Surprise doc call: the good, the bad, and the ugly

AlohaKumu · March 2017

My husband's fertility doc just called because his final chromosome test just came back. Our doc shared that they did find a Y chromosome section deletion. The good news is that it's not an A or B section deletion, which would mean a 0% chance of sperm. The C section deletion means that there's an 80% chance that he does have sperm that they could harvest. (I'm going to be Googling AZF C deletions like crazy tonight!) The doc wants to try for an IVF procedure and get the ball rolling as soon as possible, since he is optimistic that we will be able to find sperm. He's already put in a consult for the fertility institute to call us so we can start the process. He even gave us his number so we could call if we don't hear back from them by the end of the week!

The scary part is that he told us to have a discussion about what we will do if we are in the 20% that doesn't have sperm due to the chromosomal deletion or if we would want to do a gender selection with the (hopeful) embryos, as this genetic condition would be passed on to a boy. It's so nice to finally have a diagnosis, but at the same time, the reality is jarring.

I have a million-billion thoughts and questions. All of you have given me such good advice and support, but I know we have a road ahead of us from here, especially if there's a long waiting list right now. I'm going to start taking baby aspirin, since I know my uterine lining isn't lusciously thick like when I was in my 20s. Anything else that you recommend that I should do to start prepping? (I'm going to stalk past boards, too.)

[Deleted User] · March 2017

So relieved for you to get not THE WORST news, kwim? You can do this! I've got no advice for ivf prep, but you know I have your back through all these tough decisions, no matter what. ❤