September 2017 Moms

Excited for 3rd Boy?!

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edited February 2017 in September 2017 Moms
I feel like I'm the only one in the world who honestly would be super excited to have a 3rd boy.  Yet, EVERYONE I talk to assumes it's all about having (or "trying" for) a girl.  Don't get me wrong...if this one is a girl I will be absolutely happy!  Though deep inside...I feel like I'm meant to be a mom of boys, and that's a-ok with me...I just love my rowdy, ninja-loving, super-hero, sweet as can be little fellas!  Is there anyone else out there who's also looking forward to the possibility of a 3rd (or more) boy? :)

Re: Excited for 3rd Boy?!

  • I don't have boys, but I do hate it when anyone assumes that you're trying for a certain sex based on what you already have, or when they assume that you don't want more than 2 because they wouldn't want more than 2. Go on and rock your family not matter the makeup, but don't be worrying about the sex of my kiddos or how many I have! 
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  • I'm excited about possibly having a second boy!! I would be so happy to find out that this one was a girl or a boy, but I absolutely love having a boy now. He's wonderful, happy, affectionate and so playful. There would be no disappointment at all if I find out this one is another boy. It does bother me when people think we're having this baby because we want a girl. No.. we're having this baby because we want another baby! Not a specific sex!
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  • Thanks for the reply!  I completely agree!  My heart is so full just thinking of my growing family...I wish others didn't seem disappointed when I mention I'm truly excited either way. 
  • Oh goodness, nobody has the right to be disappointed about that! Who knows what other people are thinking at times. 
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  • jhsimpson said:
    Thanks for the reply!  I completely agree!  My heart is so full just thinking of my growing family...I wish others didn't seem disappointed when I mention I'm truly excited either way. 
    Exactly. When I respond that we really just want a healthy baby and don't care if it's boy #3 or a girl, most seem 'disappointed' or simply don't understand. With this being pregnancy #8 (hx of 5 miscarriages), we truly are happy we have a growing family and this one was PLANNED
  • People become ridiculously nosy about pregnant people. No question is "too personal" and they love to project their own feels onto others.

     When I told my boss I was pregnant she asked me if it was planned. (Yes, but also none of your business). She and I are both RNs and very used to working closely with confidential information, yet this question didn't even seem to resonate as possibly too personal. Bizarre.
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  • This didn't happen to me but a childhood friend of mine. They had a boy first and did a gender reveal for their second. It was a girl. Some a-hole commented on the announcement, "Oh good one of each! Now your family is complete and you can be done having kids!" Whoa. The dad quickly put the commentor in her place but comments like that are so beyond offensive imo. 
  • @DaphneMoon1 I remember reading once about responding to the "natural" comment with saying something blunt like "well we had sex" making them uncomfortable and not even really answering. People are weird about what they think they can ask.


    I have 2 girls and get the opposite of probably hoping for a boy. Whatever it is it's the last. "Even if it's not a boy?!" Yeah even then.... also I will feel kind of sad if I can't use my girl name. 

    Im really excited either way. One daughter is convinced it's a brother the other a sister. 
  • SummerGirl21SummerGirl21 member
    edited February 2017
    I had actually hoped to be a boy-only mom, but after my sweet girl was born I loved her to pieces!  That said...I wouldn't at all mind if this next one is a boy. ;-)

    ETA: After I had my girl, and had a boy already, people would tell me "Oh, you got one of each!  So you're done!" Um...what?

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  • I'm not looking forward to telling people this is probably girl #3 because all I hear is how it better be a boy this time. I feel like people won't be as excited for this baby because it's not a boy. And that's not fair. This baby was planned regardless of the sex. 
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  • I'm hoping for another boy, I love being a boy mom!  I would obviously also happily have a girl, but DH and I are on opposite sides of the fence on this one.  One of us will be right!  Everyone assumes we want a girl now as well, since we already have a boy.  I think it's ridiculous, and nosy.
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  • wyomama0427wyomama0427 member
    edited February 2017
    I'm hoping for another boy, I love being a boy mom!  I would obviously also happily have a girl, but DH and I are on opposite sides of the fence on this one.  One of us will be right!  Everyone assumes we want a girl now as well, since we already have a boy.  I think it's ridiculous, and nosy.
    I could have written this. I'm also hoping for another boy, DH thinks it's a girl and I think boy. My mom is really getting to DH because every time we visit my 3 year old niece (4 year old tomorrow *tear*) attacks him and wants to play and he just has to hold my 7 month old niece, and my mom ALWAYS says, "See, I'm telling you this is what you need! You need to have a little girl now!"

    Like mom STAHP! We'll be happy either way but we don't NEED a certain sex child to "complete" our family.. our family will be perfect no matter who comes into it. Boy or girl.
  • I had a boy and then a girl. It honestly hurt my feelings when everyone acted like I should be so happy that I was having a girl! I was happy and I love  my girl, but I would have loved another little boy as well. Now with this baby I am totally happy either way!

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  • I'm just hoping number three is healthy. I have two boys so I get asked about the girl all the time. When I say I just want it to be healthy, I've had someone ask "but no really you probably would be disappointed." What is wrong with people! Sometimes when they say "but what would you do if it's another boy?" Lol cuz really what would I do? I say "oh I just won't love it" with a straight face and then they realize they are being ridiculous.

    On a completely selfish side, I'd like to use my girl name at some point in life lol but I wouldn't trade my boys.
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    Like mom STAHP! We'll be happy either way but we don't NEED a certain sex child to "complete" our family.. our family will be perfect no matter who comes into it. Boy or girl.

    Yes! This may very well be our only child, and several people (mostly in DHs family) keep saying it needs to be a boy so the family name will carry on. No, this baby only needs to be whoever he or she already is. Do't act like our lives will be incomplete without a boy, it's just insulting. Of course, if we have a boy and don't have another, they'll say our life is incomplete without a girl. It's ridiculous.  


  • This isn't my 3rd, only my 2nd but will be my last. We only want 2 kids and it won't change if we have another girl this time around. We are thrilled either way and people will just get over the fact if we have 2 girls and no boys. I'm convinced we're getting all the girls anyway considering DH's brother has all the boys (1 singleton boy then twin boys!) and while I'd love a boy, girls are awesome too!
  • I couldn't agree with this post more. I have 2 boys as well. So of course everyone assumes we are only having a 3rd to "try for a girl". Now don't get me wrong, I would love a little girl. I always imagined having one. But after my two boys I feel like I finally have it down. So I would love to have another boy too! When we told people we were having a second son I definitely got a couple "disappointed" responses. WHO CARES? I was having a healthy baby and that's what really matters! We aren't finding out the sex this time and I can tell it's already driving my family crazy! 
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