Please reassure me, sortof connected to limbo question...

Re: Please reassure me, sortof connected to limbo question...

• DoubleDiamond

  January 2009

  Buy the book Fearless Pregnancy and read it.  This will help.

  "I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy." J.D. Salinger

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• erino&chrish

  January 2009

  I woke up with almost no belly a couple weeks ago when the bloat went down and felt the same way.  I just "popped" in the last couple days so I'm feeling better, but I definitely know what you are saying!  All my girlfriends say 16-18 weeks is the mark...hang in there.

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• *Bee*

  January 2009

  Yes, my symptoms and my belly disappeared the other day.  Then my belly came back.  Luckily my symptoms have not.  But I just listened to baby's heartbeat on a home doppler last night, so I know all is well in there. 

  Symptoms (including bloated belly) come and go - try not to worry about it. 

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• momto1

  January 2009

  Relax. It can be totally normal.  Many of those home heart monitors aren't able to detect so early--and often times mom's heartbeat can be confused for baby's....

  I felt this too with my first pregnancy.  I was on a business trip and was struck with some sort of total panic and I could not move on.  I was totally freaked out. You'll feel and look pregnant soon; so long as you aren't having any spotting or any major cramping, I am sure you are fine.  Call your doc if you need extra reassurance--you won't be the first one to make the call--- I promise!

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• mrs.larry member

  January 2009

  I feel like this sometimes, especially when I wake up in the middle of the night.  I'm sure it will pass once we start feeling the little one kicking in there.  As for now, try to enjoy your comfort before more discomfort sets in! that's what I'm trying to do.  GL.

  

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• Mrs_mam

  January 2009

  Every morning I wake up with hardly any belly. I have no symptoms except that I eat like a cow and am always thirsty. I sometimes feel like nothing is going on also, so I am looking forward to my apt. tomorrow so I can hear the heartbeat again! But don't worry, this is the "good time" when you feel better and get to think about other things besides where to puke

  
  

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• kates1976

  January 2009

  You aren't crazy... there is a weird period of time early in the second tri where you feel in limbo. ?I did. ?I finally had a tiny bump at 18 weeks, and just started feeling flutters within the past week. ?And the few symptoms I had in the first tri (food aversions, fatigue - luckily no m/s) went away right at about week 12. ?So for a good month and a half I felt in limbo.

  Patience is key here. ?You know the saying... "good things come to those who wait." ?You have nothing to be worried about, so start focusing on other stuff... to keep myself occupied I started pouring over items on BRU.com and made a private wish list. ?Not a registry, but just a list I could look at and potentially use as a registry eventually.?

  

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• bakemeacake

  January 2009

  Ugh, I felt like that ALL the time....much less so now that I've been feeling regular movement.  I don't understand the whole pregnancy thing AT ALL. 

   

  First off, dr.'s want you to believe that you've got a person growing inside you based on a line on a stick that you pee on.  Seriously....can I get something a little better than that?  And then, they won't even see you in the office until you're around 8 weeks pregnant which means you spend nearly an entire month unsure if the pregnancy is even viable (is it ectopic? am I miscarrying when I see spotting? etc.)  It's all very laissez-faire on the Dr.'s part, although they want you, the pregnant woman to suddenly change your entire way of life and all your "bad" habits (like eating sushi and drinking beer) based on a pee stick.

   

  And first trimester is miserable...although you tolerate it because it's a sign that you're still pregnant, right??  Finally, an outward sign that there's something growing in there.  So you suck it up and get used to puking/being constipated/strange cravings when....... 

  you  finally get to the second trimester and all the hellish things that went with the first trimester disappear, you have to adjust to a "new normal" without freaking out that suddenly you are no longer pregnant.

  Meanwhile, your dr.'s appointments are going fine, maybe they even hear the heartbeat, but that doesn't help you once you leave the office.  And it's not like the baby taps out morse code to let you know it's okay and everything's on track.

  The whole freaking process is SO nerve wracking and all anybody ever says is to relax, everything is going to be fine.  If I were renovating my house it's not like I would move out for 9 months and only check in with the contractor every 4 weeks and be calm about the process.

   

  Sorry, needed to vent.  
  

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• jolis_petits_bijoux

  January 2009

  I felt like that exactly - from about 11-16 weeks.  I was paranoid!  I thought for sureIt was the time after my constant nausea/hormonal-ness/fatigue ended, but before I started showing, and RLP began.  At 16/17 weeks, my belly popped out, and, that was it - I felt pregnant again.

  I know this isn't very reassuring, but - you're fine!  Enjoy this time where you feel like yourself again.  Don't worry about a miscarriage - I know I was - yes, the chance is always there, but it is so, so, small at 15 weeks - if something bad were going to happen with the baby, it would most likely have happened by now.

  In a couple/few weeks, you'll know for sure that baby is fine and you're pregnant again.

  

  

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• lhylcn

  January 2009

  Thank you guys so much, you rock.  I feel better...I can do it and hang in there and be tough

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