STM registry

CSL522 · April 2017

Didn't find anything in the history and haven't seen any recent STM+ posts recently. For those who are STM+ , did you/are you having a registry and/or baby shower for subsequent babies? I have a DS who will be 2 in July and am pregnant with a girl this time. Family members have said they want to give me a small baby shower. We don't need any big items but what did you register for the second time around? Thanks!

cmar1006 · April 2017

I am going to do one because we are having twins. Mostly I've done it so far so I can save things that I want/need to buy. My family has been talking about a shower to help us get things we need for two, but I'm not really counting on anyone buying big ticket items we'll need.

Stroller, crib, rock'n'play, etc...

Sprite2012 · April 2017

I have a registry going on both Amazon and Target, but I'm not sharing it with anyone. It's my own list of things "must-haves". But really, I just want the completion coupon for the big ticket items, if I need them!

No shower. I didn't want one the first time and had two because family/friends insisted. Showers are NMS.

Dmurphy10 · April 2017

I am not having a shower/sprinkle, not sure if sprinkles are big anywhere else but where I am from people will have these for a second baby, but I have created a registry on BRU. Basically just a list of things that I will need for baby #2 and I add things as I buy them for DD so I can get the gift card in the end. My only large purchase will be a double stroller since I will now have two under two. Just like other have said I have not shared the registry with anyone it is just for me to keep track at this point.

ColoradoHiker · April 2017

One of my friends from DS' birth month board just said this morning that she got some really good coupons with her Target baby registry. I'm signing up for a registry there, but just for the completion coupons- not sharing with anyone.

As for a shower, we're not planning on having one. We'll find out at the end of the month if it's a boy or girl, but DS was born in November, and in general the clothes should be okay for this LO if it's a boy. We are, however, planning on having a small BBQ with immediate family and a few close friends during the summer. Truthfully, we haven't gotten a single card from our extended families this time around (seriously, no one really cares after you have your first kid), so even if we wanted another shower, I wouldn't see a point to it.

MyNamesTaken · April 2017

Nothing here. DS will be three next month so we have everything we need. We might have a couple things to pick up but we'll buy those ourselves.

I'm not a fan of second showers. You've already been welcomed to motherhood so you don't need it again. They're seen as rude in my circle so I'm not even considering one. We're team green anyway so any clothes we might need we'll get after baby arrives.

That said, a registry the second time around that isn't widely publicized is no big deal. People will buy gifts for the second baby whether there's a party or not and if they happen to find a list of suggestions, even better.

beccam1230 · April 2017

Honestly, if I were having a girl, I probably would have had a shower and a registry, just because I have massive amounts of little boy things and my family would have gone nuts with girl clothes, haha. But I'm happily having another sweet little boy! I don't really even want a shower this time. I have everything I need! The only thing I'll be buying is a new carseat. I do have an amazon registry, but that's pretty much just for me because this baby will be born in colder weather, while DS was born in the spring! If I do any other registries, they'll still be for me just to keep track of the things I want. If I didn't have all the things I had from DS still, I would have registered for a rock n play, a swing, which doubles as a bouncy chair, I have a bassinet, but DS hated it so we will see about this one, and those are really the most used things I can think of early on!

SummerGirl21 · April 2017

I made a registry last time around (kid #2) and this time around (kid #3). There are usually people who will want to get you a gift, and directing them to a registry is the easiest thing IMO. I don't announce it or anything, but if someone asks, I'll tell them where I'm registered and then they can pick something if they want to.

I register for things that might need replacing or that I just will need more of (diapers, breastmilk storage bags, baby soap, crib sheets/changing pad covers, etc) and usually some cute outfits or clothing items because everyone likes buying those.

ETA: If someone offers to throw you a shower, I say let them. It makes them happy and it's nice to have a little celebration about you and baby. But I would never ask for one after the first baby, even if it is a different gender. I think it's in poor taste to do that.

lilpoots · April 2017

We're having another boy and we kept most things from the first. I suspect we won't need much other than new bottle nipples and a car seat when he's ready to go into a convertible. I'll consider making a private registry and share it with folks who are persistent. I suspect we'll cloth diaper for the first six months again, so no need to stock up on diapers. We are here in California so I doubt we'll need many new clothes either, but who knows.

Souptin · April 2017

Maybe its regional but where I am you just don't have showers for subsequent babies ( its considered gift grabby because you were already welcomed to motherhood with your first) I hadn't even thought about a registry but I like the ideas the other girls here have of getting completion discounts and just not sharing it with anyone. I am ALLLLLLL about saving a buck! Sex depending for clothes we dont really need that much, my son is 2 so most of his things are still fine to pass down. I'll need a few pieces of clothes ( seasons will be off for these kids Spring VS fall) replace some bottles and get new tubing and supplies for my breastpump/ breastfeeding supplies maybe a few other odds and sods but its pretty limited list.

lilpoots · April 2017

@Souptin 2nd showers are uncommon and usually frowned upon here in California.

@CSL522 there is a baby shower board under specialty where you can find more information on stms and what they might be doing, etiquette, etc.

jessieR358 · April 2017

Nope, no registry over here for a second baby. That's considered tacky around where I am. We're just buying the big stuff ourselves and my mom said she wants to buy some things. I'm sure close friends will get us gifts after the baby is here, but I don't expect anything.

awildrose · April 2017

We've moved 4 times since my second was born and downsized each time. I didn't have much baby stuff when we got pregnant again. I have an Amazon and Target registry for myself and the coupons. My mom asked for the links and I gave them to her, but they're not something I'm making public. I didn't have a shower or sprinkle with #2, but no one offered either. My mom and BF want to throw one for #3 since it's been so long and this baby is a different gender, and I'm letting them. I wouldn't have a shower/sprinkle if they didn't offer first.

ETA: DH and I have already taken care of our big stuff- furniture and bigger gear items. The last "big" item I need is a car seat which DH and I plan to get in June ourselves.

CSL522 · April 2017

Thanks everyone for the input. I would absolutely not expect a second shower but again family have pretty much said they want to give me one since this baby is a girl (and only girl grandchild) and our first baby was a boy. Which is why I'm having the dilemma of whether to register and what to even put on there. We have everything from our son that we will use like crib, highchair, swing, etc. I will check out the baby shower board, thanks.

Inanigloo · April 2017

No shower here. I consider it incredibly tacky to have second showers personally. I know some friends that have had one and it generally did not go over well.

We have a registry created but it is for our use only to keep track of what we need unless someone were to ask. We sold everything last summer because our fertility clinic pretty much threw in the towel with us and we were at that point too. But I would never expect/hope anyone to buy things because of that.

sugarrush · April 2017

I have never been to a 2nd timer baby shower and I obviously am not having one for myself.

However I do have a registry for myself at Target, but this is strictly for things I am buying for myself and the only other person who knows I have this is my mom for when she buys me stuff. I have been stocking up on diapers, new bottle nipples, bottle liners, new baby blankets, etc.. I like the registry because you have 1 year from the "event date" which I just put my due date, so if I over-buy on diapers, I can exchange it through my registry and not have to worry about receipt expiration.

cchenal07 · April 2017

I am a STM and we made an Amazon and Target registry. Mostly for us to keep track of what to buy and also for the coupons and free stuff. My children will be 8 yrs apart. We agreed for friends to throw us a celebration bbq, but I want to make sure our registry is not on the invites and people know gifts are not required. We will only give it to our family who already asked. We waited many years for this child so we want it to be about family and friends who have been on this journey with us!

DPandMB · April 2017

I'm registering for the points and coupons. I will not be sharing or having a shower. I may share the registry with family members if they ask for it.

mcdoug211 · April 2017

I have a registry going at target and Amazon mostly to keep track of the few things we need. I saved all my firsts clothes so hopefully no one gets those lol. One of my husbands friends wives is insisting on throwing a shower despite my actual need of anything, very sweet but I hate when attention is on me and we don't have that many people to even invite..

kelseyrayay · April 2017

I'm not doing a registry. But my sister insists on throwing me a diaper shower. So I put a tiny list like rash cream wipes ect so people can have a idea of stuff I don't have

mamagabby-2 · April 2017

I have an Amazon registry going for the discount, but will not be having a big baby shower. My mom friend group also usually has a sprinkle dinner and everyone pitches in $10 for a bunch of diapers, etc.

Sprite2012 · April 2017

I could get on board with a bunch of diapers. Maybe that's what I'll say when people ask what I need - diapers!

JNR6510 · April 2017

I've been to diaper parties for STMs before. Baby showers for the second or third kid are frowned upon here.

kaylaakosua · April 2017

I have a target registry mainly to keep track of everything. FI only had girls and since splitting with my ex I don't have much. I'm not having a sower though and will only be giving my registry to family if they ask because I will be moving to another country so they have already mentioned they want to help out. Just small items though, diapers, outfits, few toys etc no big ticket items.

jlf1019 · April 2017

I love the idea of creating a private registry just for the discounts. Who gives the best completion discounts and/or coupons???

My church pretty much throws a diaper shower for every new baby in the church, whether it's first, second, etc. So I am expecting them to offer one to us. Honestly, it makes me uncomfortable to feel like I'm asking for things my second time around. But it's something the women of the church do for every new baby, so I'd feel bad saying no. It's very casual -- usually just held during the women's Sunday School class before the church service. I do think having another full-on baby shower is tacky and I would decline one if it were offered to us.

We are having another girl so we have most everything we need, but diapers are always welcome! There are a couple bigger things I'd love to purchase myself though (double stroller, etc.) that would be nice to have a discount for!

hatrats · April 2017

I haven't created any registries yet, but I plan to at some point mostly just for the discounts and keeping track of what I need. It'll basically be a stroller, car seats, diaper bag, and small things like diapers, cream, pacifiers, bottle parts, etc. I won't be sharing the registry links unless I'm asked.
I have no plans for a shower, but if someone really wants to throw one I'll ask that it be a small low-key thing where it's just diapers, etc, if people even bring gifts. We are also having another girl so we are lucky to not need much.

moto_mom · April 2017

I had a registry for Baby#2 that was not shared unless someone wanted suggestions of what to buy for the baby. I used it as a shopping checklist mainly and to get the free goodie bag/coupons from BRU. On the registry I think we had put clothes, bottles, a baby bullet, a bouncer, and diapers/wipes. We either had or bought the big stuff already before we even made the registry.

It's common in my family/circle of friends to have full-blown baby showers for subsequent children. It's tacky IMO and I politely declined offers for a second shower when I was pregnant w/Baby#2.

msashley2010-2 · April 2017

I'm going to be creating a registry just to take advantage of coupon codes that I can use for myself if I buy from my registry. I will not be providing the registry information to anyone else.

I will be having a pre baby get together in town to celebrate. The youngest of my SO's nieces is pushing 30 and there are zero boys in the family. The fact that there's a new baby and the first boy of this generation is huge deal to everyone. We will probably do a barbecue with beer and games and if anyone wants to bring anything they can but we will not be asking for any.

sugarpixxie2 · April 2017

We live out of state and when I visit my family in Junes my mom is dying to throw me a baby shower. My neighbor is here in the state of living in also want to throw a jack&jill shower but secretly I think it's just a reason to have a barbecue/ party.

My kids will be 9 and 11 so we are starting over with baby stuff. I kind of feel bad about having a shower, and we make a lot more money than my parents or probably anyone in my family so I'm really not looking for handouts or presents from any of them. But honestly my mother is so excited about this and regardless of our financial situations she sees it as her role to take care of me . I'm going to let it happen. I don't feel as bad the neighborhood one because these people make a lot more money than I do they are a lot older than us and they just need a reason to party and a reason to spend some money.

The only thing that really makes me feel awkward about it is deciding what to add to my registry. I'm not a really fancy flashy person but a lot of items I would buy for myself I feel bad adding to my registry because I want to be budget minded for them. I want to add the Britax stroller system but I could add the Graco one for over $100 less. I feel like adding the more expensive things that I truly want is being greedy but I would have no problem just buying these things myself. My first two kids I was 19 years old and 22 years old and broke and I bought everything from garage sales and second hand. I will probably buy a nursery Furniture second hand this time around just because I'm still all about a bargain and can't make sense of spending $1,000 on a crib and changing table and chair. I just feel like even though they really want to throw me a shower that they are going to judge what I'm adding to my registry.

mrsmarygs · April 2017

@sugarpixxie2 Why not have two registries maybe at different places. So for your neighborhood one you could do an amazon or BRU registry and have more of your high ticket items. And then for your mom's baby shower you could put the less expensive things like clothes, diapers, bottles, wipes, etc. Most of your family is probably going to want to buy the cute clothes anyways and may not even bat an eye about the large things not being on the registry.

sugarpixxie2 · April 2017

@mrsmarygs Yes that's a good idea. Also, I am completely aware this is a first world problem of mine

FutureBabyLMom · April 2017

@sugarpixxie2 Why not add both to the registry. I only say this as a way that if you do it your self you will get the completion discount coupon on that item. Then everyone will know what you like as well and let them decide.

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