My husband is being a giant twatwaffle. For the past two days he has had a tummy ache. Are you freaking kidding me? It's go time. Let us not go down the road of all the things I'm experiencing but not bitching about!
My TW is my husband! For the past couple years we have gone with his parents to AZ for a father/son baseball tournament at the end of October. I always look forward to it and we have a great time. But it is a 20+ hour drive so we always fly. If I get KU in the next two months, that would put me in 3rd tri at that time so I wouldn't be able to go. Since his parents started asking about it, H and I decided we would just stall for the next couple months since its a big question mark at this point. So I just got a text from him saying that the price for the flight is really good and we should buy them now. When I asked him about TTC, he says we will just have to put that off for now......ummmmmm what???? After 6 months of not being able to even try, he now wants to "put it off?" I am seriously in shock. Ugh!
Me: 29 DH:30 Dating 03/31/2011 Married 10/18/2014 DS Born 12/28/2017 TTC #2 06/2019
I unfortunately have to join the "My DH is a TW Club." We were discussing cervical mucus and lubricants and he informed me that the term "cervical mucus" was a huge turnoff. Thanks for that, Captain Obvious. Us ladies spend so much time learning everything TTC, but apparently we're also responsible for not killing the boners.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
My TW is my husband! For the past couple years we have gone with his parents to AZ for a father/son baseball tournament at the end of October. I always look forward to it and we have a great time. But it is a 20+ hour drive so we always fly. If I get KU in the next two months, that would put me in 3rd tri at that time so I wouldn't be able to go. Since his parents started asking about it, H and I decided we would just stall for the next couple months since its a big question mark at this point. So I just got a text from him saying that the price for the flight is really good and we should buy them now. When I asked him about TTC, he says we will just have to put that off for now......ummmmmm what???? After 6 months of not being able to even try, he now wants to "put it off?" I am seriously in shock. Ugh!
FWIW most airlines allow you to fly up to 34 weeks, so even if you got KU this cycle, you would be okay to fly in October!
I unfortunately have to join the "My DH is a TW Club." We were discussing cervical mucus and lubricants and he informed me that the term "cervical mucus" was a huge turnoff. Thanks for that, Captain Obvious. Us ladies spend so much time learning everything TTC, but apparently we're also responsible for not killing the boners.
My husband says stuff like that too. He hates the word vagina and always asks why I need to call it that. Um because that's what it's called?
On a similar note, everytime I mention the term "luteal phase" to my H he askes me if that's the thing that has to do with the moon. . I can't with men sometimes.
kvacmak- Really?! Is it just a myth that you aren't allowed to fly in the 3rd tri? I can't even remember where I heard that from, I just always "knew" it to be true. hm interesting. Thanks so much for the info!
Me: 29 DH:30 Dating 03/31/2011 Married 10/18/2014 DS Born 12/28/2017 TTC #2 06/2019
@LaurenEG14 I second what @kvacmak said. My former OB told me they just don't recommend pregnant ladies to fly in the first month or last month of pregnancy
I am also going to join the Husband TW club. TMI alert - I'm very self conscious about my body and have a hard time "getting mine" as of late. So he was complaining that it had been so long since I had so I really tried for him. So finally I finished and what does he say? "Well that took fucking forever" well SORRY
The military system is being a big, fat TW this morning. Honestly, after being in military relationships for over a decade, I am all for my husband getting out at this point, even if it screws with everything else. I'm sick of all these "surprises" that constantly disrupt our lives.
Me: 35 DH: 28 TTC since June 2016 Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016 AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017 Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017 October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total) Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen 12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP 2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone Abnormal SIS Oct 2018 Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis. 12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN Our journey has come to an end.
@TigerCakes Honestly I'm not sure, maybe something with the air pressure? I didn't think twice when she mentioned it *TW I was 29 weeks when I asked end TW*
@RVAmom315 Hmmm well now I'm worried! I travel a decent amount for work so not travelling in the first month wouldn't really be an option, especially since you don't really know you're pregnant until you get to the 2nd month. I'm off to google haha.
@RVAmom315 - I'm also curious about flying in the first month and if your doctor elaborated? And by first month would that be the first month you generally know? Because when you turn a pregnancy test you're usually more or less 4 weeks in (which is more or less a month). So would you not fly if you're trying? Or did your doctor mean the first month you know, which would it be up until 8 weeks? Is it a first trimester thing because of potentially getting sick?
I hope my list of questions doesn't come off as me being snarky, I'm honestly curious.
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Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@Tennis11785 No worries! This was 4 years ago, but she just said they generally don't recommend flying in the first or last month of pregnancy. Which, now that you mention it, is strange because you really "don't know" you're pregnant in the first month. I didn't ask her to elaborate since I was asking specially about my situation at the time. @TigerCakes I'd definitely ask your OB his/her thoughts on that if you travel a lot. I think it'd be very difficult to not fly when you're TTC especially if that's a large part of your job
TW for me today is just myself. Seriously. It's like I willfully have a running interior dialogue that seeks out reasons for anxiety (and not just TTC related). Fun times!
Although I hadn't heard recommendations not to fly in the first month, I wonder if it has anything to do with increased exposure to radiation when flying (not just from the security line). By having fewer cells at that point, DNA damage caused by radiation could cause a higher risk of miscarriage or defects. But I've never come across a scientific article studying this, so it's just speculation on my part.
Me: 30 | DH: 31 Met: August 2006 Married: July 2012 TTC #1 since June 2016
@tigercakes@RVAmom315 As far as I know there is nothing wrong with flying in the first month. TW***I flew multiple times from weeks 2.5 (right after IUI)-7 while under care of an RE. If flying would have compromised the pregnancy in any way they would not have let me go. Also it was a twin pregnancy both of whom are normal toddlers. end TW***
eta: you can opt for a pat down instead of the scanners...
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
(FYI I just looked up the first trimester flying thing in my article database at work and found zilch. So even if there is a recommendation, it doesn't seem to be backed by anything)
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
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Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
My husband's friend's girlfriend posts on Facebook about nothing but her baby. The one she used to trap her BF. Every. Damn. Post. She even comments on things she liked saying she didn't like them, the baby did. Like, we get it, you got KU on purpose because he was getting ready to dump you. But you have to have a life outside of your baby, right?
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@MJDsquared I wonder if I write "You're an asshole" on her page and say my cat did it she would believe it. Since she believes a six week old has opinions about things on Facebook.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@JJMNO1616 I think she stopped taking her pill consistently. I don't know the whole story. I know that their relationship was so bad my husband had to drive up there and mediate them talking out their issues. She lives in the house her BF owns and wasn't lifting a finger and was barely working and getting on him about not getting engaged (and then had a million complaints about how he was going to propose). He was supporting her and her son from her first marriage and she was doing nothing (except being a total bitch when I came to visit with DH). He was telling my husband he was going to end it, he just wanted to give her a chance to get her shit together so she could take care of her son. Six weeks later she's pregnant.
That's just an overview. There was way more drama than that.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
My TW are my now ex-coworkers. Today was my last day at my current job and I start my new job on Thursday. I thought maybe a goodbye? a card? maybe a cake? I'm close with my coworkers too so i was really suprised. Our unit clerk got a promotion within our unit, she is now the program secretary (essentially the managers assistant) so she is still on our floor...and she got flowers, an email was sent congratulating her and a collection was taken and everyone got her a nice gift. And she didn't even leave! I got nothing...no goodbye, not even an email wishing me well, no gift...nothing. Shows that nurses are just expendable....
Me: 27 // DH: 30 Married 05/21/2011 TTC Since Feb 2016 RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS 5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018 IT'S A BOY!
Re: TW Tuesday
Dating 03/31/2011 Married 10/18/2014
DS Born 12/28/2017
TTC #2 06/2019
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
On a similar note, everytime I mention the term "luteal phase" to my H he askes me if that's the thing that has to do with the moon. . I can't with men sometimes.
Dating 03/31/2011 Married 10/18/2014
DS Born 12/28/2017
TTC #2 06/2019
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
Married: 04/05/15
TTC since: 02/16/16
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
I hope my list of questions doesn't come off as me being snarky, I'm honestly curious.
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Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
eta: you can opt for a pat down instead of the scanners...
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
My husband's friend's girlfriend posts on Facebook about nothing but her baby. The one she used to trap her BF. Every. Damn. Post. She even comments on things she liked saying she didn't like them, the baby did. Like, we get it, you got KU on purpose because he was getting ready to dump you. But you have to have a life outside of your baby, right?
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
That's just an overview. There was way more drama than that.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Married 05/21/2011
TTC Since Feb 2016
RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI
BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
IT'S A BOY!