Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Would you rather?!
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? Oh wow that is tough! I would say lose my sex organs.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? Bleh! Gross. I would rather people think I did than actually having done so.
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? Definitely DH's parents. Gives me an excuse to hide in the bathroom and escape their verbal diarrhea.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? Haha I guess a watermelon.
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worst house in a fancy neighborhood. I'm not a "keeping up with the jones" type person any way and would prefer a safe neighborhood for my kids.
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? Sex organs for sure.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? if y'all saw my cousins you would know it wasn't true, so you can think it haha.
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? SOs parents. But we don't speak to his mom and only see his dad once a year.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? this one I don't know! Maybe tennis ball. You cant fit in a car easily with a watermelon head.
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worsr house in a fancy neighborhood. I feel like the fanciest house in a bad neighborhood is a bullseye for someone to break in. If I have the crappy house no one will bother.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? geeez I guess sex organs... but that only wins by a hair.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? Everyone can think I did. I generally DGAF.
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? Well MIL passed away and FIL isn't in the picture so that's an easy one.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? My family has abnormally large heads so I'll go with a watermelon.
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worst house in a shitty neighborhood because again IDGAF.
2) Does everyone include DH?.. ugh i guess I'd just let everyone think it so I could at least live with myself. So gross.
3) Since I'm a SAHM does that make my children my boss? If so, in laws all the way.
4) Tennis ball. I can't imagine the neck pain from a watermelon head.
5) The worst house in a fancy neighborhood. It's likely to be nicer than the best house in a shitty neighborhood, safer, in a good school district, and you could still enjoy all of the neighborhood amenities.
1) Lose Sex Organs
2) Everyone just think I did
3) In-laws - I see them way less than my boss
4) Watermelon - it at least looks slightly normal
5) Worst house in a fancy neighborhood for sure
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? Lose my sex organs, I guess.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? My cousins are all very weird, so I'd rather not have sex with them, but everyone assume I did.
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? My SO's parents are dead, so I'm going with them.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? Watermelon
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worst house in a fancy neighborhood, for sure. You can always fix it up, right?
2.have everyone think I did
3. DH's parents (both have passed though)
4. Watermelon
5. Worst house in best neighborhood. Always can improve and safety.
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? Gain 200lbs. I would just make my H gain 200lbs too so I wouldn't feel as bad having sex.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? Um, option 2.
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? I don't have a boss so I will take option 1.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? Tennis ball. Watermelons are way to heavy.
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worst house in a fancy neighborhood.
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? I love sex too much. I am the oddball who votes the 200 lbs.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? I rather people think I did because if I actually did, I would know and that would torture me. If everyone one just thought I did, they are the jerks, not me.
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? DH's parents. I see them maybe 6 times a year due to distance, but I see my boss daily.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? Watermelon
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worst house because shitty neighborhoods have shitty crime rates, schools, and hospitals too usually. I can handle a shitty house that I can make better.
Definitly have people think I did bc gross and also my boy cousins are either gay or total ass holes.
In laws. I see my boss everyday.
Watermelon.
Def worst house. Its the financially responsible move. Get it for a bargain, fix it up, sell it for a big profit.
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? Gain 200 lbs. I love "doin it", and then I'd just have more cushion for the pushin!
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did? Hurl.....
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? Lol... wow. SO parents. We're all family so, the would just have to deal with it.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? I have a pretty huge head right now. I'm going to say tennis ball, and hope that my little one takes after me.
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? Worst house in a fancy neighborhood. You can always fix it up... and you have a better chance that it will go up in price!
2. I'd rather everyone thought I had sex, because I can totally just move away. Lol.
3. SO's parents, definitely. Maybe then they'd stop hanging around us so much!
4. Watermelon? Maybe then my brain would be proportioned and I'd be a genius? (Looking for a silver lining to gigantor head)
5. Worst house in fancy neighborhood. We don't steer clear of the DIY and there would likely be resale value later.
1. Would you rather lose your sex organs forever or gain 200lbs for the rest of your life? I'd rather be healthy and possibly sexless than shorten my life by all those weight gaining risk factors. I'd be exhausted all the time. No fun.
2. Would you rather have sex with your cousin in secret or not have sex with your cousin but everyone would think you did?
3. Would you rather get explosive diarrhea every time you meet your boss or every time you meet your SO’s parents? They're more forgiving and not in charge of the meetings I get to attend or my career path.
4. Would you rather have a head the size of a tennis ball or the size of a watermelon? Similar reasons to question #1.
5. Would you rather have the best house in a shitty neighborhood or the worst house in a fancy neighborhood? They have nice parks.
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