Plus Size 3/29

SuzieMay827 · March 2017

Hello and Happy Hump Day to all you plus size ladies!

This is an informal thread where we can chatter away about all things plus size (or anything else really).

As always, let's represent on the HDBD board because all bodies are beautiful, especially when they are growing tiny humans! But if you are uncomfortable in the main thread, you are welcome to post your Bump pics here.

GTKY: What is your best worst joke? (A joke so bad that it's good)

SuzieMay827 · March 2017

First, I wanted to say I'm so thankful for what a supportive group of women this thread has brought together. I love that more new people are feeling comfortable joining in and everyone takes the time to respond to one another. I know this happens in this community in many threads but there's something about this one that is near and dear to my heart.

At 17w4d I definitely feel like I'm looking pregnant rather than just being chunky, which is exciting. Also I have my anatomy scan this upcoming Monday and I can't wait to see little peanut!!!

I'm a little disappointed this week as fast as my fitness is concerned. I injured my ankle several years ago jumping out of a tree (I swear I was sober...maybe) and was in a boot for 5 months. It resprains itself randomly every now and then ever since and its picked now to act up. So even walking had been difficult which had left me feeling guilty because the eight is creeping on lately.

Also, I told my grandma the name we have picked out for baby boy and her response was "I'm surprised and disappointed that after everything your father has done for you and all the support he's given you over the years that you are'nt naming the baby after him." It was possibly the most hurtful thing someone has said to me in quite some time. I love my father very much and I know how fortunate I am. But for her to suggest I was ungrateful because I am not naming my son after him felt awful. Many tears were shed but at this point I have to remember she's kind of a crazy old lady and I can't take it personally. My dad loves the name, as do DH and I, so that's what matters.

GTKY: What is your best worst joke?
What's green and has wheels?... Grass. I was just kidding about the wheels.
What do an elephant and a plum have in common?... They're both purple... Except for the elephant.

dogdisnylovr · March 2017

@SuzieMay827 I'm sorry to hear about the comment your grandmother made. It's really hard to believe that she would expect you to name your son after your dad. I don't know what all your "father has done for you" but sounds like he was being a super awesome and supportive dad like a father should. And just based on that, no need to name your son after him. Head up! Some grandparent's are set in their ways; I know my grandpa is.

I am 14w3d. I was just looking at and admiring all the adorable bumps on the HBDB thread and got a little jealous. I have no bump yet, still looks like bloat. And I am wearing the same pants that I have worn for years, they are getting slightly tighter though.

I really need to step up my exercise game. It's just been so rainy here it's hard to find the time.

I've been thinking lately about all the "tests" that some people have had. The ones that tell them their baby's chances of abnormalities and that tell the sex of the baby. There are several names for them, one maybe being Panorama? Anyways, I was never offered any of those tests or an NT scan. The only thing I have coming up is the glucose test and then the A/S. It just had me worried a little that if something is abnormal I will never know. The only test I remember my Dr. asking about is the amniocentesis and we didn't want to do that. Maybe because our location does have the most up to date medical stuff then those other types are tests aren't offered here. Did anyone else not have any of those tests done or an NT scan?

GTKY: What is your best worst joke?
I don't know if I have a "best worst joke" but here is one of my favorite corny jokes:
Knock Knock
Who's there?
Daisy
Daisy who?
Daisy me rollin', they hatin', patrolling they tryin to catch me ridin' dirty.

SuzieMay827 · March 2017

@dogdisnylovr thanks! My dad does go above and beyond because he loves being a dad, but nothing outrageous. I was really surprised at her response but she's old and set in her ways. I think it's also that my brother is not interested in having his own children so the family name is dying, etc. So I'm trying to not worry about it.
I had the Panorama done. However, it was optional as I am low risk. We decided to go ahead because MIL has aggressive ovarian cancer and may not be here when Baby is born, so we wanted to make sure we found out as much as we could as early as possible so we could celebrate with her. BUT before we decided on doing it my doctor told me that we could also just wait and see how the anatomy scan goes and if there is anything concerning we could do the Panorama test at that point. It's not a test with a "window" of time. You can take it whenever, it's just most people take it asap around 9-12 weeks. So don't worry, if your doctor is concerned it's still an option!

mercury94 · March 2017

@dogdisnylovr I was told the NT scan was optional. I did it because my insurance covered it and I wanted the 12 week u/s. Now I wish I hadn't, because it came back with the increased risk of T13 and T18. I have since done a bunch of research about the test and learned it generally causes more worry than necessary. Basically, a positive result is still a less than 1% chance that something is wrong with the baby. I'm waiting for NIPT results now, but this will probably be the longest week of my life waiting for results.

@SuzieMay827 I'm sorry your grandma did that. I don't know why people get so upset about things like that. Was your dad named after her dad?

I'm doing okay except for the added stress of the abnormal NT results. I'm an emotional stress eater, so I'm trying extra hard to pay attention to what I'm eating.

Best worst joke:
Where does the king keep his armies? In his sleevies.

DH has a ton of them. I'll come back with more if he gives me a good one.

dogdisnylovr · March 2017

@SuzieMay827 Thanks for the information about the Panorama. It was never even mentioned and I kept meaning to mention it when I went in but once I am in there my mind goes blank and I say "no I don't have any questions." Good to know that one doesn't have a window of time, I assumed it did since I heard others did. Sorry to hear about your MIL! Thoughts and prayers for you all!

@bridge-and-wall That makes me feel better, thank you. I did have an couple extra ultrasounds (that were not charged to my insurance) because I had a vanishing twin and they wanted to monitor it. Each ultrasound the tech said everything looks great, so we will go with that.

Dumb question, and I probably could Google but sometimes Google causes additional anxiety. Is the A/S a more involved ultrasound? I originally thought the purpose of it was to tell you the gender, but now I am thinking it is much more.

SuzieMay827 · March 2017

From what I understand, the a/s is a level 2 ultrasound. They look at all the organs, ie the four chambers of the heart and they look at the brain to make sure there's no risk of microceohally (I can't sleep), etc. They count fingers and toes and all that too. But take my info with a grain of salt because I'm a FTM and this is all what I've read on Google and such.

latershrader · March 2017

I'm running behind today. It's my busy season at work and I'm just slammed.
I am now 16+1 and feeling great. Nothing to crazy to deal with so I'm thankful. The weather has been good so we've been walking each evening. We are also trying to eat at home more, in an effort to be healthier and more budget conscious. It's going well. I've maintained my weight, so that's good! No bump pics from me. I have too much belly and there is NO bump to speak of besides what was already there! I'm still in my regular clothes too, but the maternity stuff is SUPER comfy!

GTKY: Have you ever smelled moth balls? You have?! How'd you get between their tiny legs!?!

@SuzieMay827 What your grandma said is something my old southern grandmother would have said. She's passed away so I will not have to deal with that, thank goodness. This part of the reason we are not going to tell anyone his name. I don't want judgement on what we pick. His name will be his name and that's that. I am sorry your feeling got hurt so badly. But your dad sounds like doesn't give a damn...he's just excited for his grandson to arrive! Also I love our board too! Thanks for making the post each week!!

@dogdisnylovr I did ALL the extra tests due to my age (almost 40). But I think if you ask you can certainly get them done. I'm sure they will tell you if there are any risks at your A/S though. And as far as your bump goes, just be amazed that you have a tiny human in there! That's a miracle!

@bridge-and-wall Hoping for good results from your NIPT. Prayers and good thoughts heading your way.

SuzieMay827 · March 2017

Update on my Grandma. I had emailed her to tell her that she had hurt my feels and this was the response she gave:
Well dear one, I sure didn’t mean to hurt your feelings. I just assumed with the trip(s) you have taken together he would be the one. My mom always said you cannot assume anything as it just makes an ass of yourself and that is what I did…ASSume begins with those first 3 letters.

) As you know, I love you dearly. My apologies for upsetting you.

So I thought that was unexpected and sweet. Grandma is back on my good side for now. She is just very stuck in her ways and I need to take things with a grain of salt while pregnant and extra sensitive.

missyrosek · March 2017

@dogdisnylovr I had the NT scan and had the optional genetics blood test, as well. I'll be 35 when I deliver (so considered advanced maternal age) and high-risk because I have a chronic illness, so everything was covered by insurance. It was a stressful week waiting for the blood test results, but everything came back fine and we found out we're having a girl!

mrsvp614 · March 2017

@SuzieMay827 So glad you smoothed things over with Grandma! Sounds like she genuinely didn't mean to hurt your feelings.
@dogdisnylovr We did the Counsyl Informed Pregnancy Screening because my aunt has Turners Syndrome and my brother also has a genetic disorder. We have the sex results in my email, but we're team green, so we did the test for medical reasons, based on my family history. I agree with you that it's nice to have options, but I also agree with PP that your risk is probably low if it hasn't been offered.

I cannot seem to get my eating under control. I feel like I'm constantly hungry/snacking.
I haven't gotten in activity either. I work 2am-11am, so if the weather's not nice when I get home from work, I usually just go to bed and tell myself I need the extra sleep. The next 2 weeks, I'll work 4-noon, then 11pm-8am, so my schedule will be all over the place. Blah.

GTKY: What is your best worst joke?
How do you make a hankie dance? ... Put a little boogie in it!

jena333-2 · March 2017

@SuzieMay827 Oh that's awful of her to say to you

Grandparents are amazing, but they can be ornery about the strangest things. To the day she died, my grandmother was a little butthurt that my parents made my middle name Lynn instead of Louise (her mn). I'm so glad you reached out and said something and got a positive email back from her.

@dogdisnylovr As I understand it, NT scans and the "associated" tests are typically offered if you're older (I'll be 35 before the baby comes) or have a family history. If you decide you want to push for it, contact your insurance company FIRST. I am battling with my insurance people because they're trying to tell me my Panorama test isn't a "proven" test, and they want me to pay $5000 for it.

I'm 16+2 today. Feeling ok (some bleeding yesterday morning, but was back to "normal" spotting by lunch). Just achy, a little crampy, and still tired. Waiting for the fabled second trimester energy to kick in. I was telling H last night that I need to be doing something exercise wise. It's still pretty cold here (mid 30s), so when it warms up a bit more I think I'll start walking after work/before dinner.

Weight wise I'm still holding strong at the -4lbs from when I weighed myself at 4 weeks. I know much of my "bump" is fat, but it has changed shape, and I'm more comfortable with it because I know it's also intestines and stuff that pushed up to make way for our little Zeb. H caught me standing in front of the full length mirror this morning before getting dressed for work and responded perfectly (rubbed down where the baby is, and then "supported" my boobs, hah) and was just generally lovey.

GTKY: What is your best worst joke?
Why don't lobsters like to share?........... because they're shellfish!

dogdisnylovr · March 2017

@jena333 I remember you posting about that $5,000 a while ago. Is your insurance company still not agreeing to cover it? I'm so sorry! I can't even imagine getting a bill for that.

Thanks everyone for the information about the tests and scans. I guess it's not completely abnormal to not get one, just felt like the only one that hadn't had one done. I'm not AMA, no past history in the family, etc. So that's probably why. I'll just wait until the A/S is done an hopefully everything is good. If not we will go from there.

jena333-2 · March 2017

They're going to "get back to me." So I'm going to "not pay it." :P

mercury94 · March 2017

@jena333 I don't know anything about Panorama, but I didn't want to wait for insurance approval to do the NIPT after I got the call about abnormal results. When I did the MaterniT21, I saw that you can usually call the company running the test and get the bill lowered to a few hundred. They also have payment plan and payment assistance options. You might call if your insurance doesn't cover it. Mine should be covered (coded as needed due to abnormal serum results), but my insurance has yet to confirm.

wineren · April 2017

@jena333 I contacted a rep at the lab that runs panorama... For me it's Natera but I'm not sure if that's the only one. He told me that if you're out of network the cash price is only $100 and if you'd rather pay cash price but you're in network it's only $349. I'm not sure if there's a difference if the insurance won't pay, but hopefully it won't cost you $5000!

Jamiern01 · April 2017

@dogdisnylovr we didn't have any of the genetic testing or NT scan done either. We chose not to do them but my doctor only asked one time sort very casually if we wanted genetic tests. She never made a big deal about it.

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