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Anything I can do?

melodylbmelodylb member
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DH finally told me last night that he is really worried about TTC again. He is afraid something will happen to me. When I had my M/C the doctor told me that if they didn't do something I would bleed to death. Now DH is all worried that I am going to die. It is nice that he is worried about me but what can I say/do to ease his fears?

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  • Lucky428Lucky428

    Wow, that sounds really scary.  I can understand his trepidation.  Maybe as long as your doctor agrees, have your doctor tell him that what happened was a tragic fluke and is highly unlikely to happen again.

    GL... 

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  • Tonya_GTonya_G member
    My first loss was really traumatic- I had a ruptured ectopic, and my tube burst, so I was internally bleeding and had lost a LOT of blood. My DH said that right before I went into surgery, I looked so bad, he thought he was going to lose me- this, coming from a firefighter/EMT who's seen people on death's door before! He was terrified at first when I found out I was pregnant again- but, as time passed by, he started to relax. Then we lost that pg to m/c, so who know's how he'll be this time around! I wish I had a good answer as to how to assauge his fears, but, it's kinda like anything else- it just takes time.
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  • kimisuejoiakimisuejoia

    This is a dry article, but it might be helpful for your DH's sanity. (The last established data was from 1991-1997..)

    During 1991--1997, 3193 pregnancy-related deaths occurred. The overall PRMR was 11.5. PRMR among American Indians/Alaska Natives was 12.2, among Asians/Pacific Islanders was 11.3, and among Hispanics was 10.3. PRMR was 29.6 and 7.3 among blacks and whites, respectively. PRMRs were defined as the number of pregnancy-related deaths per 100,000 live births. Although rare, pregnancy-related deaths can be viewed as sentinel events in women's health; pregnancy-related illness is more common, with 18 pregnancy-associated hospitalizations per 100 live births

    https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/414585

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