PGAL Weekly Check-in 5/30-6/5

NYTino24 · May 2017

This thread is for women who are pregnant after a loss and who have a history of loss.

This thread is one huge trigger warning so if you just came to read, please protect yourself if you are not comfortable reading about loss. This is a place where women can talk freely about their loss history.

*****PLEASE DO NOT post losses here. Start a new thread.*****

Hey PGAL ladies, "Today you are pregnant!"

1. How far along are you today?

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones?

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes?

4. How is your SO handling everything?

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far?

dragonfly87-2 · May 2017

Thanks for creating the thread @NYTino24!

1. How far along are you today? 14w5d

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones?
CP around 5 weeks in December 2016

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes?
I am being cautiously optimistic that the nausea is going away slowly. I spent the previous 3 days throwing up ever meal and yesterday, I only partially threw up my dinner right before bed. So I will take that as a win! Hoping it continues to improve.

4. How is your SO handling everything?
He is doing pretty well. Each day I am amazed at what gets him excited and the small comments he makes around planning for this little one. He has always been a thoughtful person, but out of nowhere, he will say, "oh, we need to do this for the baby" or "this would be great to buy/get for the baby." It warms my heart and surprises me at the same time.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far?
I mentioned this in the baby movement thread, there are definitely moments where I think I feel something unique (usually around bed) that I think could be movement, but can't be certain. I have an anterior placenta, but I don't know if it is high or low. My OB said I likely won't feel movement until later...which makes me think it's just gas bubbling up

angbaby83 · May 2017

1. How far along are you today? 14w5d

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones? Passed all my loss milestones and got through May 24 which was the due date of my last miscarriage.

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes? I have had two bad days of nausea again which sucks. I am also having a little anxiety. I thought this would get easier after getting beyond 12 weeks but I guess not.

4. How is your SO handling everything? He is still great. I think he is getting more excited. He actually keeps asking to go to the store and look at baby stuff.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far? I am excited to start feeling the baby more regularly. I am pretty sure I have felt movement but it is so quick and random I havent really been able to enjoy it. I am not worried about not feeling it at this point.

NYTino24 · May 2017

1. How far along are you today? 15w3d

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones? NMC at 7w6d

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes? Happy to have made it to June tomorrow! Glad to start having more energy.

4. How is your SO handling everything?
He's starting to get jealous that I can feel some movement. He can't wait until the anatomy scan.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far?
It's only sporadic at the moment. When I get a little uncomfortable, I remind myself that I *can* wait for feet in my ribs and stuff like that.

liz4382 · May 2017

1. 15 weeks 3 days
2. MC @11 weeks
3. Anxiously awaiting my appointment in a week! woke up feeling a bit nauseous, but eating has helped. I am eating everything in sight, but doing better with keeping it healthy.
4. He's handling it well as usual! Much more laid-back than me, always reassuring me that thins are fine. Although I think I am more nervous about the pregnancy, and he is more nervous about having an infant.

5. I was thinking I felt movement, but then it slowed down a bit, which made me second guess what I was feeling in the first place. I will be happy when the movements are more obvious and frequent.

lala123321567789 · May 2017

1. 14w6d

2. MMC at 12 weeks, baby only measured 8. I'm past all those milestones now. It is just my EDD to get through now.

3. Good. Finally feeling human again, and since I've got second tri I've been feeling a lot more relaxed about this pregnancy.

4. Great, he is super excited and a couple days ago I was getting dressed and he was like "wow you really are getting a bump now". Which made me happy, is rather look pregnant than like I'm gaining heaps of weight. He is really good about getting me good I'm craving, and not minding when I go to bed way too early.

5. Haven't felt baby yet, but definitely looking forward to it! I think it will be so exciting!

deeerfauxm · May 2017

1-16 weeks
2- 2 first tri MCs in 2004 and 2016
3- still getting nauseous in the evenings but not as bad. Still gagging or barfing once or twice a week. Usually after a week w/out.

I did get all clear on my tests so far and that has helped me feel confident. I ordered maternity clothes to bulk up the ones my friend loaned me.
4- he's getting more into gear with a bit of excitement. He's still anxious about other things going on that will be impacted by life with a newborn.
5- it has started to be noticeable more days than not. It is a reassuring feeling for me. Let's me keep Doppler in its box.

cwalker042 · May 2017

1. How far along are you today?
14+3

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones?
MC at 11 weeks. Baby wasmeasurung 7 weeks.

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes?
I am so fatigued all the time. I could sleep 20 hours of the day if given the opportunity. I'm still very anxious inbetween appointments wondering if everything is okay with baby.
4. How is your SO handling everything?
Still very chill and positive.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far?
I haven't felt baby move yet. A few weeks ago I felt something in there, sorta like flutters but I knew baby was too small at that point. I wish I could feel LO to help settle my mind and anxiety.

KT&John · May 2017

1. How far along are you today? 16w

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones? CP- April 2016, MMC at 8w4d measured 6w5d

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes?
I have been feeling pretty good! My energy has improved more and more over the last several weeks. The only bothersome thing at this point is some pain/stiffness in my hips that my OB says is normal. Anxiety-wise I am doing much better. At my appointment today they took blood to check for neural tube defects. These tests always cause me some stress when waiting for results but I think this is the last one so that's good.

4. How is your SO handling everything?
He has been good and gives me back massages most nights. He is struggling with back pain issues of his own and has been seeing a chiropractor. I am hopeful he will get more proactive in asking for answers as to the cause of the pain and get it resolved. I feel helpless watching him hobble along and he is needing more frequent adjustments it seems.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far?
I have felt the baby move since pretty early on and at 15 weeks I was going days without feeling anything which freaked me out. I got a Doppler and that has been so reassuring. Of course the last few days I have felt lots of activity...which I love!

misschanandlerbong15 · May 2017

1. How far along are you today? 17+6

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones? MC at 6.5 weeks in Oct 2016.

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes? Been a little down the last few days - today is my EDD from my MC so, while I had been doing better, my mind has jumped back on the crazy train for now.

Ready for my next appointment so we can see the baby again, but that isn't until June 16th.

4. How is your SO handling everything? He's great, as always.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far? I have felt the baby move a few times now, but very infrequent at this point. I would like to be able to feel it a little more frequently to help calm my crazy thoughts.

angbaby83 · May 2017

@mparm91 sending thoughts your way today. I just passed my EDD and it was tough.

misschanandlerbong15 · May 2017

thanks @angkay711 I hoping to get through this week at least and then be able to start looking forward again.. we'll see

NYTino24 · May 2017

@mparm91 @angkay711 Thinking of you and your angels!

RiverSong15 · May 2017

@mparm91 and @angkay711 Hugs for the EDDs. They're always hard

@dragonfly87-2 FX your nausea goes away soon!

@NYTino24 Yay for it being almost June. Do you have your AS scheduled yet?

AFM:

1. 16+1 today.

2. Two previous MCs at 7-10 wks.

3. Huge success was that our NIPT results came back yesterday (exactly 1 week after the blood draw). Baby screened negative for everything!!!! So that's a huge relief after the results of our first tri screening. We're still waiting on the quad screen results, but for anything other than spina bifida, the NIPT would "override" the quad results. We also found out that we're having a girl!!!! I was very surprised, but H and I were so happy to learn we'll have a daughter!

4. Fantastic. He was so incredibly happy to hear the baby is healthy, and he's so excited to have a little girl to spoil. Although he already requested "no pink!" Lol.

5. I haven't felt anything definitive. I've had a couple "popcorn" sensations before 14 weeks, and an odd muscle twitch sensation this week, but nothing I can be certain is baby. It makes me incredibly anxious to see (what seems like) everyone else on this board talking about feeling movement from 14 weeks onward. I've had to take a step back from the board and avoid the "baby movement" thread entirely. Everything online says it's normal for FTMs to not fee anything before 20 weeks, but that doesn't seem to be the case for our group. Anyway, trying really hard to just focus on the fact that we have a healthy little girl!!!

angbaby83 · May 2017

@RiverSong15 yay for great test results and for your little girl. I agree that it can be anxiety provoking when it seems like everyone is experiencing something and you aren't yet. I was feeling like that a little about not having as much of a bump. Being pregnant is full of anxiety without a loss history so PGAL adds another layer. Hoping you get to feel some definite movement soon.
Thanks guys for the thoughts. I am doing better. It helps that I have a lot of support and getting to check in here has been helpful.

misschanandlerbong15 · May 2017

Thanks ladies

@RiverSong15 I've felt a lot of things going on that I mostly can't be certain what's baby and what's just normal bodily functions. Im only pretty sure I felt the baby 3 times now, all since I hit 17 weeks, but very spaced out so sometimes I wonder if I'm just crazy lol I know it's hard but try not to worry, and just focus on your good test results!

kschref · May 2017

1. How far along are you today?
17+1

2. Share any part of your loss history you feel comfortable sharing. What are your loss milestones?
Past all 3 loss milestones!

3. How are you feeling today? Struggles? Successes?
Struggling with nausea and a migraine and cyst pain today. Cannot wait for DH to get home. Took my migraine meds and it is slowly kicking in, thank goodness.

4. How is your SO handling everything

Amazing. He actually just sent me a text saying he loves me and knows I am doing the best I can. He is good with me just sort of checking out when I need to when he gets home and lying down/going to bed early, etc.

5. GTKY: How do you feel about feeling or not feeling the baby move so far?

I really don't like this stage. I have felt a few movements since about 15 weeks, but nothing consistent - not that I would expect to at all. Just, anxiety. So I'll be glad when I get a few more weeks in though I can't remember how long it took to feel anything consistent with DD or DS.

NYTino24 · May 2017

@RiverSong15 AS is June 29! I have not felt anything consistent. Most of the time I feel pressure and not really kicks. I do get a few taps now and then, but I could count them on one hand. Still using the Doppler to make sure baby is still moving in there. And congrats on having a girl / good results!
@kschref Glad you're around again. Hope your MS goes away for good.

RiverSong15 · May 2017

Thanks @NYTino24 @angkay711 and @mparm91.

@NYTino24 You and I are AS buddies! Mine is on the 29th as well!

kalenp · June 2017

@riversong15 With my first I don't think I felt anything I recognized as baby movement until like 24 weeks! My second was quicker- around 18 weeks. This one, I've felt movement much much sooner, but I think it's because I remember what it feels like. I hope that's encouraging! Totally normal to not feel anything for awhile.

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