When we first started TTC I immediately contacted a couple doulas. Because I was totes gonna be KU soon and needed to be on top of finding the perfect doula
I kinda hate cycle 1 me. I'm glad she's gone, but still totally wish I had gotten KU then.
Why does no one have FFFCs today?? Whenever my west coast ass actually manages to start a thread I feel like there must be some kind of international disaster happening that I'm not aware of.
@lund Not a day goes by that I don't shake my head at my cycle 1/2 self.
@lulu1180 I think they can be cute and tasteful when they aren't huge. It's the ones that look like crowns that feel like a bit much/too princess-y (just my personal opinion but don't really care that much anyway).
My FFFC (or maybe more of a UO?) is that I don't like clean shaven men. I was disappointed that MH had to shave for our wedding and I won't let him shave during my FW. If you have less of a stache than I do before my monthly wax I will question your manhood.
My FFFC: Sometimes when I'm feeling extra cranky I'll go on the news site slanted in the opposite direction of my political beliefs and read all the comments sections and hate all the people. I don't ever respond or get in fights. I just sit there and think about how dumb all of them are. There it is, guys.
@antoto MH does that too except he will actually join in on the public comments sections and get in wars with people. I'm like, dude, if you want to be in a constant political fight with a bunch of assholes you don't agree with you could have just joined Facebook.
@pebbledam I'm down with beards, but I like permanent 5 o'clock shadow the best. Luckily MH's hair grows abnormally fast and his clean shave will turn to 5 o'clock shadow within a couple hours. Which sucks for things like job interviews and needing haircuts every 3 weeks, but it's good for me!
When I tell the story of how DH and I met, I always leave out that I was in a relationship at the time and cheated on my then-boyfriend with DH. I never told my ex I cheated, just broke up with him. I should have broken up with him way before then anyway. In my mind, what does it matter that I was stuck in a dead-end relationship when I met my soulmate? Idk, it is what it is. I leave it out because our story is amazing and I hate that someone would think worse of it (or myself or DH) just because of a detail that ultimately doesn't matter anymore to anyone involved.
My FFFC: Sometimes when I'm feeling extra cranky I'll go on the news site slanted in the opposite direction of my political beliefs and read all the comments sections and hate all the people. I don't ever respond or get in fights. I just sit there and think about how dumb all of them are. There it is, guys.
My FFFC is related to this! I love reading the comments on everything. News stories, youtube videos, whatever. It's all so ridiculous and entertaining. The best is reading the comments when the Yankees post their starting lineup on Facebook. My very favorite was "Chase Headley wouldn't make his own family's 40-man roster."
@LoveInDC Since we're going there, I have a FFFC along the same lines.
When I met DH, he was in a relationship with another woman, unbeknownst to me. It took me about 10 months to find out (they were long distance and she visited during the week, never on weekends because of her job). When I found out, I didn't mention it to him but instead texted him to find out what was going on with us because I knew we weren't exclusive. He replied that he didn't see things going anywhere with us and then didn't respond when I wanted more information. About a month later, he texted me to apologize for being a jerk and I decided to continue a friendship with him but I still wanted the benefits of the sex so even though I knew he had a gf, I didn't care and continued to have a purely physical relationship with him for a while.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
@antoto I go one worse. When the few total nutjobs on my Facebook who's posts I haven't blocked share or like crap from factually-lacking crazy sites, I like to go through and report every comment that is reportable. Sometimes I'll even save s screenshot of the comment so if FB tells me it doesn't violate community standards I can remember wtf it was so I can argue it.
Since someone mentioned shaving... every time I go to the doctor for a no-pants item, I try to tidy up and wonder what normal adult women do with their situation these days. I have no idea what styles are in. So mostly I just do a hack job and deem it good enough.
*insert Kristen Wiig drunk Cinderella whatever gif*
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@kiki75 that's so awesome! I would do that... but I have now unfriended/unfollowed everyone who is outspokenly in the opposite side of the political spectrum. I guess that's another FFFC. I give no fucks. Think that makes me intolerant? You're right. It does.
@LoveInDC, @lulu1180 - *TW* MH's ex tried to guilt him into going back to her because she was pregnant. And to be 100% honest, we got into a couple of fights and I told him he should. I was testing him and pushing him away because I was terrified that he was going to just that. Obviously, he didn't. *TW*
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@lulu1180 I wore a bejeweled headband with a bejeweled hair comb. I gave zero fucks that day.
H was set on us naming our kid a J name because his whole family is Js. I said hell no, because I'm not a J, and why would I name my kid with a pattern that I'm not a part of, but H's family is? Who's kid is this, theirs or ours? But he kept trying to convince me; he thinks it's cute, I guess. I think it's creepy because I can't help but think of the Duggars. So I used our latest setback (needing a polyp removed before FET) to get naming rights, and he agreed. I'm ecstatic. I don't know yet what it will be, but it will not start with a J!
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
These are great... mine is sort of bad (like I'm a bad person). I encourage DH's going out even when it's probably not in his best interest (i.e. last night on a Thursday night before an early work night... and just generally he shouldn't drink sometimes) simply because I love being alone and want lots and lots of alone time....................................
@antoto I have no problem with someone having a different political viewpoint from me as long as they use facts and logic to come to their conclusions. Thankfully I don't know anyone posting made-up BS and memes, because I do judge the hell out of them for buying into the propaganda. So far, no unfriending. Although H's aunt (by marriage) did unfriend me for my political views. Not for anything in particular, just for being the opposite in general. But she did it to all of H's cousins too, so we're all like "Thanks, Aunt Rachel. So much for family."
Ooooo new FFFC: I am obsessed with Mama June: From Not to Hot.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
@kiki75@antoto Before I left Facebook (strategically timed right after the 2016 primaries) I unfriended and reported a ton of people. My sister sometimes trolls people both politically and nonpolitically and my mom and I went through a month long phase of reporting her and all her friends regularly and a bunch of them had their accounts suspended because of it, including my sister, who still doesn't know her family was reporting her.
@eggplantface MH, SIL, and FIL all have "M" names and I put my foot down on that same issue because come the fuck on, guys (luckily MH didn't take as much convincing because he thinks it's a bit odd too). Because any potential kids would have a middle and last name that starts with "S" we also can't use any names starting with "A" because we don't want their initials to spell "ASS".
My FFFC is that when I had my OB appointment this week, my Doctor was under the impression for some reason that we have already been TTC for a few months. I didn't correct her....
I'm also totally one of those cycle 1 blissfully optimistic hopefuls right now even though I really shouldn't be because we won't have the best timing in the first place.
I've had some not-so-proud moments and sometimes I feel like I could be on Jerry Springer, but I am so happy with how it all ended up. Fast forward to now and DH and I are blissfully happy with one another. DH is the best partner I could have ever asked for!
(Edited for more basic details, since catfishing stuff has made me paranoid.)
Me: 35 DH: 28 TTC since June 2016 Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016 AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017 Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017 October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total) Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen 12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP 2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone Abnormal SIS Oct 2018 Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis. 12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN Our journey has come to an end.
@Redpuma119 Me too. Never gotten one, never will. I'm friendly with my lady-stache removing esthetician and comfortable with her, but I'll admit, even if it makes me sound prudish, in general I like to minimize the number of people who look at my vagina in any type of official capacity. Also I'm a careful shaver.
@LoveInDC@pebbledam very similar situation here.. I was living with my ex and had a 2 year old and SO was married with no kids.. but my relationship was long over and we both knew it and SOs ex had an affair with her boss..soo nothing happened between us until all of that went down anyway so our consciences are clear!
*edited to add.. everything happens for a reason and as someone said previously, I truly believe we are soulmates and we are exactly where we were meant to be. I can't imagine if I had stayed.. ::shutter::
@vflux33 I am close with my lady as well. I actually tried one before my destination wedding. I had my dsd in a bath the first day after the beach. and thought to myself- I look like I'm 7. Never again.
**TW - pregnancy mentioned** My BFF got KU. I knit, and she wants me to make a baby blanket. I love her, but those things take MONTHS to make. And with the uncertainty about what's going on with my body right now, I'm worried I may have IF issues. I REALLY don't feel like spending every day for MONTHS contemplating my friend's good fortune. But of course I can't say no. So I'm having all of the feelings about having to make this blasted blanket.
@sunniegrly - I agree with @pebbledam, you should find a way out of it. I'm really sorry your BFF keeps doing things to (unintentionally) make this hard for you.
@sunniegrly I think if you explained to your friend that knitting a baby blanket isn't really the best thing for your mental health at the moment she would understand. That's assuming she knows the difficulties you have been having.
@pebbledam - I know, I know. But I've literally made something (not a blanket though) for each of my friends who's had kids (before I started TTC). And me and my BFF are both only children who grew up on the same street and are like sisters. So I thought it was only fair I offer to make something. So, like an idiot, I did. And then her husband was like "how about a blanket!" So...I feel like I'm stuck. But if it turns out I've got some IF issues I may just stop working on the blanket and tell her "Listen, I'm sorry, but I can't do this." The whole situation just makes me feel sick, because if her baby is a girl she's going to use the baby name I wanted for a girl (my husband's grandmother's name). Idk, I just really hate myself for not being able to be more adult about it. I already have to plan her baby shower and everything though so it's not like I'm going to be able to get away from it all.
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Re: FFFC
I kinda hate cycle 1 me. I'm glad she's gone, but still totally wish I had gotten KU then.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
@lulu1180 - I bet you rocked the tiara and a bride can wear whatever the hell she wants on her wedding day!
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@lund Not a day goes by that I don't shake my head at my cycle 1/2 self.
@lulu1180 I think they can be cute and tasteful when they aren't huge. It's the ones that look like crowns that feel like a bit much/too princess-y (just my personal opinion but don't really care that much anyway).
My FFFC (or maybe more of a UO?) is that I don't like clean shaven men. I was disappointed that MH had to shave for our wedding and I won't let him shave during my FW. If you have less of a stache than I do before my monthly wax I will question your manhood.
Also, I'm like, irrationally angry that mobile bumping isn't allowing pics and gifs.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Married April 1st 2017
DS #1: May 2009
DS #2: Jan 2012
@pebbledam I'm down with beards, but I like permanent 5 o'clock shadow the best. Luckily MH's hair grows abnormally fast and his clean shave will turn to 5 o'clock shadow within a couple hours. Which sucks for things like job interviews and needing haircuts every 3 weeks, but it's good for me!
My scale is broken. Thank heavens.
Married April 1st 2017
DS #1: May 2009
DS #2: Jan 2012
When I tell the story of how DH and I met, I always leave out that I was in a relationship at the time and cheated on my then-boyfriend with DH. I never told my ex I cheated, just broke up with him. I should have broken up with him way before then anyway. In my mind, what does it matter that I was stuck in a dead-end relationship when I met my soulmate? Idk, it is what it is. I leave it out because our story is amazing and I hate that someone would think worse of it (or myself or DH) just because of a detail that ultimately doesn't matter anymore to anyone involved.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
When I met DH, he was in a relationship with another woman, unbeknownst to me. It took me about 10 months to find out (they were long distance and she visited during the week, never on weekends because of her job). When I found out, I didn't mention it to him but instead texted him to find out what was going on with us because I knew we weren't exclusive. He replied that he didn't see things going anywhere with us and then didn't respond when I wanted more information. About a month later, he texted me to apologize for being a jerk and I decided to continue a friendship with him but I still wanted the benefits of the sex so even though I knew he had a gf, I didn't care and continued to have a purely physical relationship with him for a while.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Since someone mentioned shaving... every time I go to the doctor for a no-pants item, I try to tidy up and wonder what normal adult women do with their situation these days. I have no idea what styles are in. So mostly I just do a hack job and deem it good enough.
*insert Kristen Wiig drunk Cinderella whatever gif*
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
H was set on us naming our kid a J name because his whole family is Js. I said hell no, because I'm not a J, and why would I name my kid with a pattern that I'm not a part of, but H's family is? Who's kid is this, theirs or ours? But he kept trying to convince me; he thinks it's cute, I guess. I think it's creepy because I can't help but think of the Duggars. So I used our latest setback (needing a polyp removed before FET) to get naming rights, and he agreed. I'm ecstatic. I don't know yet what it will be, but it will not start with a J!
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@antoto I have no problem with someone having a different political viewpoint from me as long as they use facts and logic to come to their conclusions. Thankfully I don't know anyone posting made-up BS and memes, because I do judge the hell out of them for buying into the propaganda. So far, no unfriending. Although H's aunt (by marriage) did unfriend me for my political views. Not for anything in particular, just for being the opposite in general. But she did it to all of H's cousins too, so we're all like "Thanks, Aunt Rachel. So much for family."
Ooooo new FFFC: I am obsessed with Mama June: From Not to Hot.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
@eggplantface MH, SIL, and FIL all have "M" names and I put my foot down on that same issue because come the fuck on, guys (luckily MH didn't take as much convincing because he thinks it's a bit odd too). Because any potential kids would have a middle and last name that starts with "S" we also can't use any names starting with "A" because we don't want their initials to spell "ASS".
I'm also totally one of those cycle 1 blissfully optimistic hopefuls right now even though I really shouldn't be because we won't have the best timing in the first place.
My fffc is that I don't like Brazilians.the wax kind- the people are great
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
I've had some not-so-proud moments and sometimes I feel like I could be on Jerry Springer, but I am so happy with how it all ended up. Fast forward to now and DH and I are blissfully happy with one another. DH is the best partner I could have ever asked for!
(Edited for more basic details, since catfishing stuff has made me paranoid.)
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
*edited to add.. everything happens for a reason and as someone said previously, I truly believe we are soulmates and we are exactly where we were meant to be. I can't imagine if I had stayed.. ::shutter::
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Married: 2013
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DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
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