SO doesn't know yet

valerieclarisse · February 2017

It's just about noon and I just took a test that came back positive. There is no question, I will have this baby. My concern is how and when I should tell my SO. I have two from a previous relationship and he has one from a previous relationship and we have one together. We are about to sign a lease for a new house and are in the process of legally getting primary custody of the children. I am a full time student and stay at home mom.
I hate feeling like I'm hiding something from him but should I wait until I see my doctor?

VLillyV · February 2017

I don't think anyone here can give you the answer to that question.

sqfibemom · February 2017

Why are you hiding it? It sounds like you're in a long term relationship, I have to assume it's a healthy relationship since you are trying to get primary custody of other children, so why would this be something negative? It's a baby, not a deadly disease...

bluejeanbabi05 · February 2017

First of all, congrats! Second, please tell your SO...what do you think the doctor is going to tell you? Why wait until then? In my view it's lying to deliberately hold something back like that.

Cythe · February 2017

Considering most doctors won't see you for at least 3 more weeks, I would tell your SO.

Related: if I was your SO and you came to me and said hey, I'm pregnant and oh yeah, I've known for a month... I'd be really mad.

dogperson11 · February 2017

You're an adult in what sounds like an adult relationship - tell your SO today.

valerieclarisse · February 2017

Thanks. I really needed some encouragement. I know that every baby is a blessing, I'm just so used to negativity from my family.

Maksim's Mom · February 2017

There are many ways to go about this but I would tell your SO. It's a blessing and you're in a committed relationship

don't be afraid of what your family might say or the negativity. Celebrate this miracle

be happy and enjoy the process with you SO. Everything else will fall into place. If you're not open with your SO there might be tension. So just share the news!

buttercream_frosting · February 2017

Let us know how it goes!

runningmama22 · February 2017

Tell him... if you wait he may ask you "how long have you known?" And you don't want to have to have that conversation. I'm sure everything will be okay, but I can understand the "I'm so used to negativity from my family" ... that's my family as well, and it's taken me a looooong time to realize that is THEM and my relationship is different... let us know how it goes, sending positive vibes your way!

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