I'm at work just feeling kind of here but not here if that makes sense. I'm just over coming to work and not feeling great physically. I put my SI belt on this morning because my hip has been bothering me, which has inevitably freaked me out the past couple of days. At first it work up me almost like a cramp, but not really, more of an ache when I actually woke up and could figure out what was going on. Just kind of comes and goes. Probably hasn't helped that I've been having weird dreams about going into labor early so now I can't tell him the symptoms I was having in the dream are real or not! I'm a mess! Every little thing is making me feel like something is going on and I'm going into labor early...no real reason why. Is this normal? Sorry if this really should be in a different thread, feels like it could be in a couple of different ones.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@BabyMC517 I know exactly how you feel. I'm overthinking every cramp and back ache and every other symptom. I have to keep reminding myself that I'll probably know when I'm actually going into labor (I hope!). Even if not really early on, but the time I'd need to go to the hospital, I should know what's going on. In the meantime, I just have to take everything in stride. It sucks, though...it's such a mental game right now.
@BabyMC517 and @starphish18 I'm right there with you, worrying about every ache and pain. Except, for me, this worry started yesterday after my midwife validated the concern that I have uterine irritability and I was having contractions. I'm 100% worrier by nature, but I guess my worrisome word of caution would be to not to be too cavalier about new symptoms at this point, just in case our FTM antennas are not strong enough to pick up on signs of early labor. Then again, having vivid dreams and reality can be difficult. I once had a dream I delivered on 5/22, "my due date" (which is really 5/26) and now sometimes I forget what my real EDD is because the dream was so real.
I'm overly anxious after spending hours at the OB office yesterday. I'm trying to remain calm, but it doesn't help that I can't stop googling uterine irritability and similar. Taking it hour by hour.
Feeling completely drained and my day isn't even close to being over. I still have a lot of little things I need to get done before baby gets here and after being body slammed by DD I have no energy. I just want to take a nap, cry and be done with this whole thing. I am so over being pregnant and I am completely over feeling like the I'm the only one who actually does anything around here and gets it done right the first time.
@jayandaplus@BabyMC517@starphish18 +1 to overthinking each ache and pain. After being in L&D from my fall I've felt like I'm constantly going to go into labor at any minute.
I usually just come in here to love tit but I have been really stressed out the last few days.
My parents, specifically my dad, decided about 2-3 weeks ago that it would be a great idea to buy a new house and move there ASAP. Well, given the fact that my mom is supposed to be here for our baby's birth and stay with us for a month, that means that she is trying to pack the house that they have lived in for almost 20 years before she comes out. Whatever she doesn't get done, my dad will have to do by himself and get the move done. I know my mom is stressing and she basically told me that she will wait for my call to come out or will be here on Saturday (day before my due date) so now I feel like I can't call her early because I don't want her just sitting around when there are a million things to do back home but that also means that I could go into labor at any time and she might not be here to watch our children.
My brothers and their families live about an hour away from us so I know that if it was the middle of the day someone could come get our children as needed but if it's the middle of the night, I have no clue what we are going to do. The one friend that I would've felt comfortable asking to watch our children moved away recently and all of my other friends that live close by have young children too so I don't feel like I can really ask them! I am so stressing and have been in a pretty awful mood the last few days. I feel bad for DH because he gets the brunt of it and I can tell he is trying to stay out of my way right now. Ugh, I feel so bad! At this point, I just really, really need LO to hang on tight for a few more days or to give me as much advance notice as possible!
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Oh, that does sound stressful @vrj0522! Have you talked to your mom? I'm a FTM so I don't know, but I feel emotions get heightened at this stage of the game. I'm sure your mom feels bad on her end, and does not want you to put off calling her. I'm sure she would much rather be with you and the kids than packing up the house! Plus, if your dad felt the need to move ASAP, he can help finish up what's leftover. (Too harsh?) Hopefully you'll have plenty of warning, or LO will wait until your due date-- didn't your other ones come around their EDDs? Hang in there, just keep breathing.
I can definitely agree with you ladies! I can't believe I have 5 weeks to go with all my aches and pains, with no room left. But alas, I will do whatever I need to to keep this baby cooking!
@jayandaplus I'm sorry your uterus is irritable! Fingers crossed it calms down @OmegaRose3 I'm sorry you feel like there is so much left to do, at least the baby doesn't really need much initially, so if you don't get to it, it's not the end of the world. @vrj0522 Can you talk to your siblings about being on call at night? Would they be willing? If they have kids they might be more inclined to help
Thanks @jayandaplus and @Jens_Hoes! I actually decided to call my mom last night and talk about it and now she is planning on coming a day earlier, on Friday, but she said that she will be ready at any time if I need her before then. I also talked to a friend who stopped over to borrow a movie and who has a high school niece that lives with her and who babysits regularly for us and she offered to take our kids if I go into labor before my mom is able to get here. So now I am feeling a lot better about everything and while we'd have to work out the logistics if my mom isn't here, we'd at least have someone to watch our children at any given time.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@vrj0522 So glad that things are working out! One thing I've noticed from this pregnancy being different than the last is there being a lot more stress about how going into labor will work out when you have other kid/s already
AAH! I can't stop stressing. Every ache and pain has me, literally, panicking. I'm getting my nails done today with a friend because I need the distraction, but I've been so crunchy granola this whole pregnancy I'm even doubting getting my nails done-- even though I have a special "low chemical, vegan and organic" (wtf, I know) nail polish. How do you force yourself to chill?
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"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
I'm overly anxious after spending hours at the OB office yesterday. I'm trying to remain calm, but it doesn't help that I can't stop googling uterine irritability and similar. Taking it hour by hour.
@jayandaplus @BabyMC517 @starphish18 +1 to overthinking each ache and pain. After being in L&D from my fall I've felt like I'm constantly going to go into labor at any minute.
My parents, specifically my dad, decided about 2-3 weeks ago that it would be a great idea to buy a new house and move there ASAP. Well, given the fact that my mom is supposed to be here for our baby's birth and stay with us for a month, that means that she is trying to pack the house that they have lived in for almost 20 years before she comes out. Whatever she doesn't get done, my dad will have to do by himself and get the move done. I know my mom is stressing and she basically told me that she will wait for my call to come out or will be here on Saturday (day before my due date) so now I feel like I can't call her early because I don't want her just sitting around when there are a million things to do back home but that also means that I could go into labor at any time and she might not be here to watch our children.
My brothers and their families live about an hour away from us so I know that if it was the middle of the day someone could come get our children as needed but if it's the middle of the night, I have no clue what we are going to do. The one friend that I would've felt comfortable asking to watch our children moved away recently and all of my other friends that live close by have young children too so I don't feel like I can really ask them! I am so stressing and have been in a pretty awful mood the last few days. I feel bad for DH because he gets the brunt of it and I can tell he is trying to stay out of my way right now. Ugh, I feel so bad! At this point, I just really, really need LO to hang on tight for a few more days or to give me as much advance notice as possible!
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
I can't believe I have 5 weeks to go with all my aches and pains, with no room left. But alas, I will do whatever I need to to keep this baby cooking!
@jayandaplus I'm sorry your uterus is irritable! Fingers crossed it calms down
@OmegaRose3 I'm sorry you feel like there is so much left to do, at least the baby doesn't really need much initially, so if you don't get to it, it's not the end of the world.
@vrj0522 Can you talk to your siblings about being on call at night? Would they be willing? If they have kids they might be more inclined to help
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018