Very hurtful comments

magsbaby4 · May 2017

OK so I had a post up with my scan picture asking to ramzi it not realising that you don't do this. I only realised after the first comment saying that they don't do this here. Fair enough I thought. Until I just looked at the rest of the comments. Some women on here think they are funny and said stupid comments like 50/50 its a boy, or its a boy or girl. But the one comment that was pretty ignorant and damn right hurtful was one saying its looks like a troll, yes its a troll and had a gif of a train full of trolls. I did not find this funny but very hurtful. I thought this was a site that you could talk to other pregnant women but clearly its not. Hurt and upset is all I feel right not.

kissthesky32 · May 2017

Calm down. Trolls are cute. And, honestly, all ultrasounds at this gestational age look the same - so even if someone said it looked like a rabid badger, they're baby looks like one too.

This board is full of wonderful, compassionate, funny women. If you can grow a bit of a thicker skin, you should stick around. It's a great community.

BayCamp · May 2017

I mean, my pregnancy app a few weeks ago said baby was the size of a troll doll that week so it's not that far off. But seriously, if you read the post that says "start here, guidelines" it kind of discourages posts like that.

That being said, my first post in my previous BMB went about that well. I didn't lurk first, didn't intro, made a post totally about my specific situation, got flamed hardcore. But I stuck around and got to know the ladies and formed some great friendships. We've got a great group of women here, feel free to stick around.

am+mommy · May 2017

I think ultrasound babies look like aliens. Cute as a button when they come out but definitely strange looking on ultrasounds. I think that the women on here are all great and supportive and I've never seen anything outright hurtful unlike other bump month boards.

ugoglencoco · May 2017

To be honest, the ultrasounds I got of both of my first 2 kids looked like skeletor. It was sort of terrifying. Thanks to technology, they can make them look cute like trolls now.

KMRR86 · May 2017

Calm it down and lighten up a little. Lurk a little, Intro, join us. We're building a supportive community here and coming in posts-a-blazing without at least reading the "start here" never goes well. However, a bmb can be a great place for info and support during a time where we're all going through a lot of change. We'd love to have you join us. Those of us who have been in these forums for years, sometimes make jokes. They're not personal.

DuchessOfCambridge · May 2017

Not even trying to be snarky, but you're pretty lucky ours was the board you posted on. We are particularly nice, in my opinion. There will be a little flame here and there but overall NOTHING like you see on other BMBs/boards here. You would have been roasted. Sometimes I am sad we are so nice. Until I say something flameworthy and the ladies here don't kick my butt even if I deserve it

My point: this is a great group of ladies, it'd be nice if you would apologize for insulting everyone just because you neglected to read the rules. Then, you should intro and you will be welcomed with open arms. Or whatever the internet equivalent is of that. November is the best.

SweetMelissa4 · May 2017

Also, I'm pretty sure the troll poster might have though you were stirring up shit for fun (aka a troll) and that's why the troll train. Just another perspective. Not personal, just if you haven't posted here before and we don't know you, asking for something that isn't really done actually puts us on the defensive a little bit. We're a mostly drama-less board and here you've gone and created TWO threads of drama....so read and lurk a bit and if you decide you want to stay, intro (in the intro thread) and start contributing. Good luck!

MaximumEffort · May 2017

At 7:40 you said you were deleting your account and 11 minutes later we have this. This is the most tame bump board, have a look around. Also, you posted an intro on the 15th of May and nothing until you AW post to ramzi you. We have an ultrasound board and we don't ramzi. I'm pretty sure we have a thread going about old wives tale gender prediction.

NYTino24 · May 2017

magsbaby4 said:

OK so I had a post up with my scan picture asking to ramzi it not realising that you don't do this. I only realised after the first comment saying that they don't do this here. Fair enough I thought. Until I just looked at the rest of the comments. Some women on here think they are funny and said stupid comments like 50/50 its a boy, or its a boy or girl. But the one comment that was pretty ignorant and damn right hurtful was one saying its looks like a troll, yes its a troll and had a gif of a train full of trolls. I did not find this funny but very hurtful. I thought this was a site that you could talk to other pregnant women but clearly its not. Hurt and upset is all I feel right not.

Actually, those comments were 100% accurate and not stupid. Maybe get to know other women and offer some support before you barge in expecting attention (specifically for things we can't tell you).

NYTino24 · May 2017

One more thing @magsbaby4... you are in violation of the Bump Terms of Use and can get a warning. They closed your last thread with this statement:

This thread has been closed to new posts due to the change in topic. Continuing to create threads related to this topic will be grounds for warning and/or removal from The Bump Community.

Please note that we remove posts that do not follow our guidelines and will issue warnings to users who violate the Terms of Use.

To review our Community guidelines, please visit The Bump Guidelines pinned at the top of this board. Thank you.

RiverSong15 · May 2017

I'm just confused how it's hurtful to point out facts? Also, I've told people we're hoping for a velociraptor when they ask what we think the baby is... so that type of stuff is just my sense of humor. Honestly, my ultrasounds have looked like a blob, a kidney bean, a teddy bear, or an alien depending on how far along I was. People were just having a bit of fun and it wasn't intended to be mean. Stick around, lurk more, get to know folks a bit and you'll see that this is an incredibly supportive board.

bcashaw · May 2017

Another thing about this group of women is that we are all very cautious and are all careful about keeping our identities to ourselves. We are pre protecting our unborn babies so if you're not around and being supportive and joining in other discussions we are going to assume you're a troll oflr a catfish and we are going to do what we do best and protect ourselves. Try and ND gain, you're more than welcome just maybe re read our rules because we do take them seriously. (Probably the only thing we take seriously around here lol)

Ladybentspoon · May 2017

@SweetMelissa4 that's exactly what I meant

And not to stir the pot even more, but I don't think our comments were any stupider (to use OP's phrase) than asking a bunch of strangers to identify your child's sex based off a grainy ultrasound and old wives' tale logic. Stay, don't stay. But grow thicker skin and a sense of humor. You'll need it as a mom.

lala123321567789 · May 2017

I'd like to chime in and just agree with the women who have said that post would have really been badly flamed in any other BMB. This is SO true. I've been in another BMB and this one is SO MUCH MORE CHILL. All these ladies are genuinly helpful and nice, but we do get people trolling and when you had only posted twice and then had that thread it was a bit confusing, especially as we have a whole thread for US. No one was trying to be mean, if you stick around and get to know us you will see this is a very supportive group.

ElizabethSchuyler · May 2017

I'm shocked you came back.

bcashaw · May 2017

@ElizabethSchuyler I don't think she did. She wrote this thread and she's been online since but hasn't responded to any of her responses ?

KLink15 · May 2017

Oye ve! I tell everyone who asks what we are hoping for that I want a dinosaur. Sorry lady but like the other gals have said, read the guidelines. I love this group of ladies, I have gained so much sanity as a FTM. Sometimes there is snark, we are all hormonal but it def could have been worse mama.

TallMomma29 · May 2017

This board is definitely the nicest BMB I've ever seen, so if OP thinks the ladies here said hurtful things....I'd like to know what kind of La La Fantasy Land she is living in where nobody ever makes a joke (or in the case of boy/girl comments... speaks the truth).

mariposa_767s · May 2017

Ok...I just read that thread and I didn't see anything hurtful. If you knew the tone of the BMB than you wouldn't have been so offended. No one was being mean. No one called you dumb, stupid, ignorant, or anything of the sort. There were jokes, lighthearted jokes. We have been on this board for a bit already and a "culture" has been developed. We joke and the smart assery is strong. We are not mean and we generally aren't insensitive. We can be direct and to the point, but I don't think many here are mean and intentionally hurtful. As moms, we can't take everything too seriously. There are way bigger things to worry about.

JDW0325 · May 2017

I echo what all the other ladies have said.

GBCB posts are always entertaining though.

Airynn Chica · May 2017

I actually just used the line "I'm 50% sure it's a boy" yesterday when someone asked me if I knew if I was having a boy or girl. It was funny.

kissthesky32 · May 2017

I wish there were more of them, @JDW0325. Though the truly glorious ones usually come from a long time regular who loses her shit. So we have that to look forward to.

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