Also, we will soon start hitting 24 weeks, so do we want to have a V-day gif party?
V-day means viability day, at 24 weeks baby is considered viable and has a reasonable chance of survival if born early at 24 weeks. I've seen them on a few other boards, just curious if we want to do one!
@wyomama0427 I think maybe once the last person in the board/spreadsheet hits 24 weeks we could celebrate it.
My random is has anyone tried those meal delivery boxes like hello fresh or blue apron? I got a couple coupons in my motherhood orders, and I'm wondering if I want to do it after the baby is born to avoid grocery shopping for the first couple weeks.
@Ae_Lovely321 I have never used one of those services myself, but I've helped a friend prepare a couple of Blue Apron meals that she ordered. My main complaint is that they use excessive packaging. Every little thing comes in its own plastic package and the amount of waste really bothers me. Not sure if any of the other companies are better about that because I've only seen Blue Apron. I also think it's likely much more cost effective to just buy groceries and prepare simple meals. My husband and I are planning to make a few meals in bulk to put in the freezer a couple of months before the baby comes so we know we'll have the option to not cook when we need it.
@Ae_Lovely321 they look fun but I haven't tried them. Might be worth a shot? I am opting to make a bunch of freezer meals about a month ahead of time for minimal cooking effort haha
My random: work had Mother's Day brunch leftovers for lunch today so I had an oatmeal raisin cookie, a slice of lemon meringue pie, and a mini tiramisu. I've never been happier lol
@Ae_Lovely321: my friend uses Blue Apron regularly and sent us an invite to try a week for free when they first came out. I thought the meals were fantastic. One of the recipes has become a regular meal in our house. However, my problem with the service is they only provide you with enough food for just that meal. Hubby and I usually eat leftovers for lunch, so we thought this was too expensive for what you get. So now I just go to their website, browse their recipes, and buy the stuff myself.
@MrsJessS@Rhubarb7216 I wish we could make a bunch of freezer meals but our UK spec freezer is tiny. I barely got our 12lb turkey in it for thanksgiving. What would be a go to meal though you so suggest since I can probably fit like 3 of them.
@Ae_Lovely321 You can do crock pot meals. They take up less space in the freezer and are easy meals to make in advance. Just throw your ingredients in a freezer bag and then dump it in the crock pot when you are ready to eat it.
@Ae_Lovely321 that is definitely tough with a small freezer! If you are able to do a small amount, some of my go-tos for the freezer are chili, soups/stews, and red sauce with meatballs.
I would prefer to wait on a viability day, but mostly because I'm later in the month and will totally feel left out. But, I don't really go in for the GIF parties anyway, so you don't really need to consider me.
I had tons of people ask me today when I'm due... followed by "oh.. pregnant during the hot sticky summer. There is nothing worse! It is not fun! You will hate it! " and I'm like.... ??? Why would you say that? I responded with "pools, sundresses and flip flops ".. because that's better than boots and a winter coat over the belly. But.... seriously. Maybe being 9 months pregnant just sucks and is uncomfortable.
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@Ae_Lovely321 H and I enjoyed Hello Fresh. Their meals are very generous portions and are worth keeping the recipes. Number of ingredients aren't excessive and you don't have to be an amazing cook. My favorite bit is they accommodate some special diets and subbing ingredients is really easy.
We are hitting record highs in Iowa this week ladies. We are in the 90's already. I know there are lots of you down south who are already going through this. But damn a spring would have been nice! We like to wait a little longer to turn the air on but since I was melting we turned it on last night.
I had tons of people ask me today when I'm due... followed by "oh.. pregnant during the hot sticky summer. There is nothing worse! It is not fun! You will hate it! " and I'm like.... ??? Why would you say that? I responded with "pools, sundresses and flip flops ".. because that's better than boots and a winter coat over the belly. But.... seriously. Maybe being 9 months pregnant just sucks and is uncomfortable.
ahhhhh I have been getting this a lot lately so annoying like I know its hot in the summer
@bnmort8 that decision was easy for me but every woman is so different. There will never be anyone but my husband and medical staff in with me. I don't need a show. And I do not even like texting my mom let alone have her near me while giving birth. This is #3 for us and I'm not switching things up now. Lol But if you and your husband feel he will not be enough then maybe ask. I labored with our son by myself and the nurse with no medication while having pitocin contractions. She called him and said hey get here now because your son is coming. Thank goodness he was outside because in about 7 minutes he had our son in his arms. Lol I guess the moral of that was you do you mama. Don't stress over something that doesn't need to be stressed about. Think about your feelings and your husband's.
@bnmort8 that decision was easy for me but every woman is so different. There will never be anyone but my husband and medical staff in with me. I don't need a show. And I do not even like texting my mom let alone have her near me while giving birth. This is #3 for us and I'm not switching things up now. Lol But if you and your husband feel he will not be enough then maybe ask. I labored with our son by myself and the nurse with no medication while having pitocin contractions. She called him and said hey get here now because your son is coming. Thank goodness he was outside because in about 7 minutes he had our son in his arms. Lol I guess the moral of that was you do you mama. Don't stress over something that doesn't need to be stressed about. Think about your feelings and your husband's.
Thank you!! I am more leaning toward just me and my husband I would love for us to enjoy that moment together without anyone interrupting us. Some people asked who would take a picture of those moments really I don't care it would be nice to have for future but I think in the moment I wouldn't want someone worrying us about a picture. Still have time to decide I guess lol
@bnmort8 have you done a tour at your hospital yet? If pictures are important a nurse may help after things calm down and you are recovering but again I may be out of the norm here but I have never taken pictures right after birth...my husband took some while they were weighing and such but I sure as hell was not in any! Haha
@tfrangul We have a tour in July. That's a good idea I am sure if it came down to it a nurse could take a pic. I don't see me wanting a pic right after birth tho lol I feel we will be caught up in the moment and not worried about phones or pics.
@bridge-and-wall that's what I am worried about. I am not going want anyone other then my doc, nurse, or husband to tell me what to do or what I should be doing. My mom can be over emotional sometimes like at my wedding she cried like a baby loudly lol
@bnmort8 Ask yourself what they will bring to your experience. If they will be supportive and helpful and you think it would make it easier on YOU to have them there, then sure. If they will be distracting and stressful then no way. Don't feel like you have to have them there. If you invite them in, also don't feel like you have to keep them there if they are taking away from things.
If you think you'll want an extra support person but don't want it to be your mom or MIL, you can look into doulas!
@bnmort8 I would also think about what happens after baby is born. That first hour is really important for skin-to-skin and trying to breastfeed. You'll want to be able to focus and not worry about other people wanting to hold baby and all that stuff. If you have them in, set clear boundaries about when they have to give you alone time.
@jena333-2 where you at girl? Your Jesus cookies are ON POINT!! Just made a batch and I'm having a hard time not eating them all. Thanks mama!!
YASSSS! I'm so glad you like them.
I'm also struggling with deciding who to have in the room. DH obviously, but I've chatted with my bestie about being there too. I'm torn between not wanting people bugging me (not that she a bother in any way, but it's one more thing for me to worry about), BUT I would love pictures of those first few moments. That moment when I first see my son, the expectation on DH's face, etc. I feel like those moments are so fleeting and so precious.
I think I've decided it'll just be me and DH. My mom hasn't asked about it yet. I think she'll be disappointed, but I want to be as relaxed as possible, and the thought of having her or MIL there stresses me out.
In other news, our McDonalds now have Minute Made slushies! Can't wait to try!
It's about you and your comfort level and stress level. This is the one time in the first few weeks there won't be handfuls of people with cameras in baby's face and people wanting to hold the baby and make conversation with you. I, personally, protect that time. It's for DH and I to go through together and have that first hour to comfortably meet our child- skin to skin, breastfeed, etc. I 100% agree with a comment above- how will they support YOU? If there are people who will be awesome getting you through labour, let them in if you want. If any tiny ounce of them doesn't- don't let them in. Birth is too all-consuming to deal with pettiness or emotions of other people. Also, they may not want to see that either- My mom asked to see my during early labour, if I was willing to hug me and pray, but she specifically told me she didn't want to watch her baby in pain because she couldn't handle that. She was relieved I wasn't counting on having her in the room. Lol. My MIL stresses me out on the norm, and I'm definitely not comfortable with that kind of intimacy with her. She was a hard "no". We had a doula that took pictures for us and that was nice, but no pictures wouldn't have been a bigger factor over my comfort level if I had to choose.
<><><><><>DD1- May 2011<><><><><> <><><><><>Angel Baby- June 2012<><><><><> <><><><><>DD2- March 2013<><><><><> <><><><><>DS1- ETA September 2017<><><><><>
Prayers for a dear friend please!! She's having her IVF transfer this morning! She lost her sweet baby boy at 24 weeks last August. Pray for her rainbow baby!!! Thank you!
My thoughts on the delivery room. I had always said I only wanted DH in the room with me. Then when my water broke, my mom was down visiting, so she ended up coming along. It actually ended up working nicely. My labor ended in a tough decision between vacuum and C-section and she was there to help talk through it. DH doesn't have a lot of medical background so he didn't have a lot of knowledge to add. After DD was born, and they cleaned her and checked her out, they gave her back to me. My mom was there for maybe another two minutes. Then she left and DH and I had some really special bonding time. I couldn't have asked for anything better. If she wants to be there this time, I am going to ask her to do the same thing. She got to be there for the important time, and then she left so DH and I could bond. Really very special.
Guys, am I crazy? Is there no weekly ticker thread this week?
I don't want anyone but DH there. I have an extremely strained relationship with my mother. I was raised by my dad who is fantastic. My mother has some serious mental and physical health problems. I answered her call yesterday... I usually will email exclusively. She announced she's coming to visit when I'm have the baby. I told her not only no but hell no. She insists she needs to be in the room to take care of me. I literally have not seen her in ten years. I've seen her three times since I was 11. Definitely a stress I don't want to deal with. My dad and In-laws will come visit but both accept that we want some time before they all show up. I'd actually be fine with my dad being in town but he lives across the country currently and so he's planning a trip for a couple weeks after my due date so he's not too early to meet his grandson.
Spoke to hubby last night and he is saying hard no on either mothers being in the room he wants it just to be us, unless I want differently of course. Thank you all for your advice it really helped me and hubby make a decision we both read all the comments and made it easy to make this decision.
I got an invite to a bridal shower. I went to look up the registry and it says they have everything they need but would appreciate gift cards to stores A, B, and C or contributions to their honeyfund (yuck). Maybe I'm old fashioned, but isn't the whole point of a shower is to shower the bride with fun gifts for married life? I don't want to sit and watch her open a bunch of gift cards or receipts from the honeyfund. "so and so paid for our brunch!" "no they didn't, you're getting cash which the site took 5% of!"
I got an invite to a bridal shower. I went to look up the registry and it says they have everything they need but would appreciate gift cards to stores A, B, and C or contributions to their honeyfund (yuck). Maybe I'm old fashioned, but isn't the whole point of a shower is to shower the bride with fun gifts for married life? I don't want to sit and watch her open a bunch of gift cards or receipts from the honeyfund. "so and so paid for our brunch!" "no they didn't, you're getting cash which the site took 5% of!"
Ewwwwwwwwwww. I would decline that invitation. And not send anything.
@MyNamesTaken I never really liked the idea of a honeyfund, probably because it reminds me of a gofundme. No, I don't want to buy a new iPhone for you. Be an adult, live within your means, and pay for things yourself.
ETA: I'm not saying you as in you, but you as in the people who make frivolous fundraiser pages.
wyomama0427
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Re: Weekly Randoms- 5/15
V-day means viability day, at 24 weeks baby is considered viable and has a reasonable chance of survival if born early at 24 weeks. I've seen them on a few other boards, just curious if we want to do one!
My random is has anyone tried those meal delivery boxes like hello fresh or blue apron? I got a couple coupons in my motherhood orders, and I'm wondering if I want to do it after the baby is born to avoid grocery shopping for the first couple weeks.
My random: work had Mother's Day brunch leftovers for lunch today so I had an oatmeal raisin cookie, a slice of lemon meringue pie, and a mini tiramisu. I've never been happier lol
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
*mini party for self*
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
21 weeks FTM and trying to figure out should delivery just be me and hubby or should I have mom in room or should I also include mother-in-law.. HELP!
ahhhhh I have been getting this a lot lately so annoying like I know its hot in the summer
But if you and your husband feel he will not be enough then maybe ask. I labored with our son by myself and the nurse with no medication while having pitocin contractions. She called him and said hey get here now because your son is coming. Thank goodness he was outside because in about 7 minutes he had our son in his arms. Lol I guess the moral of that was you do you mama. Don't stress over something that doesn't need to be stressed about. Think about your feelings and your husband's.
Thank you!! I am more leaning toward just me and my husband I would love for us to enjoy that moment together without anyone interrupting us. Some people asked who would take a picture of those moments really I don't care it would be nice to have for future but I think in the moment I wouldn't want someone worrying us about a picture. Still have time to decide I guess lol
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
If you think you'll want an extra support person but don't want it to be your mom or MIL, you can look into doulas!
I'm also struggling with deciding who to have in the room. DH obviously, but I've chatted with my bestie about being there too. I'm torn between not wanting people bugging me (not that she a bother in any way, but it's one more thing for me to worry about), BUT I would love pictures of those first few moments. That moment when I first see my son, the expectation on DH's face, etc. I feel like those moments are so fleeting and so precious.
In other news, our McDonalds now have Minute Made slushies! Can't wait to try!
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
It's about you and your comfort level and stress level. This is the one time in the first few weeks there won't be handfuls of people with cameras in baby's face and people wanting to hold the baby and make conversation with you. I, personally, protect that time. It's for DH and I to go through together and have that first hour to comfortably meet our child- skin to skin, breastfeed, etc. I 100% agree with a comment above- how will they support YOU? If there are people who will be awesome getting you through labour, let them in if you want. If any tiny ounce of them doesn't- don't let them in. Birth is too all-consuming to deal with pettiness or emotions of other people. Also, they may not want to see that either- My mom asked to see my during early labour, if I was willing to hug me and pray, but she specifically told me she didn't want to watch her baby in pain because she couldn't handle that. She was relieved I wasn't counting on having her in the room. Lol. My MIL stresses me out on the norm, and I'm definitely not comfortable with that kind of intimacy with her. She was a hard "no". We had a doula that took pictures for us and that was nice, but no pictures wouldn't have been a bigger factor over my comfort level if I had to choose.
<><><><><>Angel Baby- June 2012<><><><><>
<><><><><>DD2- March 2013<><><><><>
<><><><><>DS1- ETA September 2017<><><><><>
Prayers for a dear friend please!! She's having her IVF transfer this morning! She lost her sweet baby boy at 24 weeks last August. Pray for her rainbow baby!!! Thank you!
I don't want anyone but DH there. I have an extremely strained relationship with my mother. I was raised by my dad who is fantastic. My mother has some serious mental and physical health problems. I answered her call yesterday... I usually will email exclusively. She announced she's coming to visit when I'm have the baby. I told her not only no but hell no. She insists she needs to be in the room to take care of me. I literally have not seen her in ten years. I've seen her three times since I was 11. Definitely a stress I don't want to deal with. My dad and In-laws will come visit but both accept that we want some time before they all show up. I'd actually be fine with my dad being in town but he lives across the country currently and so he's planning a trip for a couple weeks after my due date so he's not too early to meet his grandson.
Spoke to hubby last night and he is saying hard no on either mothers being in the room he wants it just to be us, unless I want differently of course. Thank you all for your advice it really helped me and hubby make a decision we both read all the comments and made it easy to make this decision.
ETA: I'm not saying you as in you, but you as in the people who make frivolous fundraiser pages.