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September 2017 Moms
JNR6510
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On the Topic of C-Sections
JNR6510
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If you had a high likelihood of needing a C-section, would you just go ahead and schedule an "elective C-section?"
On the Topic of C-Sections 49 votes
Yes, I would get it scheduled now so I can be prepared.
36%
18 votes
No, I would wait it out and see how things go.
51%
25 votes
Other
12%
6 votes
Re: On the Topic of C-Sections
My dream birth plan while TTGP was a low to no intervention home birth or possibly a birth center. Hospitals just give me anxiety. But life had a different idea.
A coworker of mine says she would never go for a repeat C-section. The anasthesia made her very tired, and she ended up not getting to hold her LO until 3 hours after it was born. She said it felt like she had missed a connection due to missing out on the initial bonding time when baby is first born.
What are your thoughts / experiences?
So, definitely going to see how the babies are looking as time get closer. I really hope and pray I can make it to September with these little boogers. After that, whatever is healthiest for me and the babies will be fine with me. Just want healthy babies.
Edited because of words.
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It does help with some of the stress. Everyone has to do what they think is best and work on their plan with their doctor.
With Baby#2, doctor said there were too many risks for me to try and labor. I had a scheduled c-section w/my daughter but ended up having an emergency c-section a month earlier.
I will for sure be having another c-section with this baby. And I don't really care as long as LO gets here safely. I don't feel like any less of a mom not having a vaginally delivery.
@JNR6510 both my experiences were different.
I didn't get to hold my son till 6+ hours after the labor and missed out on skin to skin time. My mom showed me his picture on her phone and that's the first time I *really* saw him. My husband at the time said we took a picture with him in the operating room but I didn't remember that. When i did get to hold him, I was feeling so sick I didn't even enjoy it. I was also in rough shape the hours after my c-section. The anesthesiologist checked in on me a couple days later and told me "I'm glad you made it". It was traumatic to say the least.
With my daughter, I held her right away and also got skin to skin time. I don't feel I missed anything and was feeling "ok" after the surgery.
On the topic of c-sections, my cousin in law is a nurse and did her graduate thesis on why c-sections are better/safer than vaginal births. She elected to have all three of her babies by scheduled c-sections. I haven't asked her about her reasoning and the facts she discovered during her research, I just thought it was an interesting decision.
If it were "very likely" I would need a c-section, I would probably go ahead and plan it to decrease my stress/anxiety level.
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As a first timer and planner, I'd go into delivery with a flow chart. If I get to X and Y hasn't happened yet, I'll do Z. If I get to Y easily ill do B. I really recommend trying for a vaginal delivery for your first assuming your placenta and baby are in the correct position. Some things require emergency C-sections like nuchal cords and heart decels.
That said, I have never experienced a c-section before so it's just feelings. I know friends have said that scheduled c-sections are easier recovery wise which is huge in hindsight.
I guess my words of advise are don't over analyze it, your babies will make up for any birth plan disappointment you have. It's typically not as bad as the worst story you've ever heard. Some may miss out on those very first moments but you have a lifetime... don't beat yourself up over the small stuff. I was not under general anastesia I had a spinal so I was alert and aware and back to my baby in about an hour.
@JNR6510 I also was not able to hold my baby after my csection because the spinal block from my chest down affected my arms and I couldn't control/use them, so my husband brought the baby to me. I've had days where I was sad for not being able to physically hold her right away, but she was right there with me the whole time and an hour later when I got feeling back in my arms I was able to hold her and all was well.
The problem with birth is that it is one of those situations that you ultimately have zero control over. You can make plans, but there's no guarantee that's the way it will go. I wanted an epidural with DS, and it didn't happen. I have friends who wanted an unmedicated birth, and had epidurals or C sections.
Also, you should consult your insurance company about an elective C/S. They may not cover an elective surgery, unless your OB can reasonably declare it a non-elective.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
@ColoradoHiker At previous appointments, my OB had discussed that there is a good chance a C/S will be a necessity due to medical factors and to just be mentally prepared that a vaginal birth may not be an option for us. Due to being insulin resistant plus a family history of large babies, our little one is likely to be a very big baby. She has consistently measured much larger than normal at each of our appointments. On top of that I have a bicornuate uterus that doesn't have the ability to stretch and grow as much as a normal uterus should, and Laurel is in the right horn. The OB says it is likely I may have pre-term labor / have to give birth earlier because baby will run out of room to grow before the due date. My uturus shape also tends to end in breech presentation, which just increases the odds of a C-section.
a lot of section mamas are made to feel like we never "gave birth" there are groups and memes about it- not to mention comments and raised eyebrows, the whole deal. I know nothing was said maliciously here or with any ill intent but little PSA's like yours really do help rise awareness to be more conscience of word choice.
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DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
This time around, they are positive with the idea of a VBAC and are keeping it as an option if things go naturally before 39 weeks but my next appointment they're scheduling my csection just to have it scheduled and ready to go at week 39 if I don't naturally go into labor. I'm also a type 2 diabetic now which adds another factor into a repeat csection. I was told since I had a csection previously that I cannot be induced this time. I'm mentally prepared for either outcome but the goal is VBAC. I don't think it's good to be discouraged with a csection though because sometimes it's completely out of our control and there's so much negativity from other people we have to deal with. Not on here from what I've noticed but I've definitely had people in person say some mean things to my face about it.