Husband had a 24 hour call yesterday so I had to take the kid to daycare this morning, fine. He has today off so he can pick him up and I can make up the time I missed at work this morning, or so I thought.
Apparently Captain Helpless is actually expecting me to leave work early to go "help" him order a cake on the way to daycare pickup. How the hell can a 32 year old man not order a cake? I told him what he needs to bring and say, it isn't hard.
I am quickly realizing I basically have 2 kids already. WTF.
Also I think the coffeeshop made my latte 100% decaf. What monster does that to someone on a Monday?
@bacorrea there is a definite reason that every time we PCS I set up all the utilities in my name. The bills come to me and I deal with it, no stupid questions necessary. Plus with no utilities in his name it makes it harder to find a secondary proof of residence when he wants to buy a new gun.
@WombThereItIs and @bacorrea - I am definitely with you. My husband can be such a man child sometimes. All of our bills are in my name. I actually had to call last week and make him a doctor's appointment. That being said, I would never trust him to order a cake without me. He doesn't like sweets and is generally terrible at dessert-related decisions. Some things are too important to risk.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
I was to preface this by making it clear that I absolutely love Target...but why must they combine their maternity section with their "women" (plus sized) section? Pregnancy and plus size are not the same thing. Maternity clothes fit very differently. My local Target stores have maybe 3 racks of actual maternity clothes. So lame.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
I was to preface this by making it clear that I absolutely love Target...but why must they combine their maternity section with their "women" (plus sized) section? Pregnancy and plus size are not the same thing. Maternity clothes fit very differently. My local Target stores have maybe 3 racks of actual maternity clothes. So lame.
I don't think they are actually combining it, its just a continuation of women's clothes in general. My Target has juniors, regular fit, plus sized, and then maternity all in like a row down one section... But then my moms Target has maternity actually in the kids section which is weird to me!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@kayemjay2 I agree! Mine has just juniors, women's, clearance, plus size and maternity. The maternity and plus size racks are mixed together.
Also pissed at target, ordered a shirt online to wear for maternity pics but I didn't like it so went to return yesterday. Was told I cannot return it in store and have to call a number. Like wtf? I've never not been able to return an online order. The target lady was baffled too. So now I decide if one shirt is worth the hassle of getting my money bck.
@hp_momma that is my life in a graphic right now. I am laugh-crying at it.
I think I get what @kayemjay2 means about target. Ours used to have it across the aisle from juniors/womens/plus by intimates and hoisery and after a remodel it is no longer a clear section of its own at all, it isn't labeled and is just a few racks of things in the middle of the plus section.
@kayemjay2 That's how my Target was, they were mixed and it was confusing! Well, now the moved the maternity completely which would be great except its like a whopping 2 racks now and the selection SUCKS.
Ohh...I need to complain today. My family lives in Utah, we live in Massachusetts. My mom is planning to come out the weekend before my scheduled induction of April 11th so that she can take care of DS while we are in the hospital--all awesome and very much planned because otherwise I have no idea how we'd manage DS. She tells me that she and my dad have booked a flight for Paris leaving from Boston "sometime the week after the baby comes" so that my dad can "come in a few nights early and see the baby". Super vague, but again, fine. Then my sister (who I am not super close with) mentions haphazardly over Christmas that she and her friend are also going to Paris with my parents. No mention of staying with me, no asking about it, honestly I assumed they were flying straight from Utah to Paris. So, DH is asking me what the timeline looks like for the visitors and I realize I have no idea. I text my mom to send me the details and she says "oh, I'll get them to you sometime this week. I think your sister's friend will only need to be there overnight and I'm not sure when your sister gets in"...so, it seems to me that the assumption is that my house will act as a hotel for AT LEAST 1 night for 4 visitors, along with a toddler, a 1 week old baby, a dog, and a cat. I'm waiting for the rundown on details before I freak out too much, but seriously...I'm a super "go with the flow" person, but it seems a little ridiculous to just assume I'd be ok with this without asking me.
@nda_roxybabe , my thoughts EXACTLY. And this specific friend has never been my favorite person...so that just adds to the complication. My current plan is to get the specifics and possibly just book a hotel room nearby for them for the nights that sister and friend will be here. It's worth a few hundred dollars to not stress about it and hopefully not rock the family boat too much. I've mentioned before how much I hate drama...apparently, these are the lengths I go to in order to avoid it.
I couldn't fall asleep till Midnight last night. I normally go to bed by/ around 10:30. This morning I've been running around and now I'm tired and cranky. I'm pissed at myself for messing up the infant CPR thing.
I mentioned to Hubs that I wish someone from our Church would invite us for Easter dinner - it's not that we haven't been welcomed but that would be the ULTIMATE, I feel. He said "Well, my parents make a turkey for Easter."
Number 1: I will already be subjected to your mother later this month, so I'll pass on Easter. Kthx.
Number 2: AT EASTER, WE EAT HAM! Turkey is NOT a spring meat, and I won't be a part of that craziness.
Add me to the annoyed with DH club! Yesterday DH told me that he was going to help me go through some stuff in our home office and get the furniture moved out so that we can get start prepping the room for paint for the nursery. He told me that he had to run to his parents house (15 mins away) to help his dad change his water filter and then he would be right back to help me. He ended up being gone from 11:00am to 3:30pm!! Then when he gets back he says he needs to move some stuff around in the basement to make room for the stuff from the office, decides he needs to vacuum the stairs to the basement...spends over an hour cleaning the shop vac with the air compressor and then vacuuming the stairs. By then DS and I were ready for dinner and needless to say another weekend has gone by with nothing getting done in the nursery!
I would also add to the Target rant that I'm annoyed with the lack of maternity selection this pregnancy. Last time, I got some of my best stuff from Target. This time around, their in-store selection has been the same handful of things my entire pregnancy.
So pissed. I came into our NICU room this morning and the nurse wasn't inside. I set everything up to pump and pulled the privacy curtain (sometimes I just don't need/want to have conversations with the parade of people that come and go in the NICU when my nips are out). Then the overnight and day nurses come in, post-report, to chat a little. NBD ... at first.
Then they start discussing my kiddos' care times (totally arbitrary, not-decided-by-me -- times when we check temperature / change diaper / reposition / etc). Somehow their times went from 30 min apart to 60 min. I could care less (though it does allow me to snuggle both of them in the span of two hours instead of just one of them). The problem lies in the fact that the nurse also has another baby to do cares with in between my kiddos' times. Huge inconvenience apparently. Day nurse says "I'm going to make it my goal to change that today. Now, the other mom probably won't care at all... But *this* mom is ... a bit ... finicky." (AKA talking about me) If it wasn't apparent, neither nurse had any clue I was behind the curtain. I froze and tried not to get too worked up in case the curtain got pulled back and I was forced to respond. But it got to me. What the h***, day nurse. I'm not a confrontational person AT ALL and I just wanted to shrivel up and disappear. The comment wasn't that big of a deal except the fact that she was speaking less than complimentary things about the mom of a patient. And that really pisses me off. I told DH and he agreed that it was stupid and inappropriate of the nurse to say but otherwise shrugged it off. I thought about asking the charge nurse to reassign us a day nurse without confronting her myself but DH said no. So I'm pretending all day that she didn't talk about me behind my back. It's no fun.
I feel like I should say something to someone at some point today but yuck -- it just doesn't feel good either way.
I would also add to the Target rant that I'm annoyed with the lack of maternity selection this pregnancy. Last time, I got some of my best stuff from Target. This time around, their in-store selection has been the same handful of things my entire pregnancy.
Yes, this I agree with. Target has totally failed me in the maternity clothes this go around! They have nothing new, and I don't want a horizontal striped dress! Can we just get a nice solid color please?
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@mdlorenz yeah, I'd be mad! Could you speak to her supervisor or something? Nurses really need to be much more professional than that, especially when they are in a public area!
@mdlorenz that's the worst!! I've had that happen to me when I was in the bathroom at work. However I am an evil bitch so I took great pleasure in walking out with a big smile on my face, warmly greeting the sh*t talker, and watching her sputter and be embarrassed. She was always suuuuuper nice to me after that. People talk smack for a lot of reasons- I hope you don't take it too personally- maybe next time dramatically open the curtain mid pump.
@Kipperoo Oh HELL TO THE NO! You are a much better person than me because I would have been like NOPE. I have the PERFECT GIFin mind and I am so Bump illiterate that I don't know how to paste it in here
@mdlorenz I am so sorry that is not cool. Hopefully, venting about it here helped a little bit. If not, I say if you talk to the nurse you can always request something simple and preface it by saying "I hate to be finicky..." that is a good passive aggressive way to let her know you heard her without making too big a stink about it.
My bitchfest, so last night I was making two casseroles to freeze for post-baby...and my husband walks in and say "Can I help?" and I replied with "yeah can you cut this onion please" so he cuts the onion and then just goes and sits down to watch TV and leaves me there cooking. Like seriously?? You are only good for one thing? I was so angry I couldn't even talk. I wanted to be like "HELLO over here still have more things you can help me with" But I was in a MOOD and didn't want to start anything because it would have escalated QUICKLY I'm sure and it just wasn't worth it.
@mdlorenz - DH would totally prefer if I didn't say something in that situation, but I would mention something to the charge nurse, if not for myself, then simply for the fact that a little reminder to be a bit more careful when talking about folks is in order ESPECIALLY in the NICU where most parents are likely uber stressed and exhausted. And if she is saying that about you, what is she saying about the super overbearing/annoying parents? Not to mention, you might *just* be really pissed and uncomfortable, but for someone else, that could have been a tipping point to them just breaking down or whatever. The necessity for the level of sensitivity should just be a given in that situation. Grrrr to people like her saying things without thinking!
My toddler and the 30ish pounds behind her fell on to my stomach this morning. So I'm heading into my doctors office...may have to go in to triage. Blah.
Sorry you have to go in @SparkySunDevil but out of curiosity was it something in addition to the toddler body slam that sent you in? My son is 33lbs and routinely flys at me out of nowhere and I never think to go, just wondering if there are additional signs or something your doc told you to look out for?
@mdlorenz , that is completely unprofessional and ridiculous. I would be really upset if I were you. Maybe you could say something like "I was pumping this morning behind the curtain and overheard you talking about the schedule shift this morning...did you have an update for me so that I can plan xyz (maybe pumping schedule, or an errand away from the NICU?)" So, not directly calling her out on calling you finicky, but making it known that you heard her? That's a rough situation and you have every right to be upset.
Sorry you have to go in @SparkySunDevil but out of curiosity was it something in addition to the toddler body slam that sent you in? My son is 33lbs and routinely flys at me out of nowhere and I never think to go, just wondering if there are additional signs or something your doc told you to look out for?
I was going to say the same thing. My OB has always assured me that even my 5yr old wouldn't be able to harm the baby with their own strength (though I should discourage them from doing it). Hopefully nothing is wrong if you had to go in!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@mdlorenz , that is completely unprofessional and ridiculous. I would be really upset if I were you. Maybe you could say something like "I was pumping this morning behind the curtain and overheard you talking about the schedule shift this morning...did you have an update for me so that I can plan xyz (maybe pumping schedule, or an errand away from the NICU?)" So, not directly calling her out on calling you finicky, but making it known that you heard her? That's a rough situation and you have every right to be upset.
I definitely think this would be a perfect way to let her know you heard her! So sorry you have to deal with that @mdlorenz on top of the normal stresses of NICU and newborns!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@mdlorenz I agree with previous posters. Even if you decide not to address the "finicky" comment directly, the nurse needs to know that you overhead. I like the suggestion about clarifying the schedule change.
@kayemjay2 That's how my Target was, they were mixed and it was confusing! Well, now the moved the maternity completely which would be great except its like a whopping 2 racks now and the selection SUCKS.
I looked for nursing bras at my Target this weekend and found nothing. They did however, have 90 racks of impractical cami bras.
@mdlorenz I'm so sorry you had to hear that! I also agree that the nurse needs to find out somehow that you overheard, because she's a damn NICU nurse, you parents are allowed to be "finicky" or upset or hard to deal with, you have babies in the NICU!
@Kipperoo There is no way in hell I'd let all those people stay with me. I'm also a FTM so I'm not really sure what I will feel like (physically and mentally) but even so, you shouldn't have to be a hotel!
My tiny Monday bitch is that I had my first non-family member touch my belly. I had a client's parent come into my office and grab at my belly and say something about how I'm finally beginning to show. So uncomfortable.
I second everyone about the teeny maternity section at target. Super lame. @fbmandy55 that's so bad your target doesn't have nursing bras. Even though mine has basically zero maternity things they do have a ton of nursing bras and tanks and different brands. Hope you find some soon.
@mdlorenz that is so super lame. I would feel the same way about not wanting to bring it up and be confrontational. It is so hard to feel like you need to confront people when you're already stressed out. However I would say that if someone heard me being unprofessional (which obviously I try hard not to be) I would rather know about it so I can check myself. Its possible this health care professional would benefit from being reminded to keep her comments in line with appropriate patient care. She would want the nurse of her family member to be professional so she needs to be too.
@mdlorenz - That would frustrate so much. How would she act in regards to parents who may be on edge? It's the friggin' NICU. There should be a little more sensitivity.
I’m just annoyed in general today and the fact that my arm is covered in bruises from all the blood taking last week doesn’t help my mood. I wish they would hurry up and fade away.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 3/20
Husband had a 24 hour call yesterday so I had to take the kid to daycare this morning, fine. He has today off so he can pick him up and I can make up the time I missed at work this morning, or so I thought.
Apparently Captain Helpless is actually expecting me to leave work early to go "help" him order a cake on the way to daycare pickup. How the hell can a 32 year old man not order a cake? I told him what he needs to bring and say, it isn't hard.
I am quickly realizing I basically have 2 kids already. WTF.
Also I think the coffeeshop made my latte 100% decaf. What monster does that to someone on a Monday?
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The good news? My oldest went back to school today so I get a nap! Holler!
I have to clean my house today, and I don't want to.
My bitches are minor, first world problems. /shrug
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Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
But then my moms Target has maternity actually in the kids section which is weird to me!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Also pissed at target, ordered a shirt online to wear for maternity pics but I didn't like it so went to return yesterday. Was told I cannot return it in store and have to call a number. Like wtf? I've never not been able to return an online order. The target lady was baffled too. So now I decide if one shirt is worth the hassle of getting my money bck.
I think I get what @kayemjay2 means about target. Ours used to have it across the aisle from juniors/womens/plus by intimates and hoisery and after a remodel it is no longer a clear section of its own at all, it isn't labeled and is just a few racks of things in the middle of the plus section.
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Number 1: I will already be subjected to your mother later this month, so I'll pass on Easter. Kthx.
Number 2: AT EASTER, WE EAT HAM! Turkey is NOT a spring meat, and I won't be a part of that craziness.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
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I came into our NICU room this morning and the nurse wasn't inside. I set everything up to pump and pulled the privacy curtain (sometimes I just don't need/want to have conversations with the parade of people that come and go in the NICU when my nips are out). Then the overnight and day nurses come in, post-report, to chat a little. NBD ... at first.
Then they start discussing my kiddos' care times (totally arbitrary, not-decided-by-me -- times when we check temperature / change diaper / reposition / etc). Somehow their times went from 30 min apart to 60 min. I could care less (though it does allow me to snuggle both of them in the span of two hours instead of just one of them). The problem lies in the fact that the nurse also has another baby to do cares with in between my kiddos' times. Huge inconvenience apparently. Day nurse says "I'm going to make it my goal to change that today. Now, the other mom probably won't care at all... But *this* mom is ... a bit ... finicky." (AKA talking about me) If it wasn't apparent, neither nurse had any clue I was behind the curtain. I froze and tried not to get too worked up in case the curtain got pulled back and I was forced to respond. But it got to me. What the h***, day nurse. I'm not a confrontational person AT ALL and I just wanted to shrivel up and disappear. The comment wasn't that big of a deal except the fact that she was speaking less than complimentary things about the mom of a patient. And that really pisses me off. I told DH and he agreed that it was stupid and inappropriate of the nurse to say but otherwise shrugged it off. I thought about asking the charge nurse to reassign us a day nurse without confronting her myself but DH said no. So I'm pretending all day that she didn't talk about me behind my back. It's no fun.
I feel like I should say something to someone at some point today but yuck -- it just doesn't feel good either way.
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@mdlorenz Im sorry! That would realllllly upset me
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me when I was in the bathroom at work. However I am an evil bitch so I took great pleasure in walking out with a big smile on my face, warmly greeting the sh*t talker, and watching her sputter and be embarrassed. She was always suuuuuper nice to me after that. People talk
smack for a lot of reasons- I hope you don't take it too personally- maybe next time dramatically open the curtain mid pump.
@mdlorenz I am so sorry that is not cool. Hopefully, venting about it here helped a little bit. If not, I say if you talk to the nurse you can always request something simple and preface it by saying "I hate to be finicky..." that is a good passive aggressive way to let her know you heard her without making too big a stink about it.
My bitchfest, so last night I was making two casseroles to freeze for post-baby...and my husband walks in and say "Can I help?" and I replied with "yeah can you cut this onion please" so he cuts the onion and then just goes and sits down to watch TV and leaves me there cooking. Like seriously?? You are only good for one thing? I was so angry I couldn't even talk. I wanted to be like "HELLO over here still have more things you can help me with" But I was in a MOOD and didn't want to start anything because it would have escalated QUICKLY I'm sure and it just wasn't worth it.
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Hopefully nothing is wrong if you had to go in!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
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02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
@Kipperoo There is no way in hell I'd let all those people stay with me. I'm also a FTM so I'm not really sure what I will feel like (physically and mentally) but even so, you shouldn't have to be a hotel!
My tiny Monday bitch is that I had my first non-family member touch my belly. I had a client's parent come into my office and grab at my belly and say something about how I'm finally beginning to show. So uncomfortable.
@fbmandy55 that's so bad your target doesn't have nursing bras. Even though mine has basically zero maternity things they do have a ton of nursing bras and tanks and different brands. Hope you find some soon.
@mdlorenz that is so super lame. I would feel the same way about not wanting to bring it up and be confrontational. It is so hard to feel like you need to confront people when you're already stressed out. However I would say that if someone heard me being unprofessional (which obviously I try hard not to be) I would rather know about it so I can check myself. Its possible this health care professional would benefit from being reminded to keep her comments in line with appropriate patient care. She would want the nurse of her family member to be professional so she needs to be too.
@mdlorenz - That would frustrate so much. How would she act in regards to parents who may be on edge? It's the friggin' NICU. There should be a little more sensitivity.
@SparkySunDevil - Ouch! Hope everything is okay.
I’m just annoyed in general today and the fact that my arm is covered in bruises from all the blood taking last week doesn’t help my mood. I wish they would hurry up and fade away.