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March 2017 Moms
triwellnessgirl
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1: How many weeks or days left to go / weeks or days post-partum?
2: What are your goals for the week ahead?
3: How was last week?
4: Any new challenges or needed modifications you want to share??
5: How are/have you treated your self? Celebrate your body and its accomplishments!
6: Questions, Concerns, Rants, Raves, Randoms?
7: GTKY: What 3 things do you think of the most each day?
PS A little reminder for all of us as we start this new week....
Fit Momma Check-in 4/10
triwellnessgirl
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1: How many weeks or days left to go / weeks or days post-partum?
2: What are your goals for the week ahead?
3: How was last week?
4: Any new challenges or needed modifications you want to share??
5: How are/have you treated your self? Celebrate your body and its accomplishments!
6: Questions, Concerns, Rants, Raves, Randoms?
7: GTKY: What 3 things do you think of the most each day?
PS A little reminder for all of us as we start this new week....
Re: Fit Momma Check-in 4/10
Been running around like a crazy lady taking care of a toddler and a newborn. Who is nursing every two hours btw! So I'm sure that counts as enough working out for the time being
Whats everyone want check-ins to look like once we're all ready to jump back into things? Questions we should include or take away? Thinking maybe it's time to change up myold questions a little!? Thoughts?
RANT: Lately I'm obsessing about the vertigo. Constantly in my head wondering if I'm going insane-just anxious-or if this is my new normal. I'm trying to stay positive and strong and keep chugging along, but as the days go on its getting harder and I'm starting to have some discouraging moments and cry sessions of frustration. Really hoping for answers and that it can be resolved. As you can find in the weekly Bfest-my appointment was cancelled so I'm stuck waiting till next Tuesday for an appointment with primary care to start figuring out what's going on.
GTKY: faith, food and family!
@triwellnessgirl Does that answer the question? Or did you mean things like belongings? or??
2: What are your goals for the week ahead? I'd like to get back to my workouts this week!!
3: How was last week? Last week was good. I went out for 30min walks a few times last week. Didn't watch food intake though, which I will be better about this week!!
4: Any new challenges or needed modifications you want to share?? Although I went back to CrossFit today I still had to modify.... sit-ups felt really uncomfortable, so I sub'd with Ball Slams.
5: How are/have you treated your self? Celebrate your body and its accomplishments! I'll be getting my eyelashes done this week
6: Questions, Concerns, Rants, Raves, Randoms? Just feeling good that those really challenging first 2 weeks of adjusting to a newborn and learning to nurse are behind us......!!!! I've never been so uncomfortable in my life!!!
7: GTKY: What 3 things do you think of the most each day?
1. If I'm attending to my baby's needs properly... is she content?
2. When will my body be back to itself again? Both in weight / looks and my ability to poop?
3. Wishing I had the desire to look for a job that paid more money so I could take some pressure off my Hubby, but truth be told... my Job is easy, is just 3mi from home, and I work 32 hours / week with FT benefits. I don't want to give any of that up!
2. Get out for walks with the baby, and remember to take this time slowly and let myself heal.
3. Last week I was still in the hospital most of the week- but yesterday we went for our first walk with Oscar. I felt better than I thought I would but I know I need to still take it slow.
5. I have been taking long hot showers while DH is home. And enjoying this time of shedding multiple pounds each day by eating healthy but not skimping on the brown sugar in my oatmeal or the cookies my mom brought.
6. Still reeeeeally swollen in my belly from my c- section. But at my BP check yesterday, BP is now too LOW! So they adjusted my meds and OB said it's a good sign that I may get past this issue soon. Other swelling from the pit and fluids is mostly gone. This morning I actually recognized my face in the mirror!!
7. 3 things.... right now it's:
1. Oscar: so grateful for my little miracle!
2. Sleep: I miss it and need to learn to nap when he naps instead of doing other things.
3.Food: So many people brought us food, which is so kind but it's too much of it and all really heavy starchy and cheesy. Which is delicious but I've been wanting to eat healthier and we feel so bad wasting this food that people made us!
As for our check in- might be good to switch it up a bit!! What about replacing the modification question with one about going the other way/ to keep us all adding different and new incremental mini challenges each week when we can. Even if it's running .25mi further or adding weights, or anything like that?
@triwellnessgirl so excited for you that you went back to crossfit!! I can't wait! You're doing so awesome in your recovery I'm so glad this whole experience has been so positive for you. You have such a positive outlook- I can tell that your mental strength is having an influence on your swift healing.
1: How many weeks or days left to go / weeks or days post-partum? 4 weeks PP
2: What are your goals for the week ahead? Same as last week, just generally want to keep moving in general each day. I think I need to be better about eating more though. I don't think I'm eating enough during the day.
3: How was last week? Last week was good. Got out for at least a little each day.
4: Any new challenges or needed modifications you want to share?? Just coping to my help being gone and starting to do thing on my own which makes any kind of personal time impossible at the minute
5: How are/have you treated your self? Celebrate your body and its accomplishments! Went out to brunch with some girlfriends on Sunday. Three of us have babies and one is pregnant. Our table was mom awesomeness. Haha!
6: Questions, Concerns, Rants, Raves, Randoms? Ok, two rants here (but they're related)... one, im really getting really frustrated with being stuck on the couch nursing/nursing on demand. I know I need to learn to be flexible and understand I can't get things done on a schedule like before, but I'm finding it really frustrating not being able to plan things. My related second is that DH has been working until 10pm every night AND is working weekends until the end of the month. So I'm by myself at home ALL day with no help to take the baby for a minute so I can eat or shower... no one to help get me food or things when Cían cluster feeds for 3 straight hours in the evenings... or to help take care of our dog. I feel like a single mom. I'm trying to remind myself that this is temporary... and I knew his schedule would be this way... but I'm SO sick of his schedule. Mind you, he's been working crazy hours since the beginning of March... I just need a break from mom-ing doing things other than chores and basic hygiene.
7: GTKY: What 3 things do you think of the most each day?
1) omg I love this baby so much !
2) how am I going to plan out eating today?
3) is it nap time yet?
1: How many weeks or days left to go / weeks or days post-partum? Thursday will be 1 week pp
2: What are your goals for the week ahead? Get more sleep & rest, stay hydrated, walk at least around our neighborhood each day
3: How was last week? This past week has been an absolute blurry whirlwind. I'm a mom!!!! I pushed a baby out of me!! I still can't believe sometimes that he's here & mine & that my body has done as much as it has this past week.
4: Any new challenges or needed modifications you want to share??
5: How are/have you treated your self? Celebrate your body and its accomplishments! I painted my toes & shaved!! Little things like these bring me joy haha... I've only left the house once since we've been home (not including our first stop after the hospital, which was DH's parents house since his mom is pretty much bedridden so we stopped there before coming home so they could meet their first grandchild) to go to DS's pedi appt with DH on Monday. I have been walking outside around our neighborhood a little bit more each day & yesterday we did a nice family walk to the park at the end of our culdesac - I'd like to do that going forward every day or just spend some time outside whenever the weather allows.
6: Questions, Concerns, Rants, Raves, Randoms? I posted a long rant in the bitchfest thread about DH as I nursed DS and then after posting it realized the milk I had just gathered from my leakage (? not sure what to call it but as DS feeds from the first side I'm able to get almost an ounce from the other side using my shell things...building up a "drippings" collection for future bottle feedings) but anyway-it spilled over on the table & that was the last thing that broke me down & I had a little pity party & cried for the first time in idk how long. DH came home right at that time of course and realized I was upset and we had a tiny talk and kissed a couple times (which we haven't kissed more than one peck since DS's birth) and he's been holding DS since the last feeding so I was able to get a nice hot shower & eat. Hopefully we'll be back on the joint parenting page together again now.
7: GTKY: What 3 things do you think of the most each day?
1-when's DS's next feeding?
2-how cuteeee is this little guy?! I love him so much!
3-I hope my relationship with DH will stay strong through this all...I already miss "us" how we were (ah! cue more tears now, I guess the waterworks are open & flowing now, stupid hormones)
Edited because words are hard ;p
@jenny0228 so glad to hear you're getting out. And I felt the same way after Cían was born. I kept thinking "I'm a mom, this is so weird. I have a son!"
had a talk with DS last night (and by talk I was just crying). DH seemed to understand where I was coming from and apologized for all the hours. He also found out yesterday he's getting a raise AND bonus. So we agreed we're going to have the cleaner come weekly to awhile to help in the apartment. Feeling a lot more positive today.
@serenity13 - sounds like you and your husband are doing a great job talking things through! I have the same fears, that the baby and our new lifestyle will change our relationship. I think things will change but I hope for the better. We made a pact before Oscar came that we wouldn't give each other the silent treatment if something was wrong (we both have a tendency to let things simmer until they boil over) and that we'd try to recognize when we were fighting because of lack of sleep or stress. So far so good, but I know at some point it will be tested more rigorously. Totally know where you are coming from though being concerned about your relationship.
@kjd291 HOORAY cleared for workout! So excited for you! Maybe you can sweat the vertigo out! Can't wait to hear how it goes for you.
Guys so I made a very hard decision today. I'm going to formula feed DS beginning on Friday, after his 2 week weight check. The stress of this, getting 1hr of sleep at a time trying to keep up with the demanding boob/bottle/pump schedule around the clock has worn me down. It's going on day 13 and after talking to a lactation consultant today, I have all the markers for low production or no production. I have pretty much every single one except for breast reduction surgery, including family history. My sister had the same issue. The woman I spoke to was very realistic, instead of being encouraging just to be encouraging, she told me that my chance of this working is pretty low at this point. There are people that share stories with me of women who pumped and kept up the schedule for a month or more and then their milk miraculously came in, but I feel like I just know it's over for me. I feel like I'd know if this was meant to be or not, and honestly, after the difficult birth experience, my body is TIRED. I never really recouperated after that, and couple that with the mental stress of feeling like I'm failing my baby (I know I'm not....but of course it's hard to shake that guilt) I decided with DH today that fed is best and my little guy was starting to show signs that he doesn't want to breastfeed, he's so little, but he's already figuring out that it's not worth his effort there because he's hungry and the bottle gets him fed faster. I'm sad about it, a little heartbroken actually, but this is for the best and I'm just going to move forward to take care of Oscar the best I can, which includes taking care of myself so that I can be more present for him. I'm going to continue to offer him to breastfeed whenever it seems like he wants to, but I'm assuming once I stop pumping my supply will dry up.
No one can warn you about the mom guilt-it's.the. worst!!!! Easier said than done-but: show yourself grace, Enjoy the cuddles, and let the stress go!
I just wish there was motivation in a bottle something that could jump start a more positive mindset for me. Alas.. at least knowing that doesn't exist helps lol
At least my babies are happy and healthy. AND I had the most incredible dream of running last night. It felt so very good in my dream I had to share.
@triwellnessgirl Back to crossfit already?!?! You're such a BA!!
@kjd291 ugh I can't believe what you are going through for this vertigo mess. I can only imagine how frustrating. I hope you're able to get in sooner rather than later.
@npaulie Horray for cleaners! Seriously worth the investment in mama's sanity.
@jenny0228 I am so very sorry to hear about your milk production. I know very personally how heart breaking that can be. When I got pregnant with Emilynn DS was only 9 months old and I lost my supply quickly. I'm sorry I know that is much longer than you got with Oscar but I was very heartbroken. I tried to fight my supply loss so very hard and I think that made it worse. Is it weird to say I'm proud of you? Oh well... I'm proud of you and the level to which your accepting this and acknowledging it's not worth your stress levels, lack of sleep etc. You're a fantastic mama for doing whats best for you and that little man so quickly. The disappointment does get easier. ((Hugs))
@vino831 hope the positive mindset you seek is found! It's so hard to not focus on the number on the scale-but it's so relative. Try to focus on being healthy and happy for your babies and the number will follow.
Im shocked that 6wks PP I still have 25lbs to go till pre/pregnancy weight. At this point with DD1 I only had 10 to lose but i looked HUGE. This time I've got the 25 and I don't look at all as big.
All to say//the numbers don't matter! But I've been there--they can really get you down. Esp these back to back babies! Think of what we've been through!? 9mo pregnancy-9mo nursing-10mo pregnancy (yay for overdue babies) haha. And now on to nursing again!! Your body is badass ....my motto on repeat: show yourself grace!!!
@serenity13 you look amazing! 25lbs is going to be nothing for you to lose!
@vino831 sorry to hear you're in a funk! I bet the whole30 meal plan will be a nice reset. I know when I eat better I feel better mentally. Speaking of which... I should probably be doing something similar now that I've passed the 2 week PP mark! Your dream sounds so nice too... running won't be too far off!! 4 weeks PP for you already just a few more weeks until you can get back to sweating out some of the funk!
Beautiful weather here today. Did a mile walk the other day, going to try for a bit farther today. And I'm cleared to drive since I'm 2 weeks PP today! Yay!
@kjd291 was there any sort of exam or what did they do to give you the all clear? I can't remember from with DS if it was an exam or nothing much.