I know I'm very new here and please let me know if I'm stepping out of line to post a new topic on my own yet, I am struggling with this decision this time around and was just wondering if anyone else had debated this and possibly talk about what our thoughts are? I made the very mainstream decision last time to go with an OBGYN and the hospital she was linked to simply because she accepted my insurance and had a quick appointment for my first visit. Overall I wasn't happy with her and some of the way things were done so I am opening myself up to different possibilities this time but also anxious to get my first appointment scheduled. Any thoughts or plans from you all?
Re: Birth Plans? OB vs Midwife
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
That said, I am feeling more confident this time around as a STM. I'm not worried that they'll bowl me over like they tried to do then. My FI is completely supportive of me. I like my OB/GYN and I like the other docs in the practice. My only complaint now is that the hospital is NOT close to home. Probably about an hour, longer in traffic. So I'm trying to weigh how much I don't want to change doctors with how much I don't want to be so far from the hospital.
(Not trying to start any kind of feeding debate. I breastfed, and then I formula fed, and now my 6 year old is 100% fed by an Rx formula through a feeding tube. I'm big on kids getting fed. I just didn't appreciate their scare tactics, making a hormonal FTM who had just given birth think she was hurting her baby. I wasn't, he was just slow to wake to nurse and with questionable blood sugar, it just would have been more convenient for them if I would FF him and be done with it.)
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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Dating: 10/23/2013
Married: 6/13/2014
TTC since June 2016
BFP #1: 3/2/17 - MC 5/22/17
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
The thing I love the most about the birth center we chose was that they were very honest about the fact that transfers to the hospital DO happen. I like that they didn't try to gloss over that and I knew they'd make the right judgement call when the time came.
I'm a big advocate for changing if you're unhappy. I moved at 28ish weeks with DS. I'm with someone new and a new hospital now than who delivered him. Finding a care provider that listens to you and seems to be willing to support what's important to you is what tops my list. I've seen OBs, my gp delivered DS, and now I'm with midwives (because they took my post-delivery developed thyroid situation seriously and gp did not).
The level of care I received was amazing. I don't know about Midwives in the US but here in Ontario, Canada they provide after care for 6 weeks. So for 6 weeks after baby arrives your Midwife will see you weekly to check on baby, check on you and answer your questions/address your concerns etc. For the first few weeks they actually come to your home, so you don't have to haul your newborn out and about and you can hopefully continue to rest/heal.
That was such a great thing for me. Not to mention, I loved how supportive they were (at time of labour there is always 3 Midwives present) and someone was always making sure I was as comfortable as possible, and that my husband wasn't freaking the hell out lol It was really a great support. Our Midwives in Ontario are very well trained to manage non-high risk pregnancies. I had gestational diabetes with both pregnancies and they still managed me just fine. Here, they are equipped with the ability to send you for the same testing/ultrasounds as an OBGYN can. I felt like I got more personal, me specific care versus generalized care, if that makes sense? I had more control.
Anyway, sorry for the novel lol I just really really love Midwives!!
Married 9-19-2009
Baby Karrot 2.0 - 6.25.2015 - He's here! Via VBAC @ 36 weeks.
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When I graduate from the RE, I'll need to look for a doctor. I've seen a gynecologist for several years, but she doesn't do OB. I'd also like to go somewhere near our home, rather than near my office, so my husband can attend u/s and such. I find the midwife idea appealing but I think I'd want a nurse-midwife in a hospital. Can anyone recommend how to research options in my area?
***TW Living child and loss mentioned***
13 March 2017: Loss at 4+6
I have found that the hospital is more important than the doctor. Chances are, in a big ob practice, your dr won't be delivering your baby. But a hospital with awesome nurses will mean everything to you.
So much this! I've delivered at two different hospitals. One was in a not great area and wasn't huge for L&D. The nurses were bossy and not warm in any way. They fought me for everything because they just wanted me in bed, with an epidural, not leaving them alone. The second was a hospital that does a TON of L&D. The nurses were awesome: friendly, helpful, and let me not be hooked up to everything so I could walk around the halls while in labor. It was a huge difference and I really appreciated not having to argue with them to be able to do what my body was telling me to do.
I would recommend calling your insurance and seeing if they will send you a list of care providers they cover in your area, I have done this for other medical things and it saves the time of looking into places that aren't covered, then I look at reviews and try to "investigate" them as much as possible. I usually like to ask people I know as well but as we are keeping this a secret it makes that hard initiall
TTC since August 2018
DS#2 3/15
Baby #3~
***TW Living child and loss mentioned***
13 March 2017: Loss at 4+6
TTC since August 2018
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Mommy to four +1, EDD November 9th!
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@libfish825 If your MTF has OB and L&D that's most likely the only place that Tricare Prime covers you to deliver. There are exceptions though, for instance for high risk pregnancies or patient load. You can check on the Tricare website for any other places for Tricare Prime or Standard. Standard usually gives you more options but higher copays and such. I would only use it if I wasn't happy with what services/facility I could use on Prime.
TTC since August 2018
TTC since August 2018
Edited to add that I'll also need a c section again so OB it is. I don't want to try a VBAC when there's a good chance I would end up with a c section again.
So right now, tentatively: OB, with hospital birthing center delivery.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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***TW Living child and loss mentioned***
13 March 2017: Loss at 4+6