All 20+ people I'm going to be staying in a house with for an upcoming wedding are TWs. A friend of ours owns a fancy beach house near the site of the wedding so we're all staying there, but he's not since he's a groomsman and staying on site. He put DH and me up as "in charge", but really if he says someone can stay at his house then we add them to the planning thread...because it's his house and not ours. Other people staying at the house have been giving DH crap for adding people which is absurd because DH is not actually making the decisions and I almost yelled at one of the girls yesterday to back off attacking my husband, and if the person who owns the house says people can stay there, then they can, end of discussion.
Sorry this was a novel. On the bright side, we don't have to spend hundreds of dollars on a hotel in an expensive beach town in the middle of the summer.
My DH remains the TW. I'm apparently mean for asking him to put his finished creamer bottle in the recycling bin and for wanting to go to bed early last night. No sleep was had and now he's b*tching because he doesn't get enough sex. Not really in the mood when I'm the only one who cleans the house. Only difference between this pregnancy is my others is the dad is living with me, might as well be doing this alone
@MaximumEffort I'm right there with you on the DH TW train. I was gone most of last week with DD for our spring break trip, and DH drank all the milk and ate all the bread, along with most everything else in the house. Did he bother to replace those things, or even tell me things we gone when I got back at 9 pm on Sunday? No. He just let me keep DD home from day care yesterday with no food or milk in the house. WT actual F?!?!?!?! He did, however, manage to buy himself a 6-pack of beer while I was gone...
@heatherdubrow they really can be! I'm baffled as to why these people think they get to make the rules on who stays at the house instead of the person who owns it! At least we get the master bedroom since no one else is married
Mine today is my SIL. They had to reschedule my nephew's birthday party from January since she was hospitalized for preeclampsia/had the baby that same weekend. They chose my birthday weekend for the reschedule (2 weeks from now) and now she's all pissy because I already had plans to be out of town. Guilt tripping me on how sad he'll be that I won't be there.
Today it is me. My husband and I were looking through my ob paperwork and he said "I thought you were due on the 7th? Why does all this say you are due on the 3rd?". Apparently, I make up my own due dates.
My boss. She's wonderful and takes us each to a restaurant of choice on our respective birthdays. It's a coworker's birthday and lunch was all set for noon. She ended up moving the lunch back to 1:30pm. WHO CAN WAIT THAT LONG.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
My MIL. She asked DH to come home and go shopping and get lunch with her today since his afternoon class was canceled. I stayed home sick from work because I got the stomach bug DH had over the weekend, on top of morning sickness. DH took DS to daycare so I could rest. MIL had no regard for how long she was taking shopping and doesn't let DH text me back when he is by her- I was asking if he left yet. No, of course not. She wouldn't let him leave yet. He should have been back home by the time she actually let him leave, forcing me to drag my sick butt up off the couch, and go across town. I'm happy to get DS, but we had it worked out that I wouldn't have to go out since I'm sick, and sorry, TMI, but have it coming out both ends. Not pleasant, and so not happy.
I had someone ask me today if Baby was planned or a surprise. Not nearly as offensive as what some of you have been dealing with, yikes. But it was annoying because one, I'm only telling you now because we're just barely friends enough for you to notice I look like death warmed over, and two, that's rude, who doesn't know questions like that are rude?? I stumbled over what to tell her because I was caught off guard. I mumbled something about sort of a surprise but not really.. or something like that. *TW It wasn't a surprise, but it wasn't exactly the plan because it was just after a loss. Guess I need a planned response for these kinds of questions.
I suggest the highly disarming "What an insensitive thing to say."
It puts the other person on the spot instead of you plus it saves you from having to answer. I have found this high effective in responding to questions about procreation with all but the most self-absorbed people in my life. (Unfortunately those people just brush it off and ask the question again. But most people realize they're speaking out of turn.)
@ArtificialRed I actually asked a friend that question and wanted to stuff the words back in my mouth. It's her 5th baby and I was curious and I spoke before thinking. I immediately apologized and she laughed it off and said it was planned. Hopefully your friend (like me) realized it was an a-hole thing to say!
I went to get gas and it was $23.01. I handed the guy $25 and he took the pump out. He asked twice if I wanted a receipt after I didn't understand him the first time. I said no. Then he weirdly pulled out a dollar and looked at me while blocking the pump. I said I gave him $25 and he did nothing. Then I purposely backed up a little to see if he had pumped more. No, he was hiding it to pocket a dollar?!? Once I backed up he said, "$25" and still didn't give me the dollar, so I just pulled away. If his life is that bad that he need to steal a dollar, then I feel sorry for him. I'm not going there again though.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
The students I work with. They're all picking on my outfits lately claiming that I wear the same thing every day when in fact, I only wear the same sweater. They're all being jerky tws. I know it's minor but it irritates the hell out of me. Also, trying to hide my bump from them has me annoyed. They keep pushing all my buttons.
My grandmother is absolutely the TW!! Me and 4 of my 5 kiddos were in an awful car accident on Sunday. A pickup truck cut me off and then slammed on his brakes to take a left hand turn apparently. He didn't use his directional and he cut me off so closely I slammed on the brakes and swerved, but I still hit his truck. I totaled my car, airbags went off, my kids are still shaken up, though everyone is okay for the most part. I was talking to my grandmother last night about it and all she had to say was "well, be more careful next time"!! Are you kidding me?? I was being careful!! No comment about how amazing it is none of us were hurt?? No caring?? Nope. None.
@ArtificialRed I have had that question asked and have responded nicely but it is super rude and no ones business. I will most definitely be taking @adirat's wording advice for the next time that question is asked
@cmessamore Wow, that looks like it was a scary accident. Glad you are all okay!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
My DH. He got me pregnant. Now HG is killing me. I am miserable and a crying mess. And i am already sick of hospital visits. And my DH is stuck out of town 5 nights a week for work. I have another 5 months of this to go if the last 3 times are anything to go by.
And I know I shouldn't complain. Many things to be greatful for. But vomiting 10-15 times a day is not something I can put a positive spin on.
@c+mpeachey you can be grateful you are pregnant and excited about meeting your baby while still being upset at everything this pregnancy is throwing at you. You've got it worse than a lot of us and I can't imagine how miserable you must feel especially with your DH away. I hope your drs are able to get it under control soon so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.
@c+mpeachey HG is no joke! You can definitely be miserable and grateful at the same time, or sometimes just miserable because, damnit, you are miserable.
I never had any animosity towards my MIL until my first was born. Now not a day goes by that I don't grit my teeth at something she says or does. We'll start with yesterday when my LO was trying to nap on a long car ride and my MIL was waving her phone screen in her face and tickling her and playing with her, then had the nerve to say "I don't know why she's not going to sleep." .....Jesus take the wheel.
@cmessamore i thought the area looked familiar! I am in Dracut, but I work for the post office in Fitchburg/Townsend and any surrounding towns that need help.
The secretary at my office (who was a friend-ish before being coworkers- she was friends w/DH before I met him but working together has given me a whole new view of her that I would have rather not had...) has some majorly unprofessional habits that for some reason, I guess my bosses expect me to address since they hired her on my recommendation (much to my, now educated, chagrin). Some of these habits include eating her lunch at the front desk, listening to pandora on her phone with earbuds at the front desk, and walking into my office to answer the phone when it rings and she's in the file room instead of walking ten more steps to her own phone. She was coughing all day yesterday and we all told her to go to the doctor but she refused until the end of the day. I tried to avoid her as much as possible but she still came in my office and used my phone. Turns out she has the flu and is out sick today. Sometimes I really just want to flick her.
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday 3/21
Sorry this was a novel. On the bright side, we don't have to spend hundreds of dollars on a hotel in an expensive beach town in the middle of the summer.
TTC: 3/23/2013, BFP: 2/28/2014, EDD: 11/6/2014, ADD: 11/7/2014
TTC: 2/1/2016, BFP: 3/4/2017, EDD: 11/11/2017, No HB @ 8 weeks, MC: 4/8/2017
TTC: 5/24/2017, BFP: 4/14/2018, EDD: 12/22/2018
So, two lunches it is.
(This isn't twatty, it's just all I have so far)
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
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Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
It puts the other person on the spot instead of you plus it saves you from having to answer. I have found this high effective in responding to questions about procreation with all but the most self-absorbed people in my life. (Unfortunately those people just brush it off and ask the question again. But most people realize they're speaking out of turn.)
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Married: 11/2013
"Q" DS1: 3/2011
"T" DS2: 10/2012
"A" DD: 1/2014
EDD #4: 11/26/2017
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
He got me pregnant.
Now HG is killing me.
I am miserable and a crying mess. And i am already sick of hospital visits.
And my DH is stuck out of town 5 nights a week for work.
I have another 5 months of this to go if the last 3 times are anything to go by.
And I know I shouldn't complain. Many things to be greatful for. But vomiting 10-15 times a day is not something I can put a positive spin on.
Rant over.
Married: 11/2013
"Q" DS1: 3/2011
"T" DS2: 10/2012
"A" DD: 1/2014
EDD #4: 11/26/2017
She was coughing all day yesterday and we all told her to go to the doctor but she refused until the end of the day. I tried to avoid her as much as possible but she still came in my office and used my phone.
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*