@ShadeofGreen816 I hit a breaking point with DH and beer this time. Not because he is a big drinker or anything, but because I am so envious and want one so bad. I finally had to draw the line. No beer just at home during dinner or watching a movie when it's just us, but social events are fair game. Not surprising he is very eager to have my parents over so he can offer my dad a beer He wasnt super thrilled about it, but didn't have much of an argument.
@Louise_Belcher that seems reasonable. He doesn't drink when it's just us at home. But our circle of friends are all pretty big social drinkers still. I just sometimes feel like he over indulges knowing I'm a built in DD and he doesn't have to worry. Which is true but then I get cranky and tired and salty and feel taken advantage of. But if the tables were turned I might do the exact same thing? I'm so wishy-washy on this today.
@ShadeofGreen816 Maybe I'm in the minority on this, but I don't actually mind if my H drinks at home or when we're out. He's not a heavy drinker, but he does often have one drink after dinner, or a couple if we go out with other people who are drinking. He did drink quite a bit last night (only time he's done so while I've been pregnant), but it didn't bother me at all because we were at the neighbors' and could just walk home.
@Louise_Belcher I can relate to the BF emotions. DS would never match without the nipple shield and we pretty much supplemented the whole time. I just put nipple cream and a new shield in my amazon cart just in case. It is a different baby and we are different this time around so anything could happen! I still get so annoyed at hearing people say "nursing like a champ" like babies that don't aren't "champs".
It's interesting that you guys are chatting about alcohol. My hubbs and I discussed this a few weeks ago and, St. Paddy's weekend not included, he's doing March, April, and May without drinking, out of solidarity with me. I figure 3 months vs 9 months has got to be a doable "challenge." Plus, he figures, all those extra calories avoided will help take off the winter hibernation weight.
@SKZW MH did February (and a few days on either end) and was pretty proud of himself. Hah! I was like come over to my side of the world - 6 months in!! (At the time). I have a late May EDD so it has already been discussed that starting mid-late April, alcohol will be kept at a minimum in case I were to go into labor in the middle of the night etc. I should probably go a little easier on him. We have always struggled with the fact that when around his HS/college friends none of them are very good at drinking in moderation and it gets irritating. So I'm probably just overreacting because I'm sober enough to notice all the annoying habits they have! Oh well, once baby's here, that will end for a while at least and he knows it. We've discussed heavily how awful it would be to be hungover with a screaming child in the house. I'll let his hangover today be punishment enough.
ETA: Thanks for listening/reading me basically working things out in my own head. I've been cranky/hormonal this weekend and it's been a little difficult in our house.
@bacorrea That was close to the worst part of being sick during pregnancy this time. Hope your cough is gone soon.
@starphish18 That is exactly how I felt last pregnancy and I would guess is the majority (but could be wrong). Beer cravings are bad this time and this pregnancy has been harder. An evil piece of me probably wants him to have to give things up in the name of the baby too.
@ShadeofGreen816 I was in a similar boat last pregnancy (more time out with friends who are drinkers) and didn't have any restrictions on him until about 4 weeks prior to due date. At that point I ask him to always keep it under two or so because baby could come who knows when. And being buzzed or drunk in the hospital or hung over would have went very badly for him. A close friend just had a baby and her husband had been out drinking all night with friends and just made it home when they had to go to the hospital. She had to drive herself. Not his finest hour
A close friend just had a baby and her husband had been out drinking all night with friends and just made it home when they had to go to the hospital. She had to drive herself. Not his finest hour
I would KILL my husband if he pulled that on me! DH will have one or two beers in the hot tub a couple times a week. We really don't drink that much at home, but every now and then when he gets together with his sisters or buddies he'll really tie one on. I'll have to talk with him about maybe not doing any big nights out once we get a little closer to May.
@CherryBananas Oh yeah! DH would be dead if that happened and if I didn't kill him I think my father would. My friend laughed about it. She is obviously more forgiving than me. Her water had broke 2.5 weeks early right about the time he arrived home that night.
DH isn't a heavy drinker but with a DD (me) he has been living it up a little more than his norm. I'm happy for him to do it and I always tell him to try the good drinks for me! But if he was drinking all the time I could see how that would be annoying! It's so nice that some of your DHs are not drinking in solidarity. My DH did make me jealous yesterday as we were at a fetal sex reveal party for a friend of mine and he jokingly offered me a beer. I wish I could live it up .
Also so I don't remember if it was the weekday randoms or the weekend randoms but whoever suggested the bag of foil wrapped Reese eggs: you are my hero! Those things are sooooo amazing!
It doesnt bother me when DH has a beer every now and then. He very rarely has more than one. It probably help that I'm not a big fan of beer to begin with (ffsc?). His go to choice is guiness stout; I'll usually have a sip or two. Wine on the other hand, I do miss but he only drinks it when I do, so not an issue here.
DH drinks almost every weekend whether we are at home or out. It doesn't bother me as he doesn't get annoying. Also, I play that card for the next 2 years after pregnancy and demand he DD, so win/win. It's 2 years for me because our social life greatly slows down. I do cut him off 4 wks prior to due date for all the reasons mentioned above.
We went to a Brazilian steak house last night. It was perfect for my GD. I binged on meat (protein!) and salad bar (fiber!) and could eat 3 cheese bread/puffs for my carb allotment. So good. Meat sweats!!
My H doesn't drink but he gave up pop for the entire pregnancy. It's a big deal for him as he used to drink at least one, if not a few a day. If I have to give up alcohol he gave up pop. I wasn't really serious about it when I suggested it but he stuck with it so we both are finding alternatives to drink as I'm not a pop person.
@ShadeofGreen816 I'd be annoyed if my DH was drunk around me. He'll have a beer after a hard day or if we go out, but I've given permission. He only has one, and he's never drunk. I think if my DH did what yours did, I'd be hormonally irate. Have you tried talking to him? I like @SKZW 's suggestion of no drinking the last three months.
@ShadeofGreen816 Sounds like I'm the only one on this side of the spectrum but my DH has a problem with alcohol. He can admit that, and at times recognizes that he should be sober, but cannot commit to it. It has been rough at times during this pregnancy as my stress level obviously impacts the baby. Maybe have a conversation with your husband about it, How you are more sensitive to it currently.
Im glad some of you brought up not drinking the last month or so, as that is something I definitely need to talk to him about.
This is kinda a Debby Downer (and possible TW) post so sorry in advance, but I need to vent.
I posted on Monday about my sister's (ex-)boyfriend being a total jerk (he unexpectedly broke up with her after she traveled a long distance to see him). Well now my other sister is having marital problems with her husband. I told this sister before she got engaged that I don't think this guy was the right one for her. However, I've been supportive since they got engaged and married and have helped her through relationship issues in the past. It just really sucks that my sisters are in so much pain right now and there's nothing I can do but lend a crying shoulder.
Also, I just found out that a close friend of my grandpa passed away recently. My grandpa passed away 3 years ago and whenever a friend of his passes away it brings back all the emotions of my grandpa passing away. Ugh. And my husband's grandma is in the hospital right now and they're not sure why she's sick.
My pregnancy hormones are not helping any of these situations either.
Interesting to read everyone's thoughts on drinking husbands. It's such a huge spectrum of lifestyle choices that it's hard to look at anyone else's situation and take what they do to work in someone else's situation exactly. Like I said, we are in a circle of friends that are pretty big social drinkers, and while we are smarter about things than we once were (make arrangements to stay over at others houses etc instead of driving after drinking), the amount consumed doesn't seem to have tapered immensely. That being said, I don't LOVE being drunk like MH and some of our friends seem to. MH doesn't have an issue so much with drinking but he has always said that he thinks under different life circumstances, he could see it happening. Long story short, his habits haven't changed much from pre-pregnancy except maybe to be less since we've definitely stayed in more this winter. Last night I decided to drive us home (a little over an hour) rather than spend the night at our friend's house since I didn't want to sleep in someone else's bed with my snoring bedmate. Sitting in the car with him snoring all the way home made me a little irrational I think and I wasn't very nice to him.
Thanks everyone one for your perspectives. I think I'm middle of the road but will be looking forward to the no drinking last month of pregnancy!
@Jens_Hoes youre not the only one. my dh and i have been together for 8 years (married 4) and while it is no longer an issue- neither of us drink (except occasionally literally 1 beer)- its because it was a BIG issue for a long time and for us it is better to avoid it. So for us its the same whether im pregnant or not, and im so glad bc if he showed up to the hospital drunk or hungover i would lose it!!!
Friday i felt so much pressure and period type pains and just kept wondering why i felt so gross. Then around 6 i started having painful contractions again and decided to take some procardia. Luckily they went away quickly! Im going to ask my dr tmw what week i should take them through bc i obviously dont want them to come anytime soon, but i am so uncomfortable that i cant imagine going another 6 weeks!
Dh's family came again yesterday and brought some sweet gifts for the twins and also dd. The next time we see them will probably be go time so that makes it seem soon!
@luckywife10: Sorry to hear about your sisters' relationships going south, and your feeling helpless on the sidelines. I will say, though, that a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen can be such a balm in tough times. You're offering them help in the best way possible, just to be there and be present for them.
We had a death in the family last week and I totally get what you're saying. Every new passing reminds me of everyone else who passed before, and it brings up every pain all over again. I'm sorry you have to deal with that at all but especially pregnant. <hugs>
@ShadeofGreen816, so, we are pretty frequent social drinkers--less so now with the toddler, but (pre-pregnancy) we would still meet up with friends with kids for beer, have some wine at dinner, and mix up cocktails at home. I've been totally fine with him continuing to drink in and out of the house, but something recently snapped and I find myself getting super annoyed with it. I know it's mostly irrational, but I have definitely felt very alone in my pregnancy struggles this past week or so. It's not like someone else can take over growing this child for a night, but I'm just so over the responsibility and would like a break. I'm a pretty low-drama, self sufficient person, but I find myself wishing for a little more empathy and special treatment, specifically from DH.
@Louise_Belcher, I totally feel you on the pre-stress about breast feeding. I'm trying to keep a positive outlook on the whole thing this go around, but last time was so tough it's hard to be optimistic.
And, kind of a combination of the two thoughts above, I'm just generally feeling pretty down about the next few weeks to come. 3 more weeks of pregnancy, child birth, recovery, a new baby with a personality that I don't know (along with the toddler), impending lack of sleep (and current lack of sleep that will probably not subside before this baby comes) and breast feeding. It all feels a little overwhelming.
@luckywife10, sorry to hear about your sisters. It's so hard seeing someone make a wrong choice and then watching them go through the inevitable fallout. I'm going through the exact same thing with a close friend - she was going to break up with the guy, but then he proposed and it became "too complicated" to break up; then she was thinking they shouldn't go through with the wedding, but it was too complicated to call off; now they have a house and are married and it's too complicated to leave because of the house... what's she going to do when babies come? Sorry, mini rant, but it's really hard to watch and listen to, especially when you just want the person to be happy.
Re: drinking. It's interesting to hear where everyone is with their partners' drinking. DH and I are in a bit of a different boat because I quit drinking 2 years ago due to issues. He offered to quit at the time and periodically offers, but I don't want him to. I have asked that he not get too drunk around me, though, and he always complies. He's not a problem drinker.
Good point about being sober to get to the hospital. I'll make sure he keeps that in mind.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@Kipperoo Hugs re wanting a little more consideration from your H and feeling down about anticipating the not-so-fun parts of 3rd and 4th tri. Hang in there!
Just chopped off 3-4in from my hair in prep for baby: easy style, wash and wear. When DD was young she would pull on my hair constantly, so one day I cut it all of myself. I won't do that again, so I had someone do it this time and I'm so happy with the results. Last haircut was a year ago.
Are any of you ladies noticing a change in your hair? Fuller? Drier? Curlier?
Kipperoo said: And, kind of a combination of the two thoughts above, I'm just generally feeling pretty down about the next few weeks to come. 3 more weeks of pregnancy, child birth, recovery, a new baby with a personality that I don't know (along with the toddler), impending lack of sleep (and current lack of sleep that will probably not subside before this baby comes) and breast feeding. It all feels a little overwhelming.
Oh this part! I have more weeks of pregnancy to go but D Day is like an ominous little mile marker looming ahead. The unknowns of birth plus nursing again? No thank you. Trying to balance a toddler on top and remembering it's going to kick off another year of not sleeping can get me to a pretty dramatic "ugh this is the end of my life" kind of dread.
I can't not get on board with the types that want to "meet" their baby already. That first year was so... yikes.
@Kipperoo I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm becoming fatigued with being the only one in charge of this little life and feeling pretty irrational about it. It hit home today when I almost asked MH to eat more quietly because his chewing was annoying me.... not exactly rational! I know we will both make it through. If for no other reason than we have no other choice. I'm a little jealous that you only have 3 weeks of pregnancy left although I know that doesn't come without its own troubles! I'm staring down the barrel of 10 more weeks and THEN becoming a milk factory. I'm thankful that we all have each other and someone can figure out what I'm thinking/feeling when I'm too clouded by PMS-esque hormones to identify it myself!
@chailife34 ugh I hate my pregnancy hair! It's dry and frizzy but still straight and limp if that's even possible. And it seems to have stopped growing. I know it's growing a little but seems so slow! I thought it was supposed to be full and thick and pretty!
@chailife34 My hair has definitely been dry, but I don't know if it's the pregnancy or winter. I have noticed that I'm losing less in the shower. I went the opposite of you; I've been growing mine out in prep for the baby, so I can go easy no maintenance ponytail.
@luckywife10 Sorry to hear you're dealing with all of that!! Thinking about you!
@Jkp7749 Glad the contractions subsided. Don't push yourself too hard!
Contractions, menstrual-like cramps...both of which radiate through my hips and lower back. I called and talked the doctor on call, and he was a jack@ss. I'm attempting to take it easy and rest. Trying to decide if I want to go in and be checked out. I was just there on Friday and checked. Was dilated only about a fingertip. The doctor made me feel like I was overreacting though. Now I don't know what to do.
Just chopped off 3-4in from my hair in prep for baby: easy style, wash and wear. When DD was young she would pull on my hair constantly, so one day I cut it all of myself. I won't do that again, so I had someone do it this time and I'm so happy with the results. Last haircut was a year ago.
Are any of you ladies noticing a change in your hair? Fuller? Drier? Curlier?
I'm getting my pre baby haircut tomorrow!!! I can't wait! My hair is totally different. I have fine hair that ends up being greasy really quickly. So much so that I traditionally skimp on conditioner. However this whole pregnancy I have been able to go days and days without needing to wash it and not looking like a greaser. Don't worry, I still do wash it most days Hoping some of that might stick around!!
@WombThereItIs reading your post about the "yikes" and delivery becomeing more near I'm getting a little scared. It's not all you, I've been getting progressively more nervous as the weeks are counting down about how good or bad it might be in the beginning. It's not all bad right? All pregnancy I've felt like I'm not allowed to worry about those things because we have wanted and prayed for this baby for a long time through IF and it doesn't feel right that I'm afraid I'll hate maternity leave or that I won't be good at handling the lack of sleep. Hopefully it will all be ok.
@WombThereItIs reading your post about the "yikes" and delivery becomeing more near I'm getting a little scared. It's not all you, I've been getting progressively more nervous as the weeks are counting down about how good or bad it might be in the beginning. It's not all bad right? All pregnancy I've felt like I'm not allowed to worry about those things because we have wanted and prayed for this baby for a long time through IF and it doesn't feel right that I'm afraid I'll hate maternity leave or that I won't be good at handling the lack of sleep. Hopefully it will all be ok.
I know everyone has had different experiences, and while I'm not one who loathes the newborn stage I will say that as a FTM I don't think I was mentally prepared. I knew I wouldn't sleep much and my body figured out a way to survive, but the hardest part for me was feeling like I had lost "who I used to be" and struggling with my identity outside of being a mom/milk factory, if that makes sense. Eventually I felt a lot more like myself, but for those first few months it was equal parts very special and super challenging.
@luckywife10 I'm sorry about your family, and about the loss of your grandfathers friend.
I kid you not people, my husband was trying to work on fixing the electric today and stuck a wire into the house that blew all the fuses at the house and blew the fuses on the pole so now we have no power, and are waiting for the power company to fix it. This is the story of my life.
Eta: my FIL just told me we blew the transformer and knocked out power for at least the next five houses. My life is Murphy's law.
@SparkySunDevil: I think rest/hydration and maybe heat/ice sounds reasonable. Try not to stress (I know, easier said than done). If that doc didn't advise you to go in again, then maybe try waiting. You could call again tonight and see if a diff doc on call has another approach/suggestion.
That said, if he made you feel like you were overreacting, and you disagree, then sometimes you have to follow your gut and do what you think is best. It's been my experience this week (in l&d) that things take awhile to happen, meaning, if you went in, it'd be a solid 2 hrs or more for them to check you out. So weigh that against spending that time at home, in a more comfy environment, and letting things settle, vs. being there in a more clinical setting (with a professional giving you direct feedback). It's a tough call. (I don't intend this to add to your confusion!)
@WombThereItIs reading your post about the "yikes" and delivery becomeing more near I'm getting a little scared. It's not all you, I've been getting progressively more nervous as the weeks are counting down about how good or bad it might be in the beginning. It's not all bad right? All pregnancy I've felt like I'm not allowed to worry about those things because we have wanted and prayed for this baby for a long time through IF and it doesn't feel right that I'm afraid I'll hate maternity leave or that I won't be good at handling the lack of sleep. Hopefully it will all be ok.
I know everyone has had different experiences, and while I'm not one who loathes the newborn stage I will say that as a FTM I don't think I was mentally prepared. I knew I wouldn't sleep much and my body figured out a way to survive, but the hardest part for me was feeling like I had lost "who I used to be" and struggling with my identity outside of being a mom/milk factory, if that makes sense. Eventually I felt a lot more like myself, but for those first few months it was equal parts very special and super challenging.
Thanks @livin541 you for your insight. I've been preparing myself for it to be rough but of course I'm a worrier so I'm worried it's going to be way worse than I expected. I will try not to stress too much!
Omg @Jens_Hoes I can't believe that happened too. You guys really need a break!
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around so anything could happen! I still get so annoyed at hearing people say "nursing like a champ" like babies that don't aren't "champs".
ETA: Thanks for listening/reading me basically working things out in my own head. I've been cranky/hormonal this weekend and it's been a little difficult in our house.
@starphish18 That is exactly how I felt last pregnancy and I would guess is the majority (but could be wrong). Beer cravings are bad this time and this pregnancy has been harder. An evil piece of me probably wants him to have to give things up in the name of the baby too.
@ShadeofGreen816 I was in a similar boat last pregnancy (more time out with friends who are drinkers) and didn't have any restrictions on him until about 4 weeks prior to due date. At that point I ask him to always keep it under two or so because baby could come who knows when. And being buzzed or drunk in the hospital or hung over would have went very badly for him. A close friend just had a baby and her husband had been out drinking all night with friends and just made it home when they had to go to the hospital. She had to drive herself. Not his finest hour
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or the weekend randoms but whoever suggested the bag of foil wrapped Reese eggs: you are my hero! Those things are sooooo amazing!
We went to a Brazilian steak house last night. It was perfect for my GD. I binged on meat (protein!) and salad bar (fiber!) and could eat 3 cheese bread/puffs for my carb allotment. So good. Meat sweats!!
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Im glad some of you brought up not drinking the last month or so, as that is something I definitely need to talk to him about.
I posted on Monday about my sister's (ex-)boyfriend being a total jerk (he unexpectedly broke up with her after she traveled a long distance to see him). Well now my other sister is having marital problems with her husband. I told this sister before she got engaged that I don't think this guy was the right one for her. However, I've been supportive since they got engaged and married and have helped her through relationship issues in the past. It just really sucks that my sisters are in so much pain right now and there's nothing I can do but lend a crying shoulder.
Also, I just found out that a close friend of my grandpa passed away recently. My grandpa passed away 3 years ago and whenever a friend of his passes away it brings back all the emotions of my grandpa passing away. Ugh. And my husband's grandma is in the hospital right now and they're not sure why she's sick.
My pregnancy hormones are not helping any of these situations either.
Like I said, we are in a circle of friends that are pretty big social drinkers, and while we are smarter about things than we once were (make arrangements to stay over at others houses etc instead of driving after drinking), the amount consumed doesn't seem to have tapered immensely. That being said, I don't LOVE being drunk like MH and some of our friends seem to. MH doesn't have an issue so much with drinking but he has always said that he thinks under different life circumstances, he could see it happening.
Long story short, his habits haven't changed much from pre-pregnancy except maybe to be less since we've definitely stayed in more this winter. Last night I decided to drive us home (a little over an hour) rather than spend the night at our friend's house since I didn't want to sleep in someone else's bed with my snoring bedmate. Sitting in the car with him snoring all the way home made me a little irrational I think and I wasn't very nice to him.
Thanks everyone one for your perspectives. I think I'm middle of the road but will be looking forward to the no drinking last month of pregnancy!
Friday i felt so much pressure and period type pains and just kept wondering why i felt so gross. Then around 6 i started having painful contractions again and decided to take some procardia. Luckily they went away quickly! Im going to ask my dr tmw what week i should take them through bc i obviously dont want them to come anytime soon, but i am so uncomfortable that i cant imagine going another 6 weeks!
Dh's family came again yesterday and brought some sweet gifts for the twins and also dd. The next time we see them will probably be go time so that makes it seem soon!
@luckywife10 Sorry to hear you're dealing with all of that!! Thinking about you!
@Jkp7749 Glad the contractions subsided. Don't push yourself too hard!
We had a death in the family last week and I totally get what you're saying. Every new passing reminds me of everyone else who passed before, and it brings up every pain all over again. I'm sorry you have to deal with that at all but especially pregnant. <hugs>
@Louise_Belcher, I totally feel you on the pre-stress about breast feeding. I'm trying to keep a positive outlook on the whole thing this go around, but last time was so tough it's hard to be optimistic.
And, kind of a combination of the two thoughts above, I'm just generally feeling pretty down about the next few weeks to come. 3 more weeks of pregnancy, child birth, recovery, a new baby with a personality that I don't know (along with the toddler), impending lack of sleep (and current lack of sleep that will probably not subside before this baby comes) and breast feeding. It all feels a little overwhelming.
Re: drinking. It's interesting to hear where everyone is with their partners' drinking. DH and I are in a bit of a different boat because I quit drinking 2 years ago due to issues. He offered to quit at the time and periodically offers, but I don't want him to. I have asked that he not get too drunk around me, though, and he always complies. He's not a problem drinker.
Good point about being sober to get to the hospital. I'll make sure he keeps that in mind.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
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Are any of you ladies noticing a change in your hair? Fuller? Drier? Curlier?
marker looming ahead. The unknowns of birth plus nursing again? No thank you. Trying to balance a toddler on top and remembering it's going to kick off another year of not sleeping can get me to a pretty dramatic "ugh this is the end of my life" kind of dread.
I can't not get on board with the types that want to "meet" their baby already. That first year was so... yikes.
I do miss the shit out of scotch though.
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I know we will both make it through. If for no other reason than we have no other choice. I'm a little jealous that you only have 3 weeks of pregnancy left although I know that doesn't come without its own troubles! I'm staring down the barrel of 10 more weeks and THEN becoming a milk factory.
I'm thankful that we all have each other and someone can figure out what I'm thinking/feeling when I'm too clouded by PMS-esque hormones to identify it myself!
pregnancy I have been able to go days and days without needing to wash it and not looking like a greaser. Don't worry, I still do wash it most days
@WombThereItIs reading your post about the "yikes" and delivery becomeing more near I'm getting a little scared. It's not all you, I've been getting progressively more nervous as the weeks are counting down about how good or bad it might be in the beginning. It's not all bad right? All pregnancy I've felt like I'm not allowed to worry about those things because we have wanted and prayed for this baby for a long time through IF and it doesn't feel right that I'm afraid I'll hate maternity leave or that I won't be good at handling the lack of sleep. Hopefully it will all be ok.
@luckywife10 I'm sorry about your family, and about the loss of your grandfathers friend.
I kid you not people, my husband was trying to work on fixing the electric today and stuck a wire into the house that blew all the fuses at the house and blew the fuses on the pole so now we have no power, and are waiting for the power company to fix it.
This is the story of my life.
Eta: my FIL just told me we blew the transformer and knocked out power for at least the next five houses. My life is Murphy's law.
That said, if he made you feel like you were overreacting, and you disagree, then sometimes you have to follow your gut and do what you think is best. It's been my experience this week (in l&d) that things take awhile to happen, meaning, if you went in, it'd be a solid 2 hrs or more for them to check you out. So weigh that against spending that time at home, in a more comfy environment, and letting things settle, vs. being there in a more clinical setting (with a professional giving you direct feedback). It's a tough call. (I don't intend this to add to your confusion!)
Omg @Jens_Hoes I can't believe that happened too. You guys really need a break!