In case anyone is bored with all the support and happiness that goes on here (totally love our group and meant this mostly sarcastically) make sure to checkout July's thread "AEs" some good drama plus reminder to be careful what you're sharing in the internet! I'm totally guilty of putting out too much identifying info, by the way so no need to call me out on that one
@ShadeofGreen816: Thanks for the heads up. Sooo interesting! Did you read the entire set of messages in that post? I just read through the first two pages, and am reminded of the "when to start a FB group" discussion we had here awhile back. There's pros and cons to a FB group or Bump group. I'm not on FB now for a lot of reasons, and would honestly hate to miss out on any group continuing on without me, but will have to wait and see!
@ShadeofGreen816 that thread is crazytown! I want to know more about what went down but it is definitely a good reminder to not put too much personal stuff online. Also, one of the girls said our thread is her favorite to lurk so that made me feel cool.
@nda_roxybabe I know you have already received a lot of responses, but I will weigh in a little. IMO a stroller is completely necessary. Something you may want to think about is if anyone else will be utilizing the stroller as well. I believe you said your mom will be watching your LO, my mom watches DS at my house and she uses our stroller frequently. Even if it is just for a spin around the block to get them all out of the house and in fresh air for a few minutes. So while I can go weeks without using it, it is usually used at least once a week by someone.
@ShadeofGreen816 that thread is crazytown! I want to know more about what went down but it is definitely a good reminder to not put too much personal stuff online. Also, one of the girls said our thread is her favorite to lurk so that made me feel cool.
She made several interesting comments in her first account. She was banned the first time due to an insensitive anti-abortion comment in a recent UO or FFFC.
Man, I can barely keep up on our BMB... haven't even had a chance to lurk on others...
I hope all of our mamas that have already delivered are recovering well and that their baby/ies is/are doing well.
I posted this on Tuesday's ticker change but I'm still trying to qualify for FMLA by working extra shifts this entire month (maybe that's why I can't keep up lately) and then going on modified duty for all of April. Only 2 more full-time weeks left for March. Cross your fingers I make it to the end with my sanity
@ShadeofGreen816 and others, I didn't read the whole AE thread, but I think doing that much detective work to call someone out is really weird. This is a public forum. Who cares if someone comes back with another username and posts on another board? Yeah, her posts were insensitive and it was good that she stopped participating in their board... but why put so much work into following someone around the internet? Is it just me that feels this way? I think finding someone on facebook like that is crazy creepy.
*posting and ghosting because I don't check TB at work*
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 exactly! I am more weirded out by someone that goes through all that work to track someone down that somebody that might make up stories and multiple usernames.
Actually the whole "AE" thing doesn't really bother me at all. I think it is a strange thing to choose to do but whatever.
@ShadeofGreen816 Thanks for bringing that up to our attentuon! I have totally slacked in lurking other boards these day now that I can barely keep up with our own.
Its crazy what some people will do and I'm glad they were able to catch her before some serious catfishing could happen. With facebook on the horizon, I can see why they would watch out for her. Plus theres the fact that she accidently shared a photo with her real name. It's really not that hard to find someone on fb assuming they have an account. Otherwise they probably would not have been able to call her out the way they did.
Good lord, last night was a new circle of hell. We met up with a few friends for my bday dinner, and I ate a lot of fries, knowing perfectly well that they were going to cause stomach problems later (but not taking into account how much later I was eating dinner). We were there for around 3.5 hours, and the seats were hard metal. So, we get home, I try to go right to bed because my back is in spasm, I can't lay flat cause I feel like I'm going to throw up (thanks fries), so I have to elevate my torso, which keeps my back in spasm...it was just this awful cycle going back and forth, and my back is still so tight this morning. I really learned my lesson this time. No more fries after 6 pm and no more hard surfaces for hours on end.
@nda_roxybabe I call it a baby bucket but that's not a new England thing just a me thing @Jkp7749 thank you for asking yes I was discharged Wednesday midday but then spent the whole next day at the obgyn for ultrasounds and appointment and nst. Baby failed nst so we had to have a second ultrasound at the office and a repeat nst monday. Hoping all goes well from now on!
I don't think the sleuthing was too much in the case of that AE. She was pretty disruptive to the board in all of her AE forms. Plus, July has had waayyy more drama than we have. I think it's terrifying that she stole a friend's identity to create an AE and I'd want to know if someone on our board did that. What if she took someone's kid pictures?
Small vent: MH has been out of town all week, came back last night and is in a foul mood. He's driving me crazy!! I feel badly but I'm like you can just go back out of town if you're going to be cranky about everything!!
@ShadeofGreen816 and others, I didn't read the whole AE thread, but I think doing that much detective work to call someone out is really weird. This is a public forum. Who cares if someone comes back with another username and posts on another board? Yeah, her posts were insensitive and it was good that she stopped participating in their board... but why put so much work into following someone around the internet? Is it just me that feels this way? I think finding someone on facebook like that is crazy creepy.
*posting and ghosting because I don't check TB at work*
I'm torn on this. While I agree that the level of detective work is a bit creepy, if one of my Facebook friends was using my picture on some other forum, I would definitely want to know. That is super weird. So I think it's good that the detective messaged the bumper's friend to give her the head's up.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
The detective work may be a little creepy, but I think that serves as a reminder to watch what you put online. I would definitely be more worried about someone else, especially a friend, using my pictures and information.
@Louise_Belcher Thank you! Yes, I was actually thinking about how Mom is going to watch baby and she takes her dog on walks regularly so she 100% needs a stroller.
@starphish18 Ugh, that sucks! I'm often in that limbo where I cant sit up, because my back hurts and I cant lay down because stomach. Oy.
I don't think the sleuthing was too much in the case of that AE. She was pretty disruptive to the board in all of her AE forms. Plus, July has had waayyy more drama than we have. I think it's terrifying that she stole a friend's identity to create an AE and I'd want to know if someone on our board did that. What if she took someone's kid pictures?
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I read the July thread and have been going through the comments here and was still SO confused by what "AE" stood for, then something finally clicked when I read your post. THANK YOU. I feel slow but now so satisfied with knowledge.
Related (and probably very naive) question: It seems that what happened with this poster was something different, but it reminded me of a question I had back when we were going through the early FB group conversations. I remember reading about the big blowup that happened a couple of years ago with a catfisher (the one who was writing as both herself and her wife, then turned out not to be pregnant at all, etc.). What's the end game here? Are they trying to steal people's identities? Their babies? Is this how they get their jollies? I always worry about putting too much info online but don't always understand exactly what the creepers are getting at. It seems super weird to troll a bunch of pregnant ladies without some goal in mind, but I don't know if they're wannabe kidnappers or what. Obviously even if they're not, I would be incredibly upset and freaked out if someone stole my picture/my kid's picture...
I don't know if that was really a question, but I just don't get the whole thing. Why are people creepy?
SO tired this morning!! DD fell out of her bed on the opposite side than where she sleeps around midnight. She cut her lip and has a scratch by her nose. She went to back to bed after a few cuddles, but then woke up around 6 this morning saying her stomach hurt. Again she went back to bed, but my alarm went off shortly after and I turned it off and went back to bed. Woke up late and ended up being late to work.
At least we get to leave work at 2 for an office outing, but then I can't even drink when we get there! Hopefully they have a yummy NA drink I can get. Happy Friday y'all!
@starphish18 I hope you had a good birthday celebration despite the afterward discomforts. I hope today is better!
@Yiggle09 I'm glad you're home, but sorry to hear LO failed NST. Keep us posted! Thinking about you.
I'm with you @L1C4gal. I'm not sure I'd join a FB group, it seems risky. Plus, I hardly FB so it wouldn't be a good way for me to keep in touch. Does this board disappear at a certain point or people just migrate over to FB?
Just read the AE thread. Eenteresting! We had lots of AE's during my time on the TK, so weird to me. You guys know I'm not overly private here, it really doesn't bug me. My FB is locked down and I regularly search myself to see what can be found, IDK *shrug*
@jayandaplus I hear ya. I'm not necessarily saying that I wouldn't join a FB group, but as with anything, I want to consider the risks. Like if someone on this board is actually doing what that one woman was (hopefully not, because I'm sure they'd be stirring up drama and we don't have any! ), what are they really getting at? I know it's creepy but it's also confusing to me. Plus, who has that much time on their hands?!
@jayandaplus: I was following in Jan all the birth announcements, and then the board's activity tapered off. Same with Feb.: birth announcements, a bunch of "why am I still pregnant? Get this baby out of me!" convos, and then tapered off activity. I expect to see March slow down soon too. It makes absolute sense, as those first weeks are total zombieland. The only reason I have pics from my son's first weeks is because I had well-meaning out-of-towners checking in daily asking for the "photo of the day." I'm unsure of whether I'd have done it (or remembered to, or had energy to!) on my own without that nudging. Okay, I'm on a tangent. Point being, total zombieland for a month or two, I'll probably vanish for awhile, not doing FB, but certainly hope to see some familiar names around here thereafter. Maybe that's a minority viewpoint, idk.
I 100% hope we still stay active after our babies are born, but I can tell you I probably wont do a lot of bumping during maternity leave. However, once I go back to work I'll be here!
I 100% hope we still stay active after our babies are born, but I can tell you I probably wont do a lot of bumping during maternity leave. However, once I go back to work I'll be here!
For me, it will be a lot of middle of the night bumping during those long nursing sessions! You all need to practice your mobile bumping!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Also, perhaps I should just look at this bumping as solidarity and support (and awesome advice!) for the pregnancy era, and prepare myself for the possibility of newbornhood-onward being less community based? IDK.... now I feel like I should put this in the mental health thread, like, start preparing myself for the possibility of being in that small group of people "left behind" when everyone else ascends to the great FB in the sky and I'm stuck in the trenches by myself? Is that the case? Who knows. But now I have something new to ruminate on!! Add it to the already-full OCD checklist.
I 100% hope we still stay active after our babies are born, but I can tell you I probably wont do a lot of bumping during maternity leave. However, once I go back to work I'll be here!
For me, it will be a lot of middle of the night bumping during those long nursing sessions! You all need to practice your mobile bumping!
This was the big benefit of FB after babies started arriving, interaction during nightime shenanigans and the general loneliness and stress of maternity leave.
Alright, my right foot has been hurting all week. I think I need some support. Suggestions for a tall order: cute, cheap ($20ish), supportive sandals (not flip flops)?
I know I'll be much more active on FB once we form a group than on here. I hate to say this but I wouldn't be surprised if this group ends up slowing down quite a bit. I absolutely adore my previous BMB which also migrated to fb and have met several mamas and their kiddos IRL. The main thing is making sure your profile is secure and private and overtime you can eventually friend the other women.
For those who thinks the detective work qas too kug in July, it has me wondering if theres still a lot of ladies here that have no idea... I'm not going to say who but one woman that participated on our board quite a bit through the end of 2016 ended up lying about her pregnancy and past losses. I did a lot of digging as well as some other ladies who also became aware of this, to make sure that her facts were not lining up right. She knows that a lot of us knows and seem to have kept away since.
Re: Randoms and Questions 3.13 - 3.17
and congrats @sjsmommy!!! hope nicu time is minimal and the babies continue to do well
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
I hope all of our mamas that have already delivered are recovering well and that their baby/ies is/are doing well.
I posted this on Tuesday's ticker change but I'm still trying to qualify for FMLA by working extra shifts this entire month (maybe that's why I can't keep up lately) and then going on modified duty for all of April. Only 2 more full-time weeks left for March. Cross your fingers I make it to the end with my sanity
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
*posting and ghosting because I don't check TB at work*
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Actually the whole "AE" thing doesn't really bother me at all. I think it is a strange thing to choose to do but whatever.
May '17 labor memes
Its crazy what some people will do and I'm glad they were able to catch her before some serious catfishing could happen. With facebook on the horizon, I can see why they would watch out for her. Plus theres the fact that she accidently shared a photo with her real name. It's really not that hard to find someone on fb assuming they have an account. Otherwise they probably would not have been able to call her out the way they did.
@Jkp7749 thank you for asking yes I was discharged Wednesday midday but then spent the whole next day at the obgyn for ultrasounds and appointment and nst. Baby failed nst so we had to have a second ultrasound at the office and a repeat nst monday. Hoping all goes well from now on!
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
@starphish18 Ugh, that sucks! I'm often in that limbo where I cant sit up, because my back hurts and I cant lay down because stomach. Oy.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I read the July thread and have been going through the comments here and was still SO confused by what "AE" stood for, then something finally clicked when I read your post. THANK YOU. I feel slow but now so satisfied with knowledge.
Related (and probably very naive) question: It seems that what happened with this poster was something different, but it reminded me of a question I had back when we were going through the early FB group conversations. I remember reading about the big blowup that happened a couple of years ago with a catfisher (the one who was writing as both herself and her wife, then turned out not to be pregnant at all, etc.). What's the end game here? Are they trying to steal people's identities? Their babies? Is this how they get their jollies? I always worry about putting too much info online but don't always understand exactly what the creepers are getting at. It seems super weird to troll a bunch of pregnant ladies without some goal in mind, but I don't know if they're wannabe kidnappers or what. Obviously even if they're not, I would be incredibly upset and freaked out if someone stole my picture/my kid's picture...
I don't know if that was really a question, but I just don't get the whole thing. Why are people creepy?
At least we get to leave work at 2 for an office outing, but then I can't even drink when we get there! Hopefully they have a yummy NA drink I can get. Happy Friday y'all!
@Yiggle09 I'm glad you're home, but sorry to hear LO failed NST. Keep us posted! Thinking about you.
I'm with you @L1C4gal. I'm not sure I'd join a FB group, it seems risky. Plus, I hardly FB so it wouldn't be a good way for me to keep in touch. Does this board disappear at a certain point or people just migrate over to FB?
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
May '17 labor memes
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
For those who thinks the detective work qas too kug in July, it has me wondering if theres still a lot of ladies here that have no idea... I'm not going to say who but one woman that participated on our board quite a bit through the end of 2016 ended up lying about her pregnancy and past losses. I did a lot of digging as well as some other ladies who also became aware of this, to make sure that her facts were not lining up right. She knows that a lot of us knows and seem to have kept away since.