a balance of healthy food and junk food to satisfy cravings and screw anyone who thinks they can tell me how to eat!
Girl who found out I'm pregnant a few days ago: "Be careful with that cat while you are pregnant! I don't know a lot about it but toxoplasmosis. Google it and take care!"
...thanks, but I've been pregnant for almost three months longer than you've known about it. Pretty sure I got the cat thing (and lots of other pregnancy-related concerns) covered.
@DuchessOfCambridge that exact reason is why I don't have a cat... we looked into getting one while TTC but then I told DH when I got pregnant he would have to take care of the litter... he didnt want to have to do that!
When I was 8 months pregnant there was a lady who came into my clinic who wouldn't let me touch her cat during the appointment. I told her I had been working there my whole pregnancy, taking precautions, and that I had a cat of my own. But she couldn't be persuaded and I had to get another nurse to come take over my appointment. So ridiculous.
@ooodalollly yeah I've heard of people ignoring their cats during pregnancy but I just can't. I love him too much and snuggle him all the time and he gets a minimum of probably 30 kisses a day. He's an indoor cat and DH handles litter so I'm not that worried. I feel like if I was going to have toxo I already would have been exposed.
@jess0211 - Food monitors are the worst! They usually have their own eating problems. It nevers occurs to me to watch what other people eat (other than my children because I'm invested in them staying alive) I couldn't care less.
I was talking to my sister in law about delivery and she was saying that it's going to be horrible and I said "honestly I know that it's going to be hard and it's painful but honestly I'm more worried about post pardom" meaning when I have 5 children on my care and my best friend is only taking a month off and my husband likely won't get any time off. And she said "omg don't be so dramatic, post pardom depression doesn't exist that's just something the doctors made up to scare you. Um . 1. Not what I was talking about 2. PPD very much exists I could write a book full of the stupid shit my SIL says
@bcashaw that's awful. I am sorry. That made me very upset with your SIL, I watched one of my very close friends suffer terribly with PPD. As a support person it was one of the most painful things to watch and there is so much stigma still surrounding it. Statements like what your SIL made makes it so much harder for women. PPD is one of my biggest worried as well. Ugh, sorry about your SIL.
@am+mommy she has perfect children and had perfect pregnancies and has a perfect husband with the perfect house. She is a SAHM which no judgement here because so am I... but her youngest is 10, and she has a cleaner come in everyday so I have a hard time figuring out what the fuck she does all day. Her favourite story is when her eldest was 4 months old they took her to the doctor because they were worried about the fact that she never cried. The doctor laughed at them and told them that she was a happy baby. And she felt silly.
ETA: isn't it SO hilarious that her PERFECT baby never cries. Haha haha. Bitch
@kissthesky32 oh she's definitely got some skeletons in her closet. She is WAY too condescending to not have some dark secrets. Since we are talking about what a doll she is... at Christmas time she brought the scale out of the bathroom and tried to force me to weigh myself in front of the whole family (20+ people) because she wanted to see if I was skinnier than her yet.
@jess0211 I had a coworker tell me I wasn't eating enough either. My apps say I should have gained 5lbs by now but I've only gained 1.5....technically I gained 4.5 but that's only because I lost 3 after we conceived. I definitely haven't been eating the healthiest but that's cuz carbs are the only thing I can keep down. And burgers lol. I wish I could eat bigger meals or different foods. But until I can, I'll just be snacking all day and gaining my little bit of weight at a time. Until my Dr tells me otherwise I will do what I'm doing.
@kaitlinliz yes, exactly! I'm eating, just not what they think I should or how much I guess. I've gained about 3 lbs.and have my little bump at 17 weeks so unless my doctor tells me I need to eat more or different I'm going to keep doing what I am doing.
@DuchessOfCambridge that exact reason is why I don't have a cat... we looked into getting one while TTC but then I told DH when I got pregnant he would have to take care of the litter... he didnt want to have to do that!
Wait did he just expect you to do it? Like I see a lot of this and wonder if these men never expected that looking after their pets doing their washing ..changing their baby was actually their responsibility ? I find it off cause my husband does things cause they need doing not to 'help' as if it is my job I mostly do washing but that's because I'm home in day time when it's easy to dry and get dome but he'll put it on on weekends if something goes needs doing We have a parrot who we both take care of
Anddd my director just came into my office for the sole purpose of commenting on how big my lunch was earlier. Thanks. I think I will make a poster for my office labeled "Things Not to Say to a Pregnant Woman".
When people ask me how far along I am, I get: "I can't believe you're only 17 weeks - you're huge!"
This has happened maybe 5 times in the last 10 days?! Except the answer was 16 weeks before Tuesday, lol. Well, this is the 3rd baby. Also, I really don't think I look "huge" at all. I haven't actually gained any weight yet so it's all baby/bloat/overachieving uterus/whatever. I definitely do look like I did around 30 weeks with DS and probably 25 with DD. 3rd baby probs, I guess. But geez, give me a break.
I am starting to feel like people should just stfu if you have a comment and it isn't congratulations or how are you feeling or do you need or want anything. Or here I made you a cup of tea but you don't have to drink it then you shouldn't say it . Just even if you think it's complimentary or you mean well just don't . Don't ask questions don't give opinions. If a mum to be wants your input she'll start the conversation then you may proceed with advised restraint and zero judgement.
Wow why are people so rude. I loved being the third child. I am truly sorry. Its great being the third child in the family. Only thing that was hard my siblings was we were a year a part of each other and I was 7 years a part from them.
In this slew of terribleness, my biggest complaint lately is when people tell me not to worry, that everything will be alright, and to think positive. Ughhhhh.
And these are all people who have never had twins, who don't understand the risks. Also, I don't believe in positive thinking as a method of creating a positive reality. No amount of positive thinking is going to change the risk of TTTS. Just let me worry! And let me vent about it once in a while!
@bklynchica Ugh. I've never had multiples either but geez, when a pregnant woman wants to vent let her vent! I hate when feelings go invalidated, especially by people who have no idea what they're talking about.
@bklynchica I totally agree with @ElizabethSchuyler and @ooodalollly that people need to just stop with those "relax" comments! First of all, the first way to ensure that ANY woman talking about ANY subject absolutely will NOT relax is if you tell her to relax!! And with my pregnancy history, I despise when I'm talking about being nervous about preterm labor or m/c's again and they're like, "ohh, I'm sure this one will be fine. Plus, you stressing out about it is only going to do more harm to the baby." Ummmm WTF!! Now, I'm stressing out about stressing out! Just shut it, people!
@bklynchica +1 (or +4) to everything said so far. Your feelings are legitimate and people shouldn't be hushing you. How are you supposed to get the stress out if everyone keeps trying to bottle it up!
Re: Sh*t People Say to Pregnant Women
...thanks, but I've been pregnant for almost three months longer than you've known about it. Pretty sure I got the cat thing (and lots of other pregnancy-related concerns) covered.
Um . 1. Not what I was talking about
2. PPD very much exists
I could write a book full of the stupid shit my SIL says
ETA: isn't it SO hilarious that her PERFECT baby never cries. Haha haha. Bitch
Since we are talking about what a doll she is... at Christmas time she brought the scale out of the bathroom and tried to force me to weigh myself in front of the whole family (20+ people) because she wanted to see if I was skinnier than her yet.
Wait did he just expect you to do it? Like I see a lot of this and wonder if these men never expected that looking after their pets doing their washing ..changing their baby was actually their responsibility ?
I find it off cause my husband does things cause they need doing not to 'help' as if it is my job
I mostly do washing but that's because I'm home in day time when it's easy to dry and get dome but he'll put it on on weekends if something goes needs doing
We have a parrot who we both take care of
OK WELL WHAT ABOUT WHAT I NEED WHICH IS TIME TO SPEND WITH MY ADORABLE TINY MIRACLE.
Me: It's fine, Mom. The doctor said. As long as I'm not overexerting or having pain.
Mom: Pain would be too late.
Me: Let me guess, I can't raise my hands over my head either.
Mom: Why are you being so hard headed?
Me: Why are you being so oppositional of all of my decisions?
Mom: You're just being too emotional.
Me:
And these are all people who have never had twins, who don't understand the risks. Also, I don't believe in positive thinking as a method of creating a positive reality. No amount of positive thinking is going to change the risk of TTTS. Just let me worry! And let me vent about it once in a while!