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Toxic co-parent

KayTee84KayTee84 member
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Any advice on dealing with the father of my child who is extremely toxic??
He exhausts me with his issues. I'm always too nice, even though he's turned me into a crazy person on a few occasions. I want to be fair to his parental rights, but at the same time...things would just be so much easier if he weren't in the picture. I try to be fair, but it seems he is not capable of being fair to me. How do I cope/deal, and do what's best for my child?
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Re: Toxic co-parent

  • cmlsucmlsu member
    edited December 2015
    Set boundaries and keep them. I'm dealing with the same thing to an extent. That's been the thing that has helped me keep my cool the most. His temperament varies and I have to remind myself that I can't control his actions, just my own. He tested the boundaries quite a bit when I first set them and it was difficult, but now it is the new normal. The first was that I only wanted to talk when we needed to talk about the baby,and not our own relationship. The second was that I needed a plan on when he would see LO, and not the day of. It took a few weeks and him getting angry, but now it's much much better. I'm not sure of your specifics, but hopefully it gets better for you!
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  • MommyLoveBearMommyLoveBear member
    I'm going through the same thing myself and I've decided to be silent and not respond to any of his immature tactics. I used to try and be fair by sending him pictures and videos of our sonn, since I'm currently at my mother's and now I've stopped cz he needs to feel that frustrating  while raising our son is just twisted. I'm breastfeeding so I have to be sane and healthy for my son. The silent treatment works for me.
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  • kecunningham23kecunningham23 member
    I started to go to counseling because of my BD while I was pregnant since I was too nice and was dealing with all the crap he was giving me. I'm still going and it helps to a point but he is still being a jerk. He tried to tell me wanted to be friends and coparent her together but now he just seems to want nothing to do with her while still giving his other daughter from his marriage any time he can get.
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