Hello All, So I am expecting #3 and have a 2 and 4 year old. I go to Doctor Feb 23 for the first time and ultrasound. When do you tell kids? I know they are young but especially my four year old I feel will tell everyone. I was going to wait until closer to the 12 week time frame when I am ready to tell the public. I already told my mom and sister. I would like to tell my inlaws and close friends early but not sure what the right thing to do with the kids.. If anyone had experience with this before I would appreciate the advice

Thanks!!!
Re: Telling Siblings
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I guess the question is 1) how will you approach it if (God forbid) something happens? Would you want them to know or not? And 2) Can they keep their mouths shut about the pregnancy or is the whole world going to find out once you tell them? I haven't told my 4 year old nephew yet because I know he would tell everyone he saw.
My only concern is that if something were to happen, it would be so hard to tell her and break her little heart, which I didn't really think about before telling her. For that reason, it probably would have been better to wait.
Our kids are 8 and 3 next month and middle is 5.5, oldest is only one that can keep a secret lol.
*TW* When we were pregnant a few months back, I didn't want to tell them (along with anyone else) until 2nd tri since we had two chemicals before that. Good thing we didn't, since we lost that one at 10 weeks. I couldn't imagine having to explain to them that we weren't going to have a baby in June after all *End TW*
So we have the same plan this time around to wait until 2nd tri in case something happens again, I don't want to try to explain it to my kids. It was hard enough when they witnessed our rabbit die in December.
I maaaaaay have asked DD the other night if she wants a brother or a sister (couldn't help myself)...she responded with sister, but then also said she wanted Dory and Nemo so I think I'm safe on her spilling the beans for now
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Married: 08/04/12
DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17
So I'm weird and tell my kids right away. When we had our last loss they both (the 9 and 5 year olds) knew and they were so sweet and talked about it and named the baby and everything. DS still talks about the baby in heaven. They weren't told about my previous losses and it was really hard for me to fully let myself grieve when I felt I had to put on a show in front of them. They are yappy haha and I know half the town will know before the end of the week, but I'm trying to look at the positives of seeing their excitement for now.
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"Lyric" EDD Nov/4/11 - c/p Feb/11
"Fishy" 2012
"Bean" 2014
"Lux" EDD Apr/21/17 - c/p Aug/16
"Kokonah" EDD May/24/17 - m/c Oct/16
1 surprise - 1 Noonie - 1 preemie - 3 gone but not forgotten - One more on the way!!
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Anyone have a tip on telling an older child? My son is 11. And im sure hes gonna get pretty jealous... His behaviour has not been great at home in recent weeks as it is, and I think this will make him worse. I think he will be a fantastic big brother hes very loving and kind. But I know he will feel jealous about me sharing myself too. We arent going to share yet. We are paying for a early scan next Saturday as we had a miscarriage last march. So im trying not to get my hopes up as im terrified of losing this LO too.
Fingers crossed I do get to tell him what an awesome big bro he is gonna be! :-)
Claire xxx
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"