Going back to work tomorrow... I Wish I could at least work part time but I know it's life... We hired a nanny to watch Luciana at home and she started last week, she is nice but I'm freaking out, I've pretty much been with her 24/7 since she was born and she is pretty attached to me and cries a lot with her. So far she has been exclusively breastfed and I'm also worried about pumping at work since my schedule sometimes is so crazy that I don't even get a bathroom break... I know 100% she'll be fine if I give her formula but I've come to love breastfeeding her so much, (even after mastitis twice) I'm not ready to stop yet Gosh I never imagined feeling this way! I know we'll be fine, I'm just overly emotional
37 y.o TTC since October 2014 DX: Unexplained fertility 3 Failed IUI's 2015 1st IVF cycle March 2016 , planned ICSI, PGS, FET ER 3/31/16 30 retrieved, 26 fertilized normally Sent 8 embryos for PGS: 5 normal (3 AA, 1BA, 1BC) FET 5/11/16 (1 embryo) Beta 5/23/16 BFN 2nd FET 6/12/16 (1 5AA embryo) ++++TW++++ Beta 6/22/16 : BFP!!! 169 Beta #2 6/24/16: 412 DD born 3/2/17
@yelllow22 it's totally normal emotions. It's so hard to leave our babies at home after being with them 24/7 initially. It was very hard for me at first as well, thinking that my little baby is with a stranger all day long. But Aiden loves our nanny so I've come to feel much more at ease now. Just know that everything will work itself out and everything will be ok in the end. It makes coming home to our little ones so much more special. Hope your first day back is easy and goes by fast!
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***bfp & child warning*** TTC - since 2014 7 rounds of Clomid - BFN IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN IVF #1 - March 2016 Retrieval #1 - April 2016 FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017 Trying for baby #2... FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN No more embryos left; switched to a new RE IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019 IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019 FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019 Trying for baby #3... FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
Hope any of our tips make things easier @2legbaby And about the sleeping in something else than the crib...whatever works for you and LO! I know the sleeping consultant is 'against' it, but you know what works as it's your instinct. Sure you want them in their beds, and you might need some additional time to teach them a new place to sleep afterwards. But trust my, by the time they are 16 they don't want to sleep in their rocker...they'll get the hang of it
Going back to work must be tough indeed @yelllow22. Wishing you a lovely day, hope you can 'relax' a wee bit about your LO. She's in good hands.
@yelllow22 I hope your day went ok...I totally feel for you, I have another 3 weeks and I am dreading it in some ways (totally don't know what it will be like to not have her by my side) but anxious to go to work too.hugs!
******TW***** Me 39 DH44
Married 8/2/14
TTC 9/14
Dx: PCOS, blocked L fallopian tube, suspect poor egg quality
MFI (low #, poor morphology)
IVF #1 9/15 Failed
IVF #2 12/15 Failed 1st DE FET 5/16-BFN 2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP 8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
Awww @yellow22 how's it go? I've been back to work for two months and I love it! But i get to work from home twice a week which helps a lot. Otherwise if I was going in five days a week I would NEVER see Viktoria. So it's a great balance and I do enjoy going into the office. It's a nice break.
@yellow22 how was your first day at work ? it was really tough at the start but you get used to it. Pumping is hard , but you get used to the routine as well. I pump at home before I leave (while eating breakfast) so I pump only twice at work. L is 6 months old now and I sometimes pump only once if I am super busy.
I've found myself in a v weird situation. Just finished pumping and consolidating milk, turned around for a SECOND to put supplies away, when I turned back to take a look at how much I pumped (a little over 3oz, which is the most I've ever gotten!!) I noticed a fly floating in my precious milk!!!!! Wtf?! So now I'm wondering if I should dump it or not. So so so sad and angry at stupid fly lol. What do yall think?? Dump or keep??
*TW - Pregnancy mentioned* Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014 3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16 IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
1st FET 7/29/16 = BFP Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long! Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
That sucks big time @babylonghorn16! A fly carries bacteria, but our stomach juices (no idea what's it called in English..) can handle these. My LO is almost 7 months and got a pretty good immune system going. But I often go by a rule 'when in doubt, don't do it' I know it suck BIG time, as my gynaecologist said 'breastmilk is worth gold'.
Edit: a fruitfly I would pick out right away they are not that harmful, but again depends on age of your LO (sorry can't remember) and what your guts says!
Thanks, @tvh1982. He is going to be 5 weeks on Monday... So still pretty vulnerable. It wasn't a fruitfly - was a nasty housefly that must've flown in last night while we were grilling. I didn't think I could hate flies anymore than I already did. Ugh!!
*TW - Pregnancy mentioned* Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014 3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16 IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
1st FET 7/29/16 = BFP Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long! Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
@babylonghorn16 If it was a housefly, I'd definitely dump it... Breastmilk has some bacteria-fighting properties, but I just don't think I'd risk it. I'm so sorry! I know how you feel about how precious that milk is!! I spilled a couple of ounces while consolidating after pumping the other day (sleep deprivation apparently makes me clumsy...), and I almost cried!
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TTC #1 since March 2011
Dx = Unexplained IF 1 medicated TI cycle & 4 clomid IUIs = all BFNs
June 2013 IVF #1 = 6 frosties + BFP! DS1 born 2/14
TTC #2 since December 2014 May 2015 unassisted BFP ended in m/c at 7wks April 2016 FET #1 = BFN June 2016 FET #2 = c/p August 2016 FET #3 = BFP! DS2 born 4/17
@babylonghorn16 don't dump it, use it for a milk bath! I think I'd cry if I had to dump milk because it doesn't come easily and I really have to work for it.
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***bfp & child warning*** TTC - since 2014 7 rounds of Clomid - BFN IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN IVF #1 - March 2016 Retrieval #1 - April 2016 FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017 Trying for baby #2... FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN No more embryos left; switched to a new RE IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019 IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019 FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019 Trying for baby #3... FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
@babylonghorn16 agree with @tulips29, save it for something else. Milk bath, helps soar nipples, soak a paper towel in it and freeze it for when you want something cool on your chest. Also good for diaper rashes or any skin irritation you may have.
@babylonghorn16 i think keeping the milk for some skin or rash treatment might be a good idea. Breast milk helps with many things. i hate when i have to dump the expressed milk but it happens once a while, dont get too upset. How is your LO doing? did he have the tounge operation already?
Thanks yall! I ended up just tossing it. I kept thinking about that big black fly floating in it, and couldn't bring myself to use it. Sigh.
@ZoeFer Lawson is doing well! We are getting a second opinion from another doc... didn't really like the pedi dentist we went to. His cousin was diagnosed with tongue tie and didn't have op. She is just fine. We'd rather not put him through an unnecessary procedure, so we are doing plenty of research before committing one way or the other. I'll keep yall updated. Thanks for asking!
*TW - Pregnancy mentioned* Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014 3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16 IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
1st FET 7/29/16 = BFP Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long! Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
Forgot to ask... for c section mamas - when did yall get go ahead from doc to resume normal activities (working out, swimming, sex...)?? I went to ob today for 4 week follow up and she told me 2 more weeks. Seems overkill to me.
*TW - Pregnancy mentioned* Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014 3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16 IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
1st FET 7/29/16 = BFP Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long! Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
I had a 6 week thumbs up to resume all normal activities as well.
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Me: 31 DH: 27 TTC since April 2013 Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count IVF round 1: January 2016 ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648 EDD: January 27, 2017
@babylonghorn16 got the all clear at my 6 week checkup as well
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***bfp & child warning*** TTC - since 2014 7 rounds of Clomid - BFN IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN IVF #1 - March 2016 Retrieval #1 - April 2016 FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017 Trying for baby #2... FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN No more embryos left; switched to a new RE IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019 IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019 FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019 Trying for baby #3... FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
Thanks everyone for your support! I survived but I'm not going to lie, it was not easy, it was hard to concentrate plus things were kind of a mess at work so that didn't help. Dh surprised me by showing up with her and at least that made my day! Today I got out early and was so happy to be home. We have a long weekend because I'm off Monday and Tuesday so we just decided to go stay at a hotel at the beach on Monday, it will be her first mini trip and beach visit I'm excited because the beach is my favorite place so I hope she loves it too
@tulips29 You are so right about coming home, now it is the highlight of my day!
@Drove2u That's awesome! I would love to be able to work from home or part time, but I work m-t-Thur 8-5 and wed-Fr 7:30-4:30 plus about a half an hour drive, so I feel like I will never see my baby!
@ZoeFer It's good to know that you are fine even if you can only pump once a day sometimes! I need to get the hang of pumping at the office, so far it's very cumbersome. Today I forgot one of the pump parts and had to hand express... lol not very fun
@babylonghorn16 ughh stupid fly! I feel your pain, Bm is like liquid gold for me lol. I also got the ok at 6 weeks but I feel like you are right , that's being a bit extra cautious
btw the app is being super annoying so forgive any typos, I don't have patience to keep fixing them
37 y.o TTC since October 2014 DX: Unexplained fertility 3 Failed IUI's 2015 1st IVF cycle March 2016 , planned ICSI, PGS, FET ER 3/31/16 30 retrieved, 26 fertilized normally Sent 8 embryos for PGS: 5 normal (3 AA, 1BA, 1BC) FET 5/11/16 (1 embryo) Beta 5/23/16 BFN 2nd FET 6/12/16 (1 5AA embryo) ++++TW++++ Beta 6/22/16 : BFP!!! 169 Beta #2 6/24/16: 412 DD born 3/2/17
It went well @tvh1982! No crying and it was kind of nice to grab lunch at the drive thru afterwards! Dad and grandma survived as well-for baby fed andd put down before I was home!
******TW***** Me 39 DH44
Married 8/2/14
TTC 9/14
Dx: PCOS, blocked L fallopian tube, suspect poor egg quality
MFI (low #, poor morphology)
IVF #1 9/15 Failed
IVF #2 12/15 Failed 1st DE FET 5/16-BFN 2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP 8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
Glad it went well, this makes next time slightly easier to do...which means you'll relax a little. My LO is 7 months tomorrow and I still need some time to relax if I leave on my own, but it's so great once I do
@2legbaby congrats on getting through your first outing tear free!! Each outing gets alittle easier and easier. At my 6w post delivery checkup I was there over 2 hours, I started crying after I screamed at the receptionist. Not my finest moment haha.
Ha ha @ale9687! I am sure they understood and you were braver than me- I called before my 6 wk appointment and made sure it was ok to bring her. The receptionist even made sure I had a time that would avoid traffic! Thankfully my dentist's office is very prompt and I was done in 40 mins....if there had been a lot of waiting I think I would have lost my mind too!
******TW***** Me 39 DH44
Married 8/2/14
TTC 9/14
Dx: PCOS, blocked L fallopian tube, suspect poor egg quality
MFI (low #, poor morphology)
IVF #1 9/15 Failed
IVF #2 12/15 Failed 1st DE FET 5/16-BFN 2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP 8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
Re: PAIF Graduates - New Mommies - Month of May
We hired a nanny to watch Luciana at home and she started last week, she is nice but I'm freaking out, I've pretty much been with her 24/7 since she was born and she is pretty attached to me and cries a lot with her. So far she has been exclusively breastfed and I'm also worried about pumping at work since my schedule sometimes is so crazy that I don't even get a bathroom break... I know 100% she'll be fine if I give her formula but I've come to love breastfeeding her so much, (even after mastitis twice) I'm not ready to stop yet
Gosh I never imagined feeling this way! I know we'll be fine, I'm just overly emotional
TTC since October 2014
DX: Unexplained fertility
3 Failed IUI's 2015
1st IVF cycle March 2016 , planned ICSI, PGS, FET
ER 3/31/16 30 retrieved, 26 fertilized normally
Sent 8 embryos for PGS: 5 normal (3 AA, 1BA, 1BC)
FET 5/11/16 (1 embryo)
Beta 5/23/16 BFN
2nd FET 6/12/16 (1 5AA embryo)
++++TW++++
Beta 6/22/16 : BFP!!! 169
Beta #2 6/24/16: 412
DD born 3/2/17
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
And about the sleeping in something else than the crib...whatever works for you and LO! I know the sleeping consultant is 'against' it, but you know what works as it's your instinct. Sure you want them in their beds, and you might need some additional time to teach them a new place to sleep afterwards. But trust my, by the time they are 16 they don't want to sleep in their rocker...they'll get the hang of it
Going back to work must be tough indeed @yelllow22. Wishing you a lovely day, hope you can 'relax' a wee bit about your LO. She's in good hands.
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Me 39 DH44
1st DE FET 5/16-BFN
2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP
8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
I've found myself in a v weird situation. Just finished pumping and consolidating milk, turned around for a SECOND to put supplies away, when I turned back to take a look at how much I pumped (a little over 3oz, which is the most I've ever gotten!!) I noticed a fly floating in my precious milk!!!!! Wtf?! So now I'm wondering if I should dump it or not. So so so sad and angry at stupid fly lol. What do yall think?? Dump or keep??
Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014
3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16
IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long!
Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
A fly carries bacteria, but our stomach juices (no idea what's it called in English..) can handle these.
My LO is almost 7 months and got a pretty good immune system going.
But I often go by a rule 'when in doubt, don't do it'
I know it suck BIG time, as my gynaecologist said 'breastmilk is worth gold'.
Edit: a fruitfly I would pick out right away they are not that harmful, but again depends on age of your LO (sorry can't remember) and what your guts says!
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Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014
3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16
IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long!
Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
TTC #1 since March 2011
1 medicated TI cycle & 4 clomid IUIs = all BFNs
DS1 born 2/14
TTC #2 since December 2014
May 2015 unassisted BFP ended in m/c at 7wks
April 2016 FET #1 = BFN
June 2016 FET #2 = c/p
August 2016 FET #3 = BFP!
DS2 born 4/17
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
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How is your LO doing? did he have the tounge operation already?
@ZoeFer Lawson is doing well! We are getting a second opinion from another doc... didn't really like the pedi dentist we went to. His cousin was diagnosed with tongue tie and didn't have op. She is just fine. We'd rather not put him through an unnecessary procedure, so we are doing plenty of research before committing one way or the other. I'll keep yall updated. Thanks for asking!
Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014
3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16
IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long!
Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014
3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16
IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long!
Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18
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---Trigger warning---
TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017
**Trigger warning**
Age: 25 DH: 28 Together since 2011, Married May 2014 and TTC since April 2015
MFI (3% morphology)
3/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN
4/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN
6/16 IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN
8/19/16 - IVF -
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
@tulips29 You are so right about coming home, now it is the highlight of my day!
@2legbaby @ale9687 Hope your return to work is easy!
@Drove2u That's awesome! I would love to be able to work from home or part time, but I work m-t-Thur 8-5 and wed-Fr 7:30-4:30 plus about a half an hour drive, so I feel like I will never see my baby!
@ZoeFer It's good to know that you are fine even if you can only pump once a day sometimes! I need to get the hang of pumping at the office, so far it's very cumbersome. Today I forgot one of the pump parts and had to hand express... lol not very fun
@babylonghorn16 ughh stupid fly! I feel your pain, Bm is like liquid gold for me lol. I also got the ok at 6 weeks but I feel like you are right , that's being a bit extra cautious
btw the app is being super annoying so forgive any typos, I don't have patience to keep fixing them
TTC since October 2014
DX: Unexplained fertility
3 Failed IUI's 2015
1st IVF cycle March 2016 , planned ICSI, PGS, FET
ER 3/31/16 30 retrieved, 26 fertilized normally
Sent 8 embryos for PGS: 5 normal (3 AA, 1BA, 1BC)
FET 5/11/16 (1 embryo)
Beta 5/23/16 BFN
2nd FET 6/12/16 (1 5AA embryo)
++++TW++++
Beta 6/22/16 : BFP!!! 169
Beta #2 6/24/16: 412
DD born 3/2/17
Me 39 DH44
1st DE FET 5/16-BFN
2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP
8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
Hope it that bad to be away and you could relax a little.
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Me 39 DH44
1st DE FET 5/16-BFN
2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP
8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
My LO is 7 months tomorrow and I still need some time to relax if I leave on my own, but it's so great once I do
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Me 39 DH44
1st DE FET 5/16-BFN
2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP
8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17