Some people I've encountered on this site have been just down right rude and nasty. I don't understand it. In my opinion no question is a stupid one and if you have nothing nice to say, don't comment! Simple as that! Why would you want to tear each other down instead of support one another! I haven't posted on this app in a while and now I'm reminded why I didn't. Cuz some of the responses I read are just so down right mean. People should be ashamed of themselves
I wanted to post this thread to warn people that people like you are on here and are rude. Like I don't get it! Sorry if you hormones got your panties in a twist but I'm all fired up right now and it's people like you that are making this pregnancy for me not enjoyable. I really thought these apps were to help people not tear each other down.
Dirty, dirty lurker. @britvahok, she actually said she was delating it... maybe that's not the same thing.
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Maybe she meant deflating?
ETA @Vickers224 I'm sure your post was totally intended to save all the peoples from the angst of being on a BMB. Just like your AW "feeling fat" post was intended to commiserate with all of the other 100lb "fatties."
I wanted to post this thread to warn people that people like you are on here and are rude. Like I don't get it! Sorry if you hormones got your panties in a twist but I'm all fired up right now and it's people like you that are making this pregnancy for me not enjoyable. I really thought these apps were to help people not tear each other down.
Just trying to figure out why you're still posting and when you just GBCB'd There's no need for name calling, even my 4 yr old knows that. You would probably be better suited for Baby Center
I wanted to post this thread to warn people that people like you are on here and are rude. Like I don't get it! Sorry if you hormones got your panties in a twist but I'm all fired up right now and it's people like you that are making this pregnancy for me not enjoyable. I really thought these apps were to help people not tear each other down.
Seems like you're the one with your panties in a wad...?
Honest Advice: If you're not enjoying your pregnancy because of "rude" strangers on the internet, perhaps you should stay off of the Internet.
Some people I've encountered on this site have been just down right rude and nasty. I don't understand it. In my opinion no question is a stupid one and if you have nothing nice to say, don't comment! Simple as that! Why would you want to tear each other down instead of support one another! I haven't posted on this app in a while and now I'm reminded why I didn't. Cuz some of the responses I read are just so down right mean. People should be ashamed of themselves
I wanted to post this thread to warn people that people like you are on here and are rude. Like I don't get it! Sorry if you hormones got your panties in a twist but I'm all fired up right now and it's people like you that are making this pregnancy for me not enjoyable. I really thought these apps were to help people not tear each other down.
QFP:
to the bold, If you had posted on here regularly, you would know that we have a super supportive community of women, who have been here since December! You coming in here and asking a random question, with out introducing yourself in our intro thread, or reading anything, is actually you being super rude. Our board has rules, and your question could have gone on many other threads, if you had just taken some time to read.
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Ok so first off, if you spent any amount of time on here you should have known that your weight post wasn't going to go over well. Second, these communities are a place to bond and talk with other women in your situation. That doesn't mean we have to all agree and hold hands under sunshine and rainbows. I'm really curious as to why you would feel the need to warn people about our rudeness if you've already expressed your desire to not be involved in this community anymore. Yes it HAS to be hormones. We are all women after all and slaves to our hormones and feelings.. it couldn't possibly have anything to do with your multiple AW posts.. nope hormones
Well, I stayed out of flaming your last thread, but now, you started one just to insult the women who spend time creating a supportive community. Just no.
There were specific references to bumps feeling blumpy, fat, not hard like they should, etc. on previous threads, which you would know if you were an active part of our community. THAT'S what's frustrating. This goes for all lurkers - be part of our ongoing conversations (or at least lurk and read them) so that you don't come in with a one-off 'discussion' that has already been discussed to death in other threads!
If thebump is the reason you're not enjoying you pregnancy, I encourage you to try to find more joy in life.
I wanted to post this thread to warn people that people like you are on here and are rude. Like I don't get it! Sorry if you hormones got your panties in a twist but I'm all fired up right now and it's people like you that are making this pregnancy for me not enjoyable. I really thought these apps were to help people not tear each other down.
Dirty lurker from July. Sweetheart, if a bunch of internet strangers on a message board are "making your pregnancy not enjoyable" you need a therapist. Just sayin.
@Vickers224 I just wanna say that no one tore you down. People simply stated your post would have been better suited somewhere else, and that the community dosent appreciate drive by posts made by people who aren't active in the community. Also very rude of you to come in with your weight "problems". Potentially making other people feel badly about their weight. You should feel ashamed of yourself, not all the genuinely helpful ladies who contribute to the community.
Met DH 2008-engaged 8/10/2011-married 7/21/12
DD1 born on her due date 05/01/2012 7lbs12oz and 19 3/4 inches long
DD2 born 12/07/2013 @ 39w6d 8lbs15oz 20 3/4 inches long
#3 EDD 09/27/2015 ~ we are going for a HOME birth!
@Vickers224 I just wanna say that no one tore you down. People simply stated your post would have been better suited somewhere else, and that the community dosent appreciate drive by posts made by people who aren't active in the community. Also very rude of you to come in with your weight "problems". Potentially making other people feel badly about their weight. You should feel ashamed of yourself, not all the genuinely helpful ladies who contribute to the community.
@vickers224 I think no matter what size we are, it's natural to go through a "feeling fat" phase, and any of us could have identified with your post if you'd posted it in the Weekly Symptoms thread or the Random Thread or Everything You Wanted to Know About Pregnancy thread- and not mentioned being 100 pounds to begin with. I'm not going to skinny-shame you but you realize you're a lot smaller than average to begin with, right? At least in the U.S.
The truth is in the early weeks we just bloat. My first 7 pounds were nothing but bloat. I just reached 20 weeks and my bloating only turned into a real bump about 2 weeks ago. Hell yes I've had moments of feeling fat and then I remind myself that I'm growing a baby, and going to get a lot bigger, and I can work toward healthily returning to a more normal-for-me weight after the baby is born. We can all identify with "feeling fat" no matter what size or shape we start out with, but when you say 9lbs of weight gain on the very small end of the scale is "fat" then you're offending the vast majority of women.
For what it's worth, when your bump develops and the bloat recedes, I think you'll feel better. So. Good luck to you.
Maybe I missed it, but I never recall anyone calling your question stupid.
Yes, some people sighed, rolled their eyes, and warned you that feeling "fat" at 109 lbs would rub others the wrong way, but what did you expect? Support is not just a one way street. It isn't always lollipops, rainbows and commiseration.
Sometimes support is showing you where to go, how to get there, and reminding you that your problem(s) may not be as rough as you think.
I had lunch with a friend in public and she literally yelled at me because I said I was fat at 151 lbs while pregnant. It was a bit embarrassing, but I really trust her judgement. And so I am so following her advice, cutting myself some slack, addin in low impact exercise, and switching my carb-a-holic ways with salad. I've known her for over 20 years and she has my best interest at heart. I knew her when I was 100 lbs and she definitely would have rolled her eyes had I mentioned I was "fat".
I wanted to post this thread to warn people that people like you are on here and are rude. Like I don't get it! Sorry if you hormones got your panties in a twist
Nah, my panties are in a twist because I weigh WAY more than 109.5 pounds.
Me thinking about this thread, and also me thinking about ice cream:
The ladies above covered it all. But I want to say...
If I were brand new to the group, I'd totally join in. This sounds like a fun, honest, and supportive group. I mean just look at the above responses! Oh and also, I know to read and actually lurk before posting.
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Re: rude people!
Meanwhile...
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Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017
Maybe she meant deflating?
ETA @Vickers224 I'm sure your post was totally intended to save all the peoples from the angst of being on a BMB. Just like your AW "feeling fat" post was intended to commiserate with all of the other 100lb "fatties."
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Sounds like shes the rude one.
Just trying to figure out why you're still posting and when you just GBCB'd There's no need for name calling, even my 4 yr old knows that. You would probably be better suited for Baby Center
Honest Advice: If you're not enjoying your pregnancy because of "rude" strangers on the internet, perhaps you should stay off of the Internet.
to the bold, If you had posted on here regularly, you would know that we have a super supportive community of women, who have been here since December! You coming in here and asking a random question, with out introducing yourself in our intro thread, or reading anything, is actually you being super rude. Our board has rules, and your question could have gone on many other threads, if you had just taken some time to read.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Second, these communities are a place to bond and talk with other women in your situation. That doesn't mean we have to all agree and hold hands under sunshine and rainbows. I'm really curious as to why you would feel the need to warn people about our rudeness if you've already expressed your desire to not be involved in this community anymore.
Yes it HAS to be hormones. We are all women after all and slaves to our hormones and feelings.. it couldn't possibly have anything to do with your multiple AW posts.. nope hormones
1. delating
2. deflating
3. deleting
4. all of the above
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
There were specific references to bumps feeling blumpy, fat, not hard like they should, etc. on previous threads, which you would know if you were an active part of our community. THAT'S what's frustrating. This goes for all lurkers - be part of our ongoing conversations (or at least lurk and read them) so that you don't come in with a one-off 'discussion' that has already been discussed to death in other threads!
If thebump is the reason you're not enjoying you pregnancy, I encourage you to try to find more joy in life.
The truth is in the early weeks we just bloat. My first 7 pounds were nothing but bloat. I just reached 20 weeks and my bloating only turned into a real bump about 2 weeks ago. Hell yes I've had moments of feeling fat and then I remind myself that I'm growing a baby, and going to get a lot bigger, and I can work toward healthily returning to a more normal-for-me weight after the baby is born. We can all identify with "feeling fat" no matter what size or shape we start out with, but when you say 9lbs of weight gain on the very small end of the scale is "fat" then you're offending the vast majority of women.
For what it's worth, when your bump develops and the bloat recedes, I think you'll feel better. So. Good luck to you.
Yes, some people sighed, rolled their eyes, and warned you that feeling "fat" at 109 lbs would rub others the wrong way, but what did you expect? Support is not just a one way street. It isn't always lollipops, rainbows and commiseration.
Sometimes support is showing you where to go, how to get there, and reminding you that your problem(s) may not be as rough as you think.
I had lunch with a friend in public and she literally yelled at me because I said I was fat at 151 lbs while pregnant. It was a bit embarrassing, but I really trust her judgement. And so I am so following her advice, cutting myself some slack, addin in low impact exercise, and switching my carb-a-holic ways with salad. I've known her for over 20 years and she has my best interest at heart. I knew her when I was 100 lbs and she definitely would have rolled her eyes had I mentioned I was "fat".
Me thinking about this thread, and also me thinking about ice cream:
If I were brand new to the group, I'd totally join in. This sounds like a fun, honest, and supportive group. I mean just look at the above responses! Oh and also, I know to read and actually lurk before posting.
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017