My pregnant friend is driving me crazy.

jmwm · May 2017

My friend is pregnant as well (we will both be FTMs) and due just a few weeks before me, which is really exciting because we will get to raise our babies together and be off on mat leave together! My problem is..... the only thing she wants to talk about it our pregnancies. Stats she has googled, facts she has found out, she has nausea, what are my symptoms, she ordered a doppler, am I going to order one, am i going to use cloth diapers etc etc etc etc. I love her so much and am so excited to share this journey together... but it's like we don't have a relationship outside of the pregnancy anymore. And when we're not discussing it, I know she is just looking for a way to talk about it..Side note: I don't want this to come off that I'm not excited because I SO AM!!!! I'm just feeling overwhelmed with the constant conversation. I would like to google my own facts, or read it in my own book.... and there are some things I just don't care to know.... I'm excited to share this with her, but I also want to enjoy it on my own. How do I kindly tell her this? It is making me crazy. I find myself not even enjoying talking about it with her anymore because she is literally obsessed with it.

KLake42 · May 2017

You're probably the only one she feels she can talk to about this. I think the only way you can deal with this is to tell her, gently.

You can even say it in a way that focuses on you and your need to *not* talk about it all the time. "I am really excited about this, but also kind of freaked out, and so I have to keep myself from spending all day thinking about it. Can you help distract me by talking about non-pregnancy stuff? Is there a movie coming out that you're excited about seeing? And hey, how about what's happening in politics?"

jmwm · May 2017

@KLake42 Thanks for this

If I was the only one she was talking to I would understand more, for sure, but she talk to everyone and anyone. It's just her general personality..... all consuming. I love thinking about it and talking about it, but my thoughts are... if I research everything now, when I'm only 6 weeks... what am I going to have left to do when I'm 6 months, 7 months etc. I will definitely try this diversion conversation, and the last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings because I know how excited she is.

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