Newborn + 18 months old - sleeping issues

pscohen86 · May 2017

Hi all, this is my first time creating a discussion topic, but I feel already desperate and overwhelmed and need some input from you guys. I have an 18 months old-Sophia, which has sleep through the night since she was just 4 weeks (this happened on its own) we always had to rock her to sleep but once she was out she was out till the following morning with the exception of a teething problem or a cold. We just had baby Lucia arrived a week ago and ever since 2 week before Lucia was born, my oldest started waking up at night and crying. We did some sleep training when she was about 9 months and she learned to go to sleep on her own in her own room, now (since 3 weeks ago) she starts crying when we are just waking towards her room at bed time, we have to put her already asleep and she wakes up 3 to 4 times crying. Has anyone had this problem? Do you think is related to the new baby? She started doing this before the little one was born. What are your suggestions? Do I do the cry it out method again? She sleeps in a little toddler bed so she is able to get out of it and stands by the door crying her eyes out. Please help!

redheeler · May 2017

No help, sorry, sounds like she's hit the 18 months sleep regression at an awful time. All I can do is offer sympathy and hope it passes quickly

pscohen86 · May 2017

Thanks

pshaortao · May 2017

18 month sleep regression is normal. Just be persistent and ride it out. Make a plan with your SO/DH and try not to show frustration toward the 18mo.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · May 2017

@pscohen86 Hi. Who are you? We are a great group of ladies who love to provide advice, but we generally don't fancy serving as a personal Google service. If you'd like to stay around and join our support community, please intro yourself and get to know us first. We're currently busy having babies and enjoying the community we've built over the last nine months.

pscohen86 · May 2017

You are coming across a little mean @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot. I was just looking for advise. See if someone that just had a baby like me ( a week ago) has also an 18 months going through the same

WombThereItIs · May 2017

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But seriously, the 18 month sleep regression is normal. I still keep my 2.5 year old in a crib so I'm no help there but I would suggest consistency is key no matter what you choose to do. CIO worked for my son but I didn't have a baby at the same time so take that with a grain of salt.

Good luck.

Jens_Hoes · May 2017

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NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · May 2017

pscohen86 said:

You are coming across a little mean @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot. I was just looking for advise. See if someone that just had a baby like me ( a week ago) has also an 18 months going through the same

QFP. The word you are looking for is "snarky."

You coming in to this board to ask for advice is the equivalent of you walking up to a random group of strangers and asking for advice without ever introducing yourself. It'd be weird in real life and it's weird here. You'll find this sentiment across the bump.

BeachMommy2B · May 2017

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said:

pscohen86 said:

You are coming across a little mean @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot. I was just looking for advise. See if someone that just had a baby like me ( a week ago) has also an 18 months going through the same

QFP. The word you are looking for is "snarky."

You coming in to this board to ask for advice is the equivalent of you walking up to a random group of strangers and asking for advice without ever introducing yourself. It'd be weird in real life and it's weird here. You'll find this sentiment across the bump.

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot was actually pretty nice with her response. If you would have randomly posted on some of the other boards they would have been 1000 times worse and you probably would have gotten ganged up on... just sayin, we love new people but we don't like being treated as google (which you would have found the 18 month sleep regression if you would have searched there first...)

pscohen86 · May 2017

First of all I didn't know I needed to introduce myself here... it was my first time ever posting to an online board. Second, if I had know this was sleep regression I would have google it first ( which I already did and have a better idea of the issue )

pscohen86 · May 2017

So now that this out of the way... my name is Patricia, i am from Cuba, live in Miami FL since 2007. Have two girls Sophia (18 months) and Lucia (9 days, born 5/9/17 7lb 2oz at 38w3d)

Jillyjersey · May 2017

Hi I'm Jill I live in NJ, I have a newborn and 22 month old . Technically I should be in the April 2017 mom's, but literally everyone has jumped ship. Everyone. So I was hoping I could hang in the May 2017 group for some support and advice. @pscohen86 the struggle is real. My toddler was up more than the newborn the first few nights . Their little worlds are getting rocked with a new baby. They may like the baby, but still it's all different for them and us. Patience and extra love is what we did. My toddler loved when the newborn was part of the goodnight routine, we'd bring the baby in and tell the toddler that baby was going to bed too.
For all the moms who are up at night with newborns, oh it is hard to go on little sleep. I feel you! Coffee is the best ! This may sound kind of simple but swaddling has been very helpful at night too. Those Aden and Anise muslin blankets are perfect for summer .

kns1988 · May 2017

Welcome, @Jillyjersey. Swaddling helps our little guy a lot, too, but we're still up all the time for feedings. Someone posted this article the other day, which I thought was good: https://m.kidsvt.com/vermont/bringing-home-another-baby-six-months-in-a-mom-reflects-on-double-duty-parenting/Content?oid=2281259

SKZW · May 2017

@kns1988: That's a great article, thanks for reposting.

erinh2005 · May 2017

@kns1988 don't know the last time I cried that hard! Needs warning lol.

pscohen86 · May 2017

Hi @Jillyjersey and welcome! Thank you for sharing your experience. It has gotten a little better here, she only getting up twice, (about 4 time right when we had just come back from the hospital) baby is only 10 days... we have managed to have her lay down in her bed and fall asleep with my mom sitting by her side. But I'm so nervous to take upon the role again ( c section, still a little uncomfortable to kneel on the floor next to her bed) at lest she doesn't seen jealous to me of the new baby but seem way to excited all the time. It's testing us in so many ways, the struggle is real! But I'm hanging in here, some days are better than others, I exclusively pump for baby so there is one more thing to add to my hormones

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