Anyone else just winging it?

rainafire77 · May 2017

I've kinda been in self imposed exile lately so hey again!

So some of you know my story. Had a MMC August 2016 at 9w. Got pregnant again in December & found no heatbeat in Feb 2017. Genetic tests show it was Trisomy 13. My husband and I decided that we were going to try one more time and whatever happened was what was meant to be. The thing is, I don't want to be obsessively on FF or temping or doing OPKs or any of what I was doing the last two times because all it did was get my hopes up. It's bad enough that if I do have a successful pregnancy that I won't ever enjoy it until said baby is born and bawling it's eyes out. I just don't want to do the whole TTC bit again and have all that stress every single month. (Are we timing the sexy time right again, is that a positive OPK, is that implantation cramping or just that time, etc etc)

I know we're all TTC but how many of you are just "winging it" without the tests and charting? For me, it just feels like trying is jinxed because when we were trying so hard, we lost out. Maybe if it's a "surprise" this time it will be better? Maybe I'm too superstitious and silly about this.

vlagrl29 · May 2017

For real I am! I feel the same way. Actually my OB told me to stop tracking. When I got pregnant with our CP I wasn't trying anything and we were just having fun. After that loss I made a promise to myself to not get into that part of it again. Let me tell you the stress is gone once you let go of all that stuff. I know by body really well at this point. I'm like clockwork with CM and if I notice the water/EW CM I make sure we get to it!

I've been working on letting go since the CP - it's been a process but my main focus is on the things that really matter in my life and I even set new goals for myself and family and they are all things that make me happy.

In fact if I find myself getting back into that mind frame of "am I trying to hard" I feel I'm jinxing the month with a bfn. We had great timing again this month and I'm already feeling I'm counting myself out lol.

ladipale · May 2017

Yep! Me! Not charting or peeing on sticks, but I also know my body and have been fairly regular for many years... And I am in the same boat as you - we've had two losses (12 weeks and 16 weeks) in Feb 2016 and Jan 2017. Sucks. And I feel like I can do a first trimester ONE.MORE.TIME and then be done so its a LOT of pressure.

We also have sex regularly so that is never part of the problem. Skipping two days is rare in this house (long story - it has NOT always been like this)

justsuzie · May 2017

I can't wing it. I tried and it amped up my anxiety. I am a control freak. Super jealous of you ladies.

vlagrl29 · May 2017

It's ok @justsuzie - whatever keeps your stress at bay.

MooFish2364 · May 2017

Totally wining it. I know when I ovulate so we just try to have sex EOD during my fertile week. I gave up on everything else a few months after my loss. I just wanted to make sure my o date didn't change or anything.

GhanimaAtreides · May 2017

I tried hard core for two years straight. It was taking me longer to get pregnant and the pregnancies were getting shorter and shorter before losing them.

Then I was supposed to avoid during RPL testing. We had ONE OOPS. One. This after it taking 5-6 MONTHS of daily if not twice daily timing with no +hpt... o_O

That one made it further than the previous two, and would've probably kept chugging along had it not been 3mm too close to my tube.

I chalk up the near-success with being more relaxed at conception time and finally trying progesterone despite lukewarm feelings about it from multiple docs.

So yes, I temp, but I'm only plugging in the numbers on FF and not pulling up the chart on the app. I'm sure when my temp shoots up half a degree I'll notice, but by then it's too late to stress.

vlagrl29 · May 2017

Daily sex? That's exhausting! I chalk up my CP to not tracking. Only BD when noticing fertile CM. I said a big F U to TTC. I'm so against anything that makes it work.

captainfoxtrot · May 2017

I will mostly wing it, like I did before - meaning I'll do OPKs so I know when to inseminate, but beyond that I won't be doing any temping or anything like that. I have a donor, so I do have to be on the ball with the actual donations.

dpjennifer · May 2017

I can't totally wing it as I have abnormal cycles, so I like the temping. But, since i've been benched, I'm more lax about it. So I'll skip days in the first week or so of my cycle and then temp closer to ovulation and onward. But I had cycles as long as 59 days with negative PG tests and no AF in sight back when I didn't temp, so temping keeps me sane!

Of course, I may be in the oops boat with @GhanimaAtreides since DH and I BD last night and didn't pull out... and well, my chart is a bit messed up right now so since unsure if I ovulated yet or not. *sigh*

GhanimaAtreides · May 2017

@dpjennifer I was sick to my stomach over making that call (once I got the +hpt, no sense in calling over just the oops unless it did something)... they were completely cool about it though! They're like, "Ok, so we'll cancel your SIS for the 9th and have you come in for betas, is tomorrow ok?" I was all prepared to get scolded or something

dpjennifer · May 2017

@GhanimaAtreides Oh good cause getting yelled at by my RE is not what I need right now. I told DH it's not a crisis anyway... we have done all the tests they can think of (except progesterone, which again, still working on losing the 20+ lbs. first). We had antibiotics for the ureaplasma. And at this point... we'd have to wait the 14 days to see if we were PG, and should know within a few weeks after that if it would be viable or not. Not much else we can do... so whatevs.

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