August 2017 Moms
Vickers224
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rude people!
Vickers224
member
Some people I've encountered on this site have been just down right rude and nasty. I don't understand it. In my opinion no question is a stupid one and if you have nothing nice to say, don't comment! Simple as that! Why would you want to tear each other down instead of support one another! I haven't posted on this app in a while and now I'm reminded why I didn't. Cuz some of the responses I read are just so down right mean. People should be ashamed of themselves
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Re: rude people!
Meanwhile...
Dating: 12/21/2001
Married: 09/08/2012
BFP: 11/16/2016 EDD: 07/27/2017
Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017
Maybe she meant deflating?
ETA @Vickers224 I'm sure your post was totally intended to save all the peoples from the angst of being on a BMB. Just like your AW "feeling fat" post was intended to commiserate with all of the other 100lb "fatties."
*+2 dirty lurker*
Sounds like shes the rude one.
Just trying to figure out why you're still posting and when you just GBCB'd There's no need for name calling, even my 4 yr old knows that. You would probably be better suited for Baby Center
Honest Advice: If you're not enjoying your pregnancy because of "rude" strangers on the internet, perhaps you should stay off of the Internet.
to the bold, If you had posted on here regularly, you would know that we have a super supportive community of women, who have been here since December! You coming in here and asking a random question, with out introducing yourself in our intro thread, or reading anything, is actually you being super rude. Our board has rules, and your question could have gone on many other threads, if you had just taken some time to read.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Second, these communities are a place to bond and talk with other women in your situation. That doesn't mean we have to all agree and hold hands under sunshine and rainbows. I'm really curious as to why you would feel the need to warn people about our rudeness if you've already expressed your desire to not be involved in this community anymore.
Yes it HAS to be hormones. We are all women after all and slaves to our hormones and feelings.. it couldn't possibly have anything to do with your multiple AW posts.. nope hormones
1. delating
2. deflating
3. deleting
4. all of the above
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
There were specific references to bumps feeling blumpy, fat, not hard like they should, etc. on previous threads, which you would know if you were an active part of our community. THAT'S what's frustrating. This goes for all lurkers - be part of our ongoing conversations (or at least lurk and read them) so that you don't come in with a one-off 'discussion' that has already been discussed to death in other threads!
If thebump is the reason you're not enjoying you pregnancy, I encourage you to try to find more joy in life.
The truth is in the early weeks we just bloat. My first 7 pounds were nothing but bloat. I just reached 20 weeks and my bloating only turned into a real bump about 2 weeks ago. Hell yes I've had moments of feeling fat and then I remind myself that I'm growing a baby, and going to get a lot bigger, and I can work toward healthily returning to a more normal-for-me weight after the baby is born. We can all identify with "feeling fat" no matter what size or shape we start out with, but when you say 9lbs of weight gain on the very small end of the scale is "fat" then you're offending the vast majority of women.
For what it's worth, when your bump develops and the bloat recedes, I think you'll feel better. So. Good luck to you.
Yes, some people sighed, rolled their eyes, and warned you that feeling "fat" at 109 lbs would rub others the wrong way, but what did you expect? Support is not just a one way street. It isn't always lollipops, rainbows and commiseration.
Sometimes support is showing you where to go, how to get there, and reminding you that your problem(s) may not be as rough as you think.
I had lunch with a friend in public and she literally yelled at me because I said I was fat at 151 lbs while pregnant. It was a bit embarrassing, but I really trust her judgement. And so I am so following her advice, cutting myself some slack, addin in low impact exercise, and switching my carb-a-holic ways with salad. I've known her for over 20 years and she has my best interest at heart. I knew her when I was 100 lbs and she definitely would have rolled her eyes had I mentioned I was "fat".
Me thinking about this thread, and also me thinking about ice cream:
If I were brand new to the group, I'd totally join in. This sounds like a fun, honest, and supportive group. I mean just look at the above responses! Oh and also, I know to read and actually lurk before posting.
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017