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I really need this thread.  Tell us who is being a twatwaffle on this beautiful spring day!
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Re: TW Tuesday

  • My TW is my husband! For the past couple years we have gone with his parents to AZ for a father/son baseball tournament at the end of October. I always look forward to it and we have a great time. But it is a 20+ hour drive so we always fly. If I get KU in the next two months, that would put me in 3rd tri at that time so I wouldn't be able to go. Since his parents started asking about it, H and I decided we would just stall for the next couple months since its a big question mark at this point. So I just got a text from him saying that the price for the flight is really good and we should buy them now. When I asked him about TTC, he says we will just have to put that off for now......ummmmmm what???? After 6 months of not being able to even try, he now wants to "put it off?" I am seriously in shock. Ugh!
    Me: 29 DH:30
    Dating 03/31/2011 Married 10/18/2014
    DS Born 12/28/2017
    TTC #2 06/2019


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  • My TW is my husband! For the past couple years we have gone with his parents to AZ for a father/son baseball tournament at the end of October. I always look forward to it and we have a great time. But it is a 20+ hour drive so we always fly. If I get KU in the next two months, that would put me in 3rd tri at that time so I wouldn't be able to go. Since his parents started asking about it, H and I decided we would just stall for the next couple months since its a big question mark at this point. So I just got a text from him saying that the price for the flight is really good and we should buy them now. When I asked him about TTC, he says we will just have to put that off for now......ummmmmm what???? After 6 months of not being able to even try, he now wants to "put it off?" I am seriously in shock. Ugh!
    FWIW most airlines allow you to fly up to 34 weeks, so even if you got KU this cycle, you would be okay to fly in October!
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  • kvacmak- Really?! Is it just a myth that you aren't allowed to fly in the 3rd tri? I can't even remember where I heard that from, I just always "knew" it to be true. hm interesting. Thanks so much for the info!
    Me: 29 DH:30
    Dating 03/31/2011 Married 10/18/2014
    DS Born 12/28/2017
    TTC #2 06/2019


    stillclever17
  • RVAmom315RVAmom315 member
    edited March 2017
    @LaurenEG14 I second what @kvacmak said.  My former OB told me they just don't recommend pregnant ladies to fly in the first month or last month of pregnancy
    Me: 38 DH:39
    TTC #2 - August 2016
    MFI
    IUI #1-3 BFN 

    Heart Mom - DS 3/15/13
    BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
    LaurenEG14icecubeinthedesertstillclever17
  • @Dilynne - You've got to be kidding! Do you want me to finish or not, buddy!? Make up your mind!
    Me: 29 | DH: 29
    Married 12/2016
    DSS born 01/2016
    TTC since 01/2017
    Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
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  • AlohaKumuAlohaKumu member
    edited March 2017
    The military system is being a big, fat TW this morning. Honestly, after being in military relationships for over a decade, I am all for my husband getting out at this point, even if it screws with everything else. I'm sick of all these "surprises" that constantly disrupt our lives.
    Me: 35 DH: 28
    TTC since June 2016

    Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016

    AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
    Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
    October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
    29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
    Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
    12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
    2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
    Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
    ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
    Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
    Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
    12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
    Our journey has come to an end.
    ~*~*~Nevertheless, she persisted~*~*~
    stillclever17
  • @RVAmom315 why can't you fly in the first month of pregnancy?  I knew about the last month, but never heard about the first.
    stillclever17
  • @dilynne @EmilyLove25  Men are unbelievable! I'm glad I'm not that only one calling her husband a twatwaffle.  Now I don't feel bad about it!!!
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  • @TigerCakes Honestly I'm not sure, maybe something with the air pressure? I didn't think twice when she mentioned it *TW I was 29 weeks when I asked end TW*
    Me: 38 DH:39
    TTC #2 - August 2016
    MFI
    IUI #1-3 BFN 

    Heart Mom - DS 3/15/13
    BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
    stillclever17
  • @RVAmom315 Hmmm well now I'm worried! I travel a decent amount for work so not travelling in the first month wouldn't really be an option, especially since you don't really know you're pregnant until you get to the 2nd month.  I'm off to google haha.
  • @RVAmom315 - I'm also curious about flying in the first month and if your doctor elaborated?  And by first month would that be the first month you generally know? Because when you turn a pregnancy test you're usually more or less 4 weeks in (which is more or less a month).  So would you not fly if you're trying?  Or did your doctor mean the first month you know, which would it be up until 8 weeks?  Is it a first trimester thing because of potentially getting sick?  

    I hope my list of questions doesn't come off as me being snarky, I'm honestly curious.  

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    TTC Since 11/2015
    #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
  • @Tennis11785 No worries!  This was 4 years ago, but she just said they generally don't recommend flying in the first or last month of pregnancy.  Which, now that you mention it, is strange because you really "don't know" you're pregnant in the first month.  I didn't ask her to elaborate since I was asking specially about my situation at the time. @TigerCakes I'd definitely ask your OB his/her thoughts on that if you travel a lot.  I think it'd be very difficult to not fly when you're TTC especially if that's a large part of your job
    Me: 38 DH:39
    TTC #2 - August 2016
    MFI
    IUI #1-3 BFN 

    Heart Mom - DS 3/15/13
    BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
  • TW for me today is just myself. Seriously. It's like I willfully have a running interior dialogue that seeks out reasons for anxiety (and not just TTC related). Fun times! 
    *TW*

    DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015

    DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017

    BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019

    BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020 

    stillclever17
  • Although I hadn't heard recommendations not to fly in the first month, I wonder if it has anything to do with increased exposure to radiation when flying (not just from the security line). By having fewer cells at that point, DNA damage caused by radiation could cause a higher risk of miscarriage or defects. But I've never come across a scientific article studying this, so it's just speculation on my part.

    Me: 30 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17

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  • wabash15wabash15 member
    edited March 2017
    @tigercakes @RVAmom315 As far as I know there is nothing wrong with flying in the first month. TW***I flew multiple times  from weeks 2.5 (right after IUI)-7 while under care of an RE. If flying would have compromised the pregnancy in any way they would not have let me go. Also it was a twin pregnancy both of whom are normal toddlers. end TW***

    eta: you can opt for a pat down instead of the scanners...
    *TW*
    TTC 1/2012
    Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
    6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
    TTC #3 5/2016
    Restarted Fertility tx
    IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17

  • (FYI I just looked up the first trimester flying thing in my article database at work and found zilch. So even if there is a recommendation, it doesn't seem to be backed by anything)
    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
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    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
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  • A *TW* for this TW

    My husband's friend's girlfriend posts on Facebook about nothing but her baby. The one she used to trap her BF. Every. Damn. Post. She even comments on things she liked saying she didn't like them, the baby did. Like, we get it, you got KU on purpose because he was getting ready to dump you. But you have to have a life outside of your baby, right?
    Me: 28 DH: 29
    Married: 6/2016
    TTC #1: 12/2016
    Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!


    stillclever17EmilyLove25
  • @jsnakehole Oh my gosh, "I didn't like this, the baby did!" makes me want to vomit. As if the baby-trapping didn't already prove she was crazy...
    Me: 29 || DH: 29
    TTC #1 4/2016 || dx NIR PCOS 7/2016 || BFP 4/2017
    DD - 12/28/17 <3

    TTC #2 3/2019
    BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
    BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
    leekat14JJMNO1616stillclever17
  • A *TW* for this TW
    Snip-
    Like, we get it, you got KU on purpose because he was getting ready to dump you.
    So did she lie about being on BC or something?? I'm always intrigued by these stories lol 

    Me: 31yo DH: 38yo
    Married: 07/16/16
    TTC #1: 04/17
    BFP: 8/1/17 EDD: 4/16/18
  • @JJMNO1616 I think she stopped taking her pill consistently. I don't know the whole story. I know that their relationship was so bad my husband had to drive up there and mediate them talking out their issues. She lives in the house her BF owns and wasn't lifting a finger and was barely working and getting on him about not getting engaged (and then had a million complaints about how he was going to propose). He was supporting her and her son from her first marriage and she was doing nothing (except being a total bitch when I came to visit with DH). He was telling my husband he was going to end it, he just wanted to give her a chance to get her shit together so she could take care of her son. Six weeks later she's pregnant.

    That's just an overview. There was way more drama than that. 
    Me: 28 DH: 29
    Married: 6/2016
    TTC #1: 12/2016
    Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!


    JJMNO1616
  • My TW are my now ex-coworkers. Today was my last day at my current job and  I start my new job on Thursday. I thought maybe a goodbye? a card? maybe a cake? I'm close with my coworkers too so i was really suprised. Our unit clerk got a promotion within our unit, she is now the program secretary (essentially the managers assistant) so she is still on our floor...and she got flowers, an email was sent congratulating her and a collection was taken and everyone got her a nice gift. And she didn't even leave! I got nothing...no goodbye, not even an email wishing me well, no gift...nothing. Shows that nurses are just expendable....
    Me: 27 // DH: 30 
    Married 05/21/2011
    TTC Since Feb 2016
    RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
    5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI 
    BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
    IT'S A BOY!

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