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Toddlers: 24 Months+
Give up on potty training?
DD just isn't getting it. She'll be 2 at the end of the month and we've been working at it for about 4 months now. We started slowly, just going to sit on the potty when she was doing #2 because it was easy enough to tell when she was starting to go. About 8 weeks ago, we started going before bed, before leaving the house, and in the morning right when she woke up. Now for the last few weeks, we've been trying to sit on the potty every 90 min to 2 hours. It's exhausting, and she never tells me when she has to pee or if she's wet (even if I ask every 30 minutes). She's in cloth diapers, so I'm pretty sure she can feel the wetness.
Anyway, just trying to keep this all straight is exhausting me. ("If she went when she first woke up at 7:15 and it's now 8:50, should I have her sit and see if she goes, or wait a little to see if she'll tell me?" Then "Oh crap, it's 9:15, I bet she already went in her diaper.") When she goes on the potty, we get all excited and hug her and she runs to tell daddy and it's always a huge deal- EVERY TIME. We don't punish her for going in the diaper, just talk about how she should go on the potty, how if she stays dry and tells me she has to go on the potty she can wear big-girl underwear, etc. She just has no interest in initiating it herself unless it's #2. So, we're still using just as many diapers, and I have the added hassle of running her to the bathroom every so often to try to get her to go before she goes in her diaper.
I'm ready to give up for now and try again in summer (baby 2 is due in April, so I think she'll need some time to adjust to that before I start trying again). What do you think?
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Re: Give up on potty training?
Sounds like she's not ready. We waited until recently. I tried this summer and my twins were ok until they had an accident and they told me they wanted back in diapers. My twins are 3 years and 5 months and Matthew is now in underwear. I told him last week that he was no longer a baby and he needed to wear diapers. I tried teh same thing with Jonathan and he isn't ready. He was still having accidents. I'd wait until you have your second. Most children when they are young regress in some sort of way. My twins started wanting to drink from bottles and use pacis when we had our youngest. They were not quite 2 when he was born.
They say when they are ready it will take only a few days for it to click. I truely believe this as when I told my twins this last week, Matthew had 1 pee and 1 poop accident that day and none since.
I am sorry that you put in this much work and have to stop. That has to be frustrating.
We decided to start Potty training this summer when DS is 2 1/2. We have a big trip coming up and stuff. We think it would be easier when he understands it better. Currently there is a potty in the bathroom he knows what it is. We talk alot about the stinkies which is hte only thing he realizes he has to do. You did such a great job. I only hope when I start I am as patient as you. (I think you are making a good choice too)
2 is young for PT in my opinion (I know there are others who claim it can eb done at a year). If there is resistance, don't push it. Take a break and revisit. Or, just follow her lead. If she starts showing interest again between now and summer, start then.
GL!
Mom to Skylar Kayla and Beck Dylan