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rainafire77rainafire77 member
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I knew better than to get excited. Once again, made it to 6 weeks growth only. No heartbeat and now cramping/spotting. Just waiting for this to be over. Also found two ovarian cysts and fibroids. I'm going to find a new doctor because I didn't even get told this as they never called me after my US yesterday. I read the radiology report online. When I finally got a hold of them, they were all "So do you want a follow up appointment?" I hate incompetent, heartless, uncaring people...especially those in the medical field. 

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  • RiverSong15RiverSong15 member
    @rainafire77 I'm so so sorry for your loss. And I'm angry on your behalf at how uncaring your doctors and their staff were. You absolutely deserve compassionate care, and there ARE doctors out there that understand the need to care for a patient's emotional wellbeing, not just physical wellbeing. Huge hugs. <3
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  • dpjenniferdpjennifer member
    Sorry you're dealing with this!  It's awful to deal with incompetence and heartlessness when you're already dealing with something so painful and rough.  

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.  Hopefully FET after that.

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  • TScaleiTScalei member
    Really sorry to see you back here.@rainafire77. Im sorry you have to deal with the inept and uncaring doctor's office on top of everything too. Sending you hugs.

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  • vlagrl29vlagrl29 member
    I'm so so sorry you are going thru this again :(  Seems like a good time to find a new doctor.  About a year ish ago I interviewed 3 different OB depts because it was important for me to have one that I felt cared about me and was also knowledgeable.
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member
    I am so sorry you have to go through another loss. 
    DD1 4.14.10
    DD2 8.22.13
    MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
    Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18

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  • SP128SP128 member
    So sorry you find yourself back here again.  Hope you find a new doctor soon.  You deserve better
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    TTC#1 - May 2016
    BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016  
    BFP 5/5/2017  - CP
    IVF #1 - June 2017  - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo.  7/9 Beta #1 - 161 
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  • Mack2342Mack2342 member
    So sorry to see you back here.  Take care of yourself.  
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  • Uhlease13Uhlease13 member
    My heart breaks for you going through this again. :( and I'm sorry you have less than compassionate care, that is not right. Sending positive thoughts your way. 

    Me.30 DH.31 
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    BFP 8/28/15 mmc @ 11 weeks (d&c)
    BFP 9/28/16 mmc @ 8 weeks (d&c) - trisomy 5
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  • amberrukaamberruka member
    I'm sorry for your loss @rainafire77 . I hope you find a new, caring doctor soon.  
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
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  • brooklyngirl18brooklyngirl18 member
    @rainafire77 I'm so sorry you're going through this again and for the heartless care. please take care of yourself.
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    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
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  • NYTino24NYTino24 member
    @rainafire77 That is terrible. I hope you heal physically and emotionally and find a great office with supportive doctors. 
    It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*

    Me: 36 DH 35 
    TTC  9/2016     BFP 12/9/16    EDD 8/21/17    NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
    TTC  2/2017  BFP 3/6/17   EDD 11/17/17   DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
    TTC 12/2018   BFP 6/2/19   EDD 2/12/20  NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
    TTC 7/2019   BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
    TTC 8/19    IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone  BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
    IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20

    AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
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  • splashmountainsplashmountain member
    Oh @rainafire77 I'm so sorry. I hope you can find another doctor that takes better care of you. Sending hugs your way!
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  • justsuziejustsuzie member
    @rainafire77 Too bad we cannot pay based on service. I bet that would drive the industry to treat us like people and not just patients.  I have had horrible luck with doctors too. I hope you are able to find someone you can work with while ttc.
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  • SoonToBeMommaHoweSoonToBeMommaHowe member
    I'm so sorry @rainafire77! I wish all doctors would realize that just because they deal with this stuff all the time doesn't mean it isn't the most devastating thing to us at that moment. Lots of hugs to you ❤️
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

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  • dragonfly87-2dragonfly87-2 member
    rainafire77 So sorry for your loss. I would definitely switch doctors as well. That seems quite insensitive and a poor standard of care.
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