I'd probably choose to talk to my dad on the phone longer that day I called and asked him to give the phone to my mom. It was the last conversation I ever had with him.
Mine would be my wedding day for sure. Or maybe the day before my wedding. Ok you guys - don't judge me! We had a giant rehearsal lunch the day before, followed by a long night of drinking at the hotel bar for everyone who was arriving from out of town. My husband and his brother got into a fight a because my BIL is a giant asshole, and I got so drunk that I had the worst hangover of my life, and it was generally just icky. Everyone had a great time, and very few people actually saw the fight with those two, but it made the next morning kinda wierd. Thankfully, I had no idea this had happened (I had already gone back to my room with my MOH and a bridesmaid, so I saw nothing). We pulled it together and it was the best day of my life, and everyone was on their best behavior, but still. The day before my wedding always kind of clouds it lol. I would do that day over, but be mindful of my drinking throughout the day and I would maybe make my husband go to his room early like me so he wouldn't have fought with his brother.
I would definitely want to re-live my favorite day ever which was my wedding day. It was a blast and everything went pretty smoothly although I wish that I had taken more pictures with people. I have a ton with my immediate family, DH's family, and the wedding party, but I hardly got any with friends and extended family. On that note, I kind of wish I got a better photographer. It wasn't high on my list of priorities and even though mine was fine, sometimes I feel regretful when I look at someone's amazing wedding pictures done by a really great photographer.
But the best thing DH and I did was hire a videographer. OMG I can't tell brides-to-be enough how thankful they will be to have their wedding on film.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
I would also pick my wedding day! We had a small wedding, I wanted to elope but DH didn't, haha. We did EVERYTHING ourselves, which was a pain in the ass. I hurt my back packing everything up afterwards that I was in pain all weekend, which was terrible. I would definitely hire people to do everything if I got to redo it.
Me 29 I Him 26 Married 4/22/16
TTC 9/2015 **TW** BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w) TTCAL 6/15/16 BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
Ok, I hate to be cliche, but I pick my wedding day too!! It was just such a fun day and I got to see all my favorite people in the world! Plus, there are a few minor things I forgot to do that day, that while it didn't really impact my day at all, I'd love to go back in time and adjust them. But all around, it was just a really fun day.
Close second... any day on my honeymoon.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
I'd also pick my wedding day. I had such a great day, but I'd change some details. Mainly the fact that my stomach was bothering me for the beginning of the reception and I didn't get to eat any of our food or cake! I spent days picking the menu and didn't get to enjoy any of it.
Call me crazy but I would totally relive the 36 hours of labor with my daughter just to experience those first few minutes with her all over again! It was just pure bliss! I am so excited to have that again!!
Best day - The day we got engaged. I loved our wedding, but I feel like weddings are stressful. The day my DH proposed was easily the most romantic day of my life. He took my out on a picnic, we drank wine, ate cheese and then he got down on one knee and asked me to be with him forever. I said yes, and then a storm rolled through and we were caught in the rain. It was seriously perfect - I love that day.
Worst day - it's also a great day, the day my oldest was born. I would have done things much differently. I labored way too long and kind of ignored my OB thinking I knew better - I hate that attitude I had. In the end, I wish I had listened when he recommended a c-section, rather than laboring for over 24 hours, pushing for 3 and ending up with a c-section anyway, and a baby born with e. coli sepsis. I have no idea if she would have still been born sick if I had listened 14 hours prior and just had the c-section, but not having her spend 15 days in the NICU would have been ideal. Still, I know I'm fortunate she is now a super healthy 6 year old, I just wish I had the knowledge I have now rather than thinking I knew it all.
Best day that I'd like to repeat over and over again- it would have to be one of the 4 days that we spent in Thailand for part of our honeymoon. We stayed at an amazing resort in Chiang Mai and barely left the resort grounds because it was like paradise. Lying out on a daybed all day in front of a beautiful pool and gorgeous rice paddy/mountains, getting served yummy food and drinks all day... sigh!
I would probably do my wedding- but not for the *usual* reasons-
1st- I was super hungover for the bulk of the day because my ladies (and bridal guy) decided we needed to combine VERY strong drinks with half naked hang-outs in a jacuzzi (after everyone and their cousin bought me drinks at the bar) I'm not normally a lightweight but I was definitely NOT a happy camper the morning of the wedding. (OK I guess that's a 'usual reason')
2nd- About a month after our wedding, my dw came out to me as transgender, and I really wish that we could have gotten married and I could have said her new name and she could have worn a beautiful dress. She is so much happier now that she is living as her true authentic self that I think that she would have enjoyed our wedding so much more. That, and we spent a lot of money to hire our photographer and now we can't show those beautiful pictures to anyone.
Mine would be the day my son was born. I wish I could go back and coach myself and remind myself of all the research I did leading up that I completely forgot. I think I could have avoided 3 hours of pushing if I had been coached better, so maybe I should have hired a doula? Or a different midwife. Though I'm thankful I will kind of have the opportunity for a do-over with this babe!
I would go back to my first wedding and NEVER walk down the aisle. I almost didn't and wish I wouldn't have.
However, it would of changed the course of history and I would of never met my current DH or she DD or this precious gummy bear. So really, I guess I wouldn't redo it.
I would like to go back to the time when my new husband decided to take a job a couple of hours away and move back in with his mom, even though we had just bought a house. I would give myself the strength and wisdom to stay put in our new house for the rest of the school year, instead of radically quitting my dream job in December, leaving my needy family (my mom had just passed) and following DH to his mom's. I feel like that move has been our biggest mistake as a couple. However, we got pregnant with DS while we were living with MIL so some good did come from the situation.
I think if I had any day to do over it would be the day after we got home from the hospital with my now 6 year old. We were so worried that we didn't really celebrate that we were now a family and snuggly and loving. I wish I could go back and just soak up her baby smell some more and see my husband and realize that I had picked the right life partner. Oh geez... I am definitely over the top pregnancy hormones today.
I'd like to go back and have DH turn down the promotion he took, which I encouraged, that moved us from STL to Chicago. He had a decent job, we had just moved into a new house a year before and completely rehabbed it and loved it and we moved away from our family. Like @lijuan09 we DID get and stay pregnant with DS in our new house and city, so maybe that wouldn't have happened if we didn't move. But now we are already planning a move back, 3 years after relocating and of course now the housing market is not exactly buyer friendly. It's just annoying.
If I could have a do-over, I'd be more aggressive about my daughter's care after she was born. We were sent home with a bili blanket because she was extremely jaundice and I wish I would've pushed for her to just go under the lights at the hospital. I would've rather spent an extra day or two there with her over the nightmare we went through at home. She had to be on the light 24/7 and I felt like I didn't get to just hold her enough. It was so hard to breastfeed and keep the light on her. We also had to take her out in the below zero degree weather to have her heel poked every single day for almost two weeks. It just wasn't how I envisioned our first couple weeks as a family. We just kind of watched her sleep, but we weren't able to be very hands on.
Re: GTKY 5/16 Best/Worst Day Do-Over
I'd probably choose to talk to my dad on the phone longer that day I called and asked him to give the phone to my mom. It was the last conversation I ever had with him.
Ok you guys - don't judge me!
We had a giant rehearsal lunch the day before, followed by a long night of drinking at the hotel bar for everyone who was arriving from out of town. My husband and his brother got into a fight a because my BIL is a giant asshole, and I got so drunk that I had the worst hangover of my life, and it was generally just icky. Everyone had a great time, and very few people actually saw the fight with those two, but it made the next morning kinda wierd. Thankfully, I had no idea this had happened (I had already gone back to my room with my MOH and a bridesmaid, so I saw nothing).
We pulled it together and it was the best day of my life, and everyone was on their best behavior, but still. The day before my wedding always kind of clouds it lol. I would do that day over, but be mindful of my drinking throughout the day and I would maybe make my husband go to his room early like me so he wouldn't have fought with his brother.
But the best thing DH and I did was hire a videographer. OMG I can't tell brides-to-be enough how thankful they will be to have their wedding on film.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
Close second... any day on my honeymoon.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
The day my youngest was stillborn. Just to have one more chance to hold her again.
Worst day - it's also a great day, the day my oldest was born. I would have done things much differently. I labored way too long and kind of ignored my OB thinking I knew better - I hate that attitude I had. In the end, I wish I had listened when he recommended a c-section, rather than laboring for over 24 hours, pushing for 3 and ending up with a c-section anyway, and a baby born with e. coli sepsis. I have no idea if she would have still been born sick if I had listened 14 hours prior and just had the c-section, but not having her spend 15 days in the NICU would have been ideal. Still, I know I'm fortunate she is now a super healthy 6 year old, I just wish I had the knowledge I have now rather than thinking I knew it all.
1st- I was super hungover for the bulk of the day because my ladies (and bridal guy) decided we needed to combine VERY strong drinks with half naked hang-outs in a jacuzzi (after everyone and their cousin bought me drinks at the bar) I'm not normally a lightweight but I was definitely NOT a happy camper the morning of the wedding. (OK I guess that's a 'usual reason')
2nd- About a month after our wedding, my dw came out to me as transgender, and I really wish that we could have gotten married and I could have said her new name and she could have worn a beautiful dress. She is so much happier now that she is living as her true authentic self that I think that she would have enjoyed our wedding so much more. That, and we spent a lot of money to hire our photographer and now we can't show those beautiful pictures to anyone.
Mine would be the day my son was born. I wish I could go back and coach myself and remind myself of all the research I did leading up that I completely forgot. I think I could have avoided 3 hours of pushing if I had been coached better, so maybe I should have hired a doula? Or a different midwife. Though I'm thankful I will kind of have the opportunity for a do-over with this babe!
I would go back to my first wedding and NEVER walk down the aisle. I almost didn't and wish I wouldn't have.
However, it would of changed the course of history and I would of never met my current DH or she DD or this precious gummy bear. So really, I guess I wouldn't redo it.
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Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016