Previously 5099Peperk.... for some reason a change I made over a 1 year ago finally went into effect...
I have a coworker who wears so much perfume all the time. Today I know she was here because I could smell her. I sit 25 feet away from her and have a cube wall in between. A few weeks ago I had a meeting with her and was fighting a migraine coming on...well that did it, full blown migraine in 20 minutes. It is so annoying.
BFP #1 1/4/14 | Diagnosed with Trisomy 13 at 12 weeks 3/6/14 | MMC 3/21/14 | D&C 3/24/14
BFP #2 7/1/14 | DS born March 2015 BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
@labgrand2012 So sorry for the migraine girl! Can you say something to a supervisor that can talk to her about it? No one should have to deal with that!
My mbf is two-fold. First I already mentioned in WTO but it's the sicko that killed a man on Facebook live and is currently evading police and it happened in my hometown. Just hoping they find him soon!
Second, one of my FB friends posted what she probably thought was a clever and cute picture puzzle announcing she's KU. It's bad enough she had to make a big social media announcement but to do something that I have to take time to read and decipher instead of making it a little more obvious so that I could've kept on scrolling and not had to deal with that crap. Yep, decided to unfollow her for my own sanity. For anyone interested, here's what she posted (spoiler boxing it for those that don't want to see it)
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
H and I had a conversation on the weekend about how he needs to think before he speaks because sometimes what he says is hurtful. He told me to stop being so sensitive and that he shouldn't have to "walk on eggshells" all the time. So I dropped it.
Well... we were at dinner at Grandmas last night and he says (in front of his whole family) "We should probably go before you eat them out of house and home". Literally everyone just stopped their conversations and looked at him dumbfounded and he was like "... what?" And everyone in the room laid into him about how rude that was.
On on the way home he told me he's going to try harder to watch his words.
@labgrand2012 Sorry about perfume lady. That is the worst.
@lulu1180 It is so scary that that happened in your hometown! I really hope they catch him soon. As for that announcement, I fully support your decision to unfollow. I think I have mentioned this before, but there is a cabinet outside my office at work where people will tend to leave food to share with the office. It is nice and all, but apparently since it is outside my office people seem to assume that it is my responsibility to clean it. There is a tray that has been sitting there since Thursday that someone obviously brought in but refuses to claim, so now it is just sitting there still covered in crumbs. As much as it is killing me and I want to clean, I am going to be stubborn and leave it there until whoever brought it in takes it back. Sorry, I am not your mother and it is not my job to clean up after a bunch of adults.
@lulu1180 the women is my supervisor, so that makes it very awkward. But I am at the point where something does need to happen. No one needs to wear that much perfume! I am sorry you had to read to announcement. I have been unfollowing/unfriending people a lot more recently and trying to get rid of what I call negativity in my life.
@Dilynne I dont know how guys say things and think they are ok. I am sorry you have been going through that, but I am glad that he is going to work on it! I have had to have many talks with my DH about what he says to me and others and also his tone in which he delivers it. Its good that you have open communication with him!
BFP #1 1/4/14 | Diagnosed with Trisomy 13 at 12 weeks 3/6/14 | MMC 3/21/14 | D&C 3/24/14
BFP #2 7/1/14 | DS born March 2015 BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
@lulu1180 The situation with that shooter is horrific. I'm sure you are terrified. So sorry it's happening in your town. That puzzle is also just too much. I don't even get the last one?
@Dilynne TB won't let me GIF right now either! Sorry to hear about the situation your H put you in and glad to hear his family laied into him for what he said. He definitely deserves the dog house for that one.
My complaint today is our Mortgage company. DH and I are closing on our house this Wednesday and the communication has been horrible! No one explained anything about the actual closing day to us until last week when they said we needed to be present the morning we close to sign the paperwork. Considering we have signed everything electronically the entire process, we didn't realize we had to be there in person to sign. So now DH is going to go the morning of the closing and I'm going to sign tomorrow night because I have patients scheduled for Wednesday morning. I still have no idea where I even go to physically meet these people tomorrow though and as of right now they don't have a final closing disclosure ready. We have been dealing with these issues the entire process and I'm over it.
@Dilynne I hope he understands how hurtful he is being and makes an effort to be more thoughtful with his words. Hugs girl!
@JJMNO1616 That's a droid from the new Star Wars whose name is BB-8. Sorry this process has been such a PITA for you, but you are that much closer to not having to deal with them! Congrats on the house closing!
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
@labgrand2012 our awful ENL teacher wears way too much perfume. We can always tell when she used the teacher's bathroom because it stinks of cheap bodyspray for hours after.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@Dilynne I'm sorry for the insensitivity but hopefully that experience at family dinner held a mirror up for him in a way that will facilitate change.
@labgrand2012 That sucks on the over-perfumed supervisor. I sometimes sneeze when I smell too much perfume, does that happen to you? Maybe you can use that as an ice breaker to talk about it? The problem with perfume is that you get used to the smell of your own perfume and then keep putting more on... I bet she doesn't mean to do it.
@lulu1180 I was trying to imagine an announcement puzzle in my head before I clicked on it and then... ouch, it hurt my eyes.
Edit: Oh, and I am feeling bitchy about my boss - he sometimes does this thing where he says it's imperative that we talk about something and then puts me off one hour at a time ALL DAY. It really interrupts my workflow. Woops, I am interrupting my own workflow right now but he started it
@lulu1180 Oh god! Stay safe! That's scary that it happened close to you.
@Dilynne Hopefully the situation really gives your H the perspective that it's not just you "overreacting", he's really being hurtful. I hope you see a change in his behavior.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@Dilynne Ahh, the great, "You're too sensitive" excuse for being tactless. Glad that everyone else told him off for you and hopefully helped him to see that it's not just you. H and I have gone around about this a time or two. Here's the thing, you're tactful and polite to the rude waiter. You're tactful and polite to your friends. You're tactful and polite with your coworkers. I am the #1 person in your life. Of all the people in the world, you should be most concerned with being tactful and polite with ME. "Oh. When you put it that way..."
@Pinky917 Don't give in! If you do it, it will officially become your job from now through forever.
@JJMNO1616 If it helps you plan at all, it's likely at the title office. Did you have to drop off a check for earnest money? If so, that's probably where. The whole process is so stressful, even when it's pretty straightforward (no crazy loan things, nothing weird on inspection...). It'll get done. It'll just be annoying in the meantime.
As for me, I think it's just myself. I slept hot (can't tell if Clomid, cold, or that awkward seasonal transition when your pajamas/blankets/house temp aren't quite right for a full night) and I swear that if my head weren't attached I would misplace it today. Forgot my breakfast & lunch at home. So I went back to get it. Decided to ship some stuff at the post office while I was already away from work. Went to leave, couldn't find my scissors I had taken in. Went back and looked for them. Found them in my pocket... That kind of day.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Birth control is stupid and I hate it. I've only been on it for a week and already my boobs are killing, my appetite is out of control, and I am super cranky. Haaaaaaaateeeee.
I spoke too soon. Horrible coworker. He's supposed to be leading this "team" I'm on. He sucks at it. Bigtime. And all he's done so far is to cancel a lot of meetings. Months ago, we went around about what the email addres should be for this team. I suggested that we use an existing email address that everyone is already familiar with. I got shot down like that was the most ridiculous thing anyone has every suggested. So he went off on his own and asked IT to make a new one. And never shared what that was with a single soul. Anyways, we're working on a marketing piece that should include the email address for the team. We're down to the wire to get this sent to press and the graphic designer has been asking WTF email she should use. He just suggested we...drumroll...the original email address. And now that I responded saying that that idea had been rejected a long time ago (as in a few months ago) he sent one of the bitchest emails ever back. Seriously. F that guy and F today. I'm probably about to rage cry.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@lulu1180 - Good call on unfollowing that obnoxious friend. @Dilynne - It sucks that YH had to learn that lesson the hard way, but I'm glad he saw the light. What he said was super mean. *hugs* @JJMNO1616 - The whole closing process sucks. You'll be done soon, though!
I'm complaining about DH today. DH told me he was planning to go to the gym Mon/Wed/Thu this week. So, I passive aggresively asked if that was his way of asking me to watch DSS while he was at the gym on Thursday. His response was "Si!". I literally have never complained about taking DSS on extra weekends or nights, but I stay up with him on Fridays (after being up all night at work) and now he wants me to wake up and take care of him on Thursday evening. Apparently sleep isn't a big deal. I haven't figured out a way to tell him that he's an asshole without having a giant fight, so I've dropped it for now.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@kiki75 ugh that guy sounds like the worst. I totally get the rage crying thing.
my mbf, I'm on a committee to plan a conference for a professional organization i'm a part of. Well it's this weekend and I'm a support person. I keep offering my support to the chair and he will not accept help, but keeps complaining about how much he has to do. "this is really hard." I mean really?!?! there are several people offering to help, but you go ahead and be the martyr.
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
@Dilynne - *CRINGE* I am really glad YH's family was able to put him in his place. Ugh. My H and I have had that conversation as well. I really like the way you put it to your H, @kiki75.
@lulu1180 - That announcement is obnoxious at best. I've been seeing a lot of announcements on FB recently. Part of me wants to reply "I AM REALLY NOT IN THE MOOD FOR THIS SH*T" but I don't because 1) that would be super crazy and 2) ... actually, there's not a second point... that would just be crazy. So I'm gonna join @icecubeinthedesert in toasting to your MBF.
My MBF: I was really looking forward to eating the leftover corn casserole. Like, all day today I was thinking about it. I went to the kitchen to discover DH eating the last bite. And he didn't seem to care about my plight.
@lulu1180 it took me forever to figure out that stupid puzzle. I genuinely thought it was "I ham cupping a robot-eight"
Me: 31 Husby: 36 Married May 2014 TTC # 2 Since December 2021 Baby girl W born 2/2021 Our journey so far... (tw loss & infertility)
Diagnosis: Poor Egg Quality Working with an RE since March 2016 2 failed TI cycles 3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017 23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17 BFP 4.21.17 MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey: 12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted! 5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house! 1.1.20 Homestudy process started 3.14.20 First social worker visit 5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test! Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
Re: Monday Bitchfest - 17/4/17
I have a coworker who wears so much perfume all the time. Today I know she was here because I could smell her. I sit 25 feet away from her and have a cube wall in between. A few weeks ago I had a meeting with her and was fighting a migraine coming on...well that did it, full blown migraine in 20 minutes. It is so annoying.
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
My mbf is two-fold. First I already mentioned in WTO but it's the sicko that killed a man on Facebook live and is currently evading police and it happened in my hometown. Just hoping they find him soon!
Second, one of my FB friends posted what she probably thought was a clever and cute picture puzzle announcing she's KU. It's bad enough she had to make a big social media announcement but to do something that I have to take time to read and decipher instead of making it a little more obvious so that I could've kept on scrolling and not had to deal with that crap. Yep, decided to unfollow her for my own sanity. For anyone interested, here's what she posted (spoiler boxing it for those that don't want to see it)
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
H and I had a conversation on the weekend about how he needs to think before he speaks because sometimes what he says is hurtful. He told me to stop being so sensitive and that he shouldn't have to "walk on eggshells" all the time. So I dropped it.
Well... we were at dinner at Grandmas last night and he says (in front of his whole family) "We should probably go before you eat them out of house and home". Literally everyone just stopped their conversations and looked at him dumbfounded and he was like "... what?" And everyone in the room laid into him about how rude that was.
On on the way home he told me he's going to try harder to watch his words.
Married: 04/05/15
TTC since: 02/16/16
Married 9/2015
TTC #1 6/2016
Dx Unexplained IF 6/2017
Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI 7/2017 - Cancelled (overstimulated)
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #1 - BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #2 -BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI#3 - BFP! EDD July 15 2018
Baby Girl H - July 22 2018
I am sorry you had to read to announcement. I have been unfollowing/unfriending people a lot more recently and trying to get rid of what I call negativity in my life.
@Dilynne I dont know how guys say things and think they are ok. I am sorry you have been going through that, but I am glad that he is going to work on it! I have had to have many talks with my DH about what he says to me and others and also his tone in which he delivers it. Its good that you have open communication with him!
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
@Dilynne TB won't let me GIF right now either! Sorry to hear about the situation your H put you in and glad to hear his family laied into him for what he said. He definitely deserves the dog house for that one.
My complaint today is our Mortgage company. DH and I are closing on our house this Wednesday and the communication has been horrible! No one explained anything about the actual closing day to us until last week when they said we needed to be present the morning we close to sign the paperwork. Considering we have signed everything electronically the entire process, we didn't realize we had to be there in person to sign. So now DH is going to go the morning of the closing and I'm going to sign tomorrow night because I have patients scheduled for Wednesday morning. I still have no idea where I even go to physically meet these people tomorrow though and as of right now they don't have a final closing disclosure ready. We have been dealing with these issues the entire process and I'm over it.
@JJMNO1616 That's a droid from the new Star Wars whose name is BB-8. Sorry this process has been such a PITA for you, but you are that much closer to not having to deal with them! Congrats on the house closing!
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@labgrand2012 That sucks on the over-perfumed supervisor. I sometimes sneeze when I smell too much perfume, does that happen to you? Maybe you can use that as an ice breaker to talk about it? The problem with perfume is that you get used to the smell of your own perfume and then keep putting more on... I bet she doesn't mean to do it.
@lulu1180 I was trying to imagine an announcement puzzle in my head before I clicked on it and then... ouch, it hurt my eyes.
Edit: Oh, and I am feeling bitchy about my boss - he sometimes does this thing where he says it's imperative that we talk about something and then puts me off one hour at a time ALL DAY. It really interrupts my workflow. Woops, I am interrupting my own workflow right now but he started it
@Dilynne Hopefully the situation really gives your H the perspective that it's not just you "overreacting", he's really being hurtful. I hope you see a change in his behavior.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@Pinky917 Don't give in! If you do it, it will officially become your job from now through forever.
@JJMNO1616 If it helps you plan at all, it's likely at the title office. Did you have to drop off a check for earnest money? If so, that's probably where. The whole process is so stressful, even when it's pretty straightforward (no crazy loan things, nothing weird on inspection...). It'll get done. It'll just be annoying in the meantime.
As for me, I think it's just myself. I slept hot (can't tell if Clomid, cold, or that awkward seasonal transition when your pajamas/blankets/house temp aren't quite right for a full night) and I swear that if my head weren't attached I would misplace it today. Forgot my breakfast & lunch at home. So I went back to get it. Decided to ship some stuff at the post office while I was already away from work. Went to leave, couldn't find my scissors I had taken in. Went back and looked for them. Found them in my pocket... That kind of day.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@Dilynne - It sucks that YH had to learn that lesson the hard way, but I'm glad he saw the light. What he said was super mean. *hugs*
@JJMNO1616 - The whole closing process sucks. You'll be done soon, though!
I'm complaining about DH today. DH told me he was planning to go to the gym Mon/Wed/Thu this week. So, I passive aggresively asked if that was his way of asking me to watch DSS while he was at the gym on Thursday. His response was "Si!". I literally have never complained about taking DSS on extra weekends or nights, but I stay up with him on Fridays (after being up all night at work) and now he wants me to wake up and take care of him on Thursday evening. Apparently sleep isn't a big deal. I haven't figured out a way to tell him that he's an asshole without having a giant fight, so I've dropped it for now.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
my mbf, I'm on a committee to plan a conference for a professional organization i'm a part of. Well it's this weekend and I'm a support person. I keep offering my support to the chair and he will not accept help, but keeps complaining about how much he has to do. "this is really hard." I mean really?!?! there are several people offering to help, but you go ahead and be the martyr.
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
@lulu1180 - That announcement is obnoxious at best. I've been seeing a lot of announcements on FB recently. Part of me wants to reply "I AM REALLY NOT IN THE MOOD FOR THIS SH*T" but I don't because 1) that would be super crazy and 2) ... actually, there's not a second point... that would just be crazy. So I'm gonna join @icecubeinthedesert in toasting to your MBF.
My MBF: I was really looking forward to eating the leftover corn casserole. Like, all day today I was thinking about it. I went to the kitchen to discover DH eating the last bite. And he didn't seem to care about my plight.
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021