DD yelled about it being too dark at 4:30am, and I never went back to sleep. Oh, and it does look like I'll be heading to the dentist this afternoon for a root canal (or two...can't seem to figure out which tooth is the problem, and both of them had cavities filled a few weeks ago which have never stopped hurting). BOO.
DD yelled about it being too dark at 4:30am, and I never went back to sleep. Oh, and it does look like I'll be heading to the dentist this afternoon for a root canal (or two...can't seem to figure out which tooth is the problem, and both of them had cavities filled a few weeks ago which have never stopped hurting). BOO.
I am at work with a full week ahead. I am also so irrationally annoyed that the students are off Monday the 20th for Presidents' Day, but is teachers have a stupid full day of training. So lame.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Today is my son's Valentine's Day party at school. First, I bought the cards that are impossible to write on the back due to the glossy finish, wtf? Then, bought a bag of suckers to compliment the cards, only to come up 2 short. Now I have to rush to store before school to buy a whole new bag for 2 dang suckers.
DH woke me when he came into bed at 1:15 and then proceeded to tell me DD felt warm. So I went into anxiety mode checking her temp with the ear thermometer while trying not to wake her (temp was 99.5) and then worrying she would be worse by morning. I was up until 4 worrying and my alarm went off at 5 for work. She had no temp when she woke up.
I spent the entire weekend painting the nursery. So dh was "in charge" of the children and house. Which ended up with me yelling at him because he kept just sitting them in front of the TV so he could relax. It was 80 here both days!!! Take the freaking kids outside! He finally did after I told him I was going to do it and just stay up all night to finish the room. He also did the dishes..But NO SPOONS! How do you not wash spoons??
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
My leave balance got messed up when I transferred agencies. It's been an on going issue for a few months. They conducted an audit a month ago but they won't give me the results-they keep moving the meeting. I vented to my manager about the meeting (it's out of his hands) and his response was obnoxious. It started out with HR is dealing with more important situations than yours. He then said that I will "either have enough leave or won't so just prep for the worst". Then followed up with the most insane comment... he no sh*t said "what's your obsession with 12 weeks, why are you so fixated on taking so much time off? Even if you're only able to take the 7 weeks- that's a long vacation." I kept it cool but I did nothing but simmer all weekend long about this.
@neludelu what an a-hole. Hope you get it straightened out.
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui) #1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo #2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015 #4!!!!!!! due June 2017
Ok I just need to bitch about my mom for a minute. I've been here in Illinois since late last Wednesday night. I had been sleeping in my childhood twin size bed which has zero support and is no fun for this big old pregnant lady. Then she has a dog that I swear barks all night long for no reason and I've been woken up 5-6 each night. Then she gets up at 445-5 every morning turns on all the lights in the house and the tv which is right outside my room in order to read the newspaper. And then the real issue..... my mom smokes and has been smoking in the house even with me there. Ladies I've been waking up super congested and with a sore throat since my first night back. Well yesterday I'd had enough and my hubs was livid to find out she'd been smoking around me.. anyway I told her I was checking into a hotel so I could get some proper sleep and she was not happy. Was really rude and pissy about it. I feel like I made the right decision. I woke up feeling better this morning. I got a good night of sleep and am currently enjoying my free hotel breakfast! I made a waffle with Nutella and strawberry jam! I know sometimes our parents can be set in their ways but I just can't see how her attitude was warranted. Especially since she was smoking around me. It was making me so sick.
My 3&5yr olds really need to learn to include their little sister. I am over hearing about how she ruins everything. I'm going to need the 3 of you to play in harmony come June. Mmmmmkay thanks!
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui) #1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo #2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015 #4!!!!!!! due June 2017
I'm about ready to lose it on people at work. Listen kids, you have a job to do, and I have a job to do. My job DOES NOT include doing YOUR job for you! Do your own shit, I'm not here to hold your hand!
My MBF is about my mom as well. I cut ties with my mom yesterday. Haven't seen or heard from her in weeks. Yesterday I get a text from her at 8am 'what's up for today?' I reply 'I'm not sure.' She says 'ok?' Well, listen, it's 8am, I haven't planned my day yet. So she gets snotty and says 'are you going to be around or not?' Yeah, I'm not doing this. So, I say 'clearly you know by now I have some issues with you, I don't want to pretend and play nice.' She says 'get over it, you always have issues with me, sorry I don't live up to your expectations.'
Cool, say no more. I'm over it. She keeps going. So, I let her have it and I'm not very nice. She takes zero culpability nor tries to rectify or fight to see my girls, she just says 'sorry you feel that way, will always love you and the girls, wish you the best.
I feel pretty much at peace with my decision, but I have so much guilt at the same time. My girls ask about her all the time, but I don't feel it's fair that it's when it's convenient for her and then when she does come over and they ask her to play, she declines and wants to gossip about her life instead.
@neludelu I am usually one to convince myself to just let things go at work... but that comment would be going to HR too. There's just a little bit of a difference between vacation and maternity leave, not to mention the fact that you shouldn't lose leave time because of someone else's error!! @Wearmi1 Sorry you had to deal with that.
My MBF is that I'm back at work after using sick days Thursday and Friday and everything is a mess.... I suppose I should have expected it.
I'm sorry @Stankonia2014 You're doing what's best for your mental health and I'm sure your girls have lots and lots of other people in their lives who genuinely care for them and want to spend time with them. Hugs for you!
So sorry you're dealing with that, @stankonia2014. Just know you're doing what is best for you and your family, and that's ok! I totally get the guilt, but you have nothing to feel guilty over. Huge hugs.
@Wearmi1 so sorry you got that response from your mom... but that waffle sure sounds delicious! You did the right thing, I get you are in her home but she should not be smoking around you.
@Stankonia2014 I knew you were concerned about your plans for delivery if you couldn't count of your mom... then add the general, emotional stress the relationship has on you and your family. ::hugs:: I hope you feel at peace with taking a stance and standing up for yourself and family.
My bitch is that I have what is either terrible allergies or a cold right now that is absolutely brutal. I need to take the good stuff and cannot have the good stuff and it is the wooooorst. I haven't gotten more than 5 hours of broken sleep in any given night since Thursday. I took a nap while DD napped yesterday and woke up feeling worse. Uuuuuuugh. At least when I'm on maternity leave and am not sleeping I can breathe through my effing nose. WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM, NOSE?? CAN YOU GIVE ME ONE NOSTRIL TO BREATHE THROUGH PLEASE? IS THAT TOO MUCH FOR YOU?
And since we're currently in the thick of home renovations which will likely include ripping the roof off at some point this week, I can't even work from home because they keep having to cut electricity at random and I lose the Internet connection when that happens, obviously. So I have to get up at the ass crack of dawn and drag myself into the office every day. I hope it's just allergies, because I don't need DD getting whatever this is.
@c1tym0m22 I've always hated my moms smoking. I think it's the most disgusting habit. She's smoked my whole life. I did not specifically talk to her about not smoking around me but it seems like common sense. There are so many harmful chemicals in cigarettes why would you want to expose your pregnant daughter to it. I mean she was even smoking while I was in the car with her. I had to roll my window down and dam near hang my head outside like a dog to get away from it.
@Wearmi1 Ugh smoker parents are the worst. I can totally sympathize. My parents both smoke and we don't go visit very often because their house stinks so bad. They don't smoke in the house while we are there, thankfully, but I still get a sore throat every time just from the residual. I laid down the law when I was pregnant with DD and said if they smoked around me or DD that we would never come visit again. And I mean it.
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
@neludelu I would be circling back to that conversation of your "vacation" (as he put it) and hitting him with research based on MATERNITY leave for mothers (or paternity leave). F that noise.
Although our facility is based off of working with kids, and 90% of our therapists (BCBA's or myself) have kids or are of "typical child bearing ages" I totally feel unsupported in my time off decision. I'm likely only taking 12 weeks (took 6 months with DS) and I can tell a few of my higher ups think this is a crazy decision.
@Wearmi1 good choice on the hotel stay. Even better choice on the waffle.
@Stankonia2014 Sorry that your mom is causing more difficulties. I hope that you find validation within your decision to make clear boundaries and have support around you. That's tough.
My MBF is to the mommy universe. I'm part of a mommy group on Facebook and I sometimes just cannot understand certain questions. Maybe I'm going to sound judgemental but whatever.
1. WHY do moms ask questions about their 3 week old waking up in the middle of the night. THE BABY IS 3 FLIPPING WEEKS OLD. They're SUPPOSED to be waking up. (Unless you're some insanely lucky fool, but that's almost never happening).
2. WHY do moms ask questions about bringing their PUKING CHILD to the peds office? NO. For the love of everything KEEP THE DAMN CHILD HOME. They have a stomach virus, you don't need a Ped to tell you that. If you need to go anywhere with your puking child, it's to the ER for fluids. That's IT.
3. Another very often asked question "my baby bumped their head, 12 hours ago, but has been totally fine all day and there's no mark. I should bring them in, right?" Serrrrrrrrrriously.
I'm all good with the "I should know this but I've totally forgotten!" preface...but when you're a ST+M asking these questions over and over again...I just can't deal. Or, you know, if it's just f*%#ing common sense.
This happened awhile ago but it still really bothers me. I went to the pharmacy to buy some pain killers and b/c I've had pregnancy brain I decided to double check with the pharmacist that acetaminophen was the correct pain killer to get for a pregnant woman. When I asked, his response was "it's just Tylenol, of course it's safe for pregnant women" What about "just Advil"? Or "just aspirin"? What a jerk.
I did indeed need a root canal this afternoon. Numbness is wearing off, and I think I'm really going to wish for something stronger than Tylenol. A colleague suggested whiskey...
@Wearmi1 My Mom smokes at home too. When I was pregnant with my first I told her we wouldn't be bringing the baby to her house because of the smoke and she would have to keep a change of clothes at our house to change into before she held the baby. She was really upset at first but she came around. She got her house deep cleaned and the vents all cleaned and bought a super expensive air purifier. We slowly started taking DD over there and she never smoked when we are there or stay the night. She knows I cannot handle it and don't want my kids around it. She still smokes at home when we aren't there but with the air purifier it really doesn't smell as bad. I definitely have to wash everything after we visit. It just smells like stale smoke. That's been our compromise . I hope your mom can come around too!! And I'm glad you enjoyed the hotel and got some sleep!
I think it's awesome that some of you ladies have been able to stand up to your parents! That is tough stuff.
@CapricaAndrea how freaking rude. I would have definitely been snotty right back.
My BF is that Valentine's Day is on a Tuesday. Why can't it just be like, the second Saturday of every February, or something? I completely forgot about it until tonight and I'm pretty sure DH has forgotten about it as well considering he asked if I wanted to go to IKEA with his mom tomorrow.
I had a meeting with my former principal today. He informed me that our district is being sued by an outside company for copyright infringement. I'm not being named in the lawsuit, but I might have to be called in for questioning as a witness because my name as well as other teachers in the department came up when they searches emails dealing with the company. Even though it probably won't be a big deal, it has me on edge!
@Wearmi1@Stankonia2014 Good for you guys standing up to your moms. Whatever happens, establishing boundaries against destructive behavior is always going to be healthiest for you and for your kids. Stay strong.
@Wearmi1 and @Stankonia2014 I'm sorry you're both dealing with crap with your moms. Family can bring the most stress!
AFM - I'm giving a giant middle finger to my POS house. We have been here coming up on 4 years. In that time the water heater has went, the furnace has went, the gradation had to be redone, the retaining wall and walkway had to be completely redone, the wood framing around Windows and doors had to be replaced due to wood rot and softening, the front door had to be replaced for wood rot and softening, the roof has leaked from the asshat ice dams in 2015 and we're pretty much in the woods so we've had two infestations of wood boring bees. Those are just some of the "bigger" things. This weekend, we woke up to a small flood in the basement from a condensation pump that died. Then we came home from Home Depot (with new pump), only to realize my garage door wouldn't open because the springs completely snapped. Technician came out yesterday and the entire system had to go! Tonight we heard "drip... Drip... Drip..." Another GD leak from more ice dams that crept up on us after back to back storms of 8"+ each. F this house! Can't wait to sell this POS.
Thanks ladies. Ugh my grandma just called me all panicked about where was I and did my mother know where I was? I appreciate the concern but I'm alomost 35 years old and I didn't just run away from home or something. I checked into a hotel for my health. Why must it be such a huge deal?
@Elyse1384 I'm sorry about your house. I moved into my hubbies bachelor fixer upper that never got the fixed part taken care of and we have a lot issues too. Something's always broken and my husband can do everything himself he works too much and doesn't have a lot of time for it.
So pissed right now. I just got a notice on the mail saying I am being sent to collections for a library fine. I was extremely sick during the beginning of my first trimester and could barely get out of bed so I couldn't return a couple of dds books. They were a few weeks late and when I turned them in I was up to $13. According to this notice since I haven't paid yet they are wanting us to pay $70 and sending us to collections! In the two years living here I have owed more than a dollar so I had no idea this could happen. I have to call and straighten it out tomorrow. But now I guess I know why none of my friends take their kids to the library anymore!
@Elyse1384 I sympathize on the POS house problems. Our house is 30 years old and never renovated so we are having to fix all of the problems that crop up. It's just one thing after another. And we have no money for some of it (like rotten windows) so they just keep getting worse. @Kylieslip24 I am a librarian and I think that's ridiculous!!! I'm pretty sure we would never (at my library) send someone to collections, especially for just a couple books. What we do is just put a restriction on their account and say they can't check out books until they pay the fine. Maybe bigger libraries are more aggressive? I guess every library is different but I just don't get the point of such an extreme action.
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
@kdanjou I think it's because I'm in California. I know our libraries have no money and are only open 4 half days a week at most locations. That's why I always try to support them. Our library it tiny too! The size of a livingroom. It has a children's shelf instead of room. Lol I have no problem paying the late fees, but I can't afford to just give them $70 that's insane. If they can't work with me I really won't be able to go to the library anymore, which is sad because dd and I love the library. But I just can't risk that happening again.
@Elyse1384, ugh, that sounds awful. I can commiserate, we recently bought what I deem a money pit, but your issues are on a whole different level. I'm sorry.
@kdanjou I just wanted to update you on the library craziness. I went in and talked to the librarian today and she was really nice. I was able to find one of the "lost" books on the shelf. She forgave all the crazy high fees and I just paid the little over due ones. In fact since they are cash only and I only had my card I told her I had to come back and another woman paid for me!! Faith in humanity has been restored and we will be back to visiting the library on a weekly basis again. I think we will be donating some books too. So it all worked out!
Re: Monday Bitchfest!
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
I'm about ready to lose it on people at work. Listen kids, you have a job to do, and I have a job to do. My job DOES NOT include doing YOUR job for you! Do your own shit, I'm not here to hold your hand!
June seems so far away...
My MBF is about my mom as well. I cut ties with my mom yesterday. Haven't seen or heard from her in weeks. Yesterday I get a text from her at 8am 'what's up for today?' I reply 'I'm not sure.' She says 'ok?' Well, listen, it's 8am, I haven't planned my day yet. So she gets snotty and says 'are you going to be around or not?' Yeah, I'm not doing this. So, I say 'clearly you know by now I have some issues with you, I don't want to pretend and play nice.' She says 'get over it, you always have issues with me, sorry I don't live up to your expectations.'
Cool, say no more. I'm over it. She keeps going. So, I let her have it and I'm not very nice. She takes zero culpability nor tries to rectify or fight to see my girls, she just says 'sorry you feel that way, will always love you and the girls, wish you the best.
I feel pretty much at peace with my decision, but I have so much guilt at the same time. My girls ask about her all the time, but I don't feel it's fair that it's when it's convenient for her and then when she does come over and they ask her to play, she declines and wants to gossip about her life instead.
@Wearmi1 Sorry you had to deal with that.
My MBF is that I'm back at work after using sick days Thursday and Friday and everything is a mess.... I suppose I should have expected it.
@Stankonia2014 I knew you were concerned about your plans for delivery if you couldn't count of your mom... then add the general, emotional stress the relationship has on you and your family. ::hugs:: I hope you feel at peace with taking a stance and standing up for yourself and family.
My bitch is that I have what is either terrible allergies or a cold right now that is absolutely brutal. I need to take the good stuff and cannot have the good stuff and it is the wooooorst. I haven't gotten more than 5 hours of broken sleep in any given night since Thursday. I took a nap while DD napped yesterday and woke up feeling worse. Uuuuuuugh. At least when I'm on maternity leave and am not sleeping I can breathe through my effing nose. WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM, NOSE?? CAN YOU GIVE ME ONE NOSTRIL TO BREATHE THROUGH PLEASE? IS THAT TOO MUCH FOR YOU?
And since we're currently in the thick of home renovations which will likely include ripping the roof off at some point this week, I can't even work from home because they keep having to cut electricity at random and I lose the Internet connection when that happens, obviously. So I have to get up at the ass crack of dawn and drag myself into the office every day. I hope it's just allergies, because I don't need DD getting whatever this is.
Edited.. autocorrect got me
I laid down the law when I was pregnant with DD and said if they smoked around me or DD that we would never come visit again. And I mean it.
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
Although our facility is based off of working with kids, and 90% of our therapists (BCBA's or myself) have kids or are of "typical child bearing ages" I totally feel unsupported in my time off decision. I'm likely only taking 12 weeks (took 6 months with DS) and I can tell a few of my higher ups think this is a crazy decision.
@Wearmi1 good choice on the hotel stay. Even better choice on the waffle.
@Stankonia2014 Sorry that your mom is causing more difficulties. I hope that you find validation within your decision to make clear boundaries and have support around you. That's tough.
My MBF is to the mommy universe. I'm part of a mommy group on Facebook and I sometimes just cannot understand certain questions. Maybe I'm going to sound judgemental but whatever.
1. WHY do moms ask questions about their 3 week old waking up in the middle of the night. THE BABY IS 3 FLIPPING WEEKS OLD. They're SUPPOSED to be waking up. (Unless you're some insanely lucky fool, but that's almost never happening).
2. WHY do moms ask questions about bringing their PUKING CHILD to the peds office? NO. For the love of everything KEEP THE DAMN CHILD HOME. They have a stomach virus, you don't need a Ped to tell you that. If you need to go anywhere with your puking child, it's to the ER for fluids. That's IT.
3. Another very often asked question "my baby bumped their head, 12 hours ago, but has been totally fine all day and there's no mark. I should bring them in, right?"
Serrrrrrrrrriously.
I'm all good with the "I should know this but I've totally forgotten!" preface...but when you're a ST+M asking these questions over and over again...I just can't deal. Or, you know, if it's just f*%#ing common sense.
Edit- wrong tag
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
Kudos to both of you for standing up to your Moms and setting your boundaries.
I wish you both peace as you handle your respective situations
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
@CapricaAndrea how freaking rude. I would have definitely been snotty right back.
My BF is that Valentine's Day is on a Tuesday. Why can't it just be like, the second Saturday of every February, or something? I completely forgot about it until tonight and I'm pretty sure DH has forgotten about it as well considering he asked if I wanted to go to IKEA with his mom tomorrow.
AFM - I'm giving a giant middle finger to my POS house. We have been here coming up on 4 years. In that time the water heater has went, the furnace has went, the gradation had to be redone, the retaining wall and walkway had to be completely redone, the wood framing around Windows and doors had to be replaced due to wood rot and softening, the front door had to be replaced for wood rot and softening, the roof has leaked from the asshat ice dams in 2015 and we're pretty much in the woods so we've had two infestations of wood boring bees. Those are just some of the "bigger" things. This weekend, we woke up to a small flood in the basement from a condensation pump that died. Then we came home from Home Depot (with new pump), only to realize my garage door wouldn't open because the springs completely snapped. Technician came out yesterday and the entire system had to go! Tonight we heard "drip... Drip... Drip..." Another GD leak from more ice dams that crept up on us after back to back storms of 8"+ each. F this house! Can't wait to sell this POS.
@Kylieslip24 I am a librarian and I think that's ridiculous!!! I'm pretty sure we would never (at my library) send someone to collections, especially for just a couple books. What we do is just put a restriction on their account and say they can't check out books until they pay the fine. Maybe bigger libraries are more aggressive? I guess every library is different but I just don't get the point of such an extreme action.
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz