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Telling the stepkids about the pregnancy.

Hopefulmommy1980Hopefulmommy1980 member
edited March 2017 in September 2017 Moms
Does anyone have any suggestions for tell my step kiddos that we are having a baby?  They are 8 an 10. We get them every other weekend.  We are waiting to tell them up till we get out genetic screening back. 

Thanks for for the suggestion in advanced. 
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Re: Telling the stepkids about the pregnancy.

  • OmSweetOmOmSweetOm member
    edited March 2017
    I don't have a step child but, my DS is 9 and he is from a previous relationship then my DH. I have decided I want to at least wait until we get our Panorama back which I go for tomorrow, but ideally I would like to wait until more around 15 weeks if I can help it. I just get very nervous if something were to happen after I told him that he would be devastated. He is a sensitive little guy and has been asking for a sibling for years.... and we honestly gave up trying a while ago due to my history of loss so this was a big surprise to say the least. Also, I don't plan to announce publicly til around 18-20 or at least until I get too big to deny it! So I don't want to put too much pressure on him to keep a secret. I would definitely suggest waiting until after genetics and then after that it's whenever you feel the right time... but that is just me of course. Some people tell the world before the stick is even dry, it's all a matter of what makes you feel the most comfortable:)

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  • hatratshatrats member
    I think @OmSweetOm has good advice. I'd be extra careful about telling kids too early as to not upset them if something happened. Not to mention, keeping it from them until you are ready to tell everyone else in case they slip up and tell. My DD is only 2, so it'd be a lot easier to just kind of cover it up if something happened since she has no sense of time anyway, but your kids are certainly too old to slip one by them. Of course it is up to you, but those are the things I'd consider when telling the kids.
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  • IsItTacoTuesdayIsItTacoTuesday member
    edited March 2017
    We plan to tell my step-kiddos tonight, got the genetic test back and 13 week appointment last week. They are 9 and 11, and super awesome...we figure they need to know regardless of the outcome because they are with us halftime and if something does go wrong they will know something is wrong with my husband and I anyway.  We want them to share in the joy.  Anyway, you pick the timing!  

    What we plan for tonight is a cake ordered from the store because I'm still not out of the 1st trimester grogginess...it will say "Your little brother is going to love you!" and a onesie that says "Little Brother".  We have a sombero for my weenie dog, so she'll likely get in on the party, too.  After dinner and homework, my hubby will bring out the cake and let them read it.  We are expecting excitement because they have mentioned us having a baby together to give them a sibling since WAY before we were engaged.  11-year-old step-daughter will take it hard that it's not a girl, though since she wanted a sister.  If it goes over well they'll call grandparents and step-grandparents to tell them it's a brother and not a sister.  This should be fun and works for our family because I try to turn a lot into a celebration, and we'll make sure the kiddos get time with Dad this weekend so they can talk about it if they need to.    

    Good luck!  I'm sure they will love having a sibling, especially at their ages, in my experience they are super curious and helpful and loving at this stage.
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  • kaylaakosuakaylaakosua member
    I have 3 step daughters and 1 son. We are waiting till we do the anatomy scan. We want to tell them but now but we know they won't be able to keep it a secret and our exes are crazyyyy. We would love to keep this pregnancy a secret for as long as we can. We just know it would be more real to them if we could tell them they are getting a brother or sister. I think we are going to get all of them out to pick a special outfit out for their new sibling. We have the girls 50/50 and their Mom had a baby in September and life is all about the new baby so we are trying to avoid that. 

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  • Hopefulmommy1980Hopefulmommy1980 member
    Thanks ladies. I appreciate all the comments and suggestions 
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