@DuchessOfCambridge - I've been to Dublin on St. Patrick's Day. Drunk messes there, too, just with a cuter accent. I would like it a lot more if I could drink this year! I usually have some fun with it, but I will just be going home to sleep early today, lol.
But I did appreciate and consume all of the green desserts that people would bring to work when I was working! And, when not pregnant, I have no complaints about excuses to drink! ;-)
I hate when ppl give you the side eye when you don't order a drink. I don't need a drink EVERYTIME I eat. I'm certainly not ready to tell anyone IRL I'm pregnant. It just annoys me.
I hate the "What my pregnant self is eating" discussion thread! Just reading the title makes my stomach churn. I'm sure I'll feel different when/if this nausea goes away!
I've also banned my husband from talking about food unless I start the conversation...lol
@2dash Oh my gosh, me too. I just complained to my husband last night about how many commercials there are for food on TV. I had to cover my eyes during a taco bell commercial yesterday or I would hurl.
My (nearly) 4 year younger SIL got pregnant on accident and her whole pregnancy has claimed the default statement that she "has no idea what [she's] doing." MIL has confided to me that she's actually worried about SIL's parenting ability. (She didn't even realize she was pregnant til she was over 7 weeks! I actually suspected before she did.) It's been really difficult not to be judgey. Now that we're pregnant too, my oldest child syndrome is kicking in and wants to "show her how it's done." (Mind you- I'm a FT(bio)M too...) Sometimes I hate myself...
Also, @DuchessOfCambridge I hope to have two showers as well. Though mostly because I'm obnoxiously introverted and hate being in large groups and being the center of attention... but DH is a social butterfly so we know too many people. And same on the "for the love of everything please stick to the registry!"
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
@TallMomma29 His name also wasn't Patrick! #historynerd
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@DuchessOfCambridge I had 2 showers too! One in my hometown (that actually ended up being over skype because I was on hospital bed rest where we live now, but skype found out about it and sent us a bunch of goodies!) and one that was more of a sip-and-see because we had it after DS came home from the NICU. Two were always the plan because I know so many people in my hometown though!
And I also am not a big fan of St. Paddy's Day. We used to live in NYC and that day, SantaCon, and NYE were the days we just did not leave the apartment. Chaos.
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
@elsieisamoocow we go to NYC every year around christmas with the kids to do the whole tree/lights/store windows thing and 2 years ago when we went was the day that it was Santacon and it was a crazy turnout because it was also 65 degrees. That was interesting with 3 under 5 (we had my nephew with us too). Now we make sure our trip is NOT that day. I couldnt imagine living there and just having to be stuck af home. Crazy dumb drunk people
@mispanda: I am 100% on the drinking side eyes being annoying. I maybe have one drink a month. I don't care a lot for alcoholic beverages and I definitely don't pay for them at bars (I am super cheap), so I get frequent side eyes. But it's not like a drink in general!
People who push others to drink are annoying! I rarely drink due to GERD and to be honest, it doesn't make me feel good. I had waiters question why I didn't want to order a drink twice last pregnancy and I finally had to say I was pregnant so they'd stop asking when they came back. My friends are great about it. I don't want to drink and I don't need to. Plus, like @dragonfly87 said, they are ridiculously overpriced! Depending on the drink, it's anywhere from a $5 beer to $12 mixed drink if I'm guessing correctly from memory. I can buy a six pack or bottle for a little more. Plus, I like my cheap $10 Barefoot Moscato.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
This sounds ungrateful because it kind of is since any gift is thoughtful so flame away, but I don't want anyone to give me decor for baby unless I pick it out because I have this nursery planned to a T. I won't use it and then they will feel bad when they come over and see it isn't there.
Fir my son, my mil decides to give me a playpen that was not the one I asked for. It didn't go with anything nor did it have the features I wanted. I never used it and got rid of it
This sounds ungrateful because it kind of is since any gift is thoughtful so flame away, but I don't want anyone to give me decor for baby unless I pick it out because I have this nursery planned to a T. I won't use it and then they will feel bad when they come over and see it isn't there.
Fir my son, my mil decides to give me a playpen that was not the one I asked for. It didn't go with anything nor did it have the features I wanted. I never used it and got rid of it
How dare she give you a nice, expensive gift... lol
I cringe every time I read someone's plans to publicly announce their pregnancy. Even when you think you've thought of everything, I promise, you haven't.
I'm sure everyone who considered me in this way would have assumed that I was done having kids (my son is 6, my husband had a vasectomy, and we said many times over that we were done.). Well, I'm not done, I'm engaged to a wonderful man with whom I've been TTC for over a year without any success at all until now, and we've been undergoing fertility treatment. Nobody knows, not even most of my family and my closest friends. I would have been hard pressed to react well if I were put on the spot hearing that news.
The nature of the beast is that people tend to keep their infertility struggles to themselves. There's no way to know for sure that someone isn't going through it, even if they have a child/children already (secondary infertility is a thing).
I know how exciting it is to share your news with the world. Definitely, do it the way you want to do it. Just please consider not doing it in a way where someone is "stuck" in front of you and expected to be overjoyed. They are happy for you, but they might really need a little time to get there.
~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~ ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
@pawcall Hugs friend. I completely agree. I tried to say something to this effect in the announcing thread... I hope it strikes a chord with people. It's just so hard and like you said it's the nature of the beast that people keep IF and loss to themselves. Especially with your friends and family, the people you purport to love most -- wouldn't you want to be sensitive?
This sounds ungrateful because it kind of is since any gift is thoughtful so flame away, but I don't want anyone to give me decor for baby unless I pick it out because I have this nursery planned to a T. I won't use it and then they will feel bad when they come over and see it isn't there.
Fir my son, my mil decides to give me a playpen that was not the one I asked for. It didn't go with anything nor did it have the features I wanted. I never used it and got rid of it
How dare she give you a nice, expensive gift... lol
Not because she wanted to. It's only because she had to as she bought my sil a crib so she tried to be fair. Also, it wasnt that expensive. It was the cheapest one from walmart. I love my mil. I just hated that playpen.
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But I did appreciate and consume all of the green desserts that people would bring to work when I was working! And, when not pregnant, I have no complaints about excuses to drink! ;-)
I hate the "What my pregnant self is eating" discussion thread! Just reading the title makes my stomach churn. I'm sure I'll feel different when/if this nausea goes away!
I've also banned my husband from talking about food unless I start the conversation...lol
Also, @DuchessOfCambridge I hope to have two showers as well. Though mostly because I'm obnoxiously introverted and hate being in large groups and being the center of attention... but DH is a social butterfly so we know too many people. And same on the "for the love of everything please stick to the registry!"
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
And I also am not a big fan of St. Paddy's Day. We used to live in NYC and that day, SantaCon, and NYE were the days we just did not leave the apartment. Chaos.
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
I'm sure everyone who considered me in this way would have assumed that I was done having kids (my son is 6, my husband had a vasectomy, and we said many times over that we were done.). Well, I'm not done, I'm engaged to a wonderful man with whom I've been TTC for over a year without any success at all until now, and we've been undergoing fertility treatment. Nobody knows, not even most of my family and my closest friends. I would have been hard pressed to react well if I were put on the spot hearing that news.
The nature of the beast is that people tend to keep their infertility struggles to themselves. There's no way to know for sure that someone isn't going through it, even if they have a child/children already (secondary infertility is a thing).
I know how exciting it is to share your news with the world. Definitely, do it the way you want to do it. Just please consider not doing it in a way where someone is "stuck" in front of you and expected to be overjoyed. They are happy for you, but they might really need a little time to get there.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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