I don't think you need to be worried @greenbean. You post regularly enough to be recognizable IMO. I'm sure others can weigh in, but I don't ever raise an eyebrow when you post.
Has anyone from TheBump contacted Hillary(CarsonsMommy's real name) on Facebook? I never actually messaged her but her friend is showing me their messages and Hillary is claiming that she isn't even the person who made the CarsonsMommy account. Said someone stole her photos and she only knows because of hateful messages to her facebook. Trying to say that she hasn't been on TheBump since the beginning of Carson's pregnancy which would have been early 2014 because of catty women. She actually used the term catfished in conversation with her friend saying they had both been the victim of it. Hillary wouldn't show her the messages from people but the friend is completely on her side. Saying Hillary is not the type of person to do what we're saying she is doing. Hillary IS pregnant so they think it's someone that knows both of them IRL and is doing it just to get a rise out of them.
Now I know all of what she is saying is bull. There is too much personal info that matches with what her friend told me for someone to have made 3 fake accounts attached to her. Plus the profile pic of her for the 2nd account wasn't on Facebook so she had to have taken it herself. So if she's willing to lie to her friend about this then there WILL be another AE. It's just a matter of time.
I am only putting her real name since it's been mentioned that she posted it herself.
Il be honest, I thought she got along fine with everyone here until that whole episode (which was very hurtful). I think the guilt and embarrassment drove her crazy which clearly she isn't handling well at all! And we all feel tricked (I do at least). I'm put off and I think we are giving her unnecessary attention at this point?
Here's the problem. If I start from the latest July EDD and move up the spreadsheet, searching the names of ladies who I "recognize" and would consider "regulars," there are some with under 100 and others with over 1000 posts. I'm not sure post count is necessarily the best judge of "regularity" (for lack of a better term lol). I'm not sure I have a better idea, though.
yep....I had to tell the friend that we will agree to disagree because I believe that Hillary is involved. I don't believe she(friend) is but Hillary is. Hillary said she couldn't remember what her old screen name was when asked for it but she remembers what email address was attached to it. That's when she said she was done talking about it because it was nonsense and TheBump was stupid anyways.
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Holy wow. I just caught up. She seems unstable in a lot of ways after all that. I don't know that there's anything that will completely prevent drama / surprises. My 2013 group wasn't blown apart until the babies were past one, and my 2011 group a few times at 6 months or so and again recently. I think a PG is a good idea of it makes people more comfortable.
Because if someone had the intention of wreaking havoc with your persona they would totally act normal, post something insensitive and hurtful and backpedal the way someone would when they realize they fucked up, and make other accounts with their real life friends picture...
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
Because if someone had the intention of wreaking havoc with your persona they would totally act normal, post something insensitive and hurtful and backpedal the way someone would when they realize they fucked up, and make other accounts with their real life friends picture...
yea plus I just found that she WAS using CarsonsMommy profile for her sons pregnancy. Found where she posted on there. SO.....total bull
I have a due date of July 9th (1st u/s), then was moved up to July 2nd (2nd u/s) because of my last missed period, would make my due date June 25th. So, it's really a toss up. But since I joined June 17 and made friends there that's where I stuck. HOWEVER, I really like a lot of you July ladies too and I don't want y'all to go to a PG because I selfishly would miss the convos!!!
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
I'll echo what @EmeraldNC said. Please still come on this board peeps. I am not an active poster, but I lurk a lot and try to contribute where I can. I want to stick around here and hope this board doesn't turn to tumbleweeds and crazies. Plus, the crazies are kind of fun!
I truly did have the evil scary music playing in my head when I wrote that...and it was said in a whisper...
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Thanks @michelle04us and @rae1 for your detective work. My $0.02 on the private group: personally I like the idea. I do not feel comfortable participating in HDBD or other threads with personal info here. Although as PPs have stated, PGs are not totally safe from catfishes either. I think we have a pretty good group here and would like to continue to share in your pregnancies (maybe with a touch less drama ) If a private group would offer at least slightly more security and keep valued members from getting banned, I'm for it.
Me: 31 DH: 31 DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018 CP 3/2019
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
WTAF? Like others said, I wish her well in her pregnancy but don't think the bump is where she can get the support she needs.
Re private group. I try to contribute but know that I'm outside the core group of women here. I'd love to be in the private group but am not sure if I'm regular enough. Though if anyone has perused the weekly symptoms thread, you'll read the results of me not being "regular" enough my last pregnancy. (Bad joke, sorry....)
I'm one of the guilty lurkers, which I didn't realize until now was super creepy. But you're right it totally is and I'm sorry!
I introed back in November, am on the spreadsheet, and posted a couple times, but after the nausea hit at 6 weeks I couldn't spend more than 5-10 minutes on my phone or any screen without feeling sooo seasick. So I stopped logging on altogether. I've been lurking the past few weeks and trying to decide if I wanted to post again, but with all the drama surrounding new people I got nervous and didn't really know how to become reactive after such a long time without making people mad!
Anyway, just wanted to apologize for being an internet creeper. I'll hopefully contribute more if that's OK!
I would be sad to see the board die down a lot because of a private group... it totally killed my last BMB when 653 different Facebook groups were created. But this time it seems like there is a whole new level of crazy going on. Last time it was GBCB because of people "being mean" when someone asked about throwing themselves a shwer for their second child, but don't worry it was going to be a diaper shower with books instead of cards (oy).this stuff here is totally nutso.
@rjoys8 Never had that with my first, so I thought it was just a sinus infection/regular morning sickness combo. IT was awful. I wish I had thought to ask the dr.
Im guilty of lurking this past week and not participating either. Between going out of town and being sick I just have not had time to post anything. Sorry!
I will definitely try to start being more active because I really have enjoyed being a part of the July group even though I just recently joined.
Re: AE's
Married: 6/2016
TTC:6/2016
BFP: 11/22/2016 | EDD: 7/29/2017
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
Now I know all of what she is saying is bull. There is too much personal info that matches with what her friend told me for someone to have made 3 fake accounts attached to her. Plus the profile pic of her for the 2nd account wasn't on Facebook so she had to have taken it herself. So if she's willing to lie to her friend about this then there WILL be another AE. It's just a matter of time.
I am only putting her real name since it's been mentioned that she posted it herself.
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
Married: 6/2016
TTC:6/2016
BFP: 11/22/2016 | EDD: 7/29/2017
comfortable.
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
I have a due date of July 9th (1st u/s), then was moved up to July 2nd (2nd u/s) because of my last missed period, would make my due date June 25th. So, it's really a toss up. But since I joined June 17 and made friends there that's where I stuck. HOWEVER, I really like a lot of you July ladies too and I don't want y'all to go to a PG because I selfishly would miss the convos!!!
DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018
CP 3/2019
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Re private group. I try to contribute but know that I'm outside the core group of women here. I'd love to be in the private group but am not sure if I'm regular enough. Though if anyone has perused the weekly symptoms thread, you'll read the results of me not being "regular" enough my last pregnancy. (Bad joke, sorry....)
I'm one of the guilty lurkers, which I didn't realize until now was super creepy. But you're right it totally is and I'm sorry!
I introed back in November, am on the spreadsheet, and posted a couple times, but after the nausea hit at 6 weeks I couldn't spend more than 5-10 minutes on my phone or any screen without feeling sooo seasick. So I stopped logging on altogether. I've been lurking the past few weeks and trying to decide if I wanted to post again, but with all the drama surrounding new people I got nervous and didn't really know how to become reactive after such a long time without making people mad!
Anyway, just wanted to apologize for being an internet creeper. I'll hopefully contribute more if that's OK!
ETA - request sent @SaphireSweetie88
@michelle04us fantastic sleuthing!
@SaphireSweetie88 sending my request now
I will definitely try to start being more active because I really have enjoyed being a part of the July group even though I just recently joined.