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March 2017 Moms
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High-Risk January Checkin
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This is for those of us diagnosed with any type of condition that makes our pregnancy high-risk so that we can find support and companionship during this time! Feel free to comment at any point in the month and treat this as an on-going discussion. I changed up these questions a bit in case people who already delivered still wants to participate...
1. Why are/were you high-risk?
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))?
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel?
4. Right now I am looking forward to:
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them?
1. Why are/were you high-risk?
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))?
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel?
4. Right now I am looking forward to:
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them?
Re: High-Risk January Checkin
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))? 34 weeks
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel? My heart meds are slowing babies growth so they cut them in half to give her an advantage with repeat weekly growth scans. If she doesn't start to catch up in growth, they will take me off my heart meds altogether which probably means bedrest for me because I don't function well without heart meds...
4. Right now I am looking forward to: Meeting this beautiful baby.
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them? the term "invisible illness" is so true for me... I wish people knew how much I struggle with daily tasks because my heart acts like I just ran a marathon when I am just sitting on the couch.
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))? I am 32 weeks and I can't wait to get to the other side of this finish line.
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel? I am so frustrated because I had to switch from my midwife to an OB. I had a very painful and traumatic birth with my son, and I am fearful of OB's because of it. I have been trying to openly communicate about my delivery fears and my wishes for a different delivery experience with minimal intervention, and this OB that I am seeing just told me that sometimes threatening a c-section in the delivery room is exactly what motivates women to push faster and harder. I really want to throw a tantrum right now because last time I felt like fear and pain were used to motivate me during my unmedicated and very painful pushing. I don't appreciate being coached with fear and pain, especially when I am not in a position to stand up for myself because I'm actually coping with the fear and pain of delivering a baby. I have gone out of my way to find a physician or midwife that won't treat me this way only to near the finish line and hear this from my doctor. I have hired a doula, thank goodness, but my usual laid back self has been anxious beyond belief about this delivery and pregnancy for so long now. :-( Fortunately, my baby's level of risk has remained low in spite of this autoimmune condition. Thank goodness.
4. Right now I am looking forward to: Getting past the delivery and not having such anxiety about the pregnancy or birth pain anymore.
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them? I usually just don't explain it. I wish others knew that pregnancy is not always an easy road, or that my dad would take the risk of my condition seriously instead of just telling me that everything was going to be alright without really understanding what's happening or listening when I talk. Thanks for reading this. I just needed to vent a little after my appointment.
1. Why are/were you high-risk? Unicornuate Uterus
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))? 33 weeks!
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel? Baby has been doing really great although at his last growth scan he was measuring in the 12th percentile. He first growth scan he was in the 72th percentile. He has been on track all along except at this last appointment he was behind. I am feeling guilty about his growth because I know my uterine abnormality is not helping things. At this point I'm wondering if he falls out of the 10th percentile if I will have to deliver him early. Of course this is not a worse case scenario but my mind starts racing about NICU and everything else.
4. Right now I am looking forward to: I think I'm just trying to take things one day at a time at this point. If I think ahead it just feels overwhelming right now.
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them? Most of the time I really don't feel like explaining my condition to others unless I know them really well. I had a pretty painful journey to get my diagnosis - two miscarriages and a hormonal imbalance led to me to find out about this birth defect that I never knew I had. It's a lot of baggage to explain to someone.
Me: 33 Hubs: 34
TTC since 5/2014
BFP: 7/27/14 MC: 9/20/14
BFP: 6/29/15 MC: 7/6/15
BFP: 7/17/16 EDD: 3/22/17
@sarahbobby I'm sorry to hear the most recent growth scan didn't have great results. I don;t blame you for not wanting to explain to others - especially with such an emotional path to this diagnosis. I will also be thinking about you and praying that your LO gets bigger and stronger every day and doesn't fall below that 10% mark!
1. Why are/were you high-risk? Di/di twins, cholestasis (liver issues that can cause stillbirth so they induce early), polyhydramnios (extra amniotic fluid in the sac...can cause serious complications during delivery). I haven't really been high risk the whole pregnancy, just the third trimester as the last two things have popped up.
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))? 35 weeks!
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel? Babies are great. I'm pretty uncomfortable. They're measuring pretty big, and I've had the steroid shots, so both me and my doctors are ok with them coming whenever at this point. The doctors also decided to induce me in my 36th week and I chose the last day of that week, but I wish I had chosen an earlier date. The plus side of being high risk is the extra appointments -- I get scans twice a week and they definitely calm my nerves.
4. Right now I am looking forward to: finally meeting these babies! ideally in like one week.
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them? Honestly, with the extra risks I'd rather they were born soon and in the NICU getting 24/7 expert care for a short period of time than in my uterus, where I'm never sure what's going on and where they're at risk. People think I'm just selfish and tired of being pregnant with twins (I *am* totally sick of being pregnant), but how long they keep cooking is not the only factor at play here and I wish people understood that without my having to be super graphic about the risks.
1. Why are/were you high-risk?
Von willebrands disease. (Blood clotting disorder)
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))?
32 weeks today. Feels like 32 years though.
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel?
Everyone is technically fine. Baby is 4 weeks big but healthy. I've said in other posts, but I failed my glucose 3 hour test by 1 point and EVERY doctor has been bugging out that he's big cause of sugar. I'm 6 foot tall and the shorted one in my family. He's big cause he's big. Maybe the little bit of extra sugar isn't helping, but why can't he just be big? Why does it have to be a thing. On my chart they've added that the doctors are monitoring me for "excessive fetal growth" like he's a monster baby or has an extra head or something. If I hear "oh he's 4 weeks big? You must have GD" from another doctor one more time imma punch somebody.
4. Right now I am looking forward to:
Having a healthy big baby and having my body back. Every minute of the day I'm uncomfortable. Sitting up hurts, slouching hurts, being straight hurts, leaning to the side hurts. Ugh
Also not having to drive an hour each way 2-3 times a week for Drs appointments will be nice. Oh! And my surprise shower that I know absolutely nothing about is Saturday at 12:30 and my favorite restaurant! I'm excited to see everyone.
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them?
Another "invisible illness" here. It's a tough one to explain because everyone wants to ask about my period. Is it heavy? Do I bleed to death once a month? (Clearly no, as I'm still alive). I get no one has heard of VWD and yes they have questions but stop asking my about what tampon strentgh I use and what not. Thanks
1. Why are/were you high-risk?
High BP. I had pre-eclampsia with DS so they are watching me closely this time around too. I was doing great then it started creeping up. It's gotten pretty bad the past month so they have me on medication now.
2. How far along are you (or how old is baby(ies))?
34 weeks as of tomorrow!
3. How are you/baby(ies) doing? Tell us how you REALLY feel?
He is doing great! Moving a lot and growing right on track. I'm starting to feel terrible...nauseous, swollen, uncomfortable. It's like it all hit me in the past few days.
4. Right now I am looking forward to:
Snuggling with baby, no heartburn and being able to wear most of my shoes again!
5. GTKY: What is one thing you wish other people would understand about your high-risk diagnosis without having to explain it to them?
I think people assume that I had must have had high BP before and therefore I must be unhealthy or doing something wrong. I've always had normal BP and my family is very healthy (gluten-free, soy-free, sugar free diet and I walk regularly/teach dance). I feel like there's a lot of judgement that goes with high BP and it's frustrating...
Me: 33 Hubs: 34
TTC since 5/2014
BFP: 7/27/14 MC: 9/20/14
BFP: 6/29/15 MC: 7/6/15
BFP: 7/17/16 EDD: 3/22/17