I feel lost as far as how to make sense of this, so I need some advice. I've been going through infertility for the past two years. I am scheduled for a surgery in a couple of months that will hopefully increase my chances, but I still am not likely to get pregnant without IVF. It's been a very difficult time.
I have a friend who has been gracious in lending an ear through my past two years of struggle. Positive, while not always able to completely understand, she has been a huge help in helping me cope.
She has just suffered a loss of her first pregnancy. After years of not knowing if she wanted kids, she got pregnant right away and is now devastated.
I'm hoping for some words of wisdom about how to separate our experiences - similar pain, but in such different ways. Do I keep her updated on my struggles as well? Or will it just scare her and remind her of her pain? How do I stop comparing our situations? I hurt for her so badly, and it's bringing up so much pain for my infertility, but I feel ashamed that maybe my pain isn't as significant as hers.
What kind of support would you want from your infertile friend as you go through a pregnancy loss? Would you feel that they understand you and can empathize, or would you not want to hear about it?