I'm full on panicking and freaking out that I have to return to work in 5 weeks. Seriously. I did it before with DS1 but this time is different. I just feel awful thinking about leaving my little man and am crying about it a lot. I'm trying to look for new jobs I can work less and get paid a little more. Its so hard to knowing how fast this all goes. I remember with my first one it was like I blinked and he was 1. This one I rarely put down because I feel so obsessed with memorizing every moment and every cuddle. This was a five year journey to have this baby. We had so many miscarriages and got pregnant right before our ivf egg retrieval. The thought of missing any part of this little boys childhood breaks my heart. I feel like an emotional mess.
I can't even imagine what you mama's stateside go through with the insanely short maternity leaves. We get a year here and it doesn't feel like enough and there's a lot of advocating for extending our parental leave to 18 months.
I'm 40w5d now. I can't even believe I'm still pregnant. My son was also born past his due date. I was 41w5d when I had him. I'm just so finished. I need this to be over. Charles and his soon to be brother or sister are only 17 months apart and I am so exhausted. I couldn't even imagine doing this without my amazing husband. here's such an incredible spouse and father
Other than that - Can we take a moment to appreciate the first day of Spring? It won't feel like Spring for a little while here in New England, but it's still a signal of hope for warmer weather!
Went to mommy and baby group in the park today. It was nice the ladies seemed chill and while my baby was the youngest at 3 1/2 weeks, the oldest kid was 2 1/2 years old. I definitely plan on attending more park outings with them.
@disneybaby84 how awesome that you found a group to hang out with and even more awesome that you can go to a park that isn't covered in snow and slush haha
Ok how uncomfortable are cervical checks? I'm supposed to get one tomorrow, my practice starts them at 39 weeks. Is it actually painful or just uncomfortable?
@jenny0228 I felt they were uncomfortable the 2 times I got checked in the OB office....like worse than when you get a pap. It was more painful when I was in labor- For some reason my cervix is really far up (maybe this is normal?) so the OB had to get all up in there but as you dilate and progress in labor it drops down and it wasn't as bad. I also had an epidural at one point so couldn't feel the checks really after that (but the first 2 sucked big time prior to the epi).
My cervical checks haven't been too bad, I've had 2 so far, they offer it 36 weeks on & I declined the 37 week one but had the 36 & 38 ones. It's more uncomfortable than it is painful i think, just having the doctor put their fingers up inside you poking around haha I didn't have any pain or bleeding after but they say it's possible to have some.
@jenny0228 I don't have a very high pain tolerance and I thought they were VERY uncomfortable. I also have a high cervix and so the OB really had to get all up in there to check me. This was at 37 and 39 weeks
@jenny0228 I had one on Monday and wasn't dilated, but soft. I am a HUGE baby, but it didn't really hurt. I more like jerked in anticipation like a big wuss. Was sheepish after.
@jenny0228 I think it depends on both the patient and the person doing the checks. The first time I got a cervical check with my older son at 37 weeks, it hurt so bad! The PA that did it was pretty rough though. The next time it still kind of hurt but wasn't as bad. This time around I didn't get any checks until I was in labor. The midwives that I saw don't believe in cervical checks unless there's a medical reason.
i am trying to keep the country songs "you're going to miss this" and "just another day in paradise" in my head while i'm home alone with the kiddos and one is crying and gassy and the other is sympathy sobbing while the dog is barking at the mail coming through the door and all I want to do is pee. This is our last baby and the two of them are only going to get older. I keep trying to remind myself of that and embrace the chaos. But man, do I wish it would just get nice out! Some fresh air would do us all some good!
I had just one cervical check before labor and it was uncomfortable like others said. Wasn't that bad either in early labor but when they checked me in late active labor/transition that hurt like a B!
married 10.10.14 @ Turks & Caicos yorkie mama to Oscar FTM EDD 3.12.17
Thanks ladies- my OB wants to induce me due to my age once I hit 40 weeks, so I was thinking originally of declining the checks but if things are progressing I'd rather know so that maybe I can ask that they let me go a bit longer to see if I go into labor naturally. I mean- ideally I'd really rather NOT got longer and hope he gets here sooner on his own!
@Gators&BoSox it was 50 down here today- did you get any of this little taste of spring up near you? The wind was not kind though. Felt great for the .02 seconds the cold wind wasn't blowing and you could actually feel the sun.
@jenny0228 ya it was 50 but like you said windy. plus we still have all the snow and swampy mud. i guess i'm just looking forward to walks and grass haha .. we will get there eventually
Y'all i know I'm being a baby but I think I'm starting to get depressed from all the 'where's the baby' questions I've been getting lately. My due date is Sunday and we really thought she was coming early but apparently we were wrong! MIL and well meaning friends are asking me multiple times a day if I've tried xyz to induce labor. Even BIL is reminding us that he's leaving the country for work this weekend and won't be back for years and would love to meet his niece before he goes. I get it! There's just nothing I can do about it! Sorry, vent over
@mclee I totally understand! I'm due next Tuesday and I am constantly getting the when's baby coming questions. I have no control over it he's not even due for another week! It stresses me out all the pressure they are putting on me. MIL is out of town for business right now so she's checking in all the time to make sure I'm still pregnant and my brother calls all the time to see "how she my nephew doing?!" ... I'm sorry you're feeling this way too! Our babies will come when they are good and ready.
@jenny0228 I do have a high pain tolerance and I find it more then uncomfortable. If you're being induced they'll probably check anyways to see if they need to start you with the gel or if you can skip it. I'm being induced friday but as I am already 3-4 cms dialated with a soft cervix no gel is required.
@mclee I fell you. I am 40 weeks 6 days today, and it is a non stop flow of texts and phone calls. It's actually really frustrating. Everyone thought baby would come early too, because i have been walking around 3 cms dialated for 4 weeks and this is my second baby in 2 years. My son is 17 months old (I was 41 wks 5 days when I had him). Next baby I am gunna tell everyone my due date is a week later so they can get off my back haha
Random--> is April the giraffe even actually pregnant or is this whole thing a scam? Looking like she may just stick to her namesake and not be a March mama.
"So how sensitive are the balls? Like how gentle do I have to be when moving them around to clean poop from underneath?" - me to my DH. I knew what to do with DD, but this boy mom thing is going to be a *bit* different.
haha @CanadianintheSouth i was the exact opposite. i had to call the nurse in to show me how to change DD. i was like "ok i know I'm a girl but..." i find boys much easier lol
@CanadianintheSouth with my son I was really concerned about his foreskin. My mom couldn't help because all my siblings and nephews are circumcised. I asked so many questions about how to clean it, when will it pull back? blah blah blah. Anyhoo you literally do nothing til they're like 5.
@kjd291 I realized you disappeared from Feb and never let us know you had your baby! I decided to come over here to see your birth announcement. Congratulations! And isn't it funny your edd got put in Feb but you had a March baby anyway? Lol I hope you and your LO are doing well!
@kswiger06 thank you, mama!! Sorry I didnt update! I figured once I'd gone into March and there weren't any other February moms still pregnant to commiserate with no one over in Feb was really paying attention to my still pregnant plight hah. And yes!! I kept saying that's what I got for deciding to be a March mama! Haha. Hope you and Austin are doing well too!!
@CanadianintheSouth I feel the same way! This is the first boy in my family in 45 years, so not only do I feel a little put of my element, but i don't really have anyone in the family to defer to if I have a boy mom question. DH is still not super comfortable with the baby stage (even though this is baby #2), so he isn't even all that much help with the baby boy stuff. I had no idea it would be so hard to get all the poop out of all the little hiding spots in his diaper region. Just when I think I got it all, he moves just right and I find more!
@catybug820 just wait til they find their penis. Makes cleaning up messy poops super fun when it's all over their hands. Tip--I always give Charles a toy now when changing. Haha
Re: Randoms 3/20!
Baby #2 - March 2017
I'm 40w5d now. I can't even believe I'm still pregnant. My son was also born past his due date. I was 41w5d when I had him. I'm just so finished. I need this to be over. Charles and his soon to be brother or sister are only 17 months apart and I am so exhausted. I couldn't even imagine doing this without my amazing husband. here's such an incredible spouse and father
@kaylaef sending you buckets of labor dust! DS and DD are 19 months apart and I so understand the exhaustion!
Other than that - Can we take a moment to appreciate the first day of Spring? It won't feel like Spring for a little while here in New England, but it's still a signal of hope for warmer weather!
Samantha - 4/5/2017
married to M since 6.13.09
T - 3.3.14
A - 2.24.17
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
@Gators&BoSox it was 50 down here today- did you get any of this little taste of spring up near you? The wind was not kind though. Felt great for the .02 seconds the cold wind wasn't blowing and you could actually feel the sun.
Anyone have thoughts on staying in bed the first 3 days PP or try it themselves?
Looking like she may just stick to her namesake and not be a March mama.
It was amazing.
Samantha - 4/5/2017
@kjd291 I realized you disappeared from Feb and never let us know you had your baby! I decided to come over here to see your birth announcement. Congratulations! And isn't it funny your edd got put in Feb but you had a March baby anyway? Lol I hope you and your LO are doing well!
And yes!! I kept saying that's what I got for deciding to be a March mama! Haha.
Hope you and Austin are doing well too!!