Hormones, lack of sleep, and general irritability as we get close to the end probably means we have quite a few TWs in our days. Let's hear about them!
First I was the TW because I was trying to carry too much on my way out the door this morning, spilled coffee down my shirt trying to get keys out of my purse, then cried about it and was late to work.
However, the university I work at is the real TW today because I got a parking ticket in freaking OCTOBER of last year, appealed it immediately (people at my office said they always forgive the first one), and proceeded to hear nothing about it until today (despite several email follow-ups) when I learned my appeal was rejected. Oh, and they added a $5 processing fee to my ticket just for giggles. I really wanted to respond by playing dumb and asking them what ticket they're referring to because the only one I'm aware of was issued SIX MONTHS ago and surely they can't mean that one. Rageface. If I wasn't worried about the university holding up DH's graduation on account of my ticket (stranger things have happened) I probably would refuse to pay at this point. It was a dumb ticket anyway.
A couple TWs. The first is that maternity leave should start two weeks before your due date (also everyone should get paid maternity leave). The second are the HR people at DHs work who just told him that he's not supposed to split up his paternity leave. I know we are super lucky in that he gets 4 weeks. We planned for him to take 2 weeks at the beginning and 2 weeks after I go back to work. He already talked to his manager about this and she didn't have a problem with it. He's meeting with her tomorrow so hopefully he can get permission re-approved.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
The lady at the grocery store is a TW. I was putting my bags in my cart when a lady walked up the checkout aisle behind me. She was talking on her cell phone, holding a cup of Starbucks, and pushing her cart. Oh and her three(ish) year old was just running around. First I find it rude that ur on the phone at the checkout. Second...he daughter runs out in front of me and makes it all the way to the front door. Mom is still on the phone and says "hold on....Emmy, Emmy, uhhh can someone grab her and help me out" I turned around and said "it would probably help you both out if you put down your cell phone"
ugh the bump ate my post. It was supposed to say at the end "I just find it rude when people are too busy on their phones to take care of their responsibilities, especially in public."
@Taylor72 I can't believe she expected strangers to wrangle her kid! I don't even like being on my phone in the checkout, let alone while my kid is running away.
My TW today is unfortunately my husband. He said he'd be home early because he'll be out of town Thursday-Sunday, yet came home at almost 7pm. At least he brought me chips.
@Taylor72, I can't believe that woman either. So rude. I love how you said something though. My TW was my groin pain. It got so bad yesterday that I had trouble walking short distances. Going to physio today so hopefully there's something they can do to help.
MMC @ 10w March 2016 Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
My TW yesterday was one of the managers I work with. They have a weekly meeting between my boss and 3 other dept managers to discuss how room service is going (redesigned last yr). Anyway, no one showed up yesterday except the food mgr. So my boss sends out an email saying no one came but here are the notes we need to follow up on. So the other mgr, who loves to call people out when they're late to anything, sends me and everyone on the meeting invite an email about how this is a bi-weekly meeting and that if it's changed to weekly could I please let them know and update their calendars. I went back and forth with her for 8 EMAILS (just us, not w/everyone) about how it's been weekly since the new year. She keeps arguing with me, then starts polling the others about if they knew it was weekly. She asks the one chef, who is an actual idiot, and he doesn't remember--not a reliable source since he has showed me the same coasters for an amenity he wants to do 3 times like I haven't seen it before or they haven't already been approved. Anyway, I search my Sent file in my email...Dec. 27th is when they all got the notification that it was weekly again. Do not act like I don't know what I'm talking about, especially when the meeting room is right next to my office so I see them walk to this meeting every week, I remind my boss about it weekly, and I am in charge of the damn invite!! Ugh...the polling of people is what really drove me up the wall.
AMA is my TW. An ultrasound every week at $45 a pop is just too much. That's $75 a week in Dr visits till I pop. If something was wrong or if they were even concerned that something COULD be wrong I would be OK with it. But every time they tell me she's perfect and this is the most uneventful pregnancy they've seen it makes me want to scream. Every other week should be sufficient.
My TW is my stupid nesting urge. Where you at, booboo? We've got 4 weeks to get crap together for this kid! #secondkidproblems
I actually took the day off of work today for a doctor's appointment for DS this morning and then to force myself to nest the rest of the day while he's at daycare. (I could have done a half day, but they wouldn't have gotten a sub for me and my department would have had to cover my classes, and I'm not about to make them do that.)
My in-laws are coming for DD's birthday party and they are totally TWs. They act like they are on vacation every single time they visit us and I'm going to be 8 months pregnant and running a 3yo birthday party. I am not sure I'm going to be able to not scream at them this time around when they don't wash any dishes and just stay parked on the couch the entire weekend while we make them all their meals.
A couple TWs. The first is that maternity leave should start two weeks before your due date (also everyone should get paid maternity leave). The second are the HR people at DHs work who just told him that he's not supposed to split up his paternity leave. I know we are super lucky in that he gets 4 weeks. We planned for him to take 2 weeks at the beginning and 2 weeks after I go back to work. He already talked to his manager about this and she didn't have a problem with it. He's meeting with her tomorrow so hopefully he can get permission re-approved.
yeah! this is when I really miss Europe. Your maternity leave starts a month before your due date and you are paid for a year! not at a 100% for the entire time of course, but trust me it's plenty. I also don't agree with how HR works here in the states in general. it's not family friendly at all!
Really this is just because I want to complain. The plans DH made this weekend are a TW. Picture this: we've had two baby showers within a week, and since the nursery is still full of painting tools and plastic sheeting and needs one more coat of paint, I've been piling gifts into the library and the most progress I've made is cutting off tags from clothing and sorting them into piles by size. The bassinet is in the living room, the stroller is in the kitchen, the pack n play is also in the living room, and so is the rocker-glider for the nursery. Boxes of diapers are stacked in the hall. I'm itching to get into the nursery after that final coat of paint and finally start putting things away because the house is a mess.
Well some friends of DH will be in town this weekend and asked to come spend the morning and afternoon at our house Saturday. I don't really know these people. They have four small children. DH said we'd provide them lunch.
So today, with the nursery not done, I have to figure out where to put everything, clean the house, go out and buy ingredients for a lunch for 8 people, and try and figure out how I'm going to keep the dog separate from the little kids because while she's usually fine around little ones, she's so hyper that there's just no room for her in the chaos, and if it's snowing I can't shove her outside, but the library and the nursery aren't an option and the basement is the only place I have available for children to play in in snowy weather and it's not exactly kid-proof.
Sorry for the novel, but ugh! What am I supposed to do with six extra people in my house and no place to put them or the baby stuff that's all over my house? We also were going to use Saturday morning to put together nursery furniture and go to ikea for the dresser. Thanks DH. We only have a few weekends left before she's here to do all this nesting, and you thought it would be a good idea to invite over people I don't know to our chaotic house?
Also, what can I make these people for lunch??? What do small children eat? lol I'm such a mess this week.
@HGRich, our husbands sound like they could be related! When I have other plans to get things done or our house is a wreck etc that's when he chooses to have people over and/or start another big messy project. It frustrates me SO bad and he thinks it's no big deal and I just don't like company ever. Um no, I am fine with company but when I have to do ALL the cooking and cleaning and you just get to hang out and enjoy, yes I have an issue with it! Especially when it's last minute like he is very notorious for doing to me.
Hmm, lunch - order pizza! Or just do an easy crock pot soup, some bread and if you really feel ambitious grab something at the store for dessert (or make something if you like to do that) and call it good. It will be great soup weather this weekend, and soups make a lot and are usually pretty fast. I have a good taco one or potato if you need a fast easy recipe!
@mylittleirvz actually crock pot soup is brilliant. Thank you for that. I think I know what I'll make but if you want to share the taco one that sounds pretty good too. Thanks!
@HGRich - here's the recipe I use! So easy and you can let it cook longer/shorter as you have the time. It basically just needs to be in there to heat but the longer you cook the better the flavors.
Sorry everyone for posting the recipe in the thread, can't ever figure out how to get links to work correctly!!
@KirstinH88, it is so yummy especially adding some sour cream and fritos! It seriously is one of the easiest "dump it in" and forget it recipes and I make it a lot in the winter. Plus just that single recipe makes a pretty full crockpot so for our smaller family we get several meals out of it.
@mylittleirvz I have a fairly similar (not really) chili recipe that I absolutely LOVE! Its a bit on the spicy side, so the kids don't really love it, but it also can feed us for several days. Mmmm....We have beautiful weather here lately (definitely not soup or chili weather) but I might just have to throw it in the crockpot and enjoy!
Can my 4.5 year old be my TW on a Friday? She faked sick to get sent home from preschool today! She even looked sick when I picked her up.. got in the car asked for my nephew I told her he couldn't come over BC she was sick.. she says but I'm not sick (which I figured was just to get him;over.) Then she asked for a donut I said no they're bad for upset stomachs.. she said but it doesn't hurt unless I don't want to be at school.. I explained she wasn't going to do anything or have anyone over if she can't go to school.. and she went home and acted 100% normal all day. Seriously did not think I'd be dealing with this shit already. She loved school until a couple months ago and I'm hoping it's just BC of the baby. She's been acting all sorts of different and its breaking my heart BC I really don't know how to help her.
My TW today is the woman in church whose kids were running around so she looked at me and said, "Are you ready for this?" Ugh. She also went on about how small I am.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@catem07 That's so rude! Man the things people will say to pregnant women still amaze me. It's like being pregnant gives them the green light to remove their filter... I'm sorry you had to deal with that at church.
MMC @ 10w March 2016 Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
My TW today is pushy friends in pyramid schemes. Don't make things awkward when I make it clear I'm not interested! And I bought your stupid product and it doesn't even work as advertised! *eye roll emoji*
I could not agree more @catem07. This one sucks because it's a good friend that I talk to nearly every day. I finally gave in and bought the product to support her... big mistake on my part clearly.
So I can't really say that DH is a TW per say, but I was a tad annoyed. The kid in him came out tonight when he heard the ice cream truck outside. He got all excited and wanted to get something. Now 15 minutes prior to this, he asked me if I wanted ice cream which I said no. Then he asked if I wanted my watermelon italian ice that's in the freezer and I said no. Then he asked if I wanted thin mints and I said no. (I finally realized it was HE who wanted something sweet haha). He asks if I want anything from the truck and dun dun dun....I said no. So he opened the front door wide as I'm sitting on the couch pumping in literally a pair of underwear, that's it. I kindly remind him that I'm basically naked and he closes the door a bit more. Then I kindly remind him I do not want mosquitoes in the house and to please close the door. So he leaves and comes back. This little shit comes back with a WATERMELON FLAVORED ITALIAN ICE from the ice cream truck FOR ME! Really?! I have the damn things in the freezer and he knew that, he even asked if I wanted one. When I stared at him in disbelief, I could tell his feelings were hurt. So I thanked him and ate it anyway. (It was pretty good!) But dude, really??? He was trying to be nice, but open up your ears!
My husband wanted to start what could potentially be a major remodel project (knowing how his projects go) on our house today while he is off. Um no. No No NO. He couldn't understand why I didn't want him to and why I threatened bodily harm if he started said project when I was 37 weeks pregnant. Told him if he wanted a "project" to work on I could give him plenty but we are absolutely positively NOT starting any more reno projects til this summer at minimum. Period.
@mylittleirv that is my husband to a T - absolutely no sense of timing whatsoever. What is so hard to get??
@BabyBlake042017 the pyramid schemes make me see red. I do try to be supportive and purchase something to help out my friends, but it always comes with strings! Always another product, or wouldn't I be interested in hosting or joining the team? No! Makes things so awkward! Im not trying to knock all the moms who do direct sales as a legitimate business and i know not all resort to those kinds of tactics, but that hasn't been my experience.
My TW was my furnace... it broke over the weekend and unfortunately we are in a cold streak! Thankfully we got a new one installed yesterday so we didn't have to live in arctic temperatures for too long, but it was an unneeded expense! I guess better get it replaced now than after the baby comes!
MMC @ 10w March 2016 Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
Warning: long backstory here. Back at my 31/32 week appointment, the dr said I was measuring 5 weeks ahead (which I questioned as that did not sound right to me), and she wanted me to get an ultrasound asap. So, we did this. At the time of the appointment, we paid $450 (about $200 more than all our other ultrasounds had cost out of pocket). Not sure why it was so expensive, but whatever. That midwifery practice contracted their ultrasounds out to a different practice with a separate doctor, and she is the one who checks the ultrasound reports, but apart from that, she has no contact with the patients and knows nothing of their history. After this ultrasound, we had a meeting with her via video conferencing where she told us the baby was a bit large, and fluid was a bit high, but there was nothing to be done except keep monitoring. Well alright then. Thanks for all your insight. *eyeroll*
After the move, I met with my new practice, and at all of my appointments since (three different midwives), I've been measuring spot on, so it seems like that ultrasound was completely unnecessary. We just received a separate bill for this ultrasound/consultation for an EXTRA $150. Seriously, WTF. This pointless ultrasound that told us nothing useful and wasn't even necessary has ended up costing us six hundred f-ing dollars.
@Blueberry85 DH was just complaining to me about how many more ultrasounds we had with DS than we have had with this one. We have had 2 so far this pregnancy- a dating scan at 9 weeks, and the 20 week US. With DS, they were afraid I had a short cervix (I had a LEEP earlier that year), so we had 3 additional for that, then I was diagnosed with GD, so we had 2 more towards the end, costing a total of $2,200 out-of-pocket! Don't get me wrong, I'd rather be safe than sorry, but my cervix measured long each time, and GD was completely under control- DS was perfect weighing 7lbs 4oz. I told DH to suck it up, less ultrasounds means a healthy baby and is way less expensive.
My TW is my mom. About 4 years ago, DH and I were ready to move from the town we lived in when we got married. At the time, we were debating on moving closer to family (both my parents and his mom and siblings are all within a one-hour radius), or moving out to our dream location, Colorado. We're both big outdoors people and that's the lifestyle that we want for ourselves and for our children. So, we talk it over with our families, and ultimately decide (since unknown to all of them, we were TTC) to move closer to family for 5 or so years before heading out to Colorado. The original plan was to pop out a couple of kids, have them be around family while they were little, then move. We bought a starter home that we knew we would easily outgrow with two kids in an area that was still a little far from family (most of them are an hour away) but was affordable and would be good for resale down the line. We didn't count on it taking almost 3 years to conceive DS. So, we shifted our timeline to plan to move to Colorado in 2018, because we really can't afford this area, and to move to a more affordable location within this area puts us even farther away from family (the whole reason we even moved here in the first place).
My mom will. not. let. it. go.
Every chance she gets she complains to me that I'm "withholding her grandchildren" from her. She makes comments all the time about how she has to do stuff with DS now because soon she won't get to anymore. And the other day, when we were on the way to my sprinkle, she basically told me that I was an incompetent mother who wouldn't be able to handle taking care of two kids by myself while DH travels for work. I can handle people being unsupportive, but she's unsupportive for the sole reason that she doesn't get what SHE wants, and that selfishness is driving me insane. My dad and DH's family get it and they're supportive of us. They've known that it's been our goal for a long time. It's JUST my mom that's acting like this. I've been giving her radio silence since my sprinkle because I just don't even want to deal with her at all right now.
The kicker? My dad is retiring next year (before we would move), and they're planning to sell their house to buy an RV and travel for a few years. So THEY won't even be here anymore, and THEY will have the flexibility to come and visit whenever they want. And when they are done with the RV they will be able to move and settle wherever they want (and my dad has also mentioned Colorado several times). I just don't get why she's being so selfish and obnoxious about the situation; it's really starting to make me resent her.
Every chance she gets she complains to me that I'm "withholding her grandchildren" from her. She makes comments all the time about how she has to do stuff with DS now because soon she won't get to anymore. And the other day, when we were on the way to my sprinkle, she basically told me that I was an incompetent mother who wouldn't be able to handle taking care of two kids by myself while DH travels for work. I can handle people being unsupportive, but she's unsupportive for the sole reason that she doesn't get what SHE wants, and that selfishness is driving me insane. My dad and DH's family get it and they're supportive of us. They've known that it's been our goal for a long time. It's JUST my mom that's acting like this. I've been giving her radio silence since my sprinkle because I just don't even want to deal with her at all right now.
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WTAF to the bolded. You said you still live about an hour away. Idk about you, but I'm not sure how helpful someone would be on a daily basis if they lived an hour away. So you are already handling DS (and will adjust fine when LO comes) while your DH is traveling. I would be SOOOO beyond pissed if someone told me I was an incompetent mother. Like I'm literally so furious for you right now.
@SnarkasaurusRex Ugh I am so sorry your MOM is being this way. It angers me and breaks my heart for you. Like you said, you can deal with people not being supportive...but this is just downright wrong. I don't blame you for giving her the silent treatment right now.
@SnarkasaurusRex sorry your mom is being such a TW. My mom and I have similar issues so I feel your pain. She always needs to be the center of attention and have her way. It's easy to deal with normally but when I was getting married or when I'm pregnant it gets super annoying because even though I'm uncomfortable being the center of attention those are the times I should be. When I went wedding dress shopping she "lost" $1500 in cash and made everyone look for it instead of helping me. Surprise surprise she "found" it when she got home. She didn't even show up to my first baby shower, she had a church thing.
@Blueberry85 I would have been livid about that too. Sorry that happened
@SnarkasaurusRex It's one thing if she's expressing how much she's going to miss you/your kiddos but it's COMPLETELY another if she chooses to express those feelings by trying to make you feel like you can't parent two children by yourself. That's just manipulative and wrong. I'm sorry you have to go through that...
@rachelmiller03 and @schef070911 I appreciate the commiserations! Obviously we'd rather do what's needed (and pay the extra when we must) to make sure babe is healthy, but this final bill was just the crap icing on the shit cake that was my experience with my former midwives. It's a shame, because I really liked them when I was pregnant with DD, but they've definitely gone downhill in the past 3 years. Ah well. Not relevant now since we've moved, and I love my new midwives.
Re: TW Tuesday
However, the university I work at is the real TW today because I got a parking ticket in freaking OCTOBER of last year, appealed it immediately (people at my office said they always forgive the first one), and proceeded to hear nothing about it until today (despite several email follow-ups) when I learned my appeal was rejected. Oh, and they added a $5 processing fee to my ticket just for giggles. I really wanted to respond by playing dumb and asking them what ticket they're referring to because the only one I'm aware of was issued SIX MONTHS ago and surely they can't mean that one. Rageface. If I wasn't worried about the university holding up DH's graduation on account of my ticket (stranger things have happened) I probably would refuse to pay at this point. It was a dumb ticket anyway.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
ugh the bump ate my post. It was supposed to say at the end "I just find it rude when people are too busy on their phones to take care of their responsibilities, especially in public."
My TW today is unfortunately my husband. He said he'd be home early because he'll be out of town Thursday-Sunday, yet came home at almost 7pm. At least he brought me chips.
Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
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Wine if you read all of that...
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
I actually took the day off of work today for a doctor's appointment for DS this morning and then to force myself to nest the rest of the day while he's at daycare. (I could have done a half day, but they wouldn't have gotten a sub for me and my department would have had to cover my classes, and I'm not about to make them do that.)
I also don't agree with how HR works here in the states in general. it's not family friendly at all!
Well some friends of DH will be in town this weekend and asked to come spend the morning and afternoon at our house Saturday. I don't really know these people. They have four small children. DH said we'd provide them lunch.
So today, with the nursery not done, I have to figure out where to put everything, clean the house, go out and buy ingredients for a lunch for 8 people, and try and figure out how I'm going to keep the dog separate from the little kids because while she's usually fine around little ones, she's so hyper that there's just no room for her in the chaos, and if it's snowing I can't shove her outside, but the library and the nursery aren't an option and the basement is the only place I have available for children to play in in snowy weather and it's not exactly kid-proof.
Sorry for the novel, but ugh! What am I supposed to do with six extra people in my house and no place to put them or the baby stuff that's all over my house? We also were going to use Saturday morning to put together nursery furniture and go to ikea for the dresser. Thanks DH. We only have a few weekends left before she's here to do all this nesting, and you thought it would be a good idea to invite over people I don't know to our chaotic house?
Also, what can I make these people for lunch??? What do small children eat? lol I'm such a mess this week.
@HGRich, our husbands sound like they could be related! When I have other plans to get things done or our house is a wreck etc that's when he chooses to have people over and/or start another big messy project. It frustrates me SO bad and he thinks it's no big deal and I just don't like company ever. Um no, I am fine with company but when I have to do ALL the cooking and cleaning and you just get to hang out and enjoy, yes I have an issue with it! Especially when it's last minute like he is very notorious for doing to me.
Hmm, lunch - order pizza! Or just do an easy crock pot soup, some bread and if you really feel ambitious grab something at the store for dessert (or make something if you like to do that) and call it good. It will be great soup weather this weekend, and soups make a lot and are usually pretty fast. I have a good taco one or potato if you need a fast easy recipe!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Baby Boy due 04/07/17
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
That's so rude! Man the things people will say to pregnant women still amaze me. It's like being pregnant gives them the green light to remove their filter... I'm sorry you had to deal with that at church.
Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
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DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@BabyBlake042017 the pyramid schemes make me see red. I do try to be supportive and purchase something to help out my friends, but it always comes with strings! Always another product, or wouldn't I be interested in hosting or joining the team? No! Makes things so awkward! Im not trying to knock all the moms who do direct sales as a legitimate business and i know not all resort to those kinds of tactics, but that hasn't been my experience.
I guess better get it replaced now than after the baby comes!
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Warning: long backstory here. Back at my 31/32 week appointment, the dr said I was measuring 5 weeks ahead (which I questioned as that did not sound right to me), and she wanted me to get an ultrasound asap. So, we did this. At the time of the appointment, we paid $450 (about $200 more than all our other ultrasounds had cost out of pocket). Not sure why it was so expensive, but whatever. That midwifery practice contracted their ultrasounds out to a different practice with a separate doctor, and she is the one who checks the ultrasound reports, but apart from that, she has no contact with the patients and knows nothing of their history. After this ultrasound, we had a meeting with her via video conferencing where she told us the baby was a bit large, and fluid was a bit high, but there was nothing to be done except keep monitoring. Well alright then. Thanks for all your insight. *eyeroll*
After the move, I met with my new practice, and at all of my appointments since (three different midwives), I've been measuring spot on, so it seems like that ultrasound was completely unnecessary. We just received a separate bill for this ultrasound/consultation for an EXTRA $150. Seriously, WTF. This pointless ultrasound that told us nothing useful and wasn't even necessary has ended up costing us six hundred f-ing dollars.
DD1 born 3.2014
DD2 born 4.2017
My TW is my mom. About 4 years ago, DH and I were ready to move from the town we lived in when we got married. At the time, we were debating on moving closer to family (both my parents and his mom and siblings are all within a one-hour radius), or moving out to our dream location, Colorado. We're both big outdoors people and that's the lifestyle that we want for ourselves and for our children. So, we talk it over with our families, and ultimately decide (since unknown to all of them, we were TTC) to move closer to family for 5 or so years before heading out to Colorado. The original plan was to pop out a couple of kids, have them be around family while they were little, then move. We bought a starter home that we knew we would easily outgrow with two kids in an area that was still a little far from family (most of them are an hour away) but was affordable and would be good for resale down the line. We didn't count on it taking almost 3 years to conceive DS. So, we shifted our timeline to plan to move to Colorado in 2018, because we really can't afford this area, and to move to a more affordable location within this area puts us even farther away from family (the whole reason we even moved here in the first place).
My mom will. not. let. it. go.
Every chance she gets she complains to me that I'm "withholding her grandchildren" from her. She makes comments all the time about how she has to do stuff with DS now because soon she won't get to anymore. And the other day, when we were on the way to my sprinkle, she basically told me that I was an incompetent mother who wouldn't be able to handle taking care of two kids by myself while DH travels for work. I can handle people being unsupportive, but she's unsupportive for the sole reason that she doesn't get what SHE wants, and that selfishness is driving me insane. My dad and DH's family get it and they're supportive of us. They've known that it's been our goal for a long time. It's JUST my mom that's acting like this. I've been giving her radio silence since my sprinkle because I just don't even want to deal with her at all right now.
The kicker? My dad is retiring next year (before we would move), and they're planning to sell their house to buy an RV and travel for a few years. So THEY won't even be here anymore, and THEY will have the flexibility to come and visit whenever they want. And when they are done with the RV they will be able to move and settle wherever they want (and my dad has also mentioned Colorado several times). I just don't get why she's being so selfish and obnoxious about the situation; it's really starting to make me resent her.
Okay, enough of that nonsense.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
@SnarkasaurusRex It's one thing if she's expressing how much she's going to miss you/your kiddos but it's COMPLETELY another if she chooses to express those feelings by trying to make you feel like you can't parent two children by yourself. That's just manipulative and wrong. I'm sorry you have to go through that...
DD1 born 3.2014
DD2 born 4.2017